#how could a person who doesn’t knowme

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Obviously that person is being helpful and isn’t going to know what I know and don’t know or what I remembered, but I legit know this stuff, so it feels like I’m getting talked down to.

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Lana Lex and the Affects of Abuse

The sad thing is it's been 20 years and people still don't understand grooming, gaslighting, abuse, or manipulation. They just make excuses to blame everything on either her or him and hate one or the other. Now I know I didn't have to. But I've read so much on Lana deserved Lex to hit her or the phantom pregnancy because she didn't realize he was evil, although he pretended to be good). Or she allowed Lex to manipulate her for all those years they were friends- she's so stupid. But if someone has known you since you were 14, and is seemingly a decent person, of course you aren't going to think them capable of certain behaviors.  Especially if they go out of their way to be overly affectionate or gentle with you.  They want to save the world based shared experience of seeing aliens kill others.  Trying to stop a disaster is not evil, and I’m surprised the alien research is read as evil at all after the events of the episodes Zod and Arrival, especially.

Or people ranting about how they have always hated the "angel in distress" or "perfect princess" or blah "cheerleader" and these are adults (and men even) being so obsessively immature and hateful of a 14-15-16-17-18-19 yr old character. Because they follow the cheerleaders are fake stereotype or expect a petite kid to be able to fight super-powered beings.  Victim shaming/ blaming is the worst IRL and in forums.

No, going after someone evil doesn't make you evil if they are just going to hurt and kill a ton of people anyway. If you think aliens are going to invade of course you will make a stupid threat which isn't half as bad as: the guy who killed his parents and abuses his son and wife and never got called out for it or stayed in prison. But I digress... I only got that angry because I read this hate. Yet no one trashed Lionel who took pleasure in abusing his son and throwing his wife to the ground. Or the fact that he's strangled his son before because of money.  Along with poisoning him.  And even forcing drugs into his food to get him institutionalized and brainwashed. His wife didn't abuse him, his son didn't abuse him, he was the abuser. Lionel pretends like Lex and Lillian were just crazy and he had to stop them. He's never told off by anyone for these things.  And people like to say he was never evil.  Or that Lana was the most despicable for trying to stop Lex in season 7.  Lex who's become someone that locks people in cages to experiment, then kills them after.  Except for people who also like to victim-shame Lex, saying he deserved it because he's going to turn out evil anyway. No one deserves abuse.

These views are toxic and forceful in not to even trying and understand abuse because they'd rather get-off on hate and feel good for using spiteful harsh language. Or even deny the abuse or events ever even happened to validate their own blind-views. I have knowm women who have been abused by a partner they thought they could trust, because they knew them for years.  It leads to a mental breakdown, which is what the character is meant to be going through and what people mock.  Just like I know children who are spiteful because they've been abused by their father or mother. People either change and decide to help others- or stay in their depression and cannot change. It's not their true nature, it's a bi-product of abuse. Lex's destiny represents continuing the cycle which is why he kills his father.  Compassion and context is really important when watching this show as much as any.

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