So, recently my party met and was challenged to prove themselves capable by a high-ranking npc in the kingdom. (turns out he was just bored and it provided him an opportunity to stretch his old battle muscles)
So here he is, one of the ruling barons in my dnd game!
i think a large part of éowyn's hesitancy with faramir comes from a fear of letting herself be known in a vulnerable way. she really put her heart out on her sleeve when she begged aragorn to take her with him on the path of the dead, and she was rejected for it.
the wound still smarts, but not necessarily because she had romantic feelings for him at the time. to be so rejected in a moment of such vulnerability is humiliating and she's still in the process of recovering her wounded pride when she meets faramir in the houses of healing.
“What should I do about the wild and the tame? The wild heart that wants to be free, and the tame heart that wants to come home. I want to be held. I don't want you to come too close. I want you to scoop me up and bring me home at nights. I don't want to tell you where I am. I want to keep a place among the rocks where no one can find me. I want to be with you.”
~ Jeanette Winterson-
Damn right I'm angry.
I've spent my life recovering from things that I should have been protected from.
I was too young to become a ghost full of grief. Children are supposed to be happy and free.
Don't tell me I wouldn't be who I am today without the struggles I faced.
I already know that. I could have been a little girl instead of being forced to grow up.
The people who were supposed to protect me, failed me. No amount of healing will change that fact.
Damn right I'm angry, I'll never get my childhood back.
i feel like addressing some fandom takes i've seen in the past that i feel are bad faith interpretations of éowyn's fate and/or choices at the end of the trilogy, simply because they've been on my mind and i want to get them out of the way:
éowyn gives up her dreams of battle/glory to be a wife/mother.
✦ first of all: she doesn't give up anything. by the time éowyn decides to lay down her arms in favor of a peaceful life, she has already experienced the heat and chaos of combat by riding with the rohirrim to the battle of pelennor fields, and achieved both glory and renown for her name by slaying the witch-king of angmar (with merry's timely assist). whatever she chooses to do after the war is over, she's already lived that dream.
✦ second of all: éowyn decides to give up a life of fighting in favor of becoming a healer specifically because of her experience on the battlefield. she decides, well before agreeing to marry faramir, that she wants to learn how to heal as she was healed, brought back from the black breath by a common weed in the hands of a king.
✧ choosing to lead a more peaceful life after finally experiencing the true horrors of war is an act of wisdom gained through trauma that has very little to do with who she later chooses to marry and start a family with.
and of course:
éowyn settles for faramir because she can't have aragorn.
✦ firstly: while i do believe éowyn's feelings for aragorn were real to her, i don't actually think they were that deep—at least, not that deeply in love with him. despite the attraction which aragorn tries very hard to side-step, i think that éowyn's extended interest in him stems more from what he represents to her at a time when she craves it the most: a life of battle, glory, and renown.
✧ éowyn wants access to the deeds and accolades her brother has been granted since birth, in part because it has been often denied to her for the sake of her womanhood. after she's had a proper taste of that life, smelt the sweat and the blood and the death, she decides it's not for her—and neither is aragorn, as high and lordly as he's become. he was always going to be out of her reach, and in the end she realizes she doesn't really want that either, anyway.
✦ secondly: faramir, by contrast to aragorn, does represent a very different life from the one that éowyn thought she always wanted (as seemingly embodied by aragorn). like éowyn, faramir desires a life of peace among his people now that peace for gondor is finally at hand. what he represents, ultimately, is the kind of life éowyn has already decided she wants to lead now that the worst fighting for middle-earth is done: a life of peace and healing.
✧ éowyn doesn't settle for faramir, she settles with faramir. not because she can't have someone else, but because she no longer wants someone else.
so yeah. i deeply disagree with both of these takes on éowyn's choice to lay down her arms and live a more peaceful life after the war of the ring or her decision to spend that life with a kind and gentle man. and that's all i have to say about that (for now).