#like idk. you can be cool with complex gender without also being gross towards lesbians who set reasonable boundaries regarding men | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

rasairui · 9 months ago

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Post: gender identity is complicated and everyone has their own unique relationship with it. Presentation does not equal gender and not everyone likes strict labels!

Me: Yeah! True! This is great so far please don't turn this into-

Post: I will now use this as an excuse to obsessively list every possible way in which a lesbian ends up with a man. I will equate butches and gnc women to men, completely missing my own point when I said presentation doesn't equal gender. Also being transmasc is always the same as being male aligned btw. I'm going to find a way to fit dissociative identity disorder into this for some reason. I'm also going to be really condescending and talk like no lesbian has ever understood the concept of gender noncomformity, ambiguity and complex relationships to gender. No, I never talk this way about gay men and nblm why do you ask

#it's like. idk. for a certain niche group of people ''complex gender identity'' just means ''maleness included''#yeah nonbinary bigender and genderfluid people can be lesbians obviously and a lot of relationship nuance will depend...#... on the specific people involved. But also gender can be complex and nuanced and strange without involving maleness #why does non standard gender expression always seem to mean proximity to manhood for a certain group of people and why are they obsessed...#with attaching lesbians to men but never the inverse?#also do we forget that unaligned people exist. Like did we forget there are people who are attached to neither #or do we just have 4 genders now. boy girl nb(boy) and nb(girl)#really frustrating to genuinely consider no longer calling myself transmasc bc people point and go MAN! BOY!#even though part of the reason the terms transmasc and transfem exist as terms is to cover folks transitioning in a specific direction...#...without necessarily being the opposing binary gender #like idk. you can be cool with complex gender without also being gross towards lesbians who set reasonable boundaries regarding men #yes including trans men #Obligatory disclaimer this is a specific niche kind of post no I don't think everyone talking about nonstandard gender expression is doing.#... secret anti-lesbian dogwhistle posting there's just a specific brand of weirdo who are always strange about this

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