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1,4,12,15,23,35,38,40,4650,55,60,75,78,83,86. You don't have to answer these. It's alot I know and I'm sorry. Just.. curious 😅

1. What do you crave in a psychological sense? Intimacy, passion, purpose, belonging, social interaction, etc.?

Passion & purpose (im sorry it's impossible to choose one)

4. Who's the most important person in your life right now? Why?

Myself because i need to consistently work towards my 5 year goal. Its the bare minimum but feels a lot so im hoping ill adjust and become a better version of myself if not the best.

12. What's your most controversial opinion? Would you state it publicly? What's the most controversial opinion that you would publicly support, if it's different?

The moon is made of cheese and pluto is a planet. Oh i would shamelessly state that publicly and stick out my tongue if the other person tries to educate me on the matter (im sorry if you were looking for serious answers, we dont do that over texting)

15. Is there a song, book, movie, or other piece of media that has drastically altered your life? What was it, are there multiple?

This is stupid (but youre allowed to laugh at how basic i am) Book: 13 reasons why. So just a bit of context: Up until grade 7 i was an extremely insensitive kid like id mindlessly laugh at people in school, made fun of their insecurities and was completely clueless about feelings/emotions. It was just considered banter since i was the class clown but the way id gang up with my group and tease other kids was wrong, yet no one corrected this behaviour (tbf i didnt grow up with cousins and they rarely ever visited so there was no sense of realisation) Now end of grade 7 i came across this book and I casually started reading it like any other book and lets just say i didnt expect the traumatising details. It was nothing like the stuff i used to read and it ended up giving me the biggest reality check. I started analysing my behaviour and realised how i might be an actual bully and i couldnt fathom the thought of someone resorting to self harm or suicide because of my silly jokes so i stopped and apologised to those few people. Lets just say this book was the first step towards developing eq and becoming a better person.

23. What would you never admit to in real life?

A LOT of things. I cant really think of anything atm but i mostly just stay quiet when people say questionable shit because i dont have the energy to explain my pov and idc about their opinion lol.

35. What's wrong with you? Physically, mentally, whatever comes to mind. What's right about you? What are your best and worst traits?

Physically— i have a HUGE nose, kinda short, dont have grey/hazel eyes, i wear specs (doesnt look cute), my nails chip every time i grow them out and theyre not a natural pretty shape. Also, i dont feel pretty like an actual girl; im not elegant or any of that and neither am i a hot tomboy. Im just eh. (Edit: i just remembered the dark circles and i look dead without lipstick/lip taint lol)

Mentally— anxious sometimes but thankfully no more anxiety attacks. I feel like my major trust and commitment issues come under personality disorders but ill just list them here. My therapist said im stubborn and very rigid (and I believe him over anyone else) and quite frankly i feel incapable of forming a real human connection. To sum up my worst traits: Im mostly horrible at reciprocation, im always emotionally unavailable, im selfish, hella lazy, careless, stupid. Im definitely forgetting something so whenever I remember it ill add it here lol. My best traits: im very understanding when it comes to the other person needing their space. Im a good listener because i rarely have good advice or solutions lol. Im calm and rarely ever lose my temper which doesnt really last long. I believe in communication instead of letting misunderstandings grow until they explode (im guessing thats good because it has strengthened my friendships)

38. Who do you miss, if anyone?

My 15 year old self. She was so happy, loved the way she looked and was so mentally stable (i might be considered a narcissist at this point)

40. Would you sacrifice your life for a stranger? An acquaintance? A loved one?

I WILL SACRIFICE MY OWN LIFE FOR PAKISTAN (its hard for me to be consistently serious, bear with it pls)

46. Do you have a "right person, wrong time"?

Yeah feels like it

50. What qualities do you find charming?

Whatever prince charming brings to the table (its so hard to be serious about this im sorry it reminds me of middle school)

55. What reminds you of your childhood?

Certain songs, snacks and a few places.

60. What are you afraid of? What are your worst fears? Are you afraid of any of the following - the dark, fire, heights, being alone, people, spiders, snakes, blood, drowning, or death?

Betrayal/abandonment from someone i truly love, getting attached to the wrong person, staying unemployed after graduation, childbirth and raising my own kids, emotionally depending on someone and lizards 💀 Of the following: people, only the big spiders like tarantulas etc, snakes, drowning only because i dont know how to swim and its a very painful death from what ive heard so no thank you.

75. What is your favourite fairytale?

Definitely hansel and gretel because of that edible cottage (still such a dream) but I recently read the story of the youth who went forth to learn what fear was (grimm's fairytales) and its my favourite one as an adult now.

78. Have you ever written a poem or song about someone? Or had someone write one about you? Do you hope to have either of those experiences in the future?

Nope i havent. My best friend has written poetry for me, about 3 times. It was super cute but it constantly made me feel indebted because ive never made a grand gesture like that and what she wrote was proper poetry and she appreciates me so much. Ive only ever written her letters with my ugly handwriting yet she treasures them. Hypothetically if i do find someone in the future like that idk how id react but ill definitely be thinking about ways to reciprocate.

83. What's your type? Otherwise, do you think you attract a certain sort of person?

An aromantic asexual or at least someone whose love language isnt physical touch and theyre naturally not a cheezy person but i feel like im asking for a lot here since most people associate romance with their partners and what i say is considered abnormal or bs so lets not go there. Ill need to be attractive to attract a certain type of people or anyone for that matter lol.

86. What could you talk about for hours?

Honestly my chattiness depends on my mood or the type of day im having instead of a particular topic.

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man, this was sent like, nearly 2 weeks ago or w/e, and i completely ignored it bc i didnt have the energy/ability to care (you literally sent these when it was between 1 - 2am my time) but, it was recently brought to my attn that you put both me + lal in your byf (because i.... banned you from a server i guess, and that means lals at fault too?) so.

i guess it’s high time i answer this lmao. maybe you wont even see this. maybe youll vague abt me for the next few weeks and try and make me out to be a bad person, but i dont care lol. anyways this is under a cut bc its pointless drama i guess. ask 2 tag

additionally: this isnt rly meant to act as a callout post. but since u asked on anon (and im pretty sure we’re mutually blocked) i cant really talk about this privately. this is mostly just.. well. answering your question. ive written this little paragraph after i’ve written everything below, so like, idk dude, it happens sometimes, i get rly heated abt shit and then cool down after a while. so this is wild.

edit: i havent read this thru nor do i care about reading it through. are there a bunch of typos? probably. dont care though

i dont rly have the energy to pull up Everything esp because that lke.... requires going thru so many discord messages adn i really just. dont care enough to sift through everything

“but if u dont care why are you writing this” shut up u wanted answers didnt u lol

nyways heres just . some shit lmao

man firstly let’s deal w your post abt my server

+ dont worry! ive got it archived in case u delete it bc who knows what ud do lol. nyways

lets just do some breakin apart on this:

i was lterally shaking at the time and having my OWN panic issues but i guess you dont rly take that into consideration lol?

this is one of the biggest exaggerations like ... you made it sound like the server was some big special place jdfghdkj theres literally 4 mods and 2 of them didnt even talk to you. the other 2 were me and lal

like half of the server isnt even fucken active on the server and the majority of the other half dont even care about unfollowing/blocking u. what a wild assumption. thts the funniest shit 2 me

please you literally sent me 3 asks when it was way too early in the morning 4 me expecting me to reply as if it was possible for me to give u all the reasons in like 10 minutes jesus christ

ths is one of the ugliest posts ive ever seen + this was posted before you were banned frm the server. several ppl in the server have bpd + i was absolutely not willing to have smeone who says this sht abt their illnesses around (re: the whole “not actively in therapy” and shit. fuck off lol)

here’s some other stuff on my list that you might remember:

(kin stuff) being fully aware that my brother wasn’t - and still isn’t - okay with doubles with a specific character, and that you were specifically warned whilst he was offline, and you knew this was the case, yet decided that your best way of explaining something was..... fuck dude, whats the wording you used? “i’d say but some people here aren’t ok with doubles” or some shit which is! literally just as bad! and tht shit has fucked my bro up so severely tht he still fuckn..... thinks abt + the shit uve said In General (shrugging emoji)

heres a fucken wild ride for u: ur the reason he left th server anyways and why the second i banned u i was immediately happy because holy shit i can talk to my bro again bc i could invite him back! to a chat where he doesnt have to deal w someone who causes him constant panic attacks! wowee

lets not forget me expressing my extreme distaste of lying [person] + r.idged.og + ridg.epho.s but u completely ignoring that shit (+ wowie remember when u said lying was yr friend and that you didnt like me venting negatively abt them bc my nasty experiences r somehow less important than ?? tht shit??? lol anyways)

god the entire fucking drama w the lying shit . i cant believe i was on yr side for a while jdfghkj. that whole fiasco was so shitty. nyways thts nothing to do w me its just something that made so many ppl uncomfy

remember when you left the lying chat and then vented to us about shit but then rejoined the lying chat unbeknownst to us + caused shit again (surprise, i know about that)

you, generally, made several people uncomfortable (myself included), and as the owner of the server, i’d much rather kick one person from the server than have several people being uncomfortable. but if that’s an unreasonable thing to do then please, inform me, because that’s news to me.

whilst i dont support alex or alex’s partner in any way, shape or form (before u try and call me a fucken apologist/supporter/whatever lol), the blatant deliberate misgendering of alex’s partner on your byf was extremely shitty of you (which has since been fixed, but yikes).

(kin stuff) pretending to not be a double around lal, knowing he’s not comfortable with doubles (which, maybe you’re not! but given you’re kin w mc.ree + got that in your byf, and don’t have anything abt not follwing if ur x.phos in ur byf...... boyo)

god theres more but im not willing to dig up all the shit + also dont want to ask other ppl about their personal problems bc thats exposing them to a past/experience they probably want to forget about/never revisit

if u found this? congratulations. you got your answers.

if ur gonna vague abt me? go ahead. i dont really see what ive done wrong lmao.

also, re: why i didn’t tell you anything at all,

i was having a panic attack and almost throwing up

i kept trying to find reasons to keep you in the server, because i didn’t want problems to arise

i will literally never talk to ppl abt this kinda shit privately bc i dont want people to feel bad but 2 late

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How New Genetic Technologies Are Reshaping Pregnancy And Parenting

As the nascent field of genetic testing advances, expectant parents face a dizzying array of new and difficult questions.Would you want to know if your child will have Down syndrome? Or if your baby is genetically predisposed to Alzheimers disease? What about if the fetus has a gene duplication that might mean nothing or could spell a serious genetic disorder?

The sci-fi world of designer babiesmay not be here yet, but modern genetic technology is already fundamentally changing pregnancy and parenting. Thanks to advances in prenatal and postnatal genetic testing, parents now have access to unprecedented amounts of information about their childrens genetic makeup, biology and susceptibility to disease.

But as science journalist Bonnie Rochman notes,this wealth of new data has as much potential to inspire anxiety and confusion as it does to enlighten. In her new bookThe Gene Machine: How Genetic Technologies Are Changing The Way We Have Kids And The Kids We Have, Rochman dives into the promises and challenges of genetic advances likely to shape our reproductive futures.

The Scope recently sat down with Rochman to learn more about this exploding field of medicine.

What kind of information do parents get from prenatal testing? Why would someone choose to get this testing done?

Perhaps the most important thing when youre approaching prenatal testing is to completely understand what youre signing up for and what information that test can reveal.Research has shown, and anecdotally a lot of counselors say, that women dont really understand these tests. Thats been my experience in interviewing a lot of the parents who appear in my book. Prenatal testing is presented in a sort of de facto manner, and you just go along and do it. I think it needs to not be presented in a manner that assumes that every woman wants this sort of testing.

I think what happens a lot of times is that women are unprepared for what theyre going to learn. The more sophisticated the test, the more that women are at risk of learning information that is unclear or uncertain then you have to decide what to do with that information and how to process it. If youre an anxious person or a real worrier, you may not want to have a prenatal test that has the potential to reveal lots of unclear information. You may want to take a test thats narrower in scope, or you may not want to take one at all.

Another important point is that you need to understand why youre taking this test in the first place.If you dont believe in abortion, you may not want to do any of these tests. So it can get you on the path of anxiety and this treadmill where you cant get off.

Whats been some of the criticism leveled by the disabled community?

A lot of people in the Down syndrome community have been very wary of whats called non-invasive prenatal testing, which is a blood test thats able to detect Down syndrome and some other chromosomal conditions in the first trimester, because they think its just a fast-track to abortion.

Even though you know on an intellectual level that anything and everything could go wrong, every parent is expecting a healthy baby. But even the term healthy baby parents of children with Down syndrome can take issue with that because that baby may be perfectly healthy, they just have an extra chromosome. So what do you consider healthy? Even that word has become politicized.

Is there a reason to do prenatal testing if abortion isnt something youre considering?

Theres plenty of reasons you might want to have that test, even if you are planning to continue your pregnancy. … The main reason you may want to have prenatal testing, even if you dont want to have an abortion, is to prepare for the birth of a child with special needs. You may want to change the hospital where youre going to deliver, or you may want to do a bunch of research ahead of time so that you know what to expect. You may to line up some specialized doctors or connect with parents who have a child with the condition. You may want to assemble community and family resources, because things may not go as smoothly as if you are giving birth to a child who didnt have any kind of genetic condition. You can be prepared, and theres a lot to be said for that as well.

Theres a significant range in the types of risk information people are given. Some test results are crystal clear,but others reveal genetic mutations that might mean something and might mean nothing. Whats the spectrum of risk information that people can expect from these tests?

Before pregnancy, you and your partner can do carrier screening, which tests for over 100 diseases that only happen if both partners carry a mutation of the same diseases. So, if both you and your partner have that, then theres a 25 percent chance of having a baby thats affected. Thats a sure thing that your child will have that one in four chance of the disease.

Doing an invasive test like CVS [chorionic villus sampling] can determine Down syndrome with certainty. But if you do fetal genome sequencing(which is not very common these days, but some people think is the wave of the future) or a chromosomal microarray,that can reveal genetic duplications and deletions so little bits of chromosomes that are added or missing. These duplications or deletions can sometimes have very profound effects, they can have mild effects, and they can sometimes have no effects. The challenge here is that were at a point where our technology and our abilities are far outpacing our understanding of the science. Thats where it can get really murky and confusing.

The challenge here is that were at a point where our technology and our abilities are far outpacing our understanding of the science.” Bonnie Rochman

It must be really difficult, in many cases, for people to make health decisions based on this information.

Yes, and theres no shortage of stories of people who are really grappling with this uncertainty. One case I looked at was a mom who was an attorney in New York City she and her husband decided that they were going to take the chromosomal microarray. They decided ahead of time that if there were any major problems, they were not going to proceed with the pregnancy. They got their results back, and there was both a gene duplication and deletion. When they got the results, they leaned towards abortion. But after talking to their doctor, they changed their minds.The doctor told them that they had 80 percent odds that everything would be fine, and they said, Were going to take those odds. They continued the pregnancy, and I met the little boy. Hes just adorable and hes doing all the things that a baby of his age should be doing.

So you have this information that can be very unclear. But I think the important thing to remember is that all of us have these genetic mutations, theres no such thing as a person with no genetic mutations. That saying, no ones perfect its true.

What procedures and safeguards should be put into place so that people can make the best possible decisions based on this genetic information?

One of the most important things is genetic counselors. With all of this data, people need a guide to help them figure out what these risks mean. Often, physicians may not have the time to spend explaining something so that parents feel completely reassured, and thats where genetic counselors can come in and explain what test results really mean. They can also explain what the tests reveal in the first place, so you can make an educated, informed decision about whether you actually want to have this information.

We live in an information age, and this is just one more arena in which data is king. We need someone to guide us through the maze, and that role is played by genetic counselors.

This interview has been lightly edited for length and clarity.

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