#csb’s tough love era

[csuitebitches]

Slayyy tough era. Some tough dating tips/advice PLEASE

Having higher standards is one thing. Maintaining them is another. If you’re going to say you want an investment banker husband and then date hippies who only care about getting high, its on YOU.

Your standards reflect a major part of you. Your value system, your tolerance zone, your level of intelligence in some cases and maturity. Don’t harm your personal brand for no good reason.

No sex before 3 months. No i-love-u’s before 6. And if he’s not making the plans for the dates, OUT.

No trauma dumping. He does not need to know every single thing about you. And even if you do decide to share some vulnerable things, ask yourself: “is he worthy of knowing this?”

Before you demand certain standards from potential partners, make sure you meet at least 80% of them. A few can be gender specific and thats alright. But if you literally have zero communication skills and expect him to be “transparent”, you’ve got another thing coming.

[csuitebitches]

Hi CSB,

Just want to start off by saying I appreciate your blog a whole lot xx

Anyway, I am in my mid 20s, and very lost in life..with no career, money or man..I won't lie I feel depressed. I do feel like it is the city I live in..perhaps a plan to get out is ideal for me.

Have you ever felt lost and what did you do to help?

felt lost.

Made a plan.

Broke that plan down into manageable goals.

Made a list of things i need to reach those goals.

Began working on my skill set.

Asked older people for advice.

Learned how to be an extrovert socially.

[csuitebitches]

what do I do if I struggle really badly with listening to myself? I make promises with myself but I never fulfill them. It’s so bad that I can’t even eat lunch at the time I agreed on with myself, i really don’t have any self trust

You’re going to have to make yourself stick to certain habits and put in the work. Apart from telling you to set smaller goals, create a growth mindset and stay consistent, there’s literally nothing else i can say that will magically help you out.

[csuitebitches]

hi<3 i love ur account sm the advice u give is actually amazing.

so im in school and i have a pretty great friend group. the only problem is tho that i constantly feel left out with them :( . like they're all nice and fun but im starting to realise that they treat each other so much better than they treat me.

i know its just "jokes" but some of the things they say/ do to me i know they wouldnt ever do it to other people in the group.

for example: (not using their real names)

karen and i are pretty good friends and we've known eachother for a while now. we've been through different friendgroups together and now we're in this one. the thing is tho that sometimes (not always) i feel as if karen talks to me in a way like she doesnt care that much or acts as if sometimes she just doesn't want to be around me.

and the thing is i just dont get why the act like that with me! im not a bad person i swear, i dont "people please" but i am quite sensitive and do get a bit upset when things like this happen.

idk what to do ive tried everything- not caring, not tolerating disrespect, trying to not be too 'over the top' or weird. it gets so frustrating sometimes and ik that there are real problems in the world but i find it just so upsetting cus i would never do something like that to others.

anyways im rly sorry for taking ur time but tysm <3

you need to find better friends. This is not what friendship is. If you’re lonely around them and lonely without them, then it’s time to branch out and hunt for better people in your life.