#i keep it to a minimum because assholes will use it as ammunition for ridicule

[sphacelating]

i am unapologetically angry, glad to have made an accurate impression. on behalf of myself, but certainly also every other survivor of abuse who was drawn to this game for reasons that are obvious, who relate to these characters, and feel seen. i won’t say “represented”, we’re not spree killer cannibals posting from death row (well, if anyone is, i ain’t judging, feel free to correct me), but this story resonates deeply with a lot of victims of child abuse and domestic abuse, because the typical “perfect victim” portrayal in fiction is as common as it is unrealistic. tcoaal controversially rejects that myth as well as several others most of us cannot see ourselves in, and that’s what makes it hit close to home with such rarely encountered accuracy.

this game is important to a lot of people healing from extremely painful shit. and so, i care about whether or not this space is safe for not only me but others as well. i’m pissed as fuck by what i see because it isn’t safe by any means if we’re getting constantly uncomfortable, triggered, and feel fucking insulted by every other post we encounter. i’m passionate about abuse, go figure. i will call shit out that i know upsets not only me but a very significant chunk of tcoaal fans and it’s impossible to filter out this overwhelming amount of bullshit. i do it because it’s easy for me to spew my thoughts coherently into a post with relative ease and then save others the headache.

i’ve got no issue with those who are just here to have lighthearted fun with no skin in the game, so to speak, shitpost to your heart’s content, consume media however you please and enjoy it your way. as i keep saying, my issue is when you treat these heavy ass topics as a joke rather than with the necessary respect, make victims and their pain and trauma the butt of your shitty jokes, and harm the survivors sharing a space with you by being ignorant and absurdly disrespectful.

“it’s not that deep, it’s not real!” to you. to people who have lived through it, it definitely is real and seriously fucking deep and personal and evokes strong emotions like fingers pressing on a bruise. every time another survivor sends me an anon thanking me for saying what needs to be said (i do not publish them if they come across to me as personal out of respect), adds their appreciation in their tags, or replies to me expressing how much this means to them, it shows me again and again how important it is to speak up about these issues.

so. even if the fandom overall is a seemingly hopeless cesspool, my blog is a safe space and you’ll never see me put any insensitive, distasteful and deeply offensive bullshit on your dash following me.