#kindness and compassion unless it’s this guy amirite?

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Okay I’m venting here because I need to say this somewhere. Feel free to keep scrolling if you don’t care about my opinion (which you’re not obligated to do so)

Jared did what he did. It wasn’t cool. It was unprofessional, unkind, and just a bad look all around. Especially what he said to Robbie. He handled his feelings in a bad way. And when that happens publicly people should expect the public to respond.

However.

He is human. And just like so many of us who go off in tweets at people saying stuff we regret later- we make mistakes. Some worse than others, but mistakes all the same. And yeah, when we get angry or upset over said mistakes people also say unkind things, it’s the knee jerk response. That’s fair, people can voice and express that hurt, too.

I just don’t understand why it has to come with the cruelty it has been. Or why people are so gleeful about someone else’s pain. Or why people’s spite has turned this into a wwiii level competition for how shitty they can be to this one dude.

First things first- We don’t know any of these men, not really, no matter how much we all parasocialize. Yeah, they’ve opened up to us a LOT but that really means jack diddly squat. So speculating/analyzing/assuming anything about anything that was said outside the public eye all needs to be taken with a huge grain of salt and not relied on like fact. (And frankly whatever happened between them aint our fucking business!) We don’t know if anyone did or did not apologize for anything, what drama or lack thereof is going on between them, or if others are or are not posting in relation to the “drama”. Ascribing any intent or meaning to anything any of them did is, in my opinion, not possibly accurate.

You don’t have to like Jared, you don’t have to respect him or trust him or any of that. But just a friendly reminder that when you treat him like the scum of humanity and only good for rude and cruel jokes… your followers see it. People like me who (yes, also parasocializing) see themselves and their own behaviors in Jared and what he did see the shit you’re saying and it hurts.

((Don’t even start with the “oh look you’re making it all about you just like Jared” b/c trust me I’ve already said anything you can think of to myself))

Sure he did something mean does that mean he doesn’t deserve a little empathy? He made a mistake but he’s still a person. Yeah he’s made them before, I get that too, and those were bad mistakes as well, I fully acknowledge that. But it doesn’t mean he doesn’t regret them after the fact. “He has millions of followers, he's obligated to behave better”. Oh yeah, I forget that when people become celebrities they waive all rights to sympathy and personhood.

Anyway I’m angry, and hurt, and upset, and I don’t understand how this fandom that used to stand for everything good about people (even with its bad apples) has just turned into every other toxic fandom to ever exist. This whole thing should not have been nearly as big of a deal as it is but holy shit it’s gonna be I guess.

Anyway these are my rambling thoughts, don’t know if I’m ever gonna log onto twitter again. ✌🏻️

[iamdeltas]

X, T and K?

X - top 5-10 characters who are yoUR PRECIOUS BABIES AND YOU WILL DIE DEFENDING THEM This depends a lot on what I’m focused on at the moment (also, not all my faves count. Generally if I feel like a fave character has enough fans to defend them or whatever, I’m not gonna feel like I need to defend them. For instance, Elsa. Does Elsa have her haters? Sure. But she’s also crazy popular, so who cares if a few people hate her? That’s why she’s not on this list, even if I do like her.) but here goes, not in order tbh, just off the top of my head: Kamala Khan, always my girl, I adore her so much and I saw a post one day talking shit about her and I wanted to throttle OP. Anyway. Kamala is the best. I cannot wait for her MCU debut. Cassandra, from Tangled: the Series. I adored Cass right from the start, and of course, right from the start, I saw people shitting on her for, IDK, daring to *gasp* not like Eugene, I guess? Wow. So yeah, I’ll die defending Cass, she’s the best, even if she made some bad choices in s3 but hey. Who hasn’t stolen an ancient powerful artifact and gotten manipulated by a demonic Eldritch being, amirite? Della Duck, from Ducktales. I adore Della, she’s such an interesting and complex character who has made her fair share of mistakes but is also trying her best. The whole discourse post-”Timephoon” really showed me that she’s a character I’d die defending as well because holy shit were people shitting all over her for... daring to ground Louie, her son, for literally causing a spacetime disaster because he wanted to make money. Sigh. Anyway. I adore Della. Anna of Arendelle, from Frozen. Oh, Anna. So many people just flat out ignore you in favor of your sister, which is so unfair. Anna is wonderful and determined and optimistic and honestly such a badass? Like that (sadly deleted) scene said, her love could hold up the world. (Fun fact, part of the reason I desperately wanted my brain to get off the Frozen traintrack it was, ah, frozen on from June 2019 to January 2020 was because it resulted in me fixating on how much people flat out do not care about Anna, which wasn’t a fun time!) I am very glad she gets to be part of the bridge with Elsa but am sadly unsurprised that people continue to ignore that and just insist that it’s only Elsa who’s the Powerful, Wonderful, Most Amazing Fifth Spirit. Anna who? Granted, the movie could have emphasized that it’s Elsa and Anna who are the Fifth Spirit, together, but still. 

Alex Danvers, from Supergirl. Still my favorite character on the show! I don’t think she gets bashed as much as mostly just ignored? (I’d say poor Kara gets the brunt of the bashing. It’s very sad.) Unless Lena stans get confronted with the fact that their fave is doing some highly Unethical Things, then they start pointing to Alex for some reason and start saying, Yeah Well, Alex Works For A Shady Government Organization, So Who’s The *Real* Bad Guy Here? (Me: ....it’s still Lena, but go off, I guess.) I guess I just generally relate to her overwhelming Big Sister-ness and the high pressure she puts on herself because what a Mood, amirite? I feel that whole, anxiety that your parents will be disappointed in you because I feel that every day! I also adore how dedicated she is and how smart she is (something the fandom and the show often seem to ignore...) Connie Maheswaran, from Steven Universe. She’s the best! And she was totally the MVP of Steven Universe: Future, telling off all the Gems for making Steven’s problems about them because that was the last thing Steven needed! She’s practical and smart but at the same time so adventurous and brave and willing to stand up to protect the Earth! It’s very admirable. Steven Universe, from... you know. I’ve always liked Steven but I think Future gave me a greater appreciation for this kid. This poor kid has had to grow up so fast and basically play therapist for his Gem moms as well as for Gems who literally tried to kill him multiple times. His compassion is so admirable but wow did it result in him putting himself last! I have a soft spot for these types of characters, the characters who care so much about other people that they forget to care about themselves. (Alex Danvers is in this category also.) I know some people got mad about his downward spiral in Future, but honestly the complaints just strike me as being mad that Steven dares to have his own problems as opposed to being the Happy Boy Therapist Who Fixes Everyone Else’s Problems And Has Zero Problems Of His Own. Martha Jones, from Doctor Who. Oh, Martha Jones, you’re a star. I had a group of college friends who I watched Doctor Who with back in the day, and they hated Martha. (Most notable exchange: one of said friends saying that she thought Martha was just “too smart” to be relatable. Said friend was a physics major.) I hope the Martha hate has cooled down now because Martha always deserves so much appreciation. She had to put up with so much in s3 (incidentally, I think about s3 sometimes and I wonder why the fuck 10 is my favorite Doctor. Honestly, he’s such a dick in s3. Martha Deserved Better.), and I’m so glad she was able to be one of the few companions in NuWho with a nontraumatic exit. I hope she’s living her best life, wherever she might be now. Ninth Doctor, from Doctor Who. Gosh I love Nine. Those same college friends who hated Martha also told me to skip s1, and I’m very glad I did not listen to them. I’ve always liked Jerks with Hearts of Gold, and Nine definitely is that! I just adore how while he had such a gruff and battle-scarred demeanor, he was so sweet and genuinely kind. He’s a puppy in a leather jacket! And not only can he be genuinely soft and sweet, but he’s also just so silly sometimes? Absolutely not what you’d expect from his general appearance but he can be quite a goofball! I love that for him! And while I may not like Doctor/Rose as a ship (honestly I just don’t tend to like Doctor/companion ships at all), his relationship with Rose was so sweet. I also just enjoy that, underneath all the weariness and the surface-level cynicism, he is actually very optimistic.  Twelfth Doctor, honestly, same deal as Nine. I’m very annoyed with people who dismiss him as being the Grumpy Doctor because he’s just so genuinely kind and compassionate? He might genuinely be one of the most compassionate Doctors I’ve ever seen. He even extends kindness to his worst enemies. There’s something really beautiful about that. Being kind, even when it might ultimately backfire on you and might not even work, because why not try? He’s just a punk rock grandpa trying his best, how can you hate that? He’s got some sick guitaring skills btw. He should join a band. (I know Peter Capaldi is in a band, so that just makes me want 12 to be in a band even more.) Sometimes I think there should be a band in the Whoniverse made up of some of the Doctor’s regens but then I get stuck on who’d be in it besides 12. Maybe 2 can be in it, with his weird flute thing. Anyway. His relationship with Clara was great (mostly because of how destructive and codependent it was lmao) but I just genuinely adore his connection with Bill. I’m always here for found family, and Bill being 12′s Earth granddaughter just warms my heart so much! Thirteenth Doctor, but actually the opposite deal of Nine and Twelve. I once saw a post saying that most Doctors can be split into one of two categories: grump with a heart of gold or charming goofball with a dark side. And, despite the two characters I just listed being in the former category, I think I tend to prefer the latter? Mostly because I see plenty of Jerks With Hearts of Gold but I feel like I don’t see as many heroic charming goofballs with a dark side. Anyway, that’s absolutely what 13 is, and I appreciate the layers that she has and am constantly annoyed at people who only see her surface level cheeriness and think that’s all there is to her. I really love it when characters Aren’t What They Seem and 13 exemplifies that. To borrow a phrase from a post I saw a very long time ago, 13 is so facile. She’s so physical, taking up so much space and constantly moving, but is so touch-averse. She talks so much and is very friendly, but is incredibly emotionally constipated and keeps even her so-called best friends at an arms length. She talks a lot about hope and compassion, but boy can she be hella violent and feral! Love That For Her. T - Do you have any hard and fast headcanons that you will die defending, about anything at all (gender identity, sexual or romantic orientation, extended family, sexual preferences like top/bottom/switch, relationship with poetry, seriously anything) Oh absolutely. Off the top of my head: Cassandra is a lesbian. And that’s that on that. 13 is touch-averse! (Also stop yelling that she needs a hug! She doesn’t want one! It’s okay to not want hugs, that’s not a crime!) Alex can cook. Cooking isn’t even that hard?  K -Say something nice about someone in any of your fandoms Ooh, this is hard cuz there are a lot of people in any of my fandoms that I feel like I can say nice things about! Let’s go with Supergirl since I’ve been neglecting that fandom a lot. Uh. I adore @wizardofahz ‘s fics about the Superfam! I’m always craving more gen fic and she delivers! I love her characterizations of everyone, especially her characterizations of Alex and Kara. 

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Trump Goes From Fox News to TNT!

Donald Trump owes a lot of his fame to NBC for The Apprentice and Celebrity Apprentice. And Donald Trump owes his Election in a large part to FOX NEWS. Trump has always known when to use a network to his advantage. Now 100 days into his term, with his approval ratings falling faster than a dog on roller skates, Trump has gone from FOX NEWS to TNT. Not the TV network, though, the explosive.

Trump has started dropping bombs on people, a time-honored tradition with leaders who really aren’t all that good at leading. War is what happens when people are bad at politics. When I first heard that Trump dropped a 13 million dollar bomb on Afghanistan, I just assumed they were talking about the female ‘Ghostbusters’ reboot. Wow, what a disaster! It was unwatchable. Not a laugh in that script. Who ya gonna call? “Ghost writers!” Too bad they couldn’t keep the ghost of Harold Ramis in one of those containment units, but he always was a Class 5 Entity. He probably haunted this production just on principle. When I saw the movie, I thought I was in a surround-sound theater, but it turned out it wasn’t the ghosts on the screen, it was the audience yelling “Boo! Boo!”

But I digress.

Trump bombed an ISIS stronghold in Afghanistan with the Mother Of All Bombs, the MOAB. It’s one of those Millennial acronyms, like YOLO, except it means the exact opposite of that. It means You Only Lived, Once. And if you happen to be a Millennial, let me put it in terms you can understand: The Generals told Trump “Hey, we’re hundo-p this bomb is on Fleek.” Trump said “Perf! I’m thirsty, and they’re throwing shade. Bye Felicia!” Sorry not sorry. And then we dropped the MOAB on ISIS. I guess ISIS is another Millennial acronym, and judging from all their recent losses on the battlefield, ISIS probably stands for “I Surrender! I Surrender!” Boom.

This bomb was big, let me tell you. “How big was it,” you ask, Ed McMahon-style? It was so big, it was almost as big as the bomb they dropped this week on Survivor! “HIYO!” Did you see the Survivor controversy? At tribal council, one low-life contestant outed another contestant as transexual, live on national TV, if you overlook the fact that it was filmed four months earlier. People all across America were shocked. Well, mostly they were shocked that Survivor was still on the air. There were howls of well-deserved outrage for this truly reprehensible contestant, I know they don’t let you bring a compass to the desert island, but I didn’t know you couldn’t bring a moral compass! But most of the outrage was for CBS, who had months to edit this revelation out but chose not to. Why? Well, because emotional trauma equals ratings equals advertising revenue. And I know they could have easily cut the scene, because they do let you bring a machete. What kind of advertisers does CBS hopes to gain by publicly outing a contestant? What corporate sponsors are cool with that? Maybe In-N-Out Burger? Outback Steakhouse? California Closets? The logo of Survivor should be changed to “Outwit, Outlast, Outplay, Out somebody.”

But again,  I digress.

So there were a bunch of ISIS fighters hiding in an underground cave complex along the Afghanistan border. And say what you want about Afghans, they’re a tight-knit community. Get it? An Afghan is tight-knit, like the blanket? Hey, man, it wasn’t that bad. So, the President had only two options, drop the Mother Of All Bombs on them, or send in United Airlines security guards to drag them out. But they felt the United Airlines jackbooted goons might be a tad too violent. If only the 9/11 hijackers had flown United Airlines, we’d have saved a couple of trillion dollars on a couple of endless wars. Yeah, I know, I know, that one was that bad.. Unless you happened to have been frozen in carbonite this past week, you know that United Airlines security thugs dragged an Asian doctor out of his seat because they overbooked the flight, and he did not go willingly. I’m not sure what the doctor’s name was, but from what he was screaming as the security guards slammed him in the face, his name may have been Doctor “No!” Anyway, right now United is trying to repair the damage from this week’s unfortunate Asian-toss with new incentives, they just introduced a ‘Frequent Dragger Miles’ program. From now on customer service comes first at United, they’re going to roll out the red carpet before they drag you out on it.

And Syria. The Thursday before last, Trump ordered a launch on Syria. And that same day, I ordered a lunch on Siri. Weird, right? Quite the coincidence. Personally, I’m not so big on getting involved in Syria’s civil war. Here’s the way I look at it, we had a Civil War once, and they didn’t help at all. So don’t ask us, Damascus! Man, that would make a great T-shirt for a pro-isolationist PAC that can appreciate clever word-play, but those two qualities are mutually exclusive.

Donald Trump recounted the events of the night of the launch in an interview, but it sounded less like a moment in military history and more like a late-night cable infomercial for cake. Apparently, just as we were giving Assad his just desserts, Trump was just having dessert. He was eating chocolate cake as he launched missiles at Syria. Wow, talk about death by chocolate! Trump said, "We’re now having dessert. And we had the most beautiful piece of chocolate cake that you’ve ever seen." Trump went on to mention the cake four times in a two-minute interview. Now I seriously doubt that this guy knows any more about cake than he knows about being President, he thought that would be a piece of cake, too. And how the hell does he know what kind of beautiful cakes this interviewer has seen in her lifetime? She’s in TV, she may have worked on any number of cake-related reality TV shows; Cake Wars, or Cake Boss, or Cake Czar, or Cake Fuhrer, or Cake Blitzkreig, or Cake Tet Offensive. And all of those cakes result in losing the Battle of the Bulge, amirite? Amirite? You know I am! Now I don’t mind if Trump wants to say it’s the best piece of cake he’s ever seen in his life, fine. We know he’d be lying, simply because that’s what he does, but, fine. Whatever. But don’t go saying that your cake is better than any cake somebody else has ever seen in their life. That’s this guy’s problem, always telling other people he know better. He tried that sales-pitch with his monstrous health care bill, and people weren’t buying it then, and they’re not buying your ultimate-cake bullshit now. I’d like to point out this is clearly a Marie Antoinette moment for Trump, but alas, we have been living in a land without irony for some time now.

And seeing as Mar-a Lago was just hit with serious health code violations for improper food handling, I’ll skip the dessert and just take the check, thanks. Health inspectors found “potentially hazardous” “high priority” violations at Trump’s “southern White House”, with meats stored at temperatures much higher the mandatory 41 degrees. The duck and beef were measured at 50 degrees, so when you see that beef coming, you better duck! And the ham was stored at 57 degrees! Even I start to turn bad at 57 degrees. Another violation was the smoked salmon, which was being served without “proper parasite destruction.” Sounds yummy, they must have caught the fish in that swamp they drained. Funny he doesn’t talk about this to the reporter, "We’re now having dessert. And we had the most unsanitary, unsafe for human consumption piece of badly-stored, room-temperature, parasite-infested swamp-cake that you’ve ever seen." So Eff this Mar-a Lago, political prisoners got better food at the Gulag Archipelago! Oh, just look it up, that’s damn funny. Fun fact: Mar-a Lago is Spanish for “Lake surrounded by Morons.” I did not know that. Ed, did you know that? “Yes!” HIYO!

Trump launched 60 missiles at the Syrian air base, one missile missed, 59 missiles hit. Hey, why do they call it a ‘missile’ when it hits it’s target? They should call the ones that miss missiles, and call the ones that hit ‘hittiles’. Although, thinking about it, ‘hittiles’ sounds like a Nazi candy. Forget that. All I know is the air strike played really well for Donald Trump, his ratings went up a couple of points, and he showed the world that the kid with small hands can play cowboy.

As Donald Trump put it, after he finished his cake, “Now people will take me Syriasly.”

And now, we’re on to North Korea. You know, I never really minded that Trump was vulgar and offensive, that was as close as he gets to charm. But I don’t like the way things are going. Things are going south, fast. I get the feeling the next thing that will be going south on the Korean peninsula is the North Korean army. Oh well, at least we’ll get a M*A*S*H reboot out of it. I like Alan Alda, and now he can tell us this war is stupid, too, in between ripping-off Groucho Marx lines. But I wish Trump would go back to swearing and talking about pussy. I don’t mind him dropping F-bombs, I just don’t want him dropping any A-bombs.