#cyclepath behavior

[nurdhurd]

honestly what kind of fucking pervert do you have to be to put cherry tomatoes on a pizza

[foulserpent]

literally so frustrating to see that 'dont say psychotic' is still the takeaway a lot of people have about ableism against schizo-spec people. like in my opinion language like "psycho" "insane" "crazy" etc is only an issue when its being weaponized specifically to put someones mental state into question, taking advantage of systemic ableism to abuse/deny agency to someone (ie "dont listen to her shes crazy", it can be more subtle than that but ykwim)

like yeah i think you should probably not throw around 'psychotic' as an insult (that one specifically bc it makes it harder to talk about Being psychotic) but that sort of thing is absolutely the bottom of the list of issues, especially given how a lot of peoples allyship begins and ends with just knowing what the No-No Words are...

[ablednt]

it's so weird to me how white cluster bs on here seem to get off on being callous and edgy (racist and antisemitic) and its mega put me off from cluster b circles on her as a black jew w npd and bpd. like when i was a kid i only bonded wit this 1 other kid who had low empathy (white) and we got on great for a while but they would call me racist and ableist slurs "just to see my reaction" pull on my hair, throw chairs at kids "for fun" and generally just do violent and racist shit toother kids and then say they couldn't help it. and as adults they still say what they did to me and those kids wasn't that bad. because they didnt like. srsly injur us. and u don't get to decide whether the trauma you inflicted on ther ppl is actually bad or not? esp if ur wwhite and its racially motivated. like they'll just prodly admit to violent ableism antisemitism and racism and then wonder why we're untrusting. like sorry i have 0 sympathy for "recovered" bullies esp if their white. that's why ur literally the only antipsych/cluster b white person i can stand bc the rest use their symptoms as excuses as if they didn't traumatize their friends of color who dealt w similar symptoms. and then bragged abt it nd downplayed it

God your valid that sounds fucking awful to go through??? And yeah in general y'all are so correct when you point out how goddamn awful the vast majority of white NDs are like so many of us forget that we're white before we're ND and that needs to be addressed like and also I think that we (white NDs I mean) need to be really harsh with each other about it like full disclosure the reason I've been able to examine my behaviors and do at least what I'm hoping is the bare minimum of human decency here (not an invitation for praise or anything/g I just don't think I should be giving myself any credit here) is because I've had people be very direct with me and harsh with me about it.

You don't need to hear it of course but God the worst part of the white ND community is the idea that we need to be coddled about unpacking our racism like no we don't lmao also it really is the bitches who are like "omg I'm a cyclepath I'm so evil!! I'm so tough I can take anything!" who will throw a whole fit being criticized over blatant racism for more than half a second, huh?

[limewiremother]

jello salad is twsited cyclepath behavior tho we gotta hand it to them for that

Weirdest food from every state in the US.

[ablednt]

People glorifying their bullying phases and feeding into the whole "uwu I'm such a cyclepath and that means i can do whatever i want to you if you have better hair than me" and the thing you mentioned about like reclaiming being evil and shit. it's such freak behavior and you'd think that a lot of them would grow out of it once they wern't teens (like I had a phase where I genuinely hated everyone and wished everyone would die and like graphic homicidal ideation and shit but I never acted on it and eventually got a therapist who was also a narcissist with so that helped) (psychiatry as a institution can eat shit tho, she just helped me a lot). but a lot of them carry that wth them into adulthood and I've had to unfollow so many otherwise really good blogs who have really helpful post about more stigmatized cluster b symptoms bc they just like. glorify the fact that they used to be abusers and thinks its No Big Deal because it didnt affect them lmao. like you don't need empathy to logically conclude that thats bullshit an d tone deaf.

Yeah!!!! And I mean hell you can reclaim being """"evil"""" without being an asshole and a bigot like by neurotypical standards I'm goddamn deranged and a I joke about being evil and stuff but the point of it is that the things that people view as evil are often just like...existing as a marginalized person. None of that includes being genuinely mean to random ass people or like. Being a goddamn bigot like thiaodhfg it's not hard at all they just refuse to do the very basics.

You're so right though like you can have 0 empathy. 0 compassion. not understand any of your emotions etc and still figure out by the time you're an adult who spends time in communities where plenty of people are addressing this shit that it's wrong to lash out at people for no reason and that it's wrong to deflect from genuine criticisms of harmful behavior you've done because you're mentally ill like that's really not hard. I did all of the and I didn't have therapy and it's not like that I care about others (I do, in general, and my empathy fluctuates a lot but still) because I learned in my teens that even if you absolutely hate someone you shouldn't ever stoop to bigotry and there's a certain level of decency you still have to extend everyone. (And I don't even mean that in the pacifist way cause obviously there's a huge difference between like, not dehumanizing someone and like lashing out at an abuser or something.)

Like there's no excuse to, after being told as directly as possible that you're behavior is harmful, immediately dig in your heals and insist you have no control over your behavior as a whole and that this has to be everyone's problem and if it's not they're #ableist.

And like there's a huge difference between the toxic positivity "never show a symptom of a cluster b disorder or I'll drop your ass so quickly" circles and like...goddamn other cluster Bs saying "hey don't be a bigoted asshole and also make all of us look worse" like bruh