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2018

It's usual at this time of year for a bit of reflection on the year that was. To be honest, I don't really want to do that, but I think it will help focus on the coming year.

This time last year some heavy truths hit home and it was clear that the family and life I had envisaged was no longer a reality, nor had it ever been, nor would it ever be. I had been fooling myself for well over a decade in the hope that I could make the pieces of my life fit the jigsaw picture on the box. Unfortunately it was someone else's box. When I saw the picture of my actual jigsaw I knew it was time for change.

Since my children were born I have home-schooled them. I'm not sure I've done a very good job, but they have had room to play and explore, and a closeness to family that is rare these days. I hope that counts for something in the scheme of things. It has meant that working outside the home took a back seat, and I have made pennies by working from home in several guises over the years - from selling hand made items, establishing and publishing a magazine, and now art.

In reality I've been solo parenting all my children's lives.

For many years I've lived with the feeling of anxiety and worry over money, my children's futures, and a constant physical ache of feeling utterly buckled. Sometimes this would spill over into actual depressive episodes where I would then spiral into being even less useful than I was already. Doing everything spreads you thin, and when there's no help from anybody ever you get used to putting yourself last. You get used to never asking for help.

But what's worse than that is living with lame hope it will ever change.

Last year, on Solstice eve, that final snap saw me adrift with both paddles for the very first time. For the first time ever the boat was all mine, I was looking for shore, unconcerned with what had passed, and zero shits were given about anyone else apart from the two reasons I get out of bed in the morning - my children. I was unencumbered, unconcerned, willing to depart from the course set by others, welcome of the challenge and glad to be free. I didn't just burn bridges, I razed them and the surrounding territory to the ground.

It is worth noting that I have not had a depressive episode since. Perhaps it is true that 'before you diagnose yourself with depression that you first make sure you are not surrounded by assholes'.

It was then that I got serious about making my art work for me; if you believe in second chances then why go for second best? I've had office jobs and teaching jobs, and pin money jobs; what I wanted now was to be able to do the work I'd always wanted - I knew that I wanted to be an Illustrator (and get paid for it).

Setting the ship on a new course my art work has been stepped up this year; I see it as work and not a game. I no longer listen to the snide 'frenemies' who say things like, 'Oh I wish I could draw all day too', (but I don't - I'm still homeschooling and mothering 24/7 and my art is additional to that). I no longer doubt myself.

On a whim I applied to the local college to enrol in an Art A-level course. At the interview I was accepted instead to the pre-university Foundation Course and told to start applying to universities straight away. The ship was setting sail.

This coming year my children will be readying themselves for school, and I will be readying myself for college and hopefully university thereafter. I will have to take so many loans that I'll have to live a week past my death just to pay them off. There are going to be so many ducks to line up that it will look a fairground stall here. During all the plotting and planning, it never occurred to me to ask for help - firstly, because I'm used to doing everything all the time, and secondly, because I hate the feeling of begging - the feeling of being in debt to someone else's kindness or patronage.

But pride doesn't pay the bills, and British Gas do not take goodwill to all men as payment. So after much squirming I opened <a href="https://www.patreon.com/GreenManArt" rel="noopener" target="_blank">my Patron Page</a>. And to my utter amazement I got patrons!

At first I felt like paying them back and closing the page. I'm not worthy of your support. I am a fraud. I should be able to do it all and not bother anyone. But the extra income did make a difference. For the first time since records began I felt my shoulders ease up about money; not because I was making enough to live on, but because I knew there were people out there who supported me. It let me plan ahead, buy a few art supplies that I would not have bought, and be able to think that maybe I could be a real live illustrator one day.

This coming year will see me prepare a portfolio, hopefully line those ducks up, and get into college to hit the ground running of making this dream a reality.

But this year will also see me work harder on my store than ever before. I have many ideas - many things that I can't wait to share with you - that I am working on right now. My house will probably look more like a warehouse than a home. I have no idea if they will work, but I have no option but to try. I will be opening a new website (with integrated cart rather than rely on Etsy) - only made possible due to my Patrons support - business websites cost a lot to run, and my Patreon contributions have meant I can step up my web presence and also have money for food this week. If you are one of my Patrons, I cannot thank you enough.

And so in 2018 there really is change in the air, a definite new direction, but instead of doing it all I'm also asking for help a lot more. If you have a spare £1/$1 it would make a huge difference to my, and my children's, life to have your support as a Patron. It may not seem like it could help, but you have no idea how it really does. And I know times are difficult, oh my God how I know that, which is why I appreciate the support I get so much more.

If you would like to support me this year on this new adventure then please consider signing up to <a href="https://www.patreon.com/GreenManArt" rel="noopener" target="_blank">my Patron Page by clicking HERE</a>. You will get to see behind the scenes, into my sketchbooks, works in progress, earlybird offers and money off vouchers, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

I've been walking this path silently solo for so long that it feels good to feel the support of people who have no ulterior motive other than to see me fly. It's humbling in every way.

So here's to 2018! I hope and pray that it will be a good year for you and your loved ones. Onwards and, hopefully, upwards!

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