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Hey there's this girl in my class who's been writing me (outta 250 ppl in our class).
At the beginning it was to have sum information about a trip she couldn't go to, but now she keeps writing me without a reason n all my friends think it's bcuz she likes me but she didn't make my gaydar blip or anything... Actually she looks hetero 100%
How do I understand if she's being gay or just polite wtf please send help🙏☠️
Ahh the good ole “is she flirting” dilemma gotta love it
Unfortunately (again) i am really not the person to ask as i am both Oblivious™️ and lacking like most of the other context to this but if I had to give advice i would say:
Don’t discount her on stuff like gaydar like maybe mine is just faulty af but i get it wrong CONSTANTLY lol I learned really quick to just not try and guess and let people tell me themselves. And then also just be patient with it! Maybe she’s interested in you romantically or maybe she’s interested in being your friend! And both are great things to have :) either way if she keeps reaching out it sounds like she’s been enjoying talking with you so maybe just persue the connection naturally and see where it goes!
Idk maybe try inviting her out to a casual lunch and see how it goes, it’s hard to tell if a relationship will develop without first developing the base relationship at all imo
I’m really sorry I can’t be of any actual help but good luck with it all!!
#asks#for those keeping count i am now 0 for 3 in terms of advice asks😌#putting the useless back into useless lesbian frfr#i usually tell my irl friends things similar to this when they ask me advice#but then they say ‘no that’s not how it WORKS’#so i can only assume i’m misunderstanding some fundamental part of dating at all times#idk like even if you start dating early i always feel like you gotta be friends first#so there’s no harm in trying to be friends with someone while ALSO trying to figure out if a dating relationship is on the table#again though i’ve been told i’m missing something there so i’m probably wrong somehow lol#oh and by friends first i mean just like establishing a friendly connection beyond like school or work communication#do NOT mean people have to go through months of friendship to date#to clarify#idk im really out of my depth with this kind of thing if you can’t tell😓#🍀 <- four leaf clover to wish you luck!
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