#if you'll forgive me for making an assumption anon but i'd recommend getting comfortable with grief. you don't have to like it

[sanstropfremir]

from everything you've said about shinee I would like to get into them but I'm just so afraid of what I would see and feel when jonghyun shows up on screen

at risk of sounding insensitive, and please know that i mean this with kindness, but he's just a person. i totally understand that grief can be weird and uncomfortable, especially if one doesn't deal with it often, but both grief and death are a fact of life. in this particular instance, from the outside, it's a mountain that feels insurmountable because you can see all of it all at once; all the history and the reactions and the mythologizing. but underneath all that, he's just a person who really loved music in a group that also really loves music. the world didn't stop watching robin williams movies or listening to kurt cobain. it's important to confront and acknowledge those emotions when they happen, but the art is what they left us and it deserves to be appreciated, just as jonghyun deserves to be seen as a person and not a monument.