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worldofgoo · 2 years

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How do I stop being a Hater like you it’s bad for my mental health

good question... hm... idk why it happened exactly so the easiest answer would be to just be me but that is not very useful to other people

probably a really big factor is just removing myself from things that make me angry. in my case thats mostly discourse since that was the main thing that pissed me off (and kind of made me doubtful about human nature in general tbh), but that did include also just not being around things that irritated me or didnt interest me either. its probably why i dont follow or follow back many people now, even though im sure most of them are very normal and nice, just kinda curating my surroundings ig

if irl is also exacerbating Hater Tendencies, or its things online that you can't necessarily avoid, I feel like the other side is to just try to understand the thing or people you're being a Hater about, and why some people like it or think the way they do even if its baffling to you. since there's some things you just can't change, or aren't worth the energy to change

#meant to answer earlier but then i took a mega nap oops #if this is not quite addressing your question feel free to clarify #oh and by trying to understand i mean like #idk.. personally i spend a lot of time thinking about other people. like when they behave in ways i just find absolutely incomprehensible #or stupid or awful i feel compelled to try to understand how somebody wouldve gotten there and recognize their human traits #the key to this though is that though you might understand somebody better you dont actually need to make yourself get 400 feet near them #because some people are gonna be too annoying or frustrating to be around #though idk if its something harmless being around them could be helpful. like desensitization #in some cases if youre talking to somebody you can actually just kind of be honest about your thoughts instead of holding it in and it can #also make being a hater easier. since there is less resentment or holding things in #obviuosly not being mean but just explaining you dont really like something and why #sorry... this may be a tangent #well enjoy #ask

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