#just be open and take people at their word???? dont challenge ppl abt their own identity dont bring up politics and discourse

[bellamygateoldblog]

idk i feel like everyone would be so much happier if u just minded ur business and let ppl get on with who they are

[kimnjss]

Y’ALL got time to deep it and have these deep talks, ft, and spend time together in ya work environment and outside it BUTTtTT at yalll cant take a moment to communicate ??? yn and joooooon …. really ?! like i wanna stretch my hand back to the gates and connect it to their faces with a resounding sound 👋🥴

also like many ppl said yn def peeped his energy during them knocking boots 🥾 … mans was having internal monologue like he writing the opening of his autobiography

again this all boils down to miscommunication, their avoidance issues, joon playa mac persona//lifestyle, etc

yeahhhhhhh and not the heffa Maya being there???

… joon dont be a dumbas$ challenge failed

all of a sudden they both acting like mind readers … if thats the case yallllll would know it was more than sex for the both of you and krkdkdkddkrk … AHHHHhHHHh its just pissing me offf lol

i cant even write probably because they wanna be in their clown errrrra so baddddd 🤡

also not her messaging SAN like babes you aint pay him no mind when you was simPing joon 🤣😅

Also jooon lowkey admitting he likes her but man in the deep end of denial and MY GOD EVERYONE is just stupiddddd

also yoonmin 💕💞

also peep “rapper w the dimples ❤️‍🔥✨

also his message … im really stressed and ova fck boy jooon

like i know we’re in our angst ark but ive rolled my eyes so many times like lordddddd just talk to each other … communicate finna be a buzzz word for these two 😅😩

anyways i guess the both got they clown outfits on and avoidance fits on #twinning

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THEY WERE DOING SO WELL ! nd all the time they were spending together was cuteee - bc they're lowkey the same person . nd that's why all of this sucks right now bc they're LITERALLY the same person . they're both convinced there's no point to uselessly put in effort ., so neither of them are doing anything to fix it . all they need to do is have one conversation nd they'd see they're literally not on the same page .

it did not help at all !! he was so quiet nd in his head the whole entire time ., nd yk that had her thoughts racing . nd the staring that he was doing after?? paired with what she already thought abt him - you can't really blame her for wanting to get out of there before he was saying smth that could potentially hurt her .

honestlyyy ! they're ignoring all the obvious signs that things were a lot more serious btwn them nd trusting their own delusions . like??? joon knows he's never felt this way with anyone before nd while yn does this all the time - she has the most fun with him ., but they're so stubborn with themselves nd obsessed w keeping themselves guarded so they just end up making a mess .

LMAOOO poor san ! he really is just sitting around waiting for her to hit him up??? yns got some magic btwn her legs fr ., bc all the guys she fucks w get like that .

he did not need to go nd hit up maya??? of all people . like pLS!? it's like he's asking to make matters worse . nd for what!? y'all are at work - do the job nd leave it aloneee .

it's gonna be a long day for everyone that's for sure .

[feraldavestrider]

hey i don't usualy like sending these kind of messages but as someone who has beeing doing CBT, that post you reblogged is just... outright wrong? there are people in the notes who word it better than i could in an ask but op is basically describing CBT with other words, the treatment (when done well) should never make you ashamed or guilty of bad thoughts. the whole point of dealing with intrusive thoughts/impulses is accepting you have them and that doesn't define you. 1/2

OP might've had a bad experience but it's dangerous to say those things about CBT (like the relapse, without sources) when it's the only thing that works for many folk like me, and it might put them off to giving it a shot. sorry for the knejerk reaction to it, have a nice day. 2/2

ok first of all i know this isnt a funny thing but for a whole ass minute i fr thought these asks were about cock and ball torture HDSSKDFDJSKFHDSKJFHDSFKJ

so i do this thing on tumblr sometimes where i skim read posts and i dont like... process every part of a post? like i read it all but sometimes i just dont actuall. READ all of it and tbh i didnt even really read the cbt bit and frankly i know like... barely anything abt cbt, i have never and probably will never have therapy and i dont know that much abt various therapy methods. thats on me for reblogging a post w/o properly reading all of it/not knowing or caring abt what was actually the main point of it so my bad

i mostly reblogged the post bc of the last two paragraphs/opening paragraph which doesnt actually mention cbt:

Not being mean to yourself doesn’t mean censoring self-deprecating humor, it doesn’t mean snapping a rubber band on your wrist when you have a negative thought, it means taking time to sit down and think about yourself as if you were another person, to really take stock of who you are from as objective a perspective as you can muster, and if you really want to grow, realizing that this person you see can’t grow if the person closest to them, which is you, spends all their time berating them and making them feel like shit.

Being friends with yourself is not a series of therapeutic exercises, it’s challenging yourself to evaluate why you’re a dick to yourself in a way you aren’t to other people, or maybe you are a dick to other people, and maybe you want to be a dick to yourself, which is goofy as fuck, but if you’re still suffering, maybe ask yourself why the fuck you want to be such a dick, the answers may surprise you.

i dont have a problem w ppl using the rubber band (cause i know it helps for those recovering from self harm) or censoring self deprecating humour, but ive had people before act like bc i make self deprecating jokes or jokes abt killing myself that im not trying to recover. ive kind of jumped around on my opinion on this in regards to myself and others, and i used to fully think those things were just funny and that i didnt have to make an effort to try and get better in regards to my mental health, and then i embraced the idea that if u do things like make those jokes ur only hurting urself n that u hsould try not to say bad things abt urseld ever in order to heal. 

ive tried that and it didnt work for me personally; for me, i can engage in occasional downtalk of myself, serious or joking, but it was more of a process of thinking and meditating on my reasons for my self hatred and suicidal thoughts, and then working on healing the causes for that shit rather than trying to just cut out the symptoms of my mental health issues. if u get me? and im doing a lot better now! 

sorry i didnt mean to go on a rant abt my stuff, but yea so like... i dont really know much abt cbt and if it works for u, ur very valid like i think every one has their own ways which is best for them to overcome their personal issues. i hope u can see y i reblogged the post, those two last paragraphs do rlly speak to me on my view on my own issues but i didnt really read all of it dshfsfjdshfjdskhfdskfdhf

anyway ill delete my reblog, im v sorry and dw abt sending asks like this like... sometimes i just reblog bad stuff that i only partially read or im just stupid or smth so like! when ppl r nice abt it im always happy 2 get asks like this. enjoy ur day anon