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#i've been--fine. i have been fine. i have a bunch of regularly scheduled social things. i volunteer. i love my parents
ghostofasecretary · 5 months
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had one of my long time close friends over which was SO NICE AND LOVELY and also. i got kicked in the teeth by loneliness after he left. because i'd forgotten that i'm lonely.
it was easy, it was so fucking easy, i got so many hugs and so much casual touch and it was free and simple and unthinking and i just--haven't. gotten that. for over half a year and since spring 2022 if we're talking regular doses
so anyway i have to apply for things and it would be great if i could. focus on that. instead of. having crushing overwhelming feelings and crying about them.
but since that might not be doable i will set a timer and work and if i cry during it, well, sometimes things are hard and it's survivable
and i can always call the friend i cried to about this earlier today if it's too much. but let's work for 20 minutes first. okay?
okay.
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Okay okay okay I didn’t want to have another update so soon in the battle of my psyche versus Twitter but here’s what’s happening now. So I started looking at some comedians’ Twitter pages once in a while in early summer, as the Johnson government started to collapse and not enough topical shows were running and I turned to Twitter to get comedians’ responses. I didn’t have a Twitter account so I went to their pages one at a time, and ended up with a whole bunch that I was checking sort of regularly. Then I slowed down to only checking a couple of accounts occasionally, but then there was queen death and I wanted to see how all the different comedians navigated that minefield, and I was checking so frequently that it was easier to just make a Twitter account and follow all the comedians I want so I can go to one page and see them all at once.
I learned ridiculously quickly why that’s a bad thing. Amazingly quickly. I know I hear about how bad Twitter is, but did not realize until I got there that even an account where all I do is follow comedians would be so bad. That front page was full of content from people I did not follow, and side stories designed to upset me, and I found myself getting mad about like six different things that didn’t matter at all in the first hour. And I don’t need that! I listen to the real news, from real news sources, and get angry enough about things that do matter, I do not need Twitter throwing all this other shit at me! I massively underestimated the algorithm when I thought I could just follow specific people and that would be fine. I knew within hours that it was bad for my mental health but I already was drawn in and had trouble stopping.
For the next couple of weeks I went back and forth on trying to stop looking at it, and now mostly have. Really. I haven’t actually deleted my account, but I haven’t looked at the home page of it in a couple of weeks and truly have no desire to do so again, and I’ve deleted the app off my phone, the way some people do with Tinder after a bad date. But I’ve still gone back sometimes to check on a few individual pages, while carefully avoiding the algorithm-poisoned home page, like I did at the beginning and that isn’t that bad but it’s still a slippery slope and I just think Twitter is bad on principle and I’d like myself better if I were a person who doesn’t do that. So I’m telling myself to stop.
But the trouble is that while I was checking my home page sometimes, that was how I learned about a makeshift post-queen death show by Mark Watson that got filmed and put online. I watched it while in bed with COVID (this required me to go to Instagram, which was a whole new level of social media, but it was worth it) and fucking miserable, and the warm lovely delightful show contrasted against my terrible weekend made it one of the best things I’ve experienced in quite some time. And I don’t want to miss things like that. I also saw a livestream earlier this summer featuring Alex Horne and Jen Brister and Nish Kumar that I only knew about because I looked at Nish’s Twitter feed, and that was so much fun. So how do I catch things like that but miss everything else?
I recently decided the answer is Mailchimp, and I have joined some mailing lists, including Mark Watson’s so he can personally tell me the next time he decides to put some light into the world on an awful weekend and give me a little hope for the basic good in humanity. So far I've received one email from this, it told me mainly about stuff I can’t see because the Atlantic Ocean’s in the way, but also a couple of online things that I had to miss due to scheduling but was still happy to know about and would like to know next time. I’ve been thinking anyway lately that I should get more into livestreamed shows; it seems like the logical next step as my interests have started to turn toward somewhat more obscure sides of British comedy (I haven’t gotten to any really obscure stuff, and there’s a level of obscure that I can’t get to while being too far away to actually go to things, but I’ve gotten a bit more outside the immediate mainstream than what I was discovering a year ago), and as I’ve gotten more into stand-up and stand-up-like things generally. I now have fewer than 100 Bugle episodes left, and then I will again be at the end of my Britcom list and looking for a new direction (and I'd like to already have a plan for where to go this time, so I don't just have a small breakdown the way I did when I came to the end of the first run of The Bugle), and I think this is the general direction I want to take. That, and some other podcasts (I am specifically saving a bunch of Comedian's Comedian Podcast episodes that I've downloaded, as well as a few other things I'm interested in, so I'll have something to do after I finish The Bugle), and related things.
Unfortunately the end of a pandemic (it's not the fucking end, as evidenced by me having it earlier this month, but people act like it is) is a bad time for me to decide to get into recordings of stand-up comedy on the internet. During lockdown was the time it was all happening. But for whatever is still going on in that world, Twitter seems like a common way to find out about it, and if I don’t want to do that then I guess mailing lists are the next best option.
But I did still check just the one Twitter account this morning, because my brain remembers how much happiness it got from that show it found from Mark Watson’s Twitter and keeps wanting to go back there and find more of that, and also Mark Watson is the best person and I just want to know what he'd saying all the time. What I found is that today, he said he wants to start a new mailing list for his production company, which does a lot of online shows, and this list will send out information mostly about online things. No More Jockeys and that House thing he did over social media that I don’t really understand but if he starts it again I’ll probably figure out social media enough to follow it, and any livestreamed shows with him and other comedians that he records with his production company. He's said things about how he believes in online stand-up comedy as a good thing that should last beyond lockdowns because that makes comedy more accessible, and he's trying to do that with his company, and wants to start a mailing list to tell people about it. So, exactly what I would like. I want to subscribe to that exact newsletter and then not need anything else. Thank you, Mark Watson for, once again, delivering the exact thing I want.
Except not quite, because he can’t just make a new Mailchimp thing and give us a form to fill out like a normal person. The procedure is to DM him your email address and he’ll add it to a list. But you can’t DM him unless he follows you, so you have to comment on his Tweet so he’ll follow you and then you DM him your email address. I could technically do that, because I technically have a Twitter account, even though I’ve never posted from it. But I also can’t do that, because what the hell? I can’t just DM Mark Watson. Obviously.
Anyway, I wasn’t going to post about this because it’s all too silly and I’ve posted about my battle against Twitter more than enough times in the last couple of weeks, but I was reading through the replies to his Tweet to try to decide if I could bring myself to join them since I really want to be on that list, and I saw this, and the reason I actually wrote this post is because I have to share it:
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So it turns out that:
1) When Mark Watson sees the word “hockey” he has the correct response, which is to understand that they mean regular hockey, rather than what I learned a few years ago is the non-North American response (or maybe just non-Canadian response, I’m not sure what they do in the States, I first learned this from my Kiwi friend), which is to use the word “hockey” on its own to mean “field hockey”, and if they want to refer to regular hockey they call it “ice hockey”. Similar to when I'm reminded that when Andy Zaltzman hears "wrestling" his first thought is of the athletes and not the actors, I love this.
2) Mark Watson’s first thought upon reading the word “hockey” is to quote Stompin’ Tom Connors.
Look, I’ve said it before, and last time I said it it was because he was doing a really cool makeshift outdoor comedy show on a weekend when his country and this world were erupting into chaos and needed this and I was also pretty out of it from having COVID at the time, and that was probably a better justification for saying it than the fact that he quotes Stompin’ Tom Connors, but I’ll still say it again: Mark Watson might be the best person in the world. Rounding up, give or take a little, more or less, he might be the best one.
...The issue I'm currently contemplating is that if I don't leave a comment and then DM my email address to the best person in the world while sober, I'll do it the next time I get drunk and then feel like an idiot the next day. I have joked before about getting drunk and trying to contact one of these comedians, but I have never done it (or come at all close to doing it, I very much was only joking about that), but given that I'm genuinely considering this and it would genuinely be a reasonable thing to do, I'd probably do it this time. But even if it is objectively reasonable, if I do it while drunk I'll feel like I did something incredibly stupid. This feels like a very Mark Watson-esque issue to have (I almost called it a "Watsonian" issue, but that already means something else, as established with the Off Menu confusion that was discussed in that show that made me hate the world slightly less during a terrible weekend).
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LVLSRVRYHI-050: The Dance Pit | The Levels Are Very High
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Hi Anuradha, how's it going? I usually start these things with a bit of an intro, so for anyone who doesn't know: who are you? Where are you from? Hi! It’s 3am and I think I’m finally done answering all these questions!
My grandfather named me Anuradha, though I’m still not 100% sure on how to “correctly” pronounce my name. I was born in Bangladesh, a year before Maluma. My star sign is a Capricorn and I’ve been living in the South Bronx for the past 21 years.
What are some of your early musical memories? I remember hearing Usher's Confessions album everywhere in 2004; Burn, Confessions Part II, and Yeah on rotation. That and Gasolina. That’s when I remember paying attention to music more (I think I’ve blocked most memories of MTV’s TRL out of my head), and then came the emo phase of ’07.
I also remember, though this isn't particularly musical, enjoying the Spice Girls lollipops that came with the stickers which is earlier in memory.
Whilst you run parties and a mix series as The Dance Pit, my first introduction to you was through (I think) the second issue of your zine Club Etiquette and then I kind of worked backwards from there. What first pushed you towards organising a zine? How did the specific idea for Club Etiquette come about? Mungo asked me if there were any parties he could play when he came over in 2015. I told him if I couldn’t find any, I’d put one on, which I decided to anyway.
At the same time, I was going to the club pretty regularly and would see the same people and we would always talk about what annoyed us, both on large and small scales, so thought a guideline would be handy, to be more conscientious of one’s surroundings and others. My school radio station (shouts to WBAR!) used to create zines, so thought that would be the most direct (least-bureaucratic) method. Since it was a guideline on “club etiquette,” that’s just what I decided to call it, although I still think the name sounds a bit bougie and will probably change it at some point.
My background is in activist theatre, so I was taught that anything I take on has to have a greater social purpose, cause what’s the point otherwise? (Don’t @ me with “art for art’s sake” – it may be for some people, but I have no time for it when so many other narratives don’t get heard).
Whitney Wei's illustrations that adorn the covers and grow throughout the pages of Club Etiquette provide the zine with this homemade warmth that carries over even into its digital copies, something that usually gets lost in the move to screens and online spaces of discussion. Did you find that it was important for you to produce the zine with that physicality in tact? Yes, shouts to Whitney! And Carmela Tzigana (who drew the Vol.6 cover). All cover aesthetic skills and most illustrations are credited to Whitney, who, regardless of the landscapes or deadlines I throw at her, manages to create something grounded and finely-detailed.
It makes me happy that you say that the physicality carries over (cause there is def some blood, sweat, and tears in some of those physical copies). I also really don’t like reading on computer screens, so if other people don’t mind and get past that, that’s great!
Tangibility, in a larger sense, is super important to me. Being able to cross over what’s written in the zine and enacting it in physical club spaces (or everyday life) is the reason why it was made in the first place. Theory is cool and all and part of the process, but actually putting ideas in practice is how I grow, and know what works.
A lot of Club Etiquette's material is necessarily born out of very personal and difficult experiences, but you also focus on some of the more lighthearted or even mundane aspects of club-going - 4am foodspots, hangovers, health tips, tv picks etc. I tend to find that these are the parts of the zine that fill me with the most nostalgia (for faceless nights I've mostly forgotten). What was the idea behind including them? How do you find the balance between them and the more serious aspects of each issue? I love the mundane. I also think there’s often a glamorization of going out needing to be the “best, most peak, night” of one’s life, like having a couple of nights where things get hella turnt is chill, but for me to constantly be at that level, I couldn’t do that. My club schedule is pretty routine and focusing on how to make up for lost sleep, or what to eat after I’ve danced for five hours straight, or what I watch when I don’t go out is really necessary for my survival.
Finding a balance between having both serious topics and lighthearted ones can be a bit tricky; I definitely don’t want to trivialize bigger issues by talking about/placing something silly right after. However, I do think that joy is also an integral part of our lives, and humor can be a place of learning as well. It’s the whole “I am not bound to one narrative” idea (that Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie talks about in her TED Talk), that I am not defined by only my traumatic experiences, but my day-to-day comforts too.
I also just watch a whole bunch of children’s television, so I’m trying to learn from that how writers can discuss heavy topics but not bombard people with negativity. Also, a very much large shout-out is needed for everyone who contributes; their perspectives make up so much of the humor and joy in the zine, and I really am grateful for the club community here that practices what they preach <3.
New York sits at this juncture between North, South, and Central American dance cultures which, at least this is in the impression I got when I was there, in turn, maintain musical interactions with and influences from the UK. You yourself have relationships that spread throughout this geographical club axis (from the stuff you've done with Hiedrah Club de Baile to your Dance Pit NY parties and UK tour dates). How much has the influence of this environment bled into the zine, your sets and/or the parties you put on? Is there anywhere else you could see yourself living? I want to preface my answer by acknowledging the “first-world” privilege of made-up “border” (by this I mean borders are arbitrary in conception but have very-tangible effects) mobility that I have. I have been immensely lucky to have been able to experience Club Viral, HiedraH Club de Baile, and the Salviatek nights in Monterrey, Buenos Aires, and Montevideo respectively as well nights in the UK before that (with HDD and the Hub-before-it-was-the-Hub <3) and each journey has definitely bled into every aspect of my life, as seen through my sets (which are all over the place), with the different translations of the zine, and through the djs I book.
I grew up and still live in a predominantly Afro-Latinx and Afro-Caribbean community so bachata, reggaeton, and dancehall are what I’m surrounded by most and I think that influence is clear in what I play. I will say though that it is irresponsible to just play the sounds and not give anything back to the communities who create this music both locally and internationally, so I’m still figuring out ways in which to support producers, djs, and club nights that have taught me so much that goes beyond just promotions or social capital. I think it can be easy to fall into the trap of appropriating sounds, so it becomes really important to *listen* when people say it makes them uncomfortable when you’re playing certain music. I want to believe there can be collaborative exchanges in music, but ultimately, under capitalism, someone will always reap the benefits off of the exploitation of other cultures, so I have to just be hyper-vigilant about what I play, who I play it for, how it affects them, and how I can give back.
For me, people rather than place define what home is, so with the hope that in the future all visa requirements and borders will be abolished, I would very much like to go back to South America (back to Argentina & Uruguay, and to the western coast this time around, but also with a much overdue visit to Brazil) and the UK (further north this time!) for an extended period of time to hang with people I very much consider family and give back what I can.
There's a growing tendency at the moment towards abstraction and experimentalism in tracks and sets, attempts to push (or destroy) the boundaries of what a dance track can be or how two (or three or four) tracks should be mixed together. Feeling and hearing an artist's intent in a way that I've barely even considered before is exhilarating but there's also been times when I've missed a certain concreteness. Come New Years - when I caught up with you in London - I was really just itching to dance. Is it important for you to get that sort of physical reaction to a set or a blend? What does dancing mean to you? I started djing, or rather selecting music, for friends who loved to dance when no one else would. So every time I dj or make a mix, I always have someone I know in mind who I want to dedicate the set to, they all just happen to be people who dance a lot. Getting a physical reaction to a set isn’t necessary, people react to music in their own way, but dancing may just be inevitable :)
Dancing is how I show my gratitude to djs and other musicians (in addition to showering them with compliments :3). It’s only a small token of appreciation for the continuous experience of listening to their music.
Talk me through the mixes - how were they recorded? What led to the two parts? It’s been three months since you have asked me to do this(these) mix(es). About a month ago, maybe, I chose to split them because my temperament was changing so often (I blame the weather, the 2+ retrogrades, etc.) and also my attention span was/is decreasing daily.
The first mix is definitely for when I’m in one of my angsty moods, and am placing expectations on others, when I should just let them be. I also wanted to try constraining some parts in the mix to just highlighting certain instruments.
The second mix I made so I that when I play it on my monitors, my neighbors can listen to even more Bad Bunny than they have already been blasting onto the block on a Sunday. 
Both mixes are heavily influenced by my travels at the end of last year.
I live-recorded these (way too many times) and added any extra effects on audacity.
What do you have planned for the rest of 2017? I’d really like to continue the translations series of the zines, and there are def a couple more zine release parties in store for this year. My annual tarot card reading said I’ll find a new skill which will be my life’s work in October, so hopefully that’ll happen. As I mentioned above, I’d like to visit all my friends if possible, maybe finally make that mixtape hehe.
But most importantly, curating netflix for my mom and volunteering locally to facilitate and preserve music, arts, and community spaces in my neighborhood when displacement is already happening.
Finally, if you had to pick something for people to listen to immediately after these mixes what would it be? Trick Answer: Go watch Steven Universe, give your eyes, ears, mind, and heart a treat. (That and Silver Spoon too please! - oh but also listen to Common Sense).
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"Night" Tracklist
Sand Pact - Fervor w/ Nato - Cerita interlude Bad Bunny - Soy Peor (Axel Caram remix) DJ Nervoso - Djj Kala - Boriken Brazilian Percussion - Samba-Reggae 2 Cardi B interlude MC Lustosa_Shaded Pistola (MM edit) Gigi - Cah PayTay (Reply) Lechuga Zafiro - Suave Pero Rugoso (Diosa Tayhana remix) w/ TT The Artist - Worst Bday interlude Badgyal (Prod. Plata) - SMTHIN LIKE THIS x Dholi Taro Dhol Baaje Karaoke Version Aggromance - 1noche x Leokarlo - Intro ‘New Era’ x Dj Fofuxo - Raizes “Nu Guetto Qui Ta Bater” BAD$ISTA - Last night* Raman Saran - Dhak (Drum) Lechuga Zafiro - Orquídea T-Ney Kid Cala - Blue Magic (Loris Remix) Soda Plains - Espalho Meu Passo w/ Toshiro Masuda - Orochimaru’s** Theme interlude MC Linn da Quebrada - Mulher Totó La Momposina y sus tambores - Rosa FUNERAL - Cumbia futura Shivam Gupta - Durga Theme DJ Nervoso - Areia x Rebecca Sugar - Here Come’s a Thought Steven Universe - Rose’s Room dialogue***
*my phone# is on my last mix, call me up (thru facetime/whatsapp, bless) **i dont support/sympathize with orochimaru, they are a creep ***I hope Steven will be ok
"Day" Tracklist
Dj Valet - O começo Dj Nk - Caipirinha Vany-Fox - Me vs World Bk(blackinhO) - Funana [Batucada] Badgyal - Dinero (Prod. FAKEGUIDO) Bad Bunny ft. De La Ghetto, Zion, Bryant Myers - Caile (Dj Arturex & Dj Kris Club Version) MC Katia - Arrocha Das Fiéis (DJ Xaropinho) Conejx - Parvada w/ Bryant Myers ft. Bad Bunny - Un Ratito Mas interlude* Yxng Bane ft. Kojo Funds & Wizkid - Fine Wine Gage - Throat (Street Mongrel Riddim Version X Talkdunsk Remake) DJ Spinall ft. Wizkid - Opoju Yandel - Encantadora (El Kechu DJ Cumbia base Remix) Anuel AA - Ayer (Elián Acapella Remix) Epic B - Wicked Riddim Javed Akthar - Azeem O Shaan Shahenshah Instrumental Vybz Kartel - Fever (Dj YaMtZa Remix) Florentino - Bloodline x Florin Salam ft. Denisa - Cineva Ma Suna Cu Numar Privat deejay jeff love c pikachu 2pekes (Pininga Edit) Sikuri - Aamado Murlo - Hunter Tina Savage ft. Don Jazzy - Eminado (DJ Yoko Champeta Remix) Superficie - Febre Do Vale Joha - Me Llama Glolaluz - Me Controlas FUNERAL - Reverberacion Antenas ———————————————— J Hus - Did You See x Sikuri - 0
*use condoms! + Special thanks to Callosum, Mungo, Becky, and Michelle <3
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12 Ways That I've Simplified My Life
Almost 12 years ago I looked at the sea of stuff surrounding us and said to my husband "I want to make changes".  I was overwhelmed and couldn't stand it anymore. We had been talking about making other changes to our life, like buying a home on the outskirts of town to give homesteading a try.  It was what felt right to both of us.  But packing up all of our stuff and moving it didn't appeal to me.  I wanted freedom from it.   And so we began the process of selling and purging.  But selling and purging is not enough, as I soon found out.  I needed to change my thought process and figure out my why's and what my triggers were. Simplifying our lives wasn't just about purging stuff though.  For us it was also about working toward our dreams of working for ourselves, growing/raising our own food, paying off debt and saving for the future, and learning to feel happy and content with what we have.  While each of our goals and, therefore, journeys will look different, learning to live intentionally is the one common denominator.
If you read nothing else, please read this:
If you're thinking about starting on your own path to minimalism, remember that it's not about getting rid of stuff, rather, it's about living intentionally.  Purging through stuff is a part of the transition to minimalism because it allows you to get rid of things that don't matter so you have room for things that do.
While not a comprehensive list, here are a few of the ways I've simplified over the past 10 years.  My hope is that it helps to give you ideas of ways you can simplify your own.
1. Started Living Small(er) We purchased our farmhouse outside of town 11 years ago.  We purposely purchased a smaller home (1200 square feet) because we were about 1 year into simplifying our life and didn't want any extra space to clutter up with more stuff.  It was also quite a bit less than what we were approved for, another thing I'm grateful we did.  We only looked at one house that was in the amount we were approved for.  The property was amazing!  The house was pretty big - with a fully finished basement.  But we (thankfully) resisted.  Having a smaller mortgage payment has helped us achieve other goals as well. 2. Began Working For Myself I don't know if this is really simplifying, but it's an accomplishment of what I've dreamed of and makes me oh-so happy!  It is a result of having simplified my life because we've reduced our needs and therefore our spending.  I know that many are ok working for others, and that's perfectly fine.  We should all do what's best for us (self employment certainly has it's own list of stresses).  I am not that person.  Although I loved what I did, I truly felt trapped and couldn't stand the politics.  I absolutely love working for myself.  I have no intention of ever working full-time for someone else ever again. 3. Reduced Our Needs And Wants I can honestly say that I am very content with what I have.  There certainly are a few things on my wish list but I don't "need" anything that I don't have.  I had to figure out what was enough for me rather than mindlessly accumulating.  Reducing both needs and wants has enabled us to start living below our means, which allowed us to pay off debt and to begin working for ourselves. 4. Simplified Our Laundry This will be controversial I'm sure, but I throw it all in together.  Yup.  Darks, whites, towels, whatever.  I will say that I only have 2 white shirts that I care to keep bright white.  If I wear those, I do only wash them with whites (sheets), but everything else goes together.  I also donated anything that was dry clean only. 5. Simplified My Wardrobe I don't mean to make this sound really easy, but I kept what I love and donated what I didn't.  If I kept something as a "love" item and didn't wear it within one year, then it was donated.  I had to change the way I shop too.  I used to LOVE shopping.  In the past 10 years, however, I've really not found pleasure in it.  So what would happen is one of two things:  1. if we went to an outlet mall or something similar I would buy anything I liked because then I wouldn't have to shop anymore that year, and/or 2. I would order a bunch of clothes online once or twice a year.  The problem?  I was buying not necessarily what I needed and certainly not what I loved.  While I loved a few things, I definitely didn't love it all.  I am now content with my clothing and any potential new purchases are thought through to ensure 1. it's something that I love and 2. it will be worn regularly. 6. Realized Multi-Tasking Doesn't Work Nope, it really doesn't.  For years I've insisted that I'm a good multi-tasker.  I thought it was the only solution to keeping all of the balls in the air.  What I've realized, however, is that's all it does.  Keeps the balls in the air.  Multi-tasking doesn't allow you to be successful with all of the balls and it brings in more stress then it solves.  I've surrendered to this and welcomed the reduced stress that comes with a single focus.
7. Stopped Buying Magazines Although I ended my subscriptions not too long after I started my minimalism quest, I was still purchasing them occasionally.  They just weren't contributing anything beneficial to my life.  With so many blogs and online sources available, I search there if I want to find ideas.  I haven't purchased any at all in just over 2 years. 8. Limit My Online Time As noted in my life changing morning routine post, scheduling time to view social media as well as read emails has been very beneficial.  I previously wasted too much time doing both of these.  Also, I've turned off notifications.  I look at it when I want to look at it. 9. Began Spending Money More Intentionally Yes, I still buy stuff.  The difference in how I spend money now is that I think purchases through and I spend with intention.  I think purchases through because I still catch myself impulsively thinking "oh I'll buy that".  By waiting to make a purchase, it gives me the time to figure out if it's truly a purchase I want/need or if I'll only end up regretting it. 10. Stopped Trying New Beauty Products Beauty products are expensive.  Even more problematic is that we typically don't use up the "miracle" products we buy, instead, we feel guilty tossing them out and therefore hold onto them.  That and the "free gift" with purchase items that we just had to have.  The next thing you know you have drawers full of cute little bottles and tubes.  Although I'm not saying I'll never try a new beauty product again ( since I make many, that cuts the need to purchase right down), but I'll take from the point above and purchase much more intentionally.  And toss it or give it away if I don't like it. 11. Get Moving We try to walk/run/bike a lot more.  Not only is it good to get moving, but it keeps us from spending money and reduces stress.  It gets us outside in nature where I feel like I can think things through and put them in perspective. 12. Living Intentionally Daily While every moment of every day is not intentional for me, I do try to live intentionally daily.  Intentionally expressing gratitude, intentionally doing something to work toward tomorrow, and taking responsibility for my life. I'm not trying to make my path toward minimalism sound easy.  It's been hard and I've had setbacks (many) as well as successes (many).  I've learned a lot about myself, some of it things I've chosen to change.  What I can tell you for sure is that this path has encouraged me to actually begin taking steps toward things I'd only previously dreamed about.  It has taught me how to work intentionally toward what I want rather than depend on luck. It's often said that minimalism is a journey and not a destination.  A journey full of twists and turns that I wouldn't trade for anything.
What are some of the ways you've simplified your own life?  I'd love to hear your tips and ideas!
12 Ways That I've Simplified My Life was originally posted by My Favorite Chicken Blogs(benjamingardening)
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benjamingarden · 5 years
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12 Ways That I've Simplified My Life
Almost 12 years ago I looked at the sea of stuff surrounding us and said to my husband "I want to make changes".  I was overwhelmed and couldn't stand it anymore. We had been talking about making other changes to our life, like buying a home on the outskirts of town to give homesteading a try.  It was what felt right to both of us.  But packing up all of our stuff and moving it didn't appeal to me.  I wanted freedom from it.   And so we began the process of selling and purging.  But selling and purging is not enough, as I soon found out.  I needed to change my thought process and figure out my why's and what my triggers were. Simplifying our lives wasn't just about purging stuff though.  For us it was also about working toward our dreams of working for ourselves, growing/raising our own food, paying off debt and saving for the future, and learning to feel happy and content with what we have.  While each of our goals and, therefore, journeys will look different, learning to live intentionally is the one common denominator.
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If you're thinking about starting on your own path to minimalism, remember that it's not about getting rid of stuff, rather, it's about living intentionally.  Purging through stuff is a part of the transition to minimalism because it allows you to get rid of things that don't matter so you have room for things that do.
While not a comprehensive list, here are a few of the ways I've simplified over the past 10 years.  My hope is that it helps to give you ideas of ways you can simplify your own.
1. Started Living Small(er) We purchased our farmhouse outside of town 11 years ago.  We purposely purchased a smaller home (1200 square feet) because we were about 1 year into simplifying our life and didn't want any extra space to clutter up with more stuff.  It was also quite a bit less than what we were approved for, another thing I'm grateful we did.  We only looked at one house that was in the amount we were approved for.  The property was amazing!  The house was pretty big - with a fully finished basement.  But we (thankfully) resisted.  Having a smaller mortgage payment has helped us achieve other goals as well. 2. Began Working For Myself I don't know if this is really simplifying, but it's an accomplishment of what I've dreamed of and makes me oh-so happy!  It is a result of having simplified my life because we've reduced our needs and therefore our spending.  I know that many are ok working for others, and that's perfectly fine.  We should all do what's best for us (self employment certainly has it's own list of stresses).  I am not that person.  Although I loved what I did, I truly felt trapped and couldn't stand the politics.  I absolutely love working for myself.  I have no intention of ever working full-time for someone else ever again. 3. Reduced Our Needs And Wants I can honestly say that I am very content with what I have.  There certainly are a few things on my wish list but I don't "need" anything that I don't have.  I had to figure out what was enough for me rather than mindlessly accumulating.  Reducing both needs and wants has enabled us to start living below our means, which allowed us to pay off debt and to begin working for ourselves. 4. Simplified Our Laundry This will be controversial I'm sure, but I throw it all in together.  Yup.  Darks, whites, towels, whatever.  I will say that I only have 2 white shirts that I care to keep bright white.  If I wear those, I do only wash them with whites (sheets), but everything else goes together.  I also donated anything that was dry clean only. 5. Simplified My Wardrobe I don't mean to make this sound really easy, but I kept what I love and donated what I didn't.  If I kept something as a "love" item and didn't wear it within one year, then it was donated.  I had to change the way I shop too.  I used to LOVE shopping.  In the past 10 years, however, I've really not found pleasure in it.  So what would happen is one of two things:  1. if we went to an outlet mall or something similar I would buy anything I liked because then I wouldn't have to shop anymore that year, and/or 2. I would order a bunch of clothes online once or twice a year.  The problem?  I was buying not necessarily what I needed and certainly not what I loved.  While I loved a few things, I definitely didn't love it all.  I am now content with my clothing and any potential new purchases are thought through to ensure 1. it's something that I love and 2. it will be worn regularly. 6. Realized Multi-Tasking Doesn't Work Nope, it really doesn't.  For years I've insisted that I'm a good multi-tasker.  I thought it was the only solution to keeping all of the balls in the air.  What I've realized, however, is that's all it does.  Keeps the balls in the air.  Multi-tasking doesn't allow you to be successful with all of the balls and it brings in more stress then it solves.  I've surrendered to this and welcomed the reduced stress that comes with a single focus.
7. Stopped Buying Magazines Although I ended my subscriptions not too long after I started my minimalism quest, I was still purchasing them occasionally.  They just weren't contributing anything beneficial to my life.  With so many blogs and online sources available, I search there if I want to find ideas.  I haven't purchased any at all in just over 2 years. 8. Limit My Online Time As noted in my life changing morning routine post, scheduling time to view social media as well as read emails has been very beneficial.  I previously wasted too much time doing both of these.  Also, I've turned off notifications.  I look at it when I want to look at it. 9. Began Spending Money More Intentionally Yes, I still buy stuff.  The difference in how I spend money now is that I think purchases through and I spend with intention.  I think purchases through because I still catch myself impulsively thinking "oh I'll buy that".  By waiting to make a purchase, it gives me the time to figure out if it's truly a purchase I want/need or if I'll only end up regretting it. 10. Stopped Trying New Beauty Products Beauty products are expensive.  Even more problematic is that we typically don't use up the "miracle" products we buy, instead, we feel guilty tossing them out and therefore hold onto them.  That and the "free gift" with purchase items that we just had to have.  The next thing you know you have drawers full of cute little bottles and tubes.  Although I'm not saying I'll never try a new beauty product again ( since I make many, that cuts the need to purchase right down), but I'll take from the point above and purchase much more intentionally.  And toss it or give it away if I don't like it. 11. Get Moving We try to walk/run/bike a lot more.  Not only is it good to get moving, but it keeps us from spending money and reduces stress.  It gets us outside in nature where I feel like I can think things through and put them in perspective. 12. Living Intentionally Daily While every moment of every day is not intentional for me, I do try to live intentionally daily.  Intentionally expressing gratitude, intentionally doing something to work toward tomorrow, and taking responsibility for my life. I'm not trying to make my path toward minimalism sound easy.  It's been hard and I've had setbacks (many) as well as successes (many).  I've learned a lot about myself, some of it things I've chosen to change.  What I can tell you for sure is that this path has encouraged me to actually begin taking steps toward things I'd only previously dreamed about.  It has taught me how to work intentionally toward what I want rather than depend on luck. It's often said that minimalism is a journey and not a destination.  A journey full of twists and turns that I wouldn't trade for anything.
What are some of the ways you've simplified your own life?  I'd love to hear your tips and ideas!
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