#anyway today on: heterophobia

[will80sbyers]

I am confused. Do Melvin shippers call you heterophobic...? It is same as calling us misogynistic just bc we do not like Mlvn

No no I don't know who is sending me those but they make it look like they are bylers basically, I have received a few asks like, two the other day that I've deleted and another one today where someone is saying stuff like "I am heterophobic because bla bla Mike x El and other couples" which honestly I'm finding weird because I don't understand why someone would send me that that many times randomly 😳

and anyway heterophobia does not exist like reverse racism on white people doesn't exist, a few gay people saying they are that on the internet or being slightly intollerant online doesn't equal the same thing queer people experience irl and on a systematic worldwide basis

[silverdrag0ns]

yknow, it would be on brand for something like misha collins becoming the first to ever experience workplace heterophobia on my tumblr anniversary.

its been 9 years on this hellsite today, april 16. amazing.

anyway, back to your regularly scheduled programming of my hyperfixations

[centralsaints]

are the straights in the mcl fandom like. okay. i’ve seen an ask on mcl asking people to stop freaking out just because candy took the lead in the bedroom “for a change” in ep 5 bc nath is usually leading and very dom, and that “its not mandatory for the man to be leading”. im genuinely concerned

[at0ms8]

people who tell minorities to “calm down” when someone says someone fucking offensive bullshit are. pissy little privileged bitches who’ve never experienced opression. like let minorities be fucking angry and mad at their oppressors. we’re fucking allowed to be angry at the people who killed, arrested and shunned us for hundreds of years

[oneweekoneband]

i didn’t though

When I was twenty and tractable I listened to “Treacherous” and I believed Taylor Swift was telling me something, because “I’ll do anything you say / If you say it with your hands”, is not content meant for straight people, even though legally they, too, are allowed to hear it, and they do generally have hands. When Taylor Swift drank beers with Karlie Kloss at a Knicks game in 2014, I believed she was telling me something even more forcefully, because, really, why be at Knicks game if not just to kill time politely before fucking whoever you’re there with. When reputation was released and it contained “Dress”, a song about buying a certain item of clothing to look good for a person you love specifically not “like a best friend” so that after “all the pining and anticipation” they can remove it from your body and you can drink wine together in the bath, I believed Taylor was screaming a confession at me, and I was more than ready to receive it. When I heard from multiple sources just last year, amidst the aggressive rainbow-deluge of the Lover promo cycle, an ultimately false rumor that said Taylor was going to come out in a Rolling Stone cover story I, somehow, incredibly, brain as smooth as a baby’s ass, believed that too.

I have believed a lot of things. And it’s a nice diversion, to believe like that. But, more recently, I’ve found that the detective in me has turned away from this one. The only facts I’ll ever know about Taylor Swift are those she wishes to share, and speculating about what secrets she may or may not be hiding is a distraction from the real, joyful work of appreciating all these already literally, unequivocally, very gay songs. I’ve found, well, that I just don’t care anymore, which sucks, as I detest the squirmy idea that I might be growing as a person. But the truth is one really can write extremely, objectively homoerotic love songs yet be, for all intents and purposes, terminally straight. And like that poignant tweet about Lin Manuel Miranda tells us, you can seem gay, because of, like, your whole deal, and then it turns out you’re just annoying. You can even have a torrid love affair with your one-time supermodel best friend and in the end just want to marry some guy from The Favourite (Allegedly from The Favourite. I have seen that film three times and could not pick that man out of a lineup if my life depended on it.) and maybe there’s nothing to announce to anybody about it at all. Sexuality is complex and personal, and Taylor’s own sexuality doesn’t much matter to me, outside of how I always think it’s nice to know there’s yet another bisexual white woman out here in the world being even more irritating than me. (I say this strictly in terms of labeling; it ought to go without saying that Taylor’s various psychosexual obsessions with things like Amy from Gone Girl, and The Kennedys, and her house in Rhode Island matter to me immensely.)  It doesn’t matter because it has no bearing on the fact that she keeps dropping queer classics.

Anyway, yeah, most good Taylor Swift songs are gay, just like most good things, generally, and there’s a number of viable picks on folklore, except not “betty”, no matter what the collective banshee’s wail of the Internet tells you. The gayest thing about “betty” is that it’s Taylor putting herself in the mind of a skateboarding teenage boy, which, yes, admittedly, is a big homo vibe, but nowhere in or around this song are any people of the same gender identity smashing bathing suit parts together, or even thinking about doing so, and when there are so many better options available, I feel it is prudent that we have just the barest hint of standards. As queerness itself is malleable, wonderfully, painfully individual, and comes in no one standard format, so too is determining which song on a Taylor Swift album is the most gay a singular, complicated calculus we all must do for ourselves within our own hearts, and, of course, there are no wrong answers, unless it so happens that your answer is not “the 1”.

“the 1” made me lose my grip for a moment. A cool lament, calmly wrenching, right off it was sucking out my bone marrow and I wasn’t able to name why. (Well, except, obviously, that the twin unit of, “You know the greatest films of all time were never made,” and “You know the greatest loves of all time are over now,” is pure, not from concentrate, peak embarrassing & devastating & all the more embarrassing for being so devastating Swiftian lyricism.) Finally, weeks after the release, out walking the streets of Los Angeles midday, masked and fractious, lower back sticky, brain a little mean, buying a soda at the gas station just to talk to someone, it came to me that  “the 1” is a spiritual sequel to Red’s drum-heavy forever banger “Holy Ground”. The Taylor of “Holy Ground” reminisces frantically about a lost love, some near-miss from youth. That drumbeat is a racing heart. The animating nervousness of “Holy Ground”, the way you can almost hear the narrator’s limbs flapping wildly against her body when she says that she’s dancing, has from the beginning marked this song to me as a story of looking back on some sort of formless and magical teenaged queer encounter. “Holy Ground” is looking at a precious memory like it’s a firefly in cupped hands—small and special and easy to lose—being not entirely certain what the memory means, since whatever it was that happened back then, you never really talked it out. “Holy Ground” is about a love that for all its vitality did not work out, but it is appreciative rather than sad. “But sometimes I wonder how you think about it now,” Taylor sings, “and I see your face in every crowd.” 

“But we were something, don’t you think so?” asks “the 1”, imploring an ex to confirm her version of events, to agree that she’s remembering it right. Taylor has not ever struggled in her work with place and the self and matching the two against one another on the wriggling timeline of the human life. I was there I was there I was there. The question here is something else. Not was it real, but was it real to you, and do you remember now what that was like. Do you remember who I was then? What we were? The truth as it pertains to the heart of another is guesswork at best, and a troublesome kind. Memories break and bend, or weren’t even recorded right to begin with, every brain a dirty liar, and for two separate, imperfect creatures to share the responsibility of preserving one history together is a disaster. The hard facts then are grounding. Essential. “I thought I saw you at the bus stop / I didn’t though”.  Everyone has past romances that they still ask questions about, yes—I am not practicing my virulent heterophobia today—but none of my queer friends are without at least one were-we-or-weren’t-we in their past, a clinch with another that was incandescent and unnameable, long over but dangling forever there loose outside the neat boxes of friend or lover. To be a queer person is to exist already beyond and without the organizing structures of heterosexuality, and this can be difficult, dangerous, but in liminality there is freedom, and in years of painstakingly debating whether I wanted to be or bang so many various somebodys I have, along the way, put the pieces of myself in the order they fit best. So then there are loves where you aren’t sure if that’s technically what it was, if it’s what they’d call it, too. Or loves that were undeniably real, only we were too busy back then with trying to turn into ourselves to keep it. And loves from the very start, from walking together on colt legs, exuberant and unprepared, and the memory is a blessing, and the memory is guilt.

 “the 1”, to the ear, is softer and slinkier than “Holy Ground”, but the lyrics are dismantling. “Holy Ground” says, “And darling, it was good / Never looking down”. Full of longing, but cheerful and sure. “the 1” is older, resigned. On “the 1” Taylor mourns a love not only because it has ended, but because she can sense, from the safety of time’s remove, that it was a love which deserved better, could have been better, if things had been only a little different, if they’d felt brave enough to try just a little more. In this version of nostalgia, the golden haze of “Holy Ground” is ribboned by a vaporous shame, a regret. The song relates a story of a love that is farther out of reach and meant more than what the little girl of “Holy Ground” could have dreamt. “In my defense I have none / for digging up the grave another time / but it would’ve been fun / if you would’ve been the one”.

[la5t-res0rt]

fun fact fucko no one cares that he’s trans, gnc, or autistic. all they care about is that he said someone wasn’t bisexual all because they hate them. thats fucked up no matter who you are. being austistic isn’t an excuse to be an utter dick hole.

alrighty folks strap in because we are in for a long one today

to start off i will begin by saying that i care about the identities of people i like and call friends i care enough to listen and learn from them because they have different perspectives on issues that i as a person who is none of the things that this person is will ever understand

it is important to listen to people and learn from them not just shine a light out of your ass for someone out of a weird place of blind worship thats honestly so cringey but that isnt what this is about this about you and likely others harassing ad sending death threats my friend and comrade betel bitches

i will now be going under a readmore to spare the dashboard

so lets recap what exactly is he being harassed for

as you all are no doubt aware there is a blog called nether receipts where a certain user we shall not name catalogs instances where members of the beetlejuice fandom are harassed correction its a blog where this person catalogs instances where flaws in their character as well as the characters of the people around her are highlighted and critiqued with the occaisional off color remark and threat which i obviously do not approve of who would

anyway following reading some ill-informed and not-so-well-phrased comments from a certain narcissistic user about their sexuality my friend had this to say

this was the post that got them put on this receipts blog which really exists as a source of people for a certain cluster of the beetlebabe fandom to harass and try to drag or cancel 

this is the post that has made people call him biphobic and here is why thats wrong and stupid

you said in your ask that he only is saying that this icky person is not bisexual because there is malice between them and while yes its true that there is malice orion never once said that this person wasnt bisexual

i took the liberty of sifting through the harassment asks he received yesterday because you all love receipts so much i took the liberty of grabbing a few and adding some highlights so you dont miss the important bits

orion never once said this person isnt bisexual he stated that equating doing femme on femme  pornography to bisexuality is a biphobic statement and is in fact a problematic thing to say

there may be crossover between bisexual people and people who do femme on femme but they are far from the same thing doing pornography is a choice you actively make and you do it for compensation however being bisexual is simply part of who you are it is something you dont choose 

although this person would perhaps disagree

and before you come for me this person posted these for the world to see and obviously i have as many receipts as my drive can carry furthermore how does this argument make sense why would you care so much about heterophobia if youre not heterosexual why are you so pressed oh wait is it perhaps

because this person is using the split attraction model for woke points like this screams that this person sees women as sex objects or perhaps this person is comphet and is denying themselves because heteronormativity is so deeply ingrained in their being that they wish to cling to heterosexuality to keep up their squeaky clean white feminist woman persona or maybe theyre just not well informed on lgbt+ issues

editors note the editor is an ace person who considers using the split attraction model is situations like this isnt exactly helpful like i cant stop you from doing it but you shouldnt have to say im a bisexual heteromantic person you can just be a  bisexual woman and keep dating men you dating men doesnt erase your bisexuality saying that you would have sex with a woman but not romantically be involved with them makes the editor think woman = sex object and as a feminist the editor has to say thats fucked up

i will reiterate implying that doing pronography of any kind is equitable to a human sexualty is harmful to bisexual people and if youre like uhhh im bi and i think its okay guess what you do not speak for every single bi person so you should try harder to be compassionate for other peoples level of comfort

in any case statements like these are hurtful to bi people equating voluntary sex work to a sexuality isnt okay and its something that person should maybe address and consider apologizing for but since this person only listens to people in their inner circle and they dont even really listen to them its unlikely that this person will ever make amends for past biphobic tendencies because as everyone has been so quick to point out being bi doesnt excuse biphobia or homophobia or anything of the sort editors note heterophobia is not a legitimate issue im sorry if you feel oppressed for your straightness but really thats a you issue 

here is one more screenshot where my friend basically covers what i have just said as well as reminding the world that the owner of nether receipts is a narcissist 

being a bisexual person does not excuse you from saying biphobic things and there is literally no identifier you can use for yourself that exempts you from criticism for your actions and it doesnt mean that people cant demand that you address the wrongs youve done or said

you dont have to listen you dont have to do anything but dont be surprised if you say something shitty to a group of people and they get mad at you

also all that being said what orion said was not biphobic if anything he is raephobic but lets be honest who isnt ok there thats my one funny haha for you

we have every right to criticize someone who creates simulated cp and shares it with minors in 18+ servers or someone who equated bisexuality to voluntary sex work or someone who accuses people who disagree with them of being fascists or nazis or someone who goes out of their way to repost and edit art in a mocking manner or someone who actively claims to own a fandom like these are all critique worthy behaviors that all come from the same person who never explains their actions never holds themselves accountable for the shit they cause like we as people who share the same space as this person have every write to call bull roar when we see it

it is no secret that i dislike his person and it is also no secret that i will not hesitate to the the opportunity to drag them for being a shitty person whenever the opportunity arises and since their most recent beef with me was about how i was a bad friend i guess i figured this would be a good time to come forward for one of my friends who received dozens of harassment messages and several death threats over his commentary on the actions of this one vile individual

and i am addressing them now if they ever end up reading this or when it is inevitably sent to this person 

if youve got a problem with the way he and i or other antis critique you maybe come out from behind your wall of dipshit cronies and talk to us your damn self i am very sick of having to deal with nasti or morgan or that one minor or suz or that person that runs the rp blog or any of the others in your little hoard im tired of them trying to be slick like we see you we see all of you

all of your simulated cp aside youve said some really shitty things that you could easily amend since youve likely learned more about what it means to be lgbt+ since it is now a community you see yourself being a part of 

part of being human is learning from your past and making a better version of yourself for tomorrow and although i think you are a really awful person i dont think youre above self betterment and self reflection and self awareness 

also you dont seem to care at all when threats are being tossed around by your buddies but no matter how much me or orion or any of the others dislike what you do no person in their right mind would be okay with sending death threats and you shouldnt either you should at the very least extend that courtesy 

anyway

fuck you asker youre full of trash garbage and i hope you have a not so good day like i hope it rains or something invalidate my friends identity and ill yell at clouds

[joule-w]

An asexual city

One of the many things that I hate about the city I live in is its asexuality. Totally unromantic, having no lust, no trace of love.

It’s a young city full of young people (or maybe robots or zombies) – I learned that the average age here is 32 but you’re wrong if you presume the residents are energetic or passionate. Nope. They (by they I mean the general they) are fucking zombies who shovel themselves up in those ugly-looking buildings that are so fucking tall that make you dizzy and work their asses till late having no love life nor sex life nor even masturbation because they are too fucking tired to even think about it.

Even if they do have that so-called love life, it’s a distorted one. I ran into heterosexual couples at restaurants and shopping malls at working day’s night  and they sickened me and yes it’s called heterophobia. Example: today at a restaurant next to me there were two people (a guy and a girl) who seemed to be on a date. The girl was busy crunching her laptop while the guy complained about her being ignorant and annoying with a sense of self-importance (as he would do to all other women). What a douchebag. I wish I did something against this his gender violence. I wish he choked on his stupid Gyudon. Those men and women who are so well-shaped by their gender stereotypes cannot be truly together as there’s always a conflict rooting in the gender roles endowed by the almighty system.

The shopping mall and its consumerism make all these even worse. Couples lingering in shopping malls instead of hitting home and fucking the hell out of the world. I know love life is not only about fucking, but it seems to me that they don’t fuck at all. I see no couples kissing, no hand-holding nor hugging. Only boys taking pictures for girls and what the fuck is the point of that. No affection. No chemistry. Not to mention no sign of queer couples. I myself had one or two romance in this shopping-mall-based city. Here I don’t blame the omnipresent hetero – there’s literally no place to go except for shopping malls alike. No good food. No quiet coffee shop. We are all drowned in consumerism.

Oh, and if you open up your dating app, it’d be like a ghost town where people are lonely as fuck but no one makes the first move. I once met a guy from one of the dating apps. After lunch he invited me to his apartment but then he started cleaning his house and I just sat there watching him doing housework for a fucking hour. I wondered if he ever got horny because I certainly did not. Maybe he was turned on by tidying things. Maybe I am crazy.

Anyway, this is just another piece of outrageous writing of my misanthropy, misandry, lonesomeness, sense of being exiled, which inevitably and eventually amount to my self-hatred. This asexual, loveless, consumeristic city that I never like or understand is driving me crazy.

[pansunset]

every so often I see a post on here from that drones on about “male sociopathy”, “male violence”, “male cruelty”, or something along those lines. and you know what folks? that bothers me!

first off, the ops are almost always terfs. a quick search through their blog will tell you that, and I don’t care what the post is about, don’t give terfs a platform. you give them an inch, they take a mile.

second, on the rare occasion the post isn’t the work of a terf, it’s still... I don’t know, shitty? sociopathy and cruelty are not innate traits humans have from birth. they are learned, they are taught.

for example, here’s the most recent example of cold takes on misogyny I’ve seen that have some truth to them but don’t have the full picture

This post has a degree of truth, as endless pregnancy is a form misogyny has taken in the past. It was also a cultural norm, like arranged marriage. Yes, some men did this intentionally to spite wives who were more intelligent and had more potential! But that’s not the only force at play here. High infant mortality rates in those times contributed to women having more kids. Do you know what the average age of death was for people back in Franklin’s time? 5 years old. People had lots of kids as backups in case one died, especially poorer families who needed more help on the farm or whatever trade they were involved in. Medicine was not exactly fantastic for even the wealthy at that time either. Did you not read about how George Washington, one of the most respected man in post-revolution America, was killed by his doctors with leeches? Childbirth is dangerous now, with all our advances in technology. Of course death was more frequent.

And what about Anne Bradstreet? She and her husband were very much in love, if her poetry about him is to be believed, and considering they were fucking Puritans, she likely had several children. The puritans claim to fame is being more misogynistic and boring than the mainstream denominations of Christianity at the time, and yet we have a relatively famous poet who was well known in her community at the time! Granted, this is one case, but the op of this post only had two anyway.

But historical innacuracy isn’t the most disturbing thing about this terf’s essay. The disturbing things about this post are the beginning of the post and the Anne Boyer quote.

“I feel like birth control has made women forget an aspect of male cruelty and sociopathy that is now less apparent (giving the illusion that men have improved when only women’s defenses against men have.)”

This implies that cruelty and sociopathy (not to be confused with low empathy in mentally ill people) are innate traits in humans, but ONLY male humans, and that’s just... not correct. Ever since prehistory, humans have survived by taking care of each other. Misogyny in all the forms we know it today is relatively recent in the scale of human life on Earth. Yes, arranged marriages and forced pregnancies existed in ancient civilizations, medieval times, the Renaissance, and contemporary times. But that’s not the point. Cruelty is not a trait humans typically have naturally. It is taught. And the patriarchy is rigidly enforces on us all from birth. When you use phrases like “male cruelty” or “male sociopathy”, you imply that men can’t help being despicable people, and that women are always good. That’s just not the case. Women can be just as violent and cruel as any man, and men can be better than unfeeling brutes. Saying men are just evil by nature is a disservice to men and women, because it teaches men they aren’t responsible for their actions and it teaches women that they shouldn’t expect any better.

“Straight relationships are not only deadly for women, but deadening.”

Listen, I know us gays love our heterophobia jokes, but this kind of shit normalizes abuse. What this quote actually says is that women in straight relationships should expect bad treatment, because that’s just how men are! And it also acts like abusive women, gay and straight, just... don’t exist. A deadening relationship is not normal, regardless of what gender you or your partner is.

anyway stop putting the “woke” version of “boys will be boys” on my dash k thx

[inkanspider]

The situation about rev on AO3

So, I think some of you guys who follow the oumota tag have at some point heard or seen something of a person named Rev. Rev is an author and oumota fan, and one of my closest friends. A few days ago, a person on Twitter posted a really nasty tweet about them. And today, I saw a post here on Tumblr on how another person replied to Rev’s original post about this entire thing.

I’m hopefully not going to make an entire essay about this thing, but there are a lot of things these two are totally lying about. Rev was kind enough to not mention the Twitter user by name, but I can’t promise that I will be just as kind, because this person is horrible and someone I hope you never have to meet.

Just like Rev, I too joined a server about oumota a number of months ago, a while before Christmas last year. I don’t remember if I joined before Rev, but I remember I adored their writing and I loved being in this server. The people liked my stuff and soon I had people who wanted to talk to me. Around and right after Christmas, I had a group of friends I talked to almost daily. And Rev was one of them, even if our timezones made stuff difficult XD

But then one day, I started to notice that the entire atmosphere in the server changed. People started to break some of the rules daily, including two of the mods (the Twitter-user and the other peron here on Tumblr). One rule was to not post character hate, which was very logical and good. But soon enough, people started to post lots of hate posts about Kiyo, saying all kinds of horrible stuff. One of my friends is a big Kiyo-fan, and she was really bothered by this. Another thing I personally together with Rev was put down for was the heterophobia (and yes Auz, it is a really thing and you guys need to quit with your bullshit about it). It was apparently okay to personally ship F/M, but not post anything about it. But yuri and yaoi ships was 100% okay for some reason (sounds like the shit homophobes say: it’s okay to ge gay, as long as you don’t show it)... One of these things was that accoring to them, Ouma and Kaito are 100% gay. But nowhere in the game is that stated. Yes, it’s IMPLIED that Ouma might like guys, but we don’t know for sure. Which is why some people ship him with females, same with Kaito.

The last straw about this was when I was personally attacked for liking Junko. I and another friend mentioned in one convo how we liked Junko. I was personally told by THE NEW SERVER OWNER, that he was going to squeeze me to death just like he would to Junko. Auz and company said it was supposed to be a joke, but the server owner never apologized or said anything himself to clarify this. I was never close to him, so I had no idea what kind of humor he has, and he should have known it. My friend was also semi-attacked for defending me, which was what made us thinking about leaving the server entirely.

The reason these people are attacking Rev is purely because they don’t like them. Rev was different from them, liked different things than them. Rev has NEVER done anything to harm anyone, and you guys who actually read their works or even properly talked to them can see that for yourself. Yes, it’s one thing to write something and another to like it outside of the internet. But Rev is nothing but a supporting and caring person. Auz and the Twitter-user claim that Rev is both homophobic and transphobic, but that’s the total opposite of what Rev are.

And about how we were going to spam with art of “triggering” stuff (aka stuff they didn’t like, they are easily triggered), that is without any context, which is something they apparently didn’t care about when they banned us. So for the rest of you guys, I’ll tell you:

We who were banned, before it happened, had done a server just for us to vent and have fun like we couldn’t do in the oumota server. We talked about how we all wanted to leave the server, but we also joked about how we should make a raid as we leave. Keyword here is JOKED. You got words of this, but instead of talking to us you instead banned us without any warning. You had no context for this, which gave you false signals. You banned us on false grounds!

So for you guys who might be reading this, please listen to me: these people are lying about Rev. They somehow also claim that genderbends are somehow transphobic, which I have really hard imagening. Like, genderbends is just that they are opposite of their canon gender, while trans is that they don’t identify with the body they are born in. If you really are grossed about genderbends, simply ignore it. People don’t like the same thing, and you are able to just scroll past stuff you don’t like or agree with.

And listen here Auz (yes I’m calling you out now): it’s totally okay that you don’t like what we like and post. But don’t you DARE threaten Rev or any of us others. We have been nice enough to ignore you guys for the last few months. And what do you guys do? You lie and call Rev something they are not. Simply for drama, which was also supposed to not be okay in your server according to your own rules (but it looks like they never mattered anyway). You banned us yeah, but you could have at least been kind enough to let us be. Returning the favor, what’s that? And for that part about Rev being homophobic:

I DARE YOU TO DM ME AND GIVE ME PROPER EVIDENCE ON HOW REV WAS HOMOPHOBIC. But I think you won’t... Because you probably don’t even care about the truth, but only what you believe in.

And if trans hc in the nsfw-channel wasn’t okay, then you should have banned others too, but one of your mods comes especially to mind. 

You are also supposed to be an adult too, yet you never acted like one. You didn’t stop and thought of what maybe made us act the way we did. You never stopped the server owner from harrassing me and my friends. And you never stopped him from from postign that discusting thing on Twitter. If anything, you made it worse... Hope you are happy with yourself, because I will never tell people to join you guys or even visit you. I hope people come to their senses and realize you guys are toxic and not worth being with.

Sorry for the ranting guys, but I couldn’t stand people lying about this. Rev is too important to me and my friends, and we can’t have people going around and lying freely like this...

[junilee22]

Tumblr: "Heterophobia doesn't exist. Grow up." // Also Tumblr: "lmao but like,,,,, why would u want to defend straights,,,, lmao heterophobia is stupid,,,, hetero people don't need to be defended and if you do you're surely not lgbt,,, anyway today is a good day to hate on straights lolol ;)))"

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[adhdphysicist]

dont follow if:

a terf tried to follow me today and now im a little worried that some people im not comfortable having follow me might have followed anyways. so just a quick reminder! please dont follow me if you: -think women can oppress men for their gender/ are a misogynist 
-believe in "sex-based oppression"/ are a terf 
-think people of colour need to fight for equality in a way that doesnt make white people uncomfortable in the slightest/ are racist 
-believe in any sort of “reverse” oppression (“heterophobia”, “cisphobia”, “misandry”, “reverse-racism”) 
-believe fat peoples personal health is any of your business this blog isnt for you. it is run by a fat disabled aroace indian lesbian. it is trans-inclusive (heads up to trans folks though, im cis). unless you are in the process of unlearning the above lines of thought, i dont want you consuming my content.

[timmysheva]

Halp me

I'm like so confused it physically hurts. There is this girl I liked. Like? Anyway, I was trying to get over her bc I didn't really stand I chance. The reason I thought so: we talked on internet a little like once but she never texted back after that and I didn't try to reach out bc clearly she wasn't interested even in a chat. Anyway, I was really pathetic trying not to think about it too much and it kinda worked til today. I was like oh why don't I check up on her social media account just cause I'm bored why not. BAD IDEA. She has a photo of her shirt with "heterophobia" written over it and a pic of graffiti saying "piece love no violence no homophobia no sexism" and ShE lIkEs FeMaLe foRm? It is like the universe is telling me that "yes, she could be interested in girls but not in you haha". Hurtz. Anyway, how people just stop caring and find someone?

[itzneverni-blog]

So I just wanted a say something about the post you made about heterophobia. From the sound of it, you aren't too informed on the topic. I personally don't feel like heterophobia exists because no one has actually been hurt, killed, or discriminated against for being straight. It's just i'm not so sure you are completely aware of how awful lgbt+ are treated still today. Everyday we are killed, or fired, or sent away. Don't compare heterophobia and homephobia is just...ignorant (1/2)

Thank you for talking about this to me, I do know what's going on and I wasn't trying to say their the same when it comes to who has it worst. Again I just saw a problem that could hopefully fix both of the communities if treated right. I just want everyone to know they are loved and supported. Everyone needs love, everyone needs hope and everyone needs a knight. And I know it's not going to be fixed right away, it might take years or more. I know there is deaths and I do know what is happening to the LGBT community and that's exactly why I want to help, sorry the post wasn't clear. I was just talking about homophobic heterosexuals and non homophobic heterosexuals both being labeled homophobic and homosexuals being labeled as heterophobic. Again sorry for any misunderstandings or if I'm wrong in anyway.