#normally any pronouns that arent he/him give me dysphoria

[catboyactivate]

why have i suddenly gotten the urge to try out it/its pronouns

[carnifcrous]

could you give me a rundown on what being gender critical is? i get the basics i think but if you don’t mind explaining your views?

oh boy anon i’ll sure try!! idk if im the best person to talk about it tbh and ive confused a lot of people trying to explain my views before ahfjkfh but ill try REALLY hard to keep my adhd ass in check lmfao. if theres anything i said thats confusing & you need cleared up feel free to @ me againi dont know how long gender critical has existed as a concept, but i wouldnt be surprised if it was developed as a reaction to a certain VERY vocal part of the trans movement/trans rights activists

(so when you talk to people (trans ppl) about gender i think people usually break it down into several a few categories: gender identity, gender roles, and gender expression. i think most trans people are aware of & separate their sex from their gender identity, the identity being something innately part of every person, the roles generally speaking the bullshit that society expects & should be rejected, and gender expression really just being the traditional “feminine” or “masculine” behaviors/dress you use regardless of your innate identity.in trans circles/lgbt (merch, lol) sites i’ve seen the phrase passed around “gender is a social construct.” i think trans people who do/used to say that meant it kind of like that since gender was created by societies so it doesn’t matter how you identify/why not expand the understanding of gender (ergo, non-binary genders getting popularized). i think this fell out of popularity because it was transppls attempt to validate ourselves and conservatives cant wrap their mind around social constructs are/the distinction between sex and gender and so it wasnt really working out lmfaobut now there’s been some scientific studies getting popularized that have Suggested the existences of male & female brains and that trans ppl have the brain of their identified gender, therefore the disconnect between their brain and their body manifests as gender dysphoria. (i think the transmed community has especially taken to this idea esp because of kalvin garrah discovering these studies & now kind of preaching them as facts & science. with this comes him, his friends, and all the transmed ppl who stan him ryan and london saying that Gender Isnt Socially Constructed)then theres the posts circling around here saying Transwomen Are Women/Real Women + when the women’s march happened in america after trump got elected, i saw quite a few things on facebook where ppl were saying that all the talk of vaginas and shit were transphobic and trans-exclusionary and they should keep in mind that not all women have vaginas, etc etcthen u have what i believe (or at least hope) are outliers in the trans community being dug up (usually transwomen) who say........ The Most ridiculous shit imo. like saying theyre more of a woman than ciswomen (i’ll use cis strictly to mean not-trans in the context of this post), transwomen claiming theyre having a period, and just in general perpetuating “cotton ceiling” stuff like lesbians just needing to get over their transphobia to be with a pre-op transwoman. (again i would like to reiterate i DO NOT believe this is what the majority of transpeople believe, its just a vocal minority thats gotten attention from receipt blogs IMO.))**sorry that this post is already becoming an essay and if its derailing from the question, but this is what i think gender critical stuff is meant to react toso kind of in opposition to mainstream ideas of what gender is, i think radfems/gender critical people dont really break down gender into the different things like identity, roles and expression. from my understanding, gender was socially constructed based on sex stereotypes. i think we can all agree that stereotypes are Bad, so why should we identify with some set stereotypes?

the gender critical beliefs is that there’s not right or wrong way to be male or female (male and female in this post meaning to strictly refer to biological sex). gender is holding us back by continuing to subscribe to sex stereotypes and is counterproductive to building a society where people are free to express themselves however they like. (a lot of gender critical ppl equate gender identity with personality, and while i think this can sometimes be the case w nondysphoric people & mogai genders, it isn’t always and usually isnt, because as i mentioned before, a lot of ppl know enough to say that gender expression is something independent of gender identity.)as for my personal take on it & how it plays a part of my life (apologies that this is going to get super anecdotal):this all is related to my own transition. since questioning being trans, i fluctuated between different non-binary identities. i didnt think i was Trans Enough to call myself a transmale because i didnt want to kill myself over not having a penis (or even trans enough to call myself trans at all lol), so i thought i needed to stay as being nb. then i realized they/them pronouns did...... nothing for me. the whole time i had she/they/he or they/he in a profile i was always secretly hoping someone would just call me he lol.

but i felt like i was an insult to REAL transmen. it took me a while to realize that i didnt care too much about the specifics, i just needed to do what made me happy. that happiness was being read as male & using he/him pronouns.

but even then id still struggle. id have moments of thinking that i was just copying my best friend (who had a similar nb -> binary transmale path as me), or that i didnt even feel like a boy, that i was STILL faking being trans, that i should feel more of x y & z, that id made a mistake with starting testosterone, etc. reading radfem/gender critical stuff used to trigger the fuck out of me lmfao.i think what i eventually realized for myself and the sentiment other gender critical transppl share is that i was setting up an expectation/standard for myself that was impossible to attain. with mainstream gender theory, a cisman and i share our gender identity, our gender is the same (”cis” as its used to “identifying with your biological sex”). the thing is though, in terms of sex/gender, theres nothing i find that i have comparable to a male. i dont act like a “man” because im not one, im a TRANSman. ive lived most of my life so far as female and being socialized that way has been significant to me. i relate a lot to women and its always felt wrong to me how suddenly because im transitioning it felt to me like i was expected to revoke my right to speak on feminism/womens experiences. way before i discovered gender critical things i was pissed off at people trying to be “allies” to transpeople saying shit like “all men are trash transmen are real men so theyre trash too uwu!” like. fuck that. and fuck you for insinuating i would EVER treat a woman the way that men do.

like i know there are transmen (and just transppl in general, for that matter), who try to overcompensate with misogyny/misogynistic ideas because they think itll help them pass better but fuck

anyway. im proud of being a natal female and being socialized that way. being trans isnt exactly a party but im glad i could get the insight i have into the treatment of women and so forth. and the thing is, this isnt a contradiction to me being trans at all. once i let go of whether or not i was “male enough” of “valid” as a boy, i could once again just focus on the very concrete evidence in my life: i was EXTREMELY dysphoric about my chest. i’ve been on hrt for almost two years now and ive had top surgery. my dysphoria is almost non-existent since ive had surgery. i dont mind & even get excited about all the changes coming from being on testosterone. (dont like that i cant sing like i used to and that i’ll probably end up balding at least by my 50s if my dads head is any indication, but cismen have this problem too so whatever)

also ive never felt quite right when i was calling myself gay (exclusively attracted to men). i share some issues that gay men might, i Can be affected by homophobia because i Do pass as male, but its still not 100% the same experience and i think that distinction is importantmy concerns & how being gender critical is important to me:

me coming out as trans was a process over time. using the usual trans rhetoric, i was having difficulties explaining myself to people. specifically im thinking about my mom. when i said i was uncomfortable with being seen as a girl, she said she was uncomfortable too. she liked dressing more like a boy. some other shit she said too that i dont remember, but my basic takeaway: cispeople, particularly ciswomen, arent necessarily enthusiastically identifying with their correlated gender to their sex, because..... no reasonable person likes gender roles.

and i get worried about people like my mom who might be encouraged to identify as nonbinary just because theyre gender non-conforming. the identity itself wouldnt be much of a problem except that it seems to me like its being pretty normalized for nonbinary people to just kind of....... experiment with medical transitioning to try to achieve some Ideal androgynous form that would be.... Very difficult to achieve. i worry about people not thinking medical transitioning is a big deal and just kind of.... disregarding all the potential health consequences, how powerful testosterone is as a hormone, and so on. with the permanent changes that come people THEN end up experiencing dysphoria and life is.... really pretty difficult for detransitioned women from what i can tell, and a lot of people talk about how theres been a spike of people detransitioning lately.

i think part of the problem is 1. transmed/truscum people harassing & bullying nondysphoric trans-identified people, so they feel the need to medically transition to Prove Themselves and 2. just in general the aforementioned idea that everyone has a gender identity. i think itd be very uncommon for people to “identify” as cis, and so you get this whole mess of people thinking they need an androgynous body to match their androgynous identity......... etc.

bonus: my mom crying on her birthday because she said she didnt think shed be able to ever see me as a guy. “nonbinary, maybe, but you dont act like a boy.” problem solved, i dont act like a guy, i act like a transguy!!

also again, need to reiterate that i cant relate to men. i can never Become Male, not with our current technology. i was not socialized as male and thats okay!! its okay because im just doing what i need to in order to be comfortable with my body and myself. i dont need to worry about my dating pool seeing me as a Real Man because they can see me fully as the transman i am and my relationship with being a natal woman and just, shit like that. ive gotten a lot more comfortable with even being called she when it does happen (by accident by family members). its not a swear word to me and ive let go of a lot of expectations i thought i had to meet with being uncomfortable talking about my female organs and my past as living as a woman etc etc. im not trying to Be anything anymore. im just trying to live as myself

some of my issues with the gender critical community just as a disclaimer:

i have a lot honestly and im not going to be able to name them all off the top of my head

makes sense that it would be, but i think the community is rampant with transphobia in the sense of flattening transpeople to the “transcult” stereotype where they just..... dont seem to think of us as individuals. they think we’re all genderists getting triggered by misgendering & demanding our pronouns. they think all of us are “delusional” about our natal sex. they think we’re all gender conforming. they dont take dysphoria seriously in general, ESPECIALLY males experiencing dysphoria (i get that your feminism doesnt have to be concerned with “men” but come on). misgendering is just disrespectful to me (idgaf about rapists, whatever use whatever pronouns you feel the need for those people.)

just in general some people dont get that trans people can still exist in a post-gender world? and you can still be critical of gender while respecting people’s pronouns? by their very nature i think the transmed, radfem, and especially gender critical communities are attractive to bullies so you have those flocking to it, and thats an issue but... yeah.

this answer has gone on long enough and im really sorry anon im sure you didnt sign up to read a 13 page essay. i just got lost in my thoughts and felt like i had a lot of explaining to do. i think my feelings are both simple and complicated so idk if i even really answered your questions, i hope i did..., ;;

[joannrochaus]

Twitter blocks writer for saying ‘men aren’t women’

Meghan Murphy is a freelance writer and journalist who podcasts and writes about feminist issues. She was recently blocked from Twitter for questioning the validity of transgenderism.

In her response, she notes that “Twitter knowingly permits graphic pornography and death threats on the platform (I have reported countless violent threats, the vast majority of which have gone unaddressed), [but] they won’t allow me to state very basic facts, such as ‘men aren’t women.‘”

She adds: “This is hardly an abhorrent thing to say, nor should it be considered ‘hateful’ to ask questions about the notion that people can change sex, or ask for explanations about transgender ideology.”

Here’s her problem: Twitter has changed its rules to ban “misgendering or deadnaming of transgender individuals.” For those (like me) who didn’t know what these offenses are: “misgendering” is using a pronoun that contradicts a person’s perceived gender identity, while “deadnaming” means using a person’s “birth name” rather than the name they now prefer.

For instance, if I send a tweet describing Caitlyn Jenner as “him” rather than “her” or refer to this person as “Bruce,” I risk being blocked by Twitter.

Man disrobes in women’s locker room

In light of Twitter’s decision to enforce LGBTQ ideology, the following story, if posted on my Twitter account, could cause my expulsion.

Ben Shapiro is a popular conservative writer and Orthodox Jew. A fellow congregant told him that many of the women in their congregation exercise at a female-only gym for modesty purposes.

However, this month, a transgender woman–“a biological male who suffers from gender dysphoria,” as Shapiro describes the person–came to the gym.

This person, who retains his male biological characteristics, walked into the locker room and proceeded to disrobe. When management told him that he could use a private dressing room, he refused, announcing that he was a woman and could disrobe in front of the other women.

Many of the biological women began canceling their memberships. When management appealed to their supervisors, they were told that requiring the man to use a private dressing room or rejecting his membership would subject the company to litigation and possible boycott. So, the gym will have to lose its chief clientele because a man believes he has the right to disrobe in front of women.

Twitter would object to Shapiro’s and my “misgendering” this person.

The threat of being “deplatformed”

“Deplatforming” is denying a person or organization the right to speak, as when a university bans a conservative speaker or Facebook treats conservative employees unfairly.

The opposite occurs when society advances a particular ideology to the denigration or exclusion of others. For instance, popular culture is so replete with LGBT characters that we would never imagine they make up only 4.5 percent of the American adult population.

Decades ago, LGBTQ activists started working to normalize their lifestyles. We began to see gay and lesbian characters in movies and on television shows such as Will & Grace. Next, they moved to legalization, launching a strategy that began in Massachusetts and culminated in the 2015 Supreme Court decision legalizing same-sex marriage.

Now they have moved to ideological enforcement. If a person objects to LGBTQ dogma for any reason, that person is branded as intolerant and “homophobic.” He or she can be removed from social media and otherwise deplatformed.

How should Christians respond biblically?

The urgency of courage

Defending unpopular truth requires compassionate courage on our part. We’ll consider Jesus’ interaction with a Samaritan woman (John 4) as our model.

Let’s begin with courage.

In John 4, Jesus talked with an immoral woman at Jacob’s well, a very public place (vv. 6-7). He addressed her sexual immorality (vv. 16-18) and her theological confusion (vv. 19-24), dealing honestly with her sins and wrong beliefs. He risked rejection by her, the Samaritans in the region, and any Jews who learned of his interaction with her (v. 27).

However, he considered her eternal soul worth any cost to himself.

It is far easier to retreat from cultural issues than to engage with them. But the people being deceived by the falsehoods of our day deserve to know the truth.

Conservative commentator David French: “I understand the desire for social peace. Truly I do. The culture wars are exhausting and divisive. But treating every single human being with dignity and respect means not just defending their constitutional liberties and showing them basic human kindness, it also means telling the truth–even when the truth is hard.”

From water to “living water”

As we stand courageously for biblical truth, however, we must do so with gracious compassion.

For instance, we should relate to transgender people and their ideological supporters with empathy rather than antagonism. They have been taught that gender is “fluid” and truth is subjective. They are therefore convinced that they are embracing and defending a basic civil right and that those who oppose them are prejudiced and homophobic.

If we believed what they believe, we would probably see biblical Christians as they do.

Rather than condemn the Samaritan woman for her personal immorality or aberrant theology, Jesus asked her for water and moved their conversation to the “living water” of salvation (v. 10). He kept the focus on her need for a Messiah (v. 26) and led her entire village to himself (vv. 39-42).

In the same way, we should intercede for those with whom we disagree morally. Let’s ask Jesus to give us his heart for them and use our engagement to lead them to himself.

For whom will you pray today?

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Twitter blocks writer for saying ‘men aren’t women’

Meghan Murphy is a freelance writer and journalist who podcasts and writes about feminist issues. She was recently blocked from Twitter for questioning the validity of transgenderism.

In her response, she notes that “Twitter knowingly permits graphic pornography and death threats on the platform (I have reported countless violent threats, the vast majority of which have gone unaddressed), [but] they won’t allow me to state very basic facts, such as ‘men aren’t women.'”

She adds: “This is hardly an abhorrent thing to say, nor should it be considered ‘hateful’ to ask questions about the notion that people can change sex, or ask for explanations about transgender ideology.”

Here’s her problem: Twitter has changed its rules to ban “misgendering or deadnaming of transgender individuals.” For those (like me) who didn’t know what these offenses are: “misgendering” is using a pronoun that contradicts a person’s perceived gender identity, while “deadnaming” means using a person’s “birth name” rather than the name they now prefer.

For instance, if I send a tweet describing Caitlyn Jenner as “him” rather than “her” or refer to this person as “Bruce,” I risk being blocked by Twitter.

Man disrobes in women’s locker room

In light of Twitter’s decision to enforce LGBTQ ideology, the following story, if posted on my Twitter account, could cause my expulsion.

Ben Shapiro is a popular conservative writer and Orthodox Jew. A fellow congregant told him that many of the women in their congregation exercise at a female-only gym for modesty purposes.

However, this month, a transgender woman–“a biological male who suffers from gender dysphoria,” as Shapiro describes the person–came to the gym.

This person, who retains his male biological characteristics, walked into the locker room and proceeded to disrobe. When management told him that he could use a private dressing room, he refused, announcing that he was a woman and could disrobe in front of the other women.

Many of the biological women began canceling their memberships. When management appealed to their supervisors, they were told that requiring the man to use a private dressing room or rejecting his membership would subject the company to litigation and possible boycott. So, the gym will have to lose its chief clientele because a man believes he has the right to disrobe in front of women.

Twitter would object to Shapiro’s and my “misgendering” this person.

The threat of being “deplatformed”

“Deplatforming” is denying a person or organization the right to speak, as when a university bans a conservative speaker or Facebook treats conservative employees unfairly.

The opposite occurs when society advances a particular ideology to the denigration or exclusion of others. For instance, popular culture is so replete with LGBT characters that we would never imagine they make up only 4.5 percent of the American adult population.

Decades ago, LGBTQ activists started working to normalize their lifestyles. We began to see gay and lesbian characters in movies and on television shows such as Will & Grace. Next, they moved to legalization, launching a strategy that began in Massachusetts and culminated in the 2015 Supreme Court decision legalizing same-sex marriage.

Now they have moved to ideological enforcement. If a person objects to LGBTQ dogma for any reason, that person is branded as intolerant and “homophobic.” He or she can be removed from social media and otherwise deplatformed.

How should Christians respond biblically?

The urgency of courage

Defending unpopular truth requires compassionate courage on our part. We’ll consider Jesus’ interaction with a Samaritan woman (John 4) as our model.

Let’s begin with courage.

In John 4, Jesus talked with an immoral woman at Jacob’s well, a very public place (vv. 6-7). He addressed her sexual immorality (vv. 16-18) and her theological confusion (vv. 19-24), dealing honestly with her sins and wrong beliefs. He risked rejection by her, the Samaritans in the region, and any Jews who learned of his interaction with her (v. 27).

However, he considered her eternal soul worth any cost to himself.

It is far easier to retreat from cultural issues than to engage with them. But the people being deceived by the falsehoods of our day deserve to know the truth.

Conservative commentator David French: “I understand the desire for social peace. Truly I do. The culture wars are exhausting and divisive. But treating every single human being with dignity and respect means not just defending their constitutional liberties and showing them basic human kindness, it also means telling the truth–even when the truth is hard.”

From water to “living water”

As we stand courageously for biblical truth, however, we must do so with gracious compassion.

For instance, we should relate to transgender people and their ideological supporters with empathy rather than antagonism. They have been taught that gender is “fluid” and truth is subjective. They are therefore convinced that they are embracing and defending a basic civil right and that those who oppose them are prejudiced and homophobic.

If we believed what they believe, we would probably see biblical Christians as they do.

Rather than condemn the Samaritan woman for her personal immorality or aberrant theology, Jesus asked her for water and moved their conversation to the “living water” of salvation (v. 10). He kept the focus on her need for a Messiah (v. 26) and led her entire village to himself (vv. 39-42).

In the same way, we should intercede for those with whom we disagree morally. Let’s ask Jesus to give us his heart for them and use our engagement to lead them to himself.

For whom will you pray today?

The post Twitter blocks writer for saying ‘men aren’t women’ appeared first on Denison Forum.

source https://www.denisonforum.org/columns/daily-article/twitter-blocks-writer-saying-men-arent-women/