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csuitebitches · 1 day
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Hey, I was the anon asking about networking. That does make a lot of sense, and you're right, but I guess I wasn't clear wnough in my message in that I mean more like... how do you get a job with someone that way? Without actually asking "can you give me a job." Or is that what networking is supposed to let you do?
“I’m looking for opportunities in your industry. I am experienced / graduated in ____. Would you know of any openings within your company for the position of ____? If yes, who may I connect with?”
Networking is not necessarily for just jobs. You network with clients, to get more clients. You network with suppliers, to get the best deals. You network with PR agencies and branding agencies to understand your positioning and getting a celeb brand sponsor if required. You network with people in the media so that if you need an article out, it’s one phone call away.
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csuitebitches · 2 days
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hi CSB.
I've been lurking in the shadows of your blog for a while and have to honestly admit I got a bit overwhelmed.
Therefore, I'd like to ask, if you were to give some tips on how to start becoming a powerful, confident and feminine woman both in work an in life (aka - how to grow up to be that) what would you advice?
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My love. I know I give a lot of advice, that’s why I’ve created an entire system, step by step for you to use. Go to my pinned post.
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csuitebitches · 3 days
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In need of tough love from you. I am in a situation where I have no choice but to go through. I hate college life and I feel so misaligned with what I want to do in life. It's a very very lonely journey and so so draining, I feel like giving up. I think the place itself is a factor because I was doing good back when online classes were still in effect. Everyday is a struggle and I hate everything when I am in this place. I just want to go home and never come back.
Your college life and the situation it is right now is in your hands. I’ve said this before - heaven and hell do not exist outside of our bodies, they are our mentalities.
You said you enjoyed online classes more and that you’re lonely. That to me indicates you don’t have many friends. Unless you decide to change that and actively approach people and enter social situations, no one is going to be interested in approaching you.
running away is not the solution. Running away back home will simply make you regret what you have done.
Suck it up, figure a way out. The issue isn’t that you don’t know what to do. I’m pretty sure you do know what to do. You just don’t want to put in the effort OR you fear being ridiculed or shamed.
The choice is yours. You either make a plan and create the life you want for yourself, and be a fighter or not.
Everyone goes thru shit in life, you’re not the only one. You’re not some special candidate that’s being singled out to be lonely, YOU have brought that on to yourself.
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csuitebitches · 3 days
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How do you actually network? Now, I don't mean "go to events" or "reach out" but, rather, when someone says "I know x at y company, connect with them," how are you supppsed to construct a message? What are you ACTUALLY meant to ask that puts you in a position to say "I got my job through a connection I had?"
It’s not that complicated. If someone is connecting you with someone they know, you reach out to that potential contact by saying something along the lines of, “Hello, my name is so and so, your colleague XYZ recommended I talk to you. I wanted to ask about ABC, and would love to get on a call with you as per your availability.”
there’s no formula to things. There’s no for sure way that yes, by saying exactly that ^ things will work out. You need to learn to navigate social situations and that only happens by placing yourself in countless ones.
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csuitebitches · 6 days
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New Side Blog
I have lots of goals for this year. Reading and learning new things is always a priority for me, especially because I’m a naturally curious person. I made a side blog for all the things I read, watch and keep on top of. This could be things to stay informed, leisure reading, documentaries or films that made me think in a different manner.
I do want to ensure that my media consumption is essentially quality > quantity. At the same time, I want to track articles, books, authors, films I truly enjoyed because I have a terrible memory when it comes to names and recalling where I got that information from.
It’s called @kibblesforyourbrain, if anyone is interested.
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csuitebitches · 9 days
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Hi there,thank you for generously your wisdom and knowledge. I am struggling with being a minority in my major,feeling ostracized by my peers and classmates. Added with the factor that I have low self esteem due to always being bullied (passive or direct aggression),having peers slandering my reputation ,not having any friends despite entering my second year soon and being looked down upon,  this has taken a toll on my mental health, making it difficult for me to work.  If possible,I am seeking advice on how to rise above these challenges and succeed despite the obstacles. Additionally, I need help on how to handle group assignments where some members are lazy and not committed to giving their best.If possible could you please reply to me in private?
Thank you sincerely.
Hi, I promise you that every question you’ve asked me so far - I’ve answered all of it on my blog. You just need to go thru my pinned post and check my archives.
I’m asked this question repeatedly, with minor deviations. It’s challenging for me to reply with the same answer every time. That’s why I keep an index. I have a separate post (“Read this first”) linked on the index to help you start your journey with my tips. The structure, the resources, everything is already there. You just have to read my content and put yourself to work.
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csuitebitches · 11 days
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I'm a guy but I really like your blog! I've used your advice before with good results :)
❤️
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csuitebitches · 11 days
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Thoughts on wizardliz?
Idk I personally don’t resonate with the way she structures her content but then again, I haven’t really watched any of her videos to have an opinion on her
If she helps you feel confident, proactive and inspires you to make healthy decisions, good for you and good on her
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csuitebitches · 11 days
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Hi! Hope its not late for the tough love.
Got into this job as a temp, however my CV is great. After a month, everybody is impressed with me and they make the offer to keep me as full time. I accepted as its a good oportunity.
Thing is: I'm somewhat new to this field and I'm doing my best to understand the task (they are understanding on this point). At the same time I still want to keep the good impressions that I got. And I'm already looking for a raise by the end of the year.
Am I moving too quickly? How can I keep in my boss good grace while learning this job?
You seem to be doing things right. However - Rather than focusing on pleasing them, focus on understanding the work for yourself as well. I’ve hired plenty of people in the past for my company and what I look for at least is the potential to learn. I don’t expect any new hire to come in with a phd, but if there’s a curiosity to learn then that’s something. The biggest value you can give to your corporate is the ability to solve problems, regardless of your experience level.
However. When I say don’t get caught up in pleasing your seniors, I do mean it. People are nice and some are weird and there can be nasty politics sometimes just because someone might favour you.
Be polite, not friendly. Don’t bend over backwards in your first few months because then they’ll get used to it too. Do what you’re supposed to, ask questions if needed, understand what you’re doing and get your work done.
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csuitebitches · 12 days
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How to learn a language effectively like to the point you become fluent
I’m honestly no language queen. I am trilingual, but that’s because of the country I’m from. I do take classes for one of the languages for work purposes but that’s for advanced levels, I was always fluent conversationally.
The best way to truly learn a language imo is to fully immerse yourself in it. Read, listen, write and speak it. Maybe get on iTalki or something and find a non creepy language buddy to speak with
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csuitebitches · 13 days
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Im not from india or the US, but there’s this guru that i find very wise which is swami Mukundananda, i wish I could attend his events but unfortunately most gurus are limited to Indian and US tours… what can i do? Just consume their content like YouTube videos and books?
Focus more on implementation of their learnings irl. If you have to meet your guru, you will
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csuitebitches · 14 days
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how do you become good with talking to people? i feel so awkward every time i talk to someone i don’t know where to look, what to say, etc.
Strategically practice.
create a script before meeting someone (whether new or you already know them).
prep these beforehand. Practice, practice and practice in front of the mirror till they feel natural. This sounds clinically insane, but have imaginary conversations with someone else and direct the conversation.
• hi/ how are yous / what’s been new
• 3 good things that happened over the past month
• any new experience that you had (a new cafe, movie, etc)
• any upcoming experiences (travel, work promo, etc)
• what’s been new at work / school (how’s that going for you?)
• latest news / pop culture / trending things
Let the basic script essentially fit into your head. Once you have this down, go and start talking to people. Baristas, work colleagues, your classmates, whoever. Focus on eye contact and listening actively to them. Listening actively means understand what they are saying, wait till they’re done talking before reacting to it.
observe how other people interact with one another. Observe the good, bad and ugly. Who looks confident and who doesn’t? Why, what gave it away?
most times in a conversation, one party leads it. When I choose to lead conversations, I make sure to listen intently, share my own experiences or thoughts on the matter AND THEN ask follow up questions, keep it casual and light.
I pretty much turn on my inner Graham Norton mode and it always works.
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csuitebitches · 14 days
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Slayyy tough era. Some tough dating tips/advice PLEASE
Having higher standards is one thing. Maintaining them is another. If you’re going to say you want an investment banker husband and then date hippies who only care about getting high, its on YOU.
Your standards reflect a major part of you. Your value system, your tolerance zone, your level of intelligence in some cases and maturity. Don’t harm your personal brand for no good reason.
No sex before 3 months. No i-love-u’s before 6. And if he’s not making the plans for the dates, OUT.
No trauma dumping. He does not need to know every single thing about you. And even if you do decide to share some vulnerable things, ask yourself: “is he worthy of knowing this?”
Before you demand certain standards from potential partners, make sure you meet at least 80% of them. A few can be gender specific and thats alright. But if you literally have zero communication skills and expect him to be “transparent”, you’ve got another thing coming.
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csuitebitches · 14 days
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Hi, I’ve a bit of a situation at work. I just joined my new department in December, and I found out that we’re hotdesking. Meaning desks are first come first served. We have two groups A & B, within the department. I’m in A. When I first came in I picked a desk to sit at that didn’t have any personal belongings on it. So I sat there for the rest of December. There’s this colleague from B who was nice to me for the first few weeks. And she mentioned that she used to sit at the desk I was at. I didn’t think anything of it cos she made it sound like a casual comment. And then in the first week of January, I came to work and found that that usual table had been taken over by her. Terribly messy. I didn’t make a big deal and sat at another desk. Then the next day when I got to sit at the desk she came over and was really paggro about her things being there (I didn’t touch them) and her having sat there before. I didn’t want to start a fight in the office so I nicely told her I didn’t touch her things while saying that I’m aware we’re hotdesking. She walked off. Over the next week it was tense and she was really cold and ignorant towards me. Then last week, she took over that desk the whole week. I had nowhere to sit but I just took my things and moved to a table far away from my colleagues. She kept walking past my desk on purpose that week. Ultimately, my question is…how do I navigate this if she picks on me in the office again? It’s kinda affecting my mindset when I go into work, and work is already stressful. I also don’t want to be seated away from my colleagues because it affects rapport building and discussions. I’m new, I can’t be seated away from them. One solution is getting to office really early to secure the desk but I hate making this a competition because it’s not! I don’t want to start my day like this fighting with some colleague who thinks she can bully me because I’m new and she’s higher up the pecking order. Would really appreciate your advice, please. :(
its a desk.
Pick another one.
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csuitebitches · 14 days
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Hi CSB,
Just want to start off by saying I appreciate your blog a whole lot xx
Anyway, I am in my mid 20s, and very lost in life..with no career, money or man..I won't lie I feel depressed. I do feel like it is the city I live in..perhaps a plan to get out is ideal for me.
Have you ever felt lost and what did you do to help?
felt lost.
Made a plan.
Broke that plan down into manageable goals.
Made a list of things i need to reach those goals.
Began working on my skill set.
Asked older people for advice.
Learned how to be an extrovert socially.
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csuitebitches · 14 days
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hi<3 i love ur account sm the advice u give is actually amazing.
so im in school and i have a pretty great friend group. the only problem is tho that i constantly feel left out with them :( . like they're all nice and fun but im starting to realise that they treat each other so much better than they treat me.
i know its just "jokes" but some of the things they say/ do to me i know they wouldnt ever do it to other people in the group.
for example: (not using their real names)
karen and i are pretty good friends and we've known eachother for a while now. we've been through different friendgroups together and now we're in this one. the thing is tho that sometimes (not always) i feel as if karen talks to me in a way like she doesnt care that much or acts as if sometimes she just doesn't want to be around me.
and the thing is i just dont get why the act like that with me! im not a bad person i swear, i dont "people please" but i am quite sensitive and do get a bit upset when things like this happen.
idk what to do ive tried everything- not caring, not tolerating disrespect, trying to not be too 'over the top' or weird. it gets so frustrating sometimes and ik that there are real problems in the world but i find it just so upsetting cus i would never do something like that to others.
anyways im rly sorry for taking ur time but tysm <3
you need to find better friends. This is not what friendship is. If you’re lonely around them and lonely without them, then it’s time to branch out and hunt for better people in your life.
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csuitebitches · 14 days
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what do I do if I struggle really badly with listening to myself? I make promises with myself but I never fulfill them. It’s so bad that I can’t even eat lunch at the time I agreed on with myself, i really don’t have any self trust
You’re going to have to make yourself stick to certain habits and put in the work. Apart from telling you to set smaller goals, create a growth mindset and stay consistent, there’s literally nothing else i can say that will magically help you out.
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