#some interview mentioned Malia knows what sex is

[ultfreakme]

Malia Tate: A lost opportunity

I am scrolling through a bunch of teen wolf posts and it seems like back then, opinions on Malia were very split. I don’t know the ratio but there definitely was heated argument about Malia as a character, her purpose in the show, and accusations being thrown left, right and center about what opinions on her character entailed. 

Here’s the thing; Malia, as a concept, is amazing. She’s a girl who was stuck in the form of a coyote for around a decade because she was ridden with guilt about the death of her mom and sister. A girl who hasn’t been a human girl in years. Maybe she could’ve been used to explore the borders of ‘human’ and ‘animal’ in were-creatures. Were-creatures aren’t just humans who can transform into animals- they are separate from humans, but they aren’t animals either. But here’s a girl, who supposedly lived as an animal for half her life. That is potential to explore a new dimension to what being a were-creature entails and what that means for Scott, Isaac, and any other were-creature born or bitten. 

But here’s what happened- and I’m no expert okay, this is just my observation- Malia has a lot of elements of the ‘born sexy yesterday’ trope. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0thpEyEwi80 -> for some deeper info, it’s this video. 

In a nutshell, it means the character exhibits childlike innocence, naivety and wonder(these traits being exemplified and prioritized), but this childlike behaviour is juxtaposed with sexualization. Malia isn’t sexualized per se(she strips naked in front of people but Lydia was also wholly naked that one time Peter was fucking with her mind and every guy in Teen Wolf has been half-naked and the camera ogles at them so it doesn’t count). But Malia is shown doing the same things as the other teens. Her first introduction and major scenes were also either either sexual or romantic(most often with Stiles). 

Her integration into human society is seamless and only passing comments are made on her difficulties, and even these difficulties aren’t debilitating like it logically should be. Humans who’ve been born and raised in human societies have difficulty adapting to other cultures. Tourists often accidentally offend locals, it’s common etiquette to learn about a society before visiting or entering it. Still, humans make mistakes. 

Yet Malia shows none of these complications. Her ‘coyote’ side is shown as a quirky thing, moments to chuckle at. Stiles’s “That’s progress” comments are jokes and nothing more. 

Yes they show her having difficulties in class, but it isn’t shown beyond surface level things. She can’t answer in class but she has a functioning romantic relationship that works on human terms(terms even normal humans can’t grasp), her wardrobe is immaculate with cohesion and abides by beauty standards embedded into us over years. If I saw Malia Tate as she is portrayed in the show in public, I’d just think she’s a little fierce and aggressive but nothing out of the ordinary. 

It doesn’t make sense for her background. Why and how is she able to adapt so well and take her PSAT’s when she shouldn’t be? You could say this is a urban fantasy show where logic doesn’t exist but the thing about fictional worlds is you can MAKE rules. And these rules are abided by in-universe. There were no rules or explanations for why Malia is so good at this. They could’ve solved it tbh- just say she often sat at the back porches of normal human households or hid in places where she observed human interactions constantly which is why she’s so good. But they didn’t. So. 

Explanation for her behaviour, her attitude and outfits make way more sense when you know that Malia is Cora’s replacement, who in turn is Erica’s replacement(Side note: there’s this outfit Malia wears, a loose red top and black shorts, which looks like a copy-pasta of one of Erica’s outfits at the party where Jackson was apprehended for a bit- loose white top and black shorts. It could’ve been a total coincidence but the only thing I could think when I saw that outfit was ‘ERICAAAAAAAAAA!’).

Malia probably wasn’t thought through, because if she were, any writer worth their dime would instantly realize putting her in high school and a romantic relationship when she’s barely reconnected with her dad sounds like a terrible way to handle a character. Also.....she had her first sexual experience with someone IN A MENTAL ASYLUM WHEN THE GUY WAS POSSESSED, DESPERATE, DRUGGED, SAD AND OUT OF HIS FUCKING MIND. Do the writers hate Malia??? Why the fuck would you do that to a character you birthed like WHY!? You can do horrible things to characters, that’s fine, but why would you portray something this sad and tragic like it’s something good? The whole scene made me feel bad for both her and Stiles. It isn’t romantic. It isn’t cute. It’s sad.

I think they found some footing for what to do with Malia later- her haircut and wardrobe change. Even still, they didn’t use the potential they built up. The plot with her mom could’ve happened to any were-creature, with or without the whole ‘lived as a coyote for 8 years’ thing.  

I feel like she could’ve been something interesting, something groundbreaking and cool. A fresh perspective for the show. But they just.....did *vague handwaves at steaming pile* that. 

It’s like having a great idea/project but not doing the work to fully bring out the awesomeness of it. I like what Malia could’ve been and what we saw of her and seeing a character being butchered like this makes me want to scream into a pillow till I die. 

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How Having a Small Penis Messes With Men’s Minds     

I noticed my penis was one of the smaller in the bunch as a kid, when I used the communal showers after swimming, track and basketball practices. So for a long time public washing was strictly off limits—I'd rather drive home from the gym in my sweaty clothes and shower in the privacy of my own apartment.

My insecurities about his 3.3-inch erection affect more than just my hygiene habits. Condoms didn't stay on well, and that made sex more of an anxiety trip than it already was. In a recent bout of obsession, I gathered a "database" of scientific papers on penises and measured myself multiple times a day for several weeks to see how I sized up. Growing up, it shaped me socially, even when my pants were on. Because of teasing from my brothers and some team mates at school I became quite insecure.  I had an ongoing fear that I would never grow up, never become a man.  I feel that my low self-esteem, due to my size, was a main driver for this.  I did an interview with Michelle Malia, freelance reporter on November 3 2017 that was published in Tonic. 

I am reprinting the article here.

I suspect that lots of guys can relate to my story. It is part of why I started this website.

THE TONIC ARTICLE

Almost one in five American men are unhappy with the length of their erection, according to a recent study of more than 4,000 men, and another 15 percent have a problem with their girth. You won't be surprised to learn that the guys who thought their penises fell short had less sex than the penis-proud group. "Being small can be the heaviest of burdens. I'm genuinely afraid of everything and everybody alike," says David, 30. "I feel I just can't be truly sexually desirable to women with my size."

There's a lot of dick-shaming that perpetuates this idea. When Marco Rubio exposed Donald Trump's small hands, Trump felt the need to tell the whole country that his penis was perfectly fine, thanks. (On national television. During a presidential debate.) In a Fat Shack ad, a seductive blonde—lips parted, a trail of mustard dripping out of her mouth á la cum—holds a sandwich. "Four inches has never been so satisfying," the caption reads.

It goes beyond mainstream news and marketing and weasels its way into casual conversation. "A lot of the jokes we make in everyday life are often sexually related in one way or another," says Abraham Morgentaler, a urologist and the director of Men's Health Boston, whose practice focuses on the health effects of testosterone deficiency. "It's sort of standard humor for guys to josh each other about masculinity type stuff, including penis size."

Movies and television frequent take jabs at villains and characters by assaulting their masculinity.  No one would consider making fun of a man with one arm, or a blind individual.  When asked in a recent Bloomberg poll what bothered them most about Donald Trump voters picked one action above all others: when he mocked a reporter with a disability in November 2015.   But no one winces when someone makes fun of a man’s small penis.  Interesting!

Morgentaler calls men with dick fixations "peno-centric." The idea that the size of your junk validates you as a man might start as early as boyhood. "When we're younger and coming of age sexually, when there's a lack of sophistication about what it means, number one, to be a man, and number two to be a good lover, the thing that men can see and point to and certainly think about is really the penis," he says.

Boyhood is synonymous with inexperience, and sadly, we don't magically figure everything out as adults. Some guys may think they're small even when they're not, but for the ones who do fall left of the bell curve, the best way to get over it is by being realistic about what your penis "should" look like and how important it really is in the long term”, Morgentaler says.

Lots of people never have the chance to see other people having healthy, real-life sex, so they might base their expectations on the sex they do see, usually in porn. But—shocker—porn is not real life. Those macho men are more than well endowed and that can give off the wrong idea, that you need to sport an eight- or nine-inch shaft (also, ow—but we'll get to that later) to satisfy your sex partners.

"If a guy watches 50 or 100 of these video clips, he's going to feel inadequate because he may be smaller than every one of those," Morgentaler says. "But those men are extremely unusual." When researchers sifted through data on more than 15,000 men, they found that the average penis is 3.6 inches soft and 5.2 inches erect. Nothing like many of the massive dicks we see on our laptops.

On a purely biological level, it's also irrational to think size has anything to do with your baby-making skills. "If it matters from an evolutionary standpoint, the best question would be, does it increase fertility?" says Robert Martin, an evolutionary biologist and adjunct professor at the University of Chicago. "The testes size indicates the potential of producing sperm, but I don't see any connection between penis size and anything that would be important in evolutionary terms." There's no evidence that primates have ever used their penises as a power display, he adds, and it may even have little to no effect on how physically desirable you are as a man.

Australian researchers generated 343 life-size male figures that ranged in body shape, body height, and penis size. They projected these "men" on a screen and asked 105 heterosexual women to rate how sexually attractive they were. The women cared most about body shape, which was responsible for 79.6 percent of attractiveness. (They preferred a triangular torso with wide shoulders and narrow hips.) Height came next with 6.1 percent, and penis size fell by the wayside, accounting for only 5.1 percent of attractiveness. "It seems to be a male preoccupation," Martin says.

It's a preoccupation that can be debilitating. Andy, 24, has never heard complaints from sex partners about his 4.7-inch erection, but he still can't shake the feeling that he's coming up a half-inch short. "It lingers in my mind throughout the day on a regular basis," he says. "It causes great anxiety and depression most of the time." Andy started to notice he was smaller than average when he was 19. Like Jase, he also measures a lot. "There [have] been days when I find myself spending a huge amount of time with a ruler next to my penis."

When he's naked in front of sex partners, he often tries to cut through the awkwardness of the initial reveal by being self-deprecating—"It's small, huh?"—but nobody has ever complained or agreed.

It's not crazy that Andy's partners aren't throwing him shade. When it's part of the equation, the penis is an important part of sex—whether it's the real thing or the dildo equivalent. But it's not everything. "How we talk and behave in bed, how we touch, these are all important parts of what makes for good sex," Morgentaler says. "The hands and the mouth and the lips are all part of that. The penis is just one part of the repertoire."

Bigger is not always better, and that goes for anal, too. Research in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that 72 percent of women and 15 percent of men feel pain during anal sex. In another study, 76 percent of bottoms reported pain during anal, and for 23 percent of those guys, it was worse than mild.

Not to mention more than a third of women need clitoral stimulation, not penetration, to reach orgasm.

Jace told us that he wonders if he was born bisexual, or if his life experiences led him to exploring sexuality with men, specifically because of his fear of intimacy with women after bad experiences.  In his relationships with women he told us that he had used large strap-ons, penis extenders, and sex toys of all kinds before he finally figured out all women need is need is clitoral stimulation to reach her oh-my-god moments. Now I helps her plateau using the basics: his mouth and, sometimes, a vibrator.  In his relations with men Jace told us that he is exclusively a bottom, and has come to prefer orgasms through prostate stimulation. 

Jace has three decades of life in the books, he's been married and in a long term dom/sub relationship with another man—that's a lot of time to figure out what is and isn't important in your relationships and sex life. Younger guys might need to live a little more before they figure that out. "Every time I hear stories about guys my age hooking up and having one-night stands and even being in relationships, it gets to me because I know I can't ever do any of those [things] because of my size," Andy says.

The peno-centric approach can keep you from engaging with others in all sorts of ways, whether fully clothed or bare-ass naked. Morgentaler recently saw a patient who was worried that he wasn't "developed" down there—despite his junk being "completely normal," Morgentaler says—and because of that, he was still a virgin.

Jace doesn't get regular checkups anymore, because at his last visit the doctor brought in several interns including a young woman to check him for a hernia. "I really thought that I was going to die of embarrassment right in the doctor's office," he says.

David doesn't like swimming or going to the beach because he feels exposed. "I can say with all my heart, I'd be way more happy and have a better life if I had a normal penis," he says.

It might seem like a huge deal when it comes to first-time hookups or one-night stands, but in the longer term, your penis does not take top priority. Most aspects of a relationship have nothing to do with what's in your pants—compatibility, mutual respect, and sense of humor, to name a few. Good sex is also high up there in importance, but using your penis is just one way to satisfy your partner, and it's naive to prioritize size over everything else.

"I would emphasize that this problem often goes away when a guy ends up in a stable relationship, because the couple figures out what they do that works, and penis size is usually not an impediment," Morgentaler says. "The quality of the man is not dependent on the size of his penis."

[trolling-since-chernobyl]

Ok i'm browsing through your salt and saw the anon ask about how DOB refused to do Stalia sex scene but "imrpovised" Std. I don't know about STD scene, but he refused to have a sex scene with Malia not just because he was uncomfortable, but because they didn't know each other well enough to have sex. (He also dragged Davis for it later). I think Davis simply has zero idea on how to write healthy hetero relationships and how to treat women properly (as in, not males dick decoration) which shows.

Srydia stans say the panic kiss attack was improvised by Dob, who should have acted it like he was offended, but I didn't find any evidences back then, so I have no idea. I remember Dob, on some panel with Tyler H, talked about that Stalia scene and if I'm not wrong, he said exactly what you mentioned. But well, I'm not that into dob (lol), so I'm not following his panels, interviews, wishes, likes, whatever.