#i thought abt this concept at work and so it HAS to be ur starter pls im dy in g

[emilysarmstrong]

TELL ME ABT UR OC BOY PLEASE

OH HI THERE BESTIE

I assume you mean the little ginger gremlin I'm always talking about so here it goes

Two different picrews because I don't have any art of his handy

Okay so for starters he was my friend's DnD character that I kidnapped and made my best boyo, my silly rabbit, my poor little meow meow

His full name is Hernet Lysander Winz of the Fire Clan, he's a wizer (a homebrew race from my friend's DnD setting) and he's a menace to society at large. When he was a toddler his mom got arrested and sentenced to death for high treason and his father was either banished or died, he doesn't know and doesn't care. He was raised by his father's family, alongside his twin cousins, Leon and Leona.

His people are basically a xenophobic cult so Hernie grew up hating everything and everyone who isn't a wizer, until he got banished and actually saw how the world works, befriended people and even fell in love with a half elf, the race he hated the most as a kid.

See, he's a nerd, a wizard, an artificer and an inventor, he's basically what would happen if Edward Elric and Natsu Dragneel had a child together. He's scary powerful, touch starved, loyal to a fault, has a hair-trigger temper and has the fashion sense of a colorblind 12yo

Also he's very short for human standards (1,58m) but he's outrageously tall compared to other wizers, that range between 1,30 and 1,50

He's the kind of bisexual who was fully convinced he was gay until he fell in love with a girl. And then he was suffering because he thought he wasn't really bi since he was also having the hots and the feels for another friend of theirs, until he 1) found out that she was also in love with said friend and 2) was introduced to the concept of polyamory

Also wizers are extremely attuned to their native elements and his is fire, so his fire magic is way above the regular standard of power and he has the side effect of always being very warm, so his gf usually uses him as a heat pack

And his bf is the party's doctor so he's the one picking Hernet up by the scruff like a naughty kitten at 3am and putting him in bed whether he wants it or not

He's addicted to coffee, to energy drinks and to shiny new things he can poke and prod

Also he literally invented wifi in his world so there's that

And he's very, very, VERY squishable if you ask his partners

[xenovair]

-ˋˏ*・★。STARTER CALL → ACCEPTING !

               SHE STARES AT THE INSTRUMENT UPON THE WALL AS IF IT WERE SOME CREATURE OF UNKNOWN ORIGIN ,     for all she knows thats exactly what it could be .   (  how would she know any different ?  )   she takes brave steps toward it ,  arms crossed upon her chest as eyes narrow into a squint .     FINALLY REACHING OUT TO BRUSH FINGERTIPS OVER ITS SURFACE ,     jumping back  as the strings make a noise   (  but not an entirely unpleasant one  )   squeaking out a sound of surprise as she moves .          ❝   Eddie ......   ❞          Wearily spoken ,   hand reaching out blindly behind her ,  searching for him ,   as if to warn him about the threat ,   to protect him .          ❝   On the wall ....   Eddie .....   what is that ?   ❞          //   @tomordcr   !

[sootonthecarpet]

Hey feel free to ignore but uh. You seem like a guy who has sex? And I was wondering if you had any good resources abt safe sex etc esp from a trans friendly angle? I recently started dating my bf and it's both of our first relationships ever (in our mid 20s lol) so we want to eventually Do It but we're taking our time and trying to be safe about it and I kinda feel like I don't even fully know what I don't know??? They also seem to have more just baseline knowledge abt this stuff than me and I don't want to seem like I'm not taking things seriously or something :/

(Also if I can complain for like 5 seconds it's super frustrating how all the info online seems to be that condoms should be everywhere and super easy to find but I literally haven't seen any since my high school library was giving them out half a decade ago!!!! Like I've been trying gas stations corner stores etc and I just don't see them idk if I'm just missing them or looking in the wrong place or what 😡😭 /rant over)

hey, congrats! it's really cool that you and your bf are getting to figure this stuff out together! i don't think you happening to know less to start off with would make you look frivolous, not your fault it's hard to find good honest useful sex ed info right now, and you seem like you're being totally thoughtful about this! going slow and doing research is good, imo it's a good idea to be upfront with your bf about feeling like they know more than you--it can be really weird to feel less aware than ur partner about like Anything, and talking it out so you know what their expectations towards you are can help a lot, plus sometimes you find out they've been feeling the same way. I am always saying to talk about it to em though.

I know a decent chunk about safe sex but it's been gathered up piecemeal rather than from like, specific, recommendable resources, so I can give pointers in theory (guess you can ask me specific questions if you have any? if I can't answer I can always look em up) but it's harder to point you along to a proper source of info. i must have read Primed at some point, and it goes around posts on here a lot, but I don't really remember firsthand how useful or comprehensive it was, beyond being a resource booklet aimed at male couples involving at least one trans guy. I'm sure there are a lot of other guides at this point, too! but I'm not really sure how to find em, off the top of my head. I feel like I learned a surprising amount about partnered sex and safe sex practices from reading sex toy review blogs (thoughtful longform stuff in the vein of heyepiphora).

this is kinda silly but it helped me back in the day; wikipedia has a lot of articles on sex acts (and different kinds of contraceptives and barriers, source links here can get you to VERY useful info on em!!!) and I feel like they may help you wrap your head around stuff you may not have much context on. like even just the 'sex positions' article is like, a decent starter place--it uses heteronormative language intermittently and VERY cisnormative language throughout + has a fair amount of chaff, but it's also a remarkably comprehensive list of all kinds of configurations for penetrative and non-penetrative sex, & even describes how simpler acts like frottage and mutual masturbation can work (which often gets skipped over 😭). it's kinda crap if you have to juggle like, physical disabilities or the ways that fatness can change how two people's bodies interact, and includes a lot of obscure, back-hurty-lookin penetrative sex positions that get disproportionate use in porn, but it can definitely be a good jumping off point for poking around online for more info, or introduce you to new concepts/bolster your faith in your interest in something you were thinking about but weren't sure was A Thing People Actually Do In Bed.

also akxlaldf listen about half the condoms I've used in my Life came from a huge amount of free ones I accumulated in one summer like nine years ago (volunteered at an LGBT center and would take one or two home from the free bin every day, plus got a big bag of freebies at a transmarch) like ??? I do see em in stores in my area, but they can be so weirdly annoying to find when you're actually looking for em. if you can online order, most sex toy sites (like shebop or goodvibes or whatever the fuck) will also sell condoms in singles and multipacks (& usually a lot more kinds than you'd find in a store, which can make it nice if you're specifically needing to find unlubricated, flavored, bigger ones, latex free, etc).

but yeah feel free to message if you have specific questions, I wish I could provide better info off the bat 😆 also some extremely miscellaneous stuff that's like, entry level but still worth repeating: it's helpful and common to like, pop a pillow under your hips to improve your angle (wedge pillows are your friend if you happen to have one around) or grab a footstool to even out heights if you're doing something standing up, stuff like that. you can nab a cushion or kneepads if anyone's gonna be kneeling on a hard surface too. a longer strap-on can be helpful when figuring out positioning, so you don't need to get your pelvises as close together to make it work. talk stuff over ahead of time if you can, both to get more familiar with what you and your partners' wants are and to help sketch out some approximate boundaries ahead of time. sex toys are a great convenience, but get 'body safe' materials if you can; silicone, metal, glass, and most hard plastic toys can all be sterilized; PVC rubber, 'jelly' toys and ones made out of what's often called cyberskin or sexflesh or stuff like that (TPE, thermoplastic elastomer) can't, and some may let off harmful chemicals like phthalates (or just plain disconcerting oils and aromas) as the plastic breaks down. (if you're goin for it anyway? PVC holds up ok but is a bit stiff, TPE feels luxurious but rips SOOO easy, and I've never bothered with jelly.)

there's never any shame in finding certain sex acts, or just certain elements of intimacy, overwhelming or stressful! your like process of developing a sexual awareness and skill set doesn't have to follow any set pattern, and you and your bf are always allowed to make concessions to be sure your n their own boundaries and needs are met (I get overwhelmed easily on a sensory level, and I had a long term relationship where I wore gloves almost every time I fingered my partner bc the mix of textures was a lot for me at the time, regardless of how we swapped fluids regularly).

you probably heard this one before a whole bunch, but i legally can't let u go without saying that peeing after sex as soon as you're ready to get up is a VERY good idea, regardless of your anatomy--it flushes out your urethra, which helps reduce your risk of getting a urinary tract infection (which isn't rly about if the sex was protected or not--it's just easy for bacteria from other places on your own body to be introduced to your urethra during sex, regardless of ur partner's saliva/fluids.) no shame if it doesn't work, I got a uti from jackin it once, stuff happens! which brings me to my conclusion, which is that u gotta always keep in mind how weird and awkward and funny sex is and that it's normal and good for it to be all those things. excited for u! wishing u well.