#but yeah just bc youre aro doesnt necessarily mean no romantic and/or loving relationships at all

[attollogame]

hi ames! about the latest posts that touch on sysba's aromanticism - how that ties to them being a RO and having a romance path in the game? i'm a little confused to be honest. since aro people don't experience romantic attraction or interest in romantic relationships. /gen

Not all aro people experience no romantic attraction! Like any other sexuality/preference, aromanticism is a spectrum and thus people can experience different things. In Sysbas case, they don't not experience romantic attraction, but they experience it very little—as explained in the prior post. Sysba has had 'romantic' affairs (re Malchus) but they're highly infrequent and they prefer more physically intimate encounters. Sysba, therefore, is more gray-aromantic, or greyromantic, which still falls under the aromantic umbrella.

In complete honesty, I've always been transparent with the reader base about how Sysbas route will be minimal in terms of actual romantic stuff (re holding hands, dates, etc) so this is definitely not a new development. This is also because I need to take into consideration the fact that Sysba is NOT human, and thus does not experience the same emotions/spectrum of emotions we, as humans, do. Sysba's species and personal history dictates an entirely different emotional path.

Sysba still enjoys the company of others, even if the emotional component is different than what people usually expect in these games, and so I still feel that they can work as an RO. It may not be everyones cup of tea, but I feel comfortable with the vision I have in mind for them, and confident that I can make it work!

[charismat1c-megafauna]

Long boring post ahead abt my queer journey bc i feel like blabbin

Idk i just feel like talking about this but... I probably went through damn near every label.

At 11 i was like wow hot diggity girls sure are prettier than guys. Im gay.

At 12 wow you know what theres a lot of cute guys. Im bi!

At 13, wow i sure do look better when i flatten my chest and do my hair this way! But still a girl lol! Also im probably ace but im not dealing with that because just thinking of the things people have said about it makes me want to die. Maybe when the time comes ill be able to just leave my body so ppl wont leave me. Also i was pressured into a romantic relationship by an abusive friend and i figured hey maybe... Romance... Is ok... And it felt weird.

At 14 eh probably pan? Ace is at the back of my head tho. But gender??? What even is that.

15 im like "ok im asexual" and straight up thats... The only label i used. No modifier, no romantic orientation, didnt even know if there was a good word for it. Pressured into another abusive relationship with the explicit goal of fixing me and i went with that bc i hated myself lol i seriously thought wow if im ace my life is bad and its gonna be bad forever.

At 16 "hey sometimes i like girl clothes and sometimes i like guy clothes... Genderfluid???"

At 17: abusive friend thinks boys are yucky uwu youre not a boy are you and im like... Im gender neutral and use they them and have days where i feel like being feminine or masculine but i dont like she her... But he him is... Huh. That feels good. Also i think im ace but i like girls?

At 18 yeah nope im a demiguy i love being feminine sometimes clothes have no gender i am free and... Panromantic ace? I think i feel the same way about everybody!

At 19 huh... Maybe... Demi-panromantic asexual... Maybe i havent met the right person yet!

At 20: im gray romantic maybe? I think im attracted to people but... In theory... Also wow yeah theres a lpt of pretty girls but theres a few guys and nb folk who are FUCKIN STUNNING oh hey aesthetic attraction is a thing.... Oh wow... Turns out im aro. But i like romantic activities? And relationships? I just dont experience romantic attraction? Kinda like aces who like sex? And i thrive with multiple significant others... Idk abt girls but they still pretty.

At 21 yup its me the big weird demi dude comin at ya with the high heels and star dress on monday and the flannels and jeans on tuesday boy howdy it sure is a good day to be queer. Also im a polyamorous aro ace who likes cute couples shit and s.o. relationships and if im gonna be with anybody theyre gonna be a dude or nb.

Turns out i was kinda... Somehow having weird coercive heterosexuality shit despite not knowing i was a dude like... Somehow i had it in my head that bc i was masculine i guess i like girls. I mixed up gender expression with gender itself. I thought that maybe this was what romantic attraction felt like until i realized its... Not.

Idk this is boring dont read but tldr even if tou go thru god knows how many labels youre gonna figure your shit out one day and its gonna be ok and just bc you change labels doesnt mean its necessarily a phase. Those labels were a good home for me when i was there, and an important step on my journey.