#for months i've been like. just make a random rp blog and see what happens but for who. what. where. when

[derelictdumbass]

vibrating at supersonic speed and obliterating into tiny pieces

[bewitched-bullet]

Wait and go back, Maybe they'll say more. A story is rarely ever one sided.

Though I suggest it's over and find a new group to watch.

I just mean no one knows what happened yet.

I took your suggestion and decided to go back through everything with a fine-tooth comb today before answering this ask. And I am not liking what I see.

This is certainly a very difficult situation. The facts as they are at the moment: John has abandoned interacting with the original Sherlock blog and is no longer participating in roleplay with consult-sherlockholmes. Claiming an amicable split.

I find it interesting that consultjohnwatson was interacting with other (very new) sherlock blogs in the exact same manner as they would with consulting-sherlockholmes before the "break up" announcement. Makes it appear that they were shoping around for a new rp partner before they pinned that post.

Side note: (After looking at some of the reponses by the rp blog) There is no excuse for mistaking these new blogs for the original rp partner whether in out of character.

We know of it happening the first time publicly at the end of January, about a month ago. Almost directly after the rp love confession from original account. We also know for a fact that John ( the character and roleplayer) isn't stupid and would see it wasn’t consult-sherlockholmes, like it was implied/said. I am sure we all can see this.

(Devils advocate) would he (John (rplayer and character) have been oblivious, though?

Personally, I would doubt that. I don't quite remember the timeline of when they officially put a label on their (rp) relationship. I believe it was somewhere around January 29th. That was two months ago confirming a johnlock relationship. Who in their right mind would destroy that? Not John the character. Thats so way out of left field for him. That being said, it's possible that they (John and the new sherlock account(s) have been talking behind the scenes before the break up AND before the offical rp johnlock confirmation.

Especially, considering the ease at which they (the john rp and new sherlock account(s)) are interacting with each other. Incredibly sus. Which is why I would doubt him being oblivious to what he's doing.

Digging further, it almost seems planned, however sloppily. All of this is weirdly out of character for John to do. Which leads me to believe that this is not roleplay. Because, how likely is it for John (rp or not) to just split after getting johnlock? So that begs the question. Why did John actually break up with their original Sherlock? It can't be because he received a random ask from another Sherlock. Thats just ridiculous.

Especially, choosing to immediately hook up with that someone(s) as if they were together all along with, using a near identical username to consult-sherlockholmes, etc. It appears that this entire debacle was intended to replace him (original sherlock rp), without warning.

Last point and the most damning would be this. If this was talked about between original parties for a "long time" and it is an amicable split of partnership (roleplay or outside roleplay), why is consult-sherlock completely surprised in his posts? Why was he surprised about the appearance of the other sherlock(s), thinking its an impostor? If roleplay, if this was actually planned, if it was discussed he (consult-sherlock) wouldn't have reacted like that.

This would be extremely shocking and hurtful for anyone.

Anywho, just things I've seen and noticed.

All in all, the point is. Something in the milk aint clean and I have a strong suspicion that this weirdness isn't roleplay but a deeper issue behind the scenes.

If I am so motivated, I may even organize the information I have gleaned and put it in a comprehensive format. Because who doesn't love graphs?

[catboii]

((Not to be majorly ooc on the rp blog but my anxiety is through the roof today and i kinda just need to vent.

I've been back to work for maybe 2 or 3 weeks after taking some time off for my mental health. And upon coming back I've had countless issues with logging in. Multiple systems have either been disabled, locked, or I just forgot a password and it needed resetting but it's not just a case of *change* done.

And yesterday which is a nice quiet day on the phones and I was hoping it would all be sorted so I had a nice intro back on, still not done. One manager said the one single system I had left to fix should be an easy one and he seemed pissed that no one had done it already, but the IT guys closed like half an hour before we figured it out. So I was supposed to go see him when I started today to get it sorted, get back on the phones. Easy! Sorted!

But today. The lift is busted. Worse, they're doing some scheduled* maintenance. So multiple people in charge knew this was happening. I don't like to call myself disabled outside of certain contexts, I prefer "less able-bodied" or something, because physically I can walk, physically I can stand for maybe half an hour if for some reason my life depended on it. But it's the chronic pain and fatigue, the connective tissue issues, random minor dislocating of joints and Ataxia that means I use a walking aid and even with that I'm slow, awkward and off balance, I walk into things like desks and walls, going from sitting to standing I need to steady myself with both hands on something or I'll topple over. On top of that I'm asthmatic and although it's medium risk, it's specifically cold weather and exercise triggered, it's really exacerbated by central heating and air conditioning. I've given myself 3 asthma attacks in the last few months just by existing at home and doing general chores.

I cant do even one set of these stairs. And my desk is on the 2nd floor (that's 2 floors up if anyone is reading this and isn't sure bc i think in the US the "first floor" is our "ground floor" then the first floor up is the "first floor" lol).

I do have a desk set up down here still, in the barely used training area, and normally I would just jump on it and go about my day with no help apart from our work chat I barely get a useful reply from, but I've been off sick for like 3 months. Things have changed that I'm not sure about and if there's a complaint you're supposed to bring it to your manager... I'm way too anxious to even try taking any phone calls right now.

But I'm also being paid for being here with just one system issue that should be easily fixable. If I get called out on it I dunno what to say apart from "if I'm left alone I will break down"...

I'm making myself sick I just. I dunno what to do.

[thesoulofasurvivor]

KNOWING YOUR PARTNER WELL CAN POTENTIALLY MAKE WRITING TOGETHER A LOT EASIER. ( REPOST DO NOT REBLOG ! )

○    name: Brittany, or you can call me Britt.

○    pronouns: she/her.

○    preference of communication: just tumblr pms. I do have discord I have a few people on there, but right on tumblr is just better and easier lol

○     name of muse(s): on this blog, it's just Bailey

○    experience/how long (months/years?): I've been writing for a long ass time I just don't know how long lol, I want to say at least since 2015, but honestly, probably longer than that. I haven't been consistently roleplaying in all those years, lots of on and off, but yeah

○    platforms you’ve used: like a bunch of random roleplay websites, but ever since I joined tumblr I've never looked back

○    best experience: okay honestly I think right now is my best experience I mean, I've been on tumblr a long time but since coming back after a two year gap during lovely covid, everything has been just extra fantastic. I've met back up with people I used to write with, I've met so many amazing people and I just couldn't possibly feel more welcome and more excited to write with everyone. I just love it here lol, everybody here is what makes being here such a great experience

○    rp pet peeves / dealbreakers: I mean, this is actually kinda hard. It is a little frustrating when people follow me or follow me back and then never interact cause I get stupid happy when I see new followers. This rarely happens but it still did happen..... People who tell me they know nothing about my character and ask me to tell them about my muse, and their excuse is "well she's an oc," as if my blog isn't flooding with information about my muse. I guess not really roleplay specific but, it's definitely annoying when people complain about things other people in the rpc do when it's literally like, like it doesn't matter it's this innocent thing but for some reason they're treating it like it's a crime. Biggest dealbreaker is not respecting my boundaries and just being rude, or passively rude. Like seriously just be nice and compassionate and we good

○    fluff, angst, or smut: fluff and angst. I don't like smut, I don't care about smut, I just... have zero interest. And Bailey is 14 years old anyways so like, jfc no. Even with muses of age, no smut. Angst and fluff though yesyes

○    plots or memes: I am literally the absolute worst when it comes to plotting. My brain is just, it don't function that way? Me and plot ideas do not have a good relationship at all. That doesn't mean I won't plot at all, I will, if that is what people want. But I always tell people and I put it in my rules that I am literally so terrible and please don't get mad at me if I can't think of anything lol. So obviously I love just winging it, and I really love memes and continuing from memes cause they help give ideas!

○    long or short replies: I feel like I mostly do 3 or 4 paragraphs. I try to match what my partner writes. I think I can write more than that if I try, but I don't want to overwhelm anyone so I try matching what they write. It also depends on the reply because sometimes depending on what's going on I can write more or can't figure out how to write more

○    best time to write: I have no life whatsoever so my best time to write is literally just whenever the heck. All of the times.

○    are you like your muse(s): In some ways? I think we both enjoy the word fuck oop, but she's definitely more confident than I am and won't hesitate to punch you in the face with her knife whereas I am scared of my own shadow... But we both love stuffed animals. I have a huge collection of plushies and she's really attached to her stuffed bear.

tagged by: @demcnsinmymind tagging: @betaofthedead @wexarethewalkingxdead @wolfvirago @divxne-calcmity and if you see this and wanna do it, do it!

[kawaonago]

1, 9, 16, 18 & 22 for the multi meme

Which muses is/are your favorites ?

truth, they've all been my favorite at one point time. there are points where I won't touch any of my ocs but one for three or four months, before moving onto a new favorite. currently my hyperfocus is on Nora as I wanna write cyborg shit so bad, I've been wanting to write final fantasy for EVER and not got a chance to write.

Which of your muses do you most identify with? Why?

answered !

What is a fandom you used to write in the past ?

WOO THATS A DOOZY, I used to write a little bit of everything. any major anime ? probably fucking wrote it. I started writing self inserts to ship with Vegeta in DBZ. ( is this a joke who knows ) anw I went through a big literature phase, which was kicked off by my Harry Potter obsession. ( Draco Malfoy MMMMMMM yes also Cedric, I literally read the books to get more of Cedric's character and he's so much better in the books. ) My literature phase was killed by Twilight. ( team jasper, and didn't stop me from writing it. I went into supernatural, doctor who directly after that and Jensen Ackles could have his way with me every which way til Sunday still to this day he's aging like fine wine and that's on being a good person. I wrote Anna, and was literally the only person alive who shipped her with Castiel, which was supposed to be Canon til the fans HATED on her enough they killed her off.

a lot. little bit of everything really.

Share an opinion you have about multimuse blogs.

that they are of the utmost convienence and I should have done this a long time ago. I don't have time to run multiple blogs, and I've wanted rp friends that I could write multiple threads/ships/fandoms with forever and never had any of that til making a multimuse blog. my ADHD never lets me hyper focus on the same thing long enough.

List some of favorite multimuse blogs.

preface this with: if I follow u I genuinely love your blog and your muses and want to interact with u in any way possible.

@primasolaris - it took me a minute to follow her NGL bc I was intimidated. now she's probably the mutual I find the easiest to talk to. i followed for the writing ( bc at one point, she did write *shade button* ) , stayed for the astrology shitposting, and good taste in muses ngl. everything I've watched or read on her recommendation, or listened to, has been really good. @killedarlings - even tho I'm really too shy ( or maybe I just know I'm annoying, my self awareness is profound ) to talk to them a lot ooc so I can not say much on that front, but they are easily to plot with, I'm here for the writing and wanna shove all my muses down their throat. @kwisatzhadcrach purely for the vibes and they're posts make me laugh. they also have good taste in muses, especially some really obscure ones that are hard to find anyone taking up. @katebaikiru so easy to plot with, and genuinely enjoyable as a person. open to throwing random muses together and seeing what happens and I love that shit.

[ironforgedrp]

Hi! I'm a (hopefully) first time admin and I've got everything ready to go and set up but I'm really nervous that it won't get off the ground, and you guys have been open for so long do you have any tips for me how to make my RP be as successful as yours? It looks like such a good place, I hope it's not weird to ask this

        hi there friend,  thank-you so much for your compliments, and don’t stress… i’m happy to offer some advice, i’m no expert whatsoever but i’ve run a few roleplays over the past decade or so.    the key note firstly is to think of your RP as your kind of group ersatz family, as the admin you’re the head of that family.   you keep everyone on course, you’re the gatekeeper and it’s your standards that set the tone for what happens in your family’s house.  and i first want to tell you honestly that it is a little bit of a responsibility; you have to be willing to sort out problems, make decisions, mediate, diffuse and sometimes be on the receiving end of anon hate or the occasional jaded RPer, you have to be motivated and encouraging and dedicated -  but if you are, the people who you write and create with will give it back to you tenfold & it will never become a drag.    i hope this helps you a bit!

decide if you want a co-admin or you think you can handle it yourself - i personally have done solo-adminning, lead admin with moderators & co-adminned with up to four people. though i’ve found that, if you want to work with a team of mods/admins, having an odd number can be really helpful as you’re never tied.  also, if you decide to bring in a co-admin or moderator, have a clear idea of how you want to operate as a roleplay and what you expect of them as admins, and whether or not they have an equal say as you, the creator of the roleplay.  if they do, make that clear and if they don’t, make it clear what things you need to have a look over and what things they are able to handle alone (i.e. asks, applications, major plot changes).   honestly, the worst thing that can happen is if you’re not on the same page because it confuses you, them and your muns.

don’t jump the gun, patience is key.  if you’re hoping to have a long running roleplay then i would expect at least a month of work to be put into it before it’s trotted out, but it sounds like you’re already ready to go. make sure, before you open for activity, you have enough muns & characters to get the roleplay off to a healthy start and have the dash reasonably active.

set rules that are clear, but don’t be a dictator - make sure you have expressed clearly what your rules of conduct are (such as dash conduct, mun age restrictions [if any], activity standards, god-modding, banned/acceptable faceclaims, etc.)

set up an ads blog, and queue ads to post semi-regularly with varied but relevant tags and an eye-catching graphic &/or summary of your roleplay

set up a discord server or another way for your muns to communicate and plot OOC, it really helps muse and communication and also can be a fantastic way to build plots with existing characters and muns.  and, lets be honest, it’s nice to be able to chat with the folks you’re writing with.

check in with everyone! make sure your muns are comfortable and happy and no one is falling by the wayside or being left out. also, it’s nice to make sure that your muns are alright personally - by no means pry, but be an open ear if someone needs to talk. you’d be surprised how many in the RPC are often too shy or anxious to admit to an admin that they need time for their mental health, work, study, etc. but if you make it clear from the beginning that you actually do care and are willing to help work with people it makes all the difference.

the most important to me: build rapport!!!   the best thing for your roleplay, as an admin, is to do your absolute best to be approachable and have a relationship with your muns. you obviously don’t have to be best friends with everyone and talk every day, but believe me, what makes a roleplay last is the community you build behind it. i love having made such talented and varied friends in ironforged - we have voice chats and some of us facetime and/or text, we watch tv shows together and even help each other out with anything from personal problems to university assignments.  our community is  what helps us withstand all the trials and tribulations, and it’s what has given our roleplay such fantastic plot drops and progressions.  the main point is, from the get-go, make sure your muns know that your DMs are always open if they have questions, queries, rants, concerns, ideas… all of the above.

trigger warnings, which obviously depends on the genre you’re in but, i personally would suggest to offer your muns the ability to tell you what their triggers are privately and list them somewhere on the main blog for the other members to see.

embrace being an admin, and don’t get walked over. don’t forget that this is your roleplay, you created it and put the work in and no one (anon or not) can tell you how to run it. don’t be scared to call out people for breaking the rules, don’t be scared to issue warnings, don’t be scared to reject people if they haven’t read the rules or aren’t the right fit for your roleplay or make you uncomfortable, don’t be scared to say no.  it’s okay!

have open eyes, ears and mind; listen to feedback and concerns, hear out grievances and be willing to be polite even if people are being rude but don’t entertain pointless anon hate. speaking of anon hate… don’t turn off the anon ask option unless you honestly feel like it is the right route for you - it shuts off the ability for people to contact you whilst maintaining some anonymity and privacy, which can be discouraging.

crucial to any roleplay is the world-building, have a page with some key locations that are applicable to your roleplay (such as cafes, taverns, gyms, shops, housing locations), also i’ve honestly found that it helps setting the scene. consider where your roleplay is located (real place/fictional place) and make those details clear. paint the picture, immersion is a fantastic thing and it’s something both you and your muns can work on and collaborate on in the future. we have an inspo blog, pinterest boards, spotify playlists, youtube playlist, ambiance playlists, regional locations and business…. and a very colourful NPC list that has been collaborated and expanded upon throughout the life of ironforged.

have clear direction and at minimum a loose idea of where you want to go with your roleplay.  even if you don’t want to have a very plot driven roleplay (like ours is with plot drops, random events, character/mun interwoven plots - which requires a long-form type of roleplaying) and would rather have it open world (you set the scene, and everyone just goes with the flow - which can be both long or short form types of writing) - it is so important to have some tricks and surprises in your bag. the best and easiest is having a few muse-boosting tasks lined up, perhaps a group event to bring people together (a party, a fight, a ball, a wedding, etc.) otherwise, 8.5 times out of 10, you’ll find muse flatlining.  ask your muns! ask other rps! make a poll! hit up the RPC tags and roleplay helper blogs!

the finer details; pick a timezone to mark the roleplay with (eg; here i post in AEST on the roleplay because i am australian and it’s easy for me to queue and schedule things) but it’s crucial to ensure you include the timezone equivalent for other people in other timezones to be able to quickly understand (eg; AEST = GMT+10). you can always link an external timezone converter page if you’re unsure!

and, of course, be organised. make sure you have your pages set up and linked properly. the main that come to my mind to start off with are; navigation, plot, taken FCs, IC & OOC rules, a masterlist, blogroll/follow list, application/application page, application counts, ask & submit are open and an ooc page.

         and LASTLY,  this is my personal advice from one admin to another; if you really want a roleplay to work and you really want it to last for (hopefully) years, then you have to put some heart into it.  our roleplay, as a group, has seen some bad times and good times galore. we’ve had people become seriously ill, we’ve had engagements and weddings, graduations, a fair few birthdays, hospital trips/emergencies, international internships, personal problems, personal triumphs…  our communication as a roleplay isn’t always perfect, but we continue to do our best - and working on our communication is what allows us to keep going on through everything.

         also, as an admin, do your best to make sure you are not the most powerful character and not center of all the roleplays controversy, drama and plot drops (if applicable), it’s become a kiss of death cliche, and also can alienate potential muns because they feel like background players to your show.    but seriously, involve everyone and give a shout out for peoples interest, and the ideas that come flowing back from your muns will amaze you, trust me!

       best of luck!    admin tee.

[celebrpanonymous]

As someone who has been an admin with Harley for a while now, I want to truly share my point of view here. I first met them as only a member to glamlist and as a member in a second group we were both in. During that time we didn't really have any connections so we didn't really talk either. So when I got admin at Dreams, I didn't know where I stood with them or what they thought of me. But I'd like to say that I have become friends with them in the meantime and I never never experienced any of the described behaviour from those asks. Sure, even within an admin team we fight sometimes, but that's because there are lots of opinions, especially when the tough decisions have to be made. And obviously we all spend a lot of time together daily, so conflicts happen. Even when there was a conflict, they were never toxic. And I can assure you that all they are trying to do is to write in peace and make sure that CityOfDreams is as much of a safe space as possible. That's all we all are trying to do. People often fail to see the work that is behind being an admin. It comes with dealing with lots of different issues and there are days where we all feel like we can't win. If we are too strict, people complain about the workload, if we ware too lenient, people complain about members not doing their replies. It's a doomloop at times. But especially in the last month or so, we've had to deal with some problematic people who we have only ever kicked out with proof that has been provided to us or that we've gathered over time. We believe in second chances, but at the end of the day we have to do what we think will keep the majority of the group safe. So the people saying we would do random bans or random decisions are often just not happy with a decision we've made. I don't think that blogs like these will help our community. We have a problem with communication. People get upset, post negative stuff and others just believe it without any real proof. If more people would just stop hiding behind anon and would try to have an actual respectful conversation, a lot of the problems we all have could be avoided. I want to believe that you are trying to help, but from personal experience with other accounts like this...they usually just hurt people. So please just think about what you post and how you comment on it, because there is always another person behind the other screen with true feelings.

I believe the biggest people we remain under anon, because anytime we try to have an actual conversation, it ends badly. I know it has a lot for me and others. Sometimes the problem with admin, and i've been guilty of way back in the past, is they say they're doing something for "the good" of the rp, when in fact, they can't see it's the opposite. So I will continue to air grievances and add any personal testimony. But I hear your concerns and will take them into consideration going forward, trying to find a happy medium.

[rpbetter]

Hi Vespertine. Can you offer some advice on how to RP a character that a lot of people think I shouldn't be RPing? I've wanted to RP Hans Landa for years, I like how cunning he is and how he could react to other ideals, how he could grow, especially in modern settings where he would stick out a lot. But I'm afraid because of how people react to muses like him. How do I build up confidence? How do I keep RPing if people bother or threaten to report me? Would people even RP with me? Thank you.

Alright, first thing, I've apologized on the blog already, apologized to people before you, but like I keep saying: it's really important to specifically apologize to individuals when we do something lame like I have. I did not intend to leave the blog unattended for months, but I did. This is an important question, it's right up the alley of why I created this blog, and I left you hanging. I'm deeply sorry, and I hope that my serious delay did not cause you any further worries or to give up on your character/RP!

Okay, we can proceed now!

I'll confess, I seriously spaced on who Hans Landa was for a moment there, but quickly remembered upon Googling! He was an interesting character, and I love that movie! However, I definitely see why you're worried, Anon.

Up until the last decade, taking up a character who was villainous, yes, even a Nazi, was a mark of creative gumption. Almost everyone had a verse for their muse that today would get them anon hate, callouts, reported, and so on. You know what? We had far less drama then. So, I'm not at all in the camp of demonizing your choices, or anyone else's. I saw what worked for a more peaceful RPC for decades and I've seen what is a total nightmare on tumblr.

Unfortunately, it is a total nightmare. So, let's see what you might be looking at, what your options are.

Firstly, you have the right idea; this is a character that appeals to you creatively, and that's really all that should matter. You've got ideas, you want to see your muse grow and change through interactions, and that's very much what the whole RPC needs to be a little more interested in.

I think, based on that alone, you would find people who wanted to write with you. There are quite a few muns out there dying for more interesting interactions with muses who have been taken up because the other mun really wants to write and develop them. Especially in the multi-para and novella communities. It's a bit of bane over there, the way the majority of muses are picked purely to satisfy a fleeting interest in a fandom. They don't come across as the characters they are in canon, are never given the opportunity to develop uniquely, they just exist to fulfill the mun's intense interest that will be gone soon. That works wonderfully and happily for some, but there really are a lot of muns out there who are interested in different approaches.

I will also say that most longer multi-para and novella RPers are less supportive of callout culture and content policing. When the very way that you enjoy RP is easily considered problematic on the grounds that you take it too seriously because you're invested in it, you tend to be against labeling others and giving them a hard time. That portion of the RPC, additionally, tends to be made up of older adults. The RPC kind of despises anyone over 25 who is still RPing, and I think a decent part of that is...this. We don't usually go in on equating fiction to reality, thinking that muse=mun, or that "problematic" material needs to be driven into the darkest void for communal safety. A great deal of that is because we lived through multiple fandom experiences being obliterated by these sorts of ideas, we know this is all detrimental to the community, and are more interested in a live and let live mentality even if we are disturbed by someone's muse or writing topics.

You may wish to specifically seek out RPers who are serious veterans (around for 10+ years), multi-para to novella writers, and/or have things in their rules that imply toleration and support for dark topics, villain muses, etc. (I know I have it in my rules that minors shouldn't interact with this blog due both its content and my age, but I can't exactly verify that with an anonymous message! So, Anon, please be aware I am giving this advice as though you are legally an adult.) Seek out muns who have muses that could also be considered "problematic" or who interact with muses who could be.

Remain away from anyone participating in or supportive of callout culture and purity policing. I know that can be difficult and limiting, and it is also not a 100% safe bet that you will be avoiding problems, but at least you'll know right off that these are not your people. That includes the ever-present callouts that claim the poster "never does this," that the mun being called out is just that much of a danger, and/or those dealing in the major callout-laden muns in your corner of the community. You might agree that one or two of those muns is a legitimate problem, but it's too likely that these people are going to feel like you are too.

Know that you will, inevitably, be called worse than just a "villain apologist." I write a muse that I wanted to write for years as well, and refrained from writing for so long because of the fandom's ideas about them. However, I have never been so happy with any muse choice, it's worth it to me to have some random hatefulness sometimes. I know I'm not a horrible person, the people who matter to me on and offline know that I am not, it doesn't actually matter what someone on tumblr thinks. It doesn't matter what they think about you either, they don't know you and won't give you the opportunity to be known, so pfft to them!

It can still be a little disheartening to hear some of the especially hateful things. While my muse isn't like Hans, the comparison to that is often made. There are a lot of assumptions about my personal character, race, gender, political affiliation, and so on. I'm just going to say it: if you don't think you can handle someone randomly attacking you and labeling you as "actually a Nazi," a genocide supporter, school shooter, "white cishet republican," and so on, do not subject yourself to this. Just write with friends you know are on your side or write some fic where there is some distance and control.

I do not believe, after reviewing them again, that you would be violating tumblr's TOS by writing this muse. You would not be promoting racism, harm to others, or misleading information. Nor would you be harassing anyone. Does that mean no one will try to report you? No, unfortunately. I've gotten reported for politely disagreeing on a post and asking a question! The important thing is that nothing will happen.

I would still make it very clear that this character might be offensive to some. Seriously, I would say, "In the interest of sensitivity, please note that this muse might be offensive to some - do not interact if imagery or topics associated with historical Nazis will be triggering for you. Hans Landa is from the film 2009 Quentin Tarantino film Inglourious Basterds." Pop that into the top of a pinned post, your rules, and your blog's header statement.

Because even if tumblr wasn't a mess, it's still the most responsible thing to do to treat this sensitively. It is a sensitive matter! People should have every opportunity to be aware and make the best choice for them to interact or not.

People almost certainly will threaten to report and block. Particularly when you are still looking for writing partners and having to expose yourself to more of the community in order to do so. It'll get so much better when you start finding them, though, I promise! Once you find a good mun or two, you've kind of unlocked a pocket of potential. Those people who are more accepting, reasonable, and interested in writing and characters are naturally going to be interacting with other like-minded muns.

Finding a good base of partners might take you some time, but the good news is, the whole process will help you build up the confidence to keep writing. It helps you get in touch with both writing and the muse, what is really important to you as an RPer, and is what isn't. It feels shitty at the time, but in the end, it builds a lot of confidence in yourself, and when you pull confidence from within you, you're never totally without it again!

When you're looking for those people (I'd additionally suggest historical RPers, if there is any existent community for the movie still, and branching out to fandoms that have "problematic" characters in them that you could do crossovers with in modern settings etc.), you can still be writing and developing your muse. Write up headcanons, fleshout the character's backstory, make multiple verses so that you have many options ready to go, do some one-shots.

A great way to do that is to find memes or traditional writing questions specifically for character development, but don't wait for someone to ask you! Go down the meme/list, pick some questions that spark your interest, and base your HC posts on them. Answer questions you immediately have answers to, answer the really hard ones you have no clue about. You don't know until you develop it, after all!

It helps with confidence so much to feel confident about your writing and comfortable with the character. It'll also help non-judgemental RPers who come across your blog or want to follow you back to see your writing and interest in the muse. I know that there are muses I was not interested in from their canon, but seeing the mun's love for them and how they had uniquely developed them, I had to interact!

When you do receive the almost inevitable anon hate, I'm going to suggest something a bit radical here; the idea of not feeding the trolls doesn't always work. That's predicated upon people not already receiving a reward for sending that hate to you. You can't starve what has already eaten lunch! I've found that demonstrating that they're not getting to you is more effective, in all, incredibly controversial honesty.

Put in your rules that anon hate will be addressed only with something like...a gif of a rabbit, a random fact, or a link to a song you recommend. Then, you do exactly that. You get a message calling you derogatory things, but instead of deleting it or going off about it in a way they can just use, you respond with a picture of a bunny cleaning its ears. Block the anon after.

This, again, in all honesty, is a confidence booster. Sometimes, building confidence is about projecting it first. You are projecting an aura of non-hostile confidence that you're not any of those negative things in reality, nor is your life ruined by people who haven't anything better to do with their own lives than bother you as performative "activism" online. It's alright if it really does bother you at first! Eventually, it won't. Eventually, you'll be left in peace with the reasonable muns you've found.

You will find them! There are still muns out there who feel like the most important factors in RP are engaging muses and writing, and how the mun is truly conducting themselves. If that mun is a genuinely decent person who isn't starting problems, harassing people, forcing anything on anyone, that's what matters! Just put your muse out there in a thoughtful way around people who are interested in writing. Be respectful of the sensitive nature of the subject, tag liberally and correctly.

No matter what tumblr's RPC says, you do have the right to write any muse or topic you so desire. People also have the right to not interact, of course, but since you're concerned about it (and truly, the person who is most likely to be made uncomfortable on here), I highly doubt you'll be trying to force interactions or anything.

Unfortunately, when you write any, even vaguely, problematic muse here, you are held to higher standards. You are obliged to be ten times nicer in the face of hatefulness, to be more aware of tagging and other warnings, and so on. It's kind of a practice in acceptance, and it can be frustrating. Again, if the muse is worth it to you, it'll be fine. Just know that you'll need to not be reactive to nastiness, very responsible in how you present yourself in all ways, and that it still won't be enough for some people. And know that's alright as well! They're making a choice to be hostile without knowing you or employing the adult maturity to just not interact with you, not you.

I know it's very easy to say "don't let people get to you." Perhaps especially from someone who will openly say in the tumblr RPC in 2021 that it's 100% fine to write a Nazi muse lol but please know that my confidence was not naturally occurring. It was developed across years of nonsense, and much of it offline, in person. So, I'm not flippantly advising you to have a level of fortitude out of nowhere! I'm honestly telling you that it is a process, but I think that if you want something bad enough to stick to it through the hardest part of it, you kind of expedite that process. It makes it a bit easier if you're still enjoying yourself!

So, on that note, my additional advice is to have another muse or other hobby you can enjoy during the difficult patches, or even slow times before you establish a good group of writing partners. Do things that will keep you feeling positive and motivated to write. That looks different for everyone, but I'm certain you have something. If that does happen to be another muse, or muses, I would strongly suggest you keep it to yourself that you are the mun of this one until you get rolling. While you have exactly nothing to be ashamed of, don't tempt ruining your fun on the other blog(s) until you are established on the new one and confident about it.

If you ever need to vent or further advice, I'm not going to vanish or anything again! Drop by any time you need to, Anon. Sometimes it goes a long way knowing that even a single person out there supports you!

I hope this helped a little, and I do support you! I think you've got this!

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I can't speak for everyone, but speaking as someone with a general verse muse, I try to play her as accurately as possible. Being considered an 'older' muse, combined with the fact that I've had her on and off for years now, she's worked through a lot of the 'kinks' you mentioned. She still has issues she works through, but she works through them privately or with those she's close with. Because that's the type of person she is, I won't create flaws where there are none, (cont)

nor will I have her broadcast her problems to the public when that simply isn't in her character, and I'm sorry if that's boring to you. On the flip side, I've noticed when a female (or male) fc is widely considered 'sexy', people often have preconceived notions of who/what they should be, and treat them as shallow characters. I've noticed this with starters and replies you've written for people, too. Myself included. It's a two way street, if you want to dig deeper into interactions between muses, you have to put the effort forth to communicate with others or be open minded enough to give people starters or replies that don't pigeon hole their muse. I would love to flesh out certain aspects of my muse further, but I rarely have the opportunity to because people don't look past her looks and only give me threads which emphasize that, and it's hard to plot when you feel disinterest from your partner. Just thought another perspective might be helpful.

hello! thank you very much for your insightful message. first of all, i completely understand where this is coming from; i concede that my post was written while i was in a place of frustration and that i didn’t, perhaps, express what i wanted to properly. i’ll try to tackle your points as comprehensively as possible, but i apologize if i don’t fully explain myself, as this is an issue that does appear to be sensitive. i’ll also put this under a read more just so that i don’t clog people’s dashes (as i expect this will be a lengthy response); apologies in advance!

first, i appreciate you telling me that your muse is one that has worked through her kinks and issues and, for the ones she has now, she is doing so privately. i respect that you have had the opportunity to do so over a long period of time, and i of course understand that you have no intention to broadcast every single gory detail of her personal life. i can see how my post may have come across as me just shunning nice, normal muses form the get-go. please understand that this was not at all my intention, and i apologize for suggesting that i demand every muse i interact with to be openly problematic. 

i go through the muse pages of people religiously, and i don’t turn away from them just because they have nice muses. i have never done so nor will i ever.  my post was referring to specific instances in which people and i would already be communicating or talking/plotting and i would want to know more about muses that i know nothing about. this is because their muses don’t have clear descriptions or perhaps have sparse bios that present me with minimal insight -- this is actually fine as long as the person is willing to tell me later on what to expect. when i ask about them, i get the same answer. “they’re nice and friendly.” when i ask them for more (and not necessarily more conflict), rarely do i get any information that suggests that they were built as muses with dimension. perhaps, conversely, if a person just told me “they’re horrible,” but couldn’t really give me anything else, it might be the same issue, but i’ve yet to encounter a muse that’s just simply horrible. 

last night, i read through a few muses’ bios that were quite nice; they weren’t problematic, nor did they have any horrible childhood to suggest their niceness was a front for something, or anything like that. but i noticed that their creators put in thought into them; they know what pisses them off, what they’re afraid of, what they obsess over, what they dream of/to be, etc. this information isn’t even necessary in a plot, but it gives me a better understanding of the muse as a character and not just a cut-out. i don’t have a problem with them at all, and i look forward to interacting with them because i can see that their muns like their characters enough to think a little more about them. 

now, the above statement might be misconstrued as me saying “oh! i see some bios that are meh and their muses are one-dimensional so nope! not interacting.” that’s not what i mean at all! again, this is already in regard to some people who i’ve talked to and tried to gain a better understanding of in terms of their muses but have gotten back very little. 

again, this post is not in relation to people i haven’t ever interacted with; i don’t not follow people and diss them after reading about their nice muse. i, myself, have some nice muses -- miyoung and minseok, for instance, are pretty unproblematic as attitudes go! i think it’s a little too much of a leap to suggest i don’t put in the effort to interact with people and just avoid them; i made that post in referral to interactions i already had in the last month. this is more deeply rooted in the problem i’ve been having with shipping, which is when people approach me for ship plots but don’t give me enough to help me understand what the basis of any kind of ship is. i suppose (and this is just me, maybe!) it bothers me when i try to ask them how they’d fit together, and sometimes i get responses like, “she’s cute and friendly, so he could fall in love with her,” but it doesn’t match the context of what we were talking about. if the person gave me more to work with after i asked, it would be fine, but with little else, i’m not sure if i could feel comfortable continuously interacting with a muse like that for the thread we’re talking about. additionally, if we talk about multiple threads, would it not be frustrating if i were interacting with three different muses from the same person that were virtually identical to one another? this has already happened to me during the plotting stages on this blog and on another rp blog for another fandom. 

as for starters and replies that i’ve written, i don’t want to sound defensive when i ask for this! but may i know which starters and replies you’re referring to? many of the starters i’ve posted are ones i’ve talked about with other people at some length, and i tried as much as possible to carry out the plot that we agreed upon together. some of them are for smut or for a romantic relationship, so maybe that might be what you’re referring to, but these were always plotted out to a pretty good extent with a partner. the ones that were at random (i looked at the recent ones only, so please let me know if you’re referring to something older!) that i generated at a more quickfire pace were not for anyone in mind; they had ?’s, so i didn’t choose any muses in particular, and i’m really uncertain about which muses im treating as specifically shallow just because they’re sexy. if you let me know which starters you’re referring to, i’ll gladly address any pigeonholing if i can see that i just stereotyped a “hot muse,” but i will also try to determine first if this was a starter written for a plot that was discussed before. 

i am the first to admit that i am sometimes a victim to disinterest, but i will also be the first to say that i don’t usually feel disinterest without ever trying to be engaged or immersed first. i was non-selective for a very long time and was happy to rp with anyone, but over some time i’ve noticed that some people (i won’t say a majority, because that’s obviously not true) i already had threads with just want something and also don’t give me any indication that they’re willing to let both our muses grow or develop. maybe it’s not right for me to expect that, and perhaps you can also tell me if that’s too snooty; maybe it is? but when i approach people (and 9/10 times i do make the first step), i always ask these questions: is there any muse of yours you want to develop? any specific plot you think would be good for your muse or might help you develop you writing?

i don’t ever see myself as an initially or inherently snobby rp partner, but over time, i’ve become guarded and maybe a bit sensitive; maybe that’s the wrong reaction on my part, and i’ll think about that more for sure. i’d just like to, again, emphasize that the post you seem to be responding to is in any way attacking nice muses, although, again, i can definitely see that it might come across this way. sometimes, when i rant, i don’t provide the right context (or, in this case, any at all, which was an error on my part), and perhaps that might be the reason why i worded things so terribly. i’ve been reading it over for the past 30 minutes (as i reply to this), and i do apologize for sounding so problem-hungry and snobbish. you’re absolutely right when you say that it’s okay that a muse is nice and has no huge kinks, and i have never thought that it wasn’t okay for them to be so. perhaps what i should have said is that when i’m plotting with someone, i really do want to see the dimension in a character that suggests the mun has really put some good thought into them. if i ask for “anything else,” apart from the “friendly and nice,” i just wish the answer weren’t “nah, that’s it!” you can tell me about their interests, what they do in their spare time, what their pet peeves are, and these are things that will help me feel like oh, so i can talk about this with this muse! and it can be like a point in which their friendship/romance/mentorship/hateship blossoms. 

that’s really all i want. again, i have no excuse for wording things the way i did, and i’ll definitely think about explaining things better. i think the better promise i’d make is to not post about what i’m feeling when i haven’t fully processed my emotions and thoughts. thank you for your perspective, and i will also take into account any further replies you have. however, i actually really hope that you can come off anon and we can talk. i’m not an inherently angry person (i know my post must have made it seem that way, but i’m really not), and i’m open to learning the error of my ways, but, perhaps, if there’s a response to this very lengthy post, we could talk about it more concisely.