#but no ppl aren't upset abt that performative part they're upset abt the Calling Out part which is like. Mildly activist at best

[sotorubio]

alright i'm not even gonna watch a clip called anti mother's day lmao that title is all i need to know i've reached my limit of patience w this activism storyline

the thing is i think there's a general mindset of like "well if this turns out to be commentary on performative activism it's not as bad bc then it's cringy on purpose!" and while i want nothing more than some character to shut mailin's pretentious ass up i don't think we are at a point in time where tv shows can present performative activism as an issue when the shows and the general audience still thinks activism itself is an issue

i mean i already complained abt this in maya's season. like the first half of it was chanting slogans to absolutely no one in stupid costumes, ruining perfectly good clothes just to lie in them n say smth self aware like i don't think this achieves anything n the one (1) time maya actually did smth impactful n physical it was her unhingedTM breaking point. ppl already find activists either annoying n silly or dangerous criminals. your average viewer is never going to take that storyline as "oh the modern activism focuses too much on how a demonstration looks on social media n don't actually take action above meaningless catch phrases! we need to reevaluate our activism to be more impactful" they're gonna just see that and go lol exactly so many "activists" just dress as trees and stand chained to a fence aren't they silly and stupid activism is so embarrassing 😂😂 unless they're the scary crazy unhinged violent ones who 😳 who.. break the headlights of a truck 😱 activism can also be dangerous n criminal!!!!

so i rly don't see how most ppl in the real world are gonna look at mailin's actions n think it's bad bc it's performative. most ppl are just gonna think it's bad bc they think it's what genuine activism is n they find activism annoying n bad. like does she not just come off as a caricature of a "progressive" made by conservatives. having a character who nitpicks every single phrase n action of their friends is pure fuel for ppl who think it's annoying that "we can't joke abt anything these days".

and unfortunately that isn't limited to just conservatives, the druck viewer base is majorly "leftist" after all. just look at the one time druck actually covered performative activism in a way that wasn't shit. the s6 plotline between ava n mailin. ppl still overwhelmingly sided w mailin, the performative one, over ava, the one who was textually depicted as being in the right n who was actually holding her friend accountable for a reason. now tell me when it comes to performative activism it's the "performative" part ppl take an issue with... spoiler alert it's not. it's the "activism" half of the combo. ava was criticized for the exact same things as mailin is now (calling out ur friends n making them "uncomfortable", "ruining the mood" between ur friends) but she wasn't being performative at all.

performative activism only becomes an issue when u've first accepted real activism n stopped demonizing it. not to be like We Live In A Society but no activism is not the norm or generally socially acceptable. like this is the fandom that thinks shoplifting is bad if ur friend works at the store n that drinking n smoking are a sign of a toxic person. look me in the eyes n tell me the fandom cares abt activism n social issues n that's why they're so annoyed w Performative Activism 💀 it's like toooootally the performative aspect of it yup real activism would be welcomed w open arms i'm sure!

like i'm not saying mailin's activism should be portrayed as genuine either (bc it's not, if that wasn't already clear). i'm saying that it doesn't matter if they think she's being an actual activist or a performative one bc either way they're certainly Not making any points or doing anything new. i'm saying if they wanted to make a season abt activism they should not have made it abt mailin and if they wanted to make a season abt mailin well then they shouldn't have made it abt activism.

[goyangii]

i feel u so much on your thoughts about being constantly asked for your pronouns (regarding ur tags on that post i mean)... it's so infuriating!!!! this is why ive found a bit of peace chatting w older women, because they never Ever ask. they're Sane and can tell im female and will call me petnames and feel comfy and joke around. genderists r legitimately insane sorry for the rant i am just an angry gnc woman today (and always)

omfg this is probably hella late (im sorry!! i use tumblr on mobile 99% of the time so don't see the notif) but yesss omfg. it is so frustrating hanging out w/ women my age bc they are visibly uncomfortable with me and it gets depressing. it rly is insane and your anger is completely totally justified!!! older women can be very based and poggers <3

ive had some mixed experiences with older women, esp older asian (and specifically older korean) women who view my being gnc as "not taking care of myself" and always have something to say about me not having a bf/husband/children as a cryptkeeper in her mid-20s lol. but on the whole i can agree they don't buy into gendie shit for the most part and it is refreshing that at the least even if they criticize/are uncomfortable with me, we aren't debating the basic reality that i am female (that's usually the entire reason they're uncomfortable — a gnc female wouldn't be gnc if she were male).

i hope to one day have such solidarity with older women ;_; most usually pity me as they think i'm the way i am due to a history of sexual trauma and it gets depressing lmao. like, i've been friends with a (now ex-) tim since my gendie days and i've met his mom a few times — she used to vent to me about his transition lol — and his mom couldn't understand why i didn't want to perform femininity, wasn't interested in makeup, didn't wear skirts, etc. until he let slip at some point that i had a history of sexual trauma and abuse. it literally took that for her to stop bringing it up, and still it kind of upsets me that so many ppl can't get that some ppl are just...naturally gnc? like she understood and empathized with my experiences prolly on the basis that females as a class can understand what it's like to be sexually victimized by males, but can't fathom being gnc outside of a trauma response. which is so irritating bc i'm 100% certain this doesn't happen to men? like nobody looks at rupaul and is like "ah yes these men must've been sexually abused" so why do so many women assume being gnc is the product of trauma. my own mom believes this too and drops hints every so often that i'm "really a pretty girl underneath it all" and my relatives, including male ones, say that if i only wore more feminine clothing/embraced being feminine i'd "reach my potential" which is so. idk how to even put it into words LMAO. idk if you experience this as well but it drives me up the fucking wall

fwiw men, older men included, are even worse abt this all so i can't even get mad at older women in comparison. but god. i wish non-gnc women in general understood femininity as separate from being female.