#intro; madhi nadar

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{ SIMONE ASHLEY | 27 | CIS WOMAN ﹜ welcome to san francisco, MADHI NADAR! just to make sure, you go by SHE/HER, right? okay, great. i just have a few questions for you before i can let you go.. how long have you been here for? FIFTEEN YEARS. where are you currently living? PACIFIC HEIGHTS. what’s your current occupation? ASSISTANT WEDDING PLANNER at GOLDEN HOUR WEDDINGS but what’s your dream occupation? OWNER OF MY OWN WEDDING PLANNING BUSINESS. wow! interesting. is there a secret that we can keep between you and i? I DONT BELIEVE IN TRUE LOVE. lastly, this is a bit of a random question but … what’s your favorite song? ANTI-HERO by MINORITY 905 (ORIGINALLY BY TAYLOR SWIFT) & that’s all they wrote, friend! we can’t wait to see you around the golden city!

TRIGGER WARNINGS: Mentions of food (not eating disorders and no pictures)

tl;dr: madhi is a sassy but kind workaholic who wants to make friends but doesn't know how and is afraid of any sort of true relationship because if something were to go wrong, she is worried she can't handle it.

General Info

Name:  Madhi Nadar

Nickname: Mads, M—Madhi likes nicknames but her mother does not, so she didn’t really have many growing up.

Gender: Woman, She/her

Race: Asian (South Asian)

Ethnicity: Indian (Tamil)

Age: January 17, 1995 (27)

Place of Birth: Trenton, NJ

Parents: Janhvi & Nikhil Nadar (div. 2007, neither remarried)

Siblings: None

Cousins: Would be willing to plot!

Appearance

Height: 5’6” (66 inches; 1.68 meters)

Weight: 145 lbs (65.8 kg)

Hair: Long black hair, coarse and curly (3a)

Skin: Dark brown with a Neutral undertone

Distinguishing marks: None

Eyes: Deep, Dark Brown  

Clothing: Madhi is a fan of pant suits for work and will work to fit a blazar with almost anything. She’s never been the most dress-oriented woman; though seems ironic in an industry that is, in part, all about THE dress. She does appreciate lighter colors and she thinks that yellow is a great color on her—so long as it’s deeper and not so…fluorescent. When Madhi is not at work, she gravitates toward leggings and a comfortable top—she’s big on the texture of the items she’s wearing, and she likes the soft, breathable, movable fabrics.  

Personality

Temperament: Madhi is a determined, loyal, and persnickety individual. A combination of her family upbringing and own experiences combine heavily to cause her to want things a very particular way—mostly at work. She has been labeled a control freak at times, but that attention to detail and drive to get things perfect is what causes her to be the most requested wedding planner in her Boutique, apart from the owner and manager of course.

Madhi’s relentless focus at work has caused a bit of isolation from those around her. In part, this was a choice—relationships had caused her more pain than promise and they were uncontrollable. In addition, although Madhi would never go to therapy—if she did, she might share that emotions regarding losing or disappointing people in her life are “too much” for her to handle and she doesn’t know how to work through them to get to the other side.

Madhi is generous and kind but is also snarky and sarcastic. She has walls, and while they may not be as high as others, they are thick and it can take a while to get to her for who she really is.

Moral/ethical beliefs: Madhi is determined—she will work as hard as she can to provide her clients with the dream day they have always wanted. She will sacrifice herself to make that goal come to life. But Madhi will not sacrifice others to make it happen. As much as she stays away from most relationships, she does care about people deeply. She wouldn’t want the people in her life—whether it be clients or more personal relations—to be hurt in the pursuit of obtaining the goal. Well, to a degree. It’s debatable if Madhi understands her work ethic is perhaps hurting others, but she wouldn’t do so knowingly.

Madhi finds fulfilment in being surprising and exceeding expectations, but she won’t cheat to make it happen. She finds it lazy—Madhi has always loved problem solving and finding innovative solutions to obstacles in her way.

Religious beliefs: Mahdi did not grow up religious.  She does find herself spiritual in the sense that it’s worth doing good things for others because that is the energy the universe deserves, but not a specific higher power or religious instructor.

Political stance: Madhi has never been involved in politics, so there isn’t much here; but that can always change if necessary.

Hobbies: Madhi seems very stereotypical for a wedding planner. Always looks put together, always on time, carries a planner, has sixteen organizational methods and they all work seamlessly together. Answers for everything, dresses very feminine (even with the pant suit), had a lot of pink and whites and pastels in her wardrobe. But under the surface, Madhi is as dynamic as anyone.

Madhi adores video games, specifically multiplayer online battle arena (MOBAs) and real-time strategy (RTS) games. Remember how she enjoys problem solving?  Madhi finds these strategic games to be a great use of her skills—especially because typical games that require more dexterity are much harder for her to complete. Currently, she is playing a lot of Team Fight Tactics, though she has played Halo Wars in the past and found it just as fun.

Her other hobby is axe throwing; again, a little unorthodox—but there is nothing more empowering to Madhi than throwing an axe at a wooden target and making it stick. Oh, and she bakes.

Habits: Madhi always makes her coffee—she isn’t a coffee snob, and frankly she doesn’t even have the machines to make fancy coffee. Just her $14 Mr. Coffee machine and a regular paper filter from Trader Joe’s will do her just fine. But it’s the act of hitting the button, smelling the scent, and holding it up to her nose as her first action in the morning that really gives her peace.

She does have a habit of cracking her knuckles, back, neck or even shoulders—especially when she is stressed. She finds the sound takes the edge off a little bit.

Every Sunday night, Madhi takes about an hour to decorate her planner for the week. She is a big Passion Planner fan, and she enjoys the time she dedicates to making it look aesthetically pleasing. It sets herself up for the week in a great way.

Quirks/eccentricities: Madhi also does NOT like leftovers. At all. It’s a texture thing for her. She doesn’t like to waste food, so she works really hard to make meals that are a perfect size for one person.

She has a very specific way of walking around stores, and while she doesn’t walk around all stores the same way, each store has its own path she must follow.

The ONLY kind of basic utensils that Madhi uses are small spoon, small fork and regualr butter knives. She will use sharper knives if needed, but those are her basics. Please do not give her a big spoon, she will probably go and find a small spoon to wash instead.

Likes:

Colors: The colors sage green, olive green, gray, pastels (but not easter), Golden Yellow

Food: Murgh Makhani (her Mother’s and Grandmother’s only), Naan, Cream of Chicken Soup & Rice, Snickerdoodles, Shrimp, Sushi…ok the list goes on and on.

Cocktail: Margarita Mix & Crown Apple

Non-Alcoholic Drink: Coffee, Orange Soda

Smells: Gardenia, Apple, Chocolate Chip Cookies and…gasoline at a gas station.

Dislikes:

  Colors: Bright Red, Orange and Yellow

  Food: Yellow Bananas, Milk with Cereal, some (not all) mashed potatoes—really any super soft, mushy food.

Cocktail: Anything with Tequila. Once—and never again.

Non-Alcoholic Drink: Milk, Pepsi, Regular Mountain Dew

Smells: Any overly floral scent, Parmesan cheese.

Fears: Madhi is afraid of bugs openly. But inwardly, Madhi deeply fears rejection.

Strengths: Problem Solving, Customer Service, Seeing a project to it’s end, Adapting to her environment, measurements and visualizing a space, writing.

Weaknesses: Building meaningful relationships, understanding her own limits, letting go of control, mental calculations, self-awareness in some situations, creating work-life boundaries, anything to do with physical exercise.

Short term goals: Madhi would like a promotion to manager—or even associate wedding planner. She thinks she’s done a good job.

A secret goal she has is that she’d like some friends. Though she isn’t 100% sure where to start.

Long term goals: She wants to open her own Wedding Boutique and offer both traditional American wedding planning but also assist with other culture’s weddings, when appropriate, including her own Indian/Tamil heritage.

Hopes and desires: Madhi’s greatest desire is not one she’d admit to—but she wants to be loved. She feels like her whole life she’s had to earn it, and the wear and tear from constantly trying to prove herself is tearing her apart.

She will tell you that her desire is to plan the weddings of important and influential people through her own business and name.

Occupation: Madhi is an assistant wedding planner; she has her own clients but she still needs to work with a Associate Wedding Planner to sign off on choices and decisions she’s made.

Skills: Problem solving, Logical Thinking, Organization, People Skills, damage control, strategizing, axe throwing

Secrets:

Her biggest secret is that she doesn’t believe in love but she’s a wedding planner—so she fakes it all day long. It’s really more that she doesn’t believe love lasts—her parents were divorced at a young age and neither got remarried, believing they were better off on their own as well. Through her teen years, she saw a string of flings her friends went through and how they never seemed to last. Along with her belief that she will always have to prove her worth to those around her, how can love last if it’s always at the brink of being taken away?

Gear

Always has: her Passion Planner, a Pentel RSVP ball point pen in Black and her purse.

Events and History

Recent notable events

Madhi has recently had her 4th year work anniversary at Golden Hour Weddings

She found herself on Hinge?

She recently moved out of her mother’s house…like 6 months ago.

Bad events in the past

Her parents were divorce when she was 10—and it was nasty.

Her mother moved her to San Francisco when she was 12 and all the legal disputes were finally over

She doesn’t see her dad anymore, but they do talk on the phone.

Her mother had wanted her daughter’s life to be so much more than her own, so she pushed Madhi obsessively to achieve greatness—but it caused Madhi to feel like her current self was never enough for her mother.

Good events in the past

Madhi had a wonderful imagination growing up and could often spend hours creating kingdoms or stories or fantasies that allowed her to escape her mother’s expectations for her.

It’s the reason she loves wedding planning, even if she doesn’t believe in love herself, she does love the idea of creating these fantasies that people can escape into a live a different moment in time.