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I need to get rid of my crazy screen time, in otherwise a very sorted woman but there are days on which I slip and stay glued to my cellphone.

What foolproof methods have worked for you/would you recommend? I need this vice to exit my body before 2025 happens to me.

Set app limits for a specific amount of time (I do 30 mins each for Reddit, IG and tumblr) and have your friends/ family select the passcode. They shouldn’t reveal it to you under any circumstances. Don’t set app limits for important apps like WhatsApp/ messages, set it for social media where you tend to doomscroll.

find other apps to binge on. The reality is, you’re going need to ease off slowly. So download an app that is educational - so even if your screen time is high, at least you’re being a little productive. This can be apps like Elevate or whatever works for you.

no screens after 9 pm (or one hour before your bedtime). Keep your phone charging on the other side of the room if possible, not near your head.

and if you’re really desperate- get a dumb phone (one of those old school Nokia ones) that only have WhatsApp and nothing else and toss your smartphone into your cupboard.

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I am not doing well feel like I’m moving backwards

if you can move backwards, you can move forwards too. Life is a game of chess and you’re the queen.

evaluate your current standing. Where are you at the moment across these categories: work/ school, family life, love life and friendships, hobbies, personal growth?

where do you want to be in those categories?

Lastly - what must you do to be your higher self?

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Hi I love your blog. Any advice on how to get out of and heal from a codependent relationship? I’ve listened to podcasts and YouTube’s but I still can’t let go. Feeling stuck.

It’s great that you’re collecting information to understand how to deal with the issue you have on hand. However, if you’re not going to actively put in the work whilst collecting said information, it’s all pointless. Codependency in relationships can form because of being overly attached, tending to put the partner’s needs above your own, lack of self worth, fear of being alone, fear of rejection, wanting to “fix” the other person, trauma, lack of healthy boundaries, etc.

So firstly, you need to make some ground rules for yourself. Rules such as: not going back to the ex; not answering their calls or messages; deleting pictures and videos; cleaning up your space and removing whatever was theirs - you need to cleanse your physical, mental and emotional spaces.

Then try to figure out in what areas of life you were codependent in, and try to become more independent in those. Some of the ways to overcome this can be building your self esteem, setting healthy boundaries, gaining confidence, working on creating a better version of yourself. perhaps you were more codependent on certain areas of life - such as socialising - than others. Work on those areas that you’re terrified to deal with without your partner.

activities can include making new friends, trying new hobbies, learning new skills such as cooking, deepening existing relationships, meditation, journaling, gratitude journals, etc.

you don’t want to just socialise in order to block your feelings out. You want to be able to feel what you feel and process those emotions - and at the same time, start working on a new chapter. I would highly recommend you abstain from drugs, alcohol, one night stands altogether, no matter how painful. Processing emotions can take a long time, and that’s absolutely fine. You’re not going to be “healed” overnight. However, consistent effort matters most here. You really need to try and put in the effort into your new chapter.

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Your recent post where you link to a podcast links to an image instead. Can you link the podcast?

https://open.spotify.com/episode/285mKHFB4oCTDlVPTVa4Zu?si=KP31rJS1TBKgd49Aqp7Smw

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if you’re antisocial/ struggle with interacting with people/ don’t understand how to project the right body language / need help making connections and building relationships:

you guys have to listen to this podcast. Such a good listen.

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Everyone talks about leveling up and healing, but what comes after that?

I feel like I'm in a really good place right now. I've worked through my emotional wounds, I no longer attract toxic people, and I'm focused on making better choices to improve my life.

I've moved past the drama, the gossip, and the unhealthy relationships, and I'm genuinely happy about that. I have no desire to go back to any of that. But at the same time, life feels too calm.

In the past, it was easy to connect with people around me—whether it was bonding over shared dislikes, mutual crushes on unavailable people, or similar family struggles. But now, all of that feels shallow and trivial. If I don’t like someone, I just avoid them. There’s nothing to really talk about or bond over anymore.

What I’m really wondering is how to keep that sense of wonder and excitement from my younger years alive—the sense that everything felt fresh, new, and thrilling.

I’ve outgrown a lot of the chaos, but now I’m left with the challenge of keeping life exciting without falling back into old habits. And honestly, I’m not sure how to do that.

fantastic question and congratulations on the growth.

growth should never be left stagnant. What you’ve done well is cleared up your external environment that you were in. Now, focus on the actual growth - growth of self. keep in mind that sometimes a calm life can be boring especially when you’ve had a very chaotic phase. it’s completely normal and natural to feel that. Keep life exciting by taking on new challenges that help you positively and celebrating the calmness that comes with things. I don’t want you to simply chase goals, but enjoy the journey and the fruits of your labour.

keep your system 2 brain active : take on new hobbies, mentor people who could use your help, meditate, get involved in charity, travel, deepen existing connections, pottery, running clubs, learn a new language, team sports, performing arts. Find something that you’ll love to learn, and you’ll find similar people who are in that mindset. I don’t want you to associate loneliness = self growth. I’d rather you find people who are on your frequency so that you know what it’s like to have healthy relationships around you. When I reconnected with some old school friends who had also matured after many years…. I can’t tell you how much we enjoy each other others company now. We travel, we meet once a month, we host dinners, we support each other, attend each other’s engagements and weddings etc etc - having healthy friendships and relationships is so much more fun that toxic ones.

I also personally worked on my relationship with myself - going on dates with myself, working out, meditating and at times just sitting with myself in silence - I became comfortable with myself. I became my own best friend. I learned what I liked and didn’t, what I was like, who I really am.

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How to emotionally regulate yourself

so. You find yourself getting upset or angry or guilty over something. Negative emotions don’t feel the most comfortable, do they? They feel almost physically uncomfortable, sometimes painful. You wish you could block them out immediately but it’s impossible. Even if you try to ignore them, they somehow bounce back in your face.

what we’re not taught from a young age is emotion regulation. We are, in the end, only human. Its part of our nature to screw up, make mistakes and do things at times that we’re not supposed to.

bottling away feelings does no good - not to yourself and not to those who care about you.

so the next time you find yourself feeling emotionally imbalanced, take a look at this framework and work it out!

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workbooks

daily planner

Emotional regulation framework

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Your daily printable planner, morning and night.

I made these for myself. You can use them both or just either one, as per your liking. I use both.

you can find more resources like this under “workbooks” in my master list.

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I have no idea how to invest or earn passive income, do you have any strategies or any reading material that will teach me?

My passive income comes from the stock market - try FemaleInvest.com, they’re supposed to be very good for beginners.

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Which blog made a guide or post on amal clooney ? Was it u ? Can u reblog it 😭😭

I don’t think so?

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practicing daily gratitude, looking after your hygiene, consciously not engaging in anything that disturbs your peace, getting some sunshine in if you can, multivitamins, cleaning up your space, enjoying life in the ways you find it enjoyable, not allowing yourself to be overloaded by what’s on social media, taking breaks, choosing yourself - some of the best ways to do justice to yourself.

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even a small win is a win and learn to appreciate yourself for it.

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Start planning 2025

Make a list of all the emotions you want to feel at the end of 2025.

Now work backwards and write down all the tasks you need to do in order to feel that way.

Make a separate list of all the “gaps” - what do you currently not have in order to do those tasks to make you feel the way you want?

And lastly, write down how you can fill those gaps. Do you need a gym membership to become fit to feel good about your yourself? Do you need to learn how to cook better meals in order to feel healthy and energised? Do you need to start applying to jobs, in order to secure one, in order to feel financially safe? Do you need to buy an old school alarm clock that’s going to wake up your entire apartment building in order to wake up early? what do you need to DO?

also, make a list of all the things that worked out for you in 2024. Learn to celebrate and appreciate, even the smallest of wins.

For the next two months start the trial and error process of this program. Let’s say you decide that you want to work out 7 days a week in order to feel good about your body. Now halfway through November you realise that 7 days is probably too much, and 5 days would be better for your schedule. Or you decide to read 3 books a week, but realistically, maybe a chapter a day is better.

November and December are your trial months. By the time January starts, be ready with a program that is built for you, works for you, and can be completed by you.

Don’t forget about keeping a reward mechanism. If you complete your daily tasks for 1 month straight, buy that little purse you were eyeing, or take yourself to a spa. Reward yourself in ways you like so that :

a) you’re not in an endless cycle of never being satisfied

b) you don’t drop everything for a man or a friend who shows you the slightest bit of affection because you won’t show it to yourself

c) it encourages you to work harder for yourself.

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It’s November and time to prepare for your 2025 self. Don’t let these two months of trial and error go to waste!

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Hi, so you know of anyone that has experienced being with a sheikh? If so can you give me some tips? Thanks

girl I truly hope this is a Joke™ for your own sanity