#i also thought 'oh i wanna date and id date ppl of any gender. so bi' but i think now id actually prefer being in a qpr not dating

[golisopod-mutual]

I took a (short) break away from labels bc I was driving myself nuts trying to identify and categorize my every feeling into neat little check boxes. So I stepped away and just gave myself some room to breathe, ig.

Anyway I'm identifying as just aroace now, not oriented/bi aroace.

[hometownrockstar]

sorry if this looks like im over-valuing internet strangers' thoughts and opinions on my personal identity to the viewers but, does anyone think its "weird" the way i talk abt nonbinary characters/hcs, or gender/pronouns esp my own, or like dorothea lol. Like lemme explain. im a fully binary gay trans man (right now. ive never questioned or doubted it before but that doesnt mean im not gonna deny myself if my feelings ever change, and i dont question anything currently) but i sometimes wonder if people doubt my own word abt my identity just bc i use different pronouns including neos and no/it pronouns, or based on the way i talk abt nb characters i like and identify/relate to a lot.

cause i try to be sensitive abt the way i talk abt nonbinary identities and characters cause i obviously dont wanna overstep boundaries but i just think abt them a lot bc i like and relate to them (nb characters/hcs and ocs) a lot and ive just always questioned and got bored/annoyed by the inherent cisnormativity in everything ever (like thinking "why would these aliens have genders and be straight?" as a kid while watching sci-fi or whatnot) like just hating the inherent erasure of trans people made me constantly think abt nonbinariness in characters, and also i just knew and liked a lot of nb characters as a kid and they helped me on my own gender discovery. ...And me saying this is giving me that feeling i talked abt at the start, where i worry ppl are thinking "lol this guy is in denial and is def nb bc he said he relates to nb experiences" cause i honestly dont id as nonbinary! if that changes in the future thats great but how i id now is important too!

and then abt sexuality... ive thought abt it a lot, and have come to the conclusion i dont have much experience in romance or anything so whatever happens or changes in the future will be most important, but for the time being the only woman i have ever contemplated dating was a fictional woman from a video game, and i dont picture myself with a woman irl or feel much when i imagine it, therefore i am satisfied calling myself gay now. but THEN ppl try and go "oh well u could be bi-gay!" ...-___- can we talk abt how invasive that is too? like thats literally saying "oh you could want to date men and women, but only want to fuck men! (or vice-versa)" like maybe that info isnt any of your business?