#constantly hypersexualising everything is a problem

[monstersbride]

it’s crazy how many young girls in their teens and twenties are porn addicts but won’t admit it because they aren’t consuming video porn & simply just reading smut fan fiction every day

[hellomynameisbisexual]

There have been countless studies showing us that rates of mental health issues and sexual violence are significantly higher for bisexual individuals. According to a report from 2017, conducted by an American University, bisexual people are more likely to suffer from mental health problems due to a fostering feeling of loneliness. Despite these countless studies, articles and reports, this remains an ongoing but unsurprising problem. Bisexual visibility is an issue, not just in society at large, but also specifically within the LGBTQI+ community; it seems somewhat inevitable that such an erasure of bisexuality will result in long-term mental health issues. Being part of the LGBTQI+ community comes with its own challenges, but when the B in LGBTQI+ goes unnoticed, it raises a different set of issues that often revolve around visibility.

Out of all the insatiable stereotypes, this idea that bisexual women are up for sex, all the time, with everyone and their mother, is one I’ve found hard to shake off. Somehow, when I tell someone I’m a bisexual girl who is in a same sex relationship, it translates to: I’m a sex crazed, nymphomaniac who really wants to hump everything in sight. I mean really, there are only so many times you can politely reject a guy’s advances, explain to him that you’ve got a girlfriend and then be invited for a threesome. Even just recounting these experiences are exhausting.

“It raises a different set of issues that often revolve around visibility”

Though I make light of situations like these, my experiences are not exclusive. This idea that bisexual women are hypersexual beings is not only boring, but incredibly dangerous. The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence survey had reported that on average, bisexual women were 32% more likely to have been a victim of sexual assault than straight women, and 29% more likely than lesbian women. I can’t help but assume that there is a correlation between these harrowing statistics and the ongoing hypersexualisation of bisexual women. This carries through into television and film, where there is this archetype that’s used to portray bisexual women: it’s just a phase; they’re confused, sexed up or simply “open-minded”; trying something new before going back to their ex-boyfriend; or, deeming it as a “bridge” into “evolving” into a lesbian. These all play into the problematic “bi now, gay later” narrative.

Bisexual characters rarely have substance to them – their focal being is their sexuality and that is the problem. Representation in the media is great, but accurate representation is what counts. It is completely counterproductive to issue stereotypes out into the world, that reduce human beings to their sexuality and erase other elements of their identity.

“This hypersexualisation then manifests itself into erasure”

This hypersexualisation then manifests itself into erasure. Because of the stereotypes people are exposed to, bisexuality is often considered an illegitimate sexuality. To many, even to those who are part of the LGBTQI+ community, we don’t exist. At times, it can even feel embarrassing to tell other LGBTQI+ people that you’re bi, because of the existing ideas some have of you. For a long time, I completely avoided going to LGBTQI+ events, because I felt like I didn’t belong, that they’re not for people like me. Going to queer events as a femme presenting woman feels fraudulent. I’ve been accused of liking the attention, or going through a phase, but why should I have to perform my sexuality and live up to the stereotypes to be validated? It is exhausting constantly having your queerness questioned in a discussion that no one else has to deal with.

Not enough room is being made for bisexual people in the LGBTQI+ community, and this can be boiled down to ignorance and a lack of awareness. This is, to an extent, expected from the rest of society. But you’d think there would be a sense of solidarity within the LGBTQI+ community given mutual understanding and commonly shared experiences. Until the LGBTQI+ community’s inherent biphobia is addressed, men and women like myself will forever feel ostracised and unwelcome in spaces that we’re supposed to feel at home at.

[roonilwazlibimagines]

Where for art min favorite blog? How ist thyne doing

I love this ask so I’m going to tell you my life story on it!! 🥰🥰

Read this if you want an in depth explanation of why I sometimes post 50+ things a day for a week and then nothing for a month and where this account is going

If you don’t, basically, this blog stresses me out due to the content and the fandom and sometimes I really need a break from it and so I will try to be more active, but I I’m sorry if I don’t answer your ask.

Also I basically dump all my emotions in this post so if you cannot handle another 10+ emotions then don’t stress yourself out by reading this ❤️

So my life story is that I finished high school last year when I restarted this blog (to those who have been here since like 2014/15/16 - I can’t remember :/ - I love you, and if you’re new, I still love you) and it got like really super big and I was loving it and I was happy to write because I like writing and this allowed me to do it for fun rather than at school where it was much more intense.

And I was posting lots for anyone who remembers and then I started uni and it’s had its ups and downs but it has mainly been downs which I’m sorry about.

I recently just had my uni break and I was super excited to be more active on here, but then my state went into lockdown and I cannot stress enough that I am okay, but I kinda just went into a slump where I didn’t want to do anything and just had really bad brain fog and just really didn’t want to post stuff on here.

And I think the reason I am okay is because I am just being kind to myself and doing things that make me happy but that mad me sad because then I was wondering if coming on here makes me unhappy?

Because it certainly doesn’t. I love interacting with you all and hearing your thoughts, but there’s a lot of stuff on this account that I’ve been dealing with ever since it got big last year and I’ve tried to stop worrying about it, but I’ve decided I will tell you guys in an attempt to be open and so you understand that when I go away for a few weeks, this is what is giving me anxiety and preventing me from coming back on here.

The first thing is that I really don’t like JK Rowling and do not support her and a lot of the cast have not been in the greatest in the whole ‘Jk Rowling is actually kinda shitty (understatement) do you still support her’ debate. And I do try to ‘remove the artist from the art’ but I’ve never thought that was a great argument to begin with and I feel kinda hypocritical internally judging people for it when I’m doing it as well. I think the difference for me was that I grew up with Harry Potter and then for this to kinda come up like 10+ years later it’s kinda left me at a bit of an uncertain point in where my values and ethics kind of lie.

I’ve said this lots and I’ll say it again, going on my tumble feed makes me very upset. And long story short, I know I have control over what’s on my feed and I can get rid of the stuff I hate, but then I would be following no one. I think the reason for this is that I have a horrible social media presence because I don’t like social media, it makes me feel bad about myself and two years ago I did my best to stop interacting with it and I forget that this is still a type of social media.

But that’s not my problem, my problem is that I have amazing mutual a who always talk to me and I live in guilt every day because I don’t always reply or message first and I am forever sorry about that and the guilt eats me alive everyday.

Another big thing is that I deal with a lot of 18+ topics on here and I love it, don’t get me wrong, this is a thousand percent a place of no judgement, but constantly being exposed to this ‘hypersexualised’ stuff is sometimes really draining for me.

And I always get so scared writing things because I’ve never had sex lol and I’m only 18 and I’m not a scientist and I don’t want to give out the wrong information or imply something about sex that’s not right and can be harmful and I try to do my research but I’m not perfect and sometimes I forget to add things like wearing a condom and it genuinely keeps me up at night.

Because I know there are a lot of minors on here and that does make me a little uncomfortable and I hope that they are making the right choices online because I am a product of reading smut at too young an age and at the moment I am trying to recover from that (because it really messed me up) and being constantly exposed to nsfw content on here doesn’t always help and I’m kinda scared it will ruin all the progress I’ve made.

As well as that, the characters in HP are high key minors and last year it didn’t really bother me that much because I was still in school and they were still in school so the age gap was like at max a few months, but now I kinda think of it in the way that I would never date anyone in high school now and they’re like in high school and it doesn’t sit right with me just because of where I am at in my life currently.

So I am constantly dealing with all of this stress and this is no ones fault at all, I just really wanted to be completely transparent so you know why sometimes I ghost you and then the next minute I am your overly attached girlfriend.

So that’s my past and present, but for the future, I think I just need to better regulate my asks. And please don’t feel bad and don’t feel like it’s ‘a bad ask’ or that you made me uncomfortable because it isn’t a bad ask, I am just going through some stuff and I won’t ever blame you for making me feel uncomfortable because I have not stated my boundaries and to be fair, my boundaries are very in depth and I would have to write another essay like this in order to explain them.

So please continue to send and ask me anything and everything, but I do apologise if I do not answer and know that I still love you ❤️

Also I’m sorry if this does not make sense, I have not read over this and kinda just said everything that came to my brain and admitting these fears are actually kinda scary to me because I’ve been trying to ignore them so I’ll come on here more, but I feel like I really needed this I’m sorry

Also sorry to the anon who was probably just expecting a quick and funny response I love you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️