#he's got that pixie cut that every trans guy & lesbian got in high school

[cherryistired]

let's do this one last time...

later though. these are just rough concepts for now

[rose-against-dersecest]

Transfem lesbians have internalized butchphobia. We know that cis lesbians can wear their hair short, dress masculine, and forgo makeup, but the majority of us can't accept or even consider that trans women might want to do these things as well. That trans women might desire being butch / "nonpassing."

I was reading a ventpost the other day from a femme "passing" trans girl with a butch trans gf who didn't "pass" at all, and she was saying that after they posted pics of both of them, she got so many messages from other trans girls that said that she was too beautiful for her gf, that her gf didn't deserve her and she should leave her. It was really fucked up, and that event upset both gfs & me.

Trans women can be okay with having full beards and hairy bodies. They can have social dysphoria and not physical dysphoria when it comes to how they look. I know this can be a difficult thing for many trans girls to understand, because lots of us obsess over our appearances and put on full makeup and dresses, grow long hair, and shave every day to alleviate our dysphoria, and the thought of us personally having beards and short hair is incredibly unpleasant, but we can't abandon trans girls who're comfortable with being butch just because we can't relate to them... like, I'm butch too (not butch enough to be ok with me growing a beard, but) and I face a bit of scorn from feminine trans women who question me about why I don't put on makeup (I'm lazy) or wear dresses and skirts (pants are more comfy and skirts and dresses can fly up) or why I have my hair short right now (I got a pixie cut like Tracer's, shut up), and things like that.

(Btw trans men have this problem too, with not believing a person who chooses to have long hair & wears feminine clothing can be a trans guy.)

Your outer appearance doesn't equal your gender, your mind does. Trans people have to stop policing other trans peoples' presentation, lest they become like the transmedicalists/truscum on this website.

Trans men also have to unlearn their misogyny when it comes to them dealing with nonpassing trans men. And just becoming a man in general, I guess. I personally knew a trans guy who socially transitioned in junior high school, and once he did, he believed it was okay to say degrading things to women & attack other trans guys for not dressing "masculine enough."

Being trans doesn't give you the right to be (trans)misogynistic. This is mean to say, I know, but trans people who justify their hatred for (trans) women b/c they're trans are to me, personally no better than cis people.

Okay, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.