#this isn’t even discourse or drama this is basic human decency and you all can’t even do that

[kentopedia]

it takes less effort to keep your mouth shut than it does to be a horrible person, and i hope people are aware that cruelty gets you nowhere.

[impashableimagines]

What the FUCK Arcana Fandom?

Hi everyone. I'm sorry to derail from imagines again so soon, and after only posting one yesterday, but I think there's an obvious issue in the fandom right now that needs to be addressed.

So I give you this: a plea to the fandom from a very tired 23 year old disabled bi lady who just wants to enjoy her fandom again in peace. Here we go.

Many of the members of this fandom are grown adults, but don't forget, many of them are also minors. I've seen some members as young as 14, and there may be even younger fans in the fandom here. Many of us have been on the same discord servers and have been friends for months, if not longer, and yet now we stand divided, picking sides in a situation most of us weren't around to bear witness to, with very little to no evidence beyond hearsay. We should be taking care of each other and trying to repair our fandom, not infighting and starting a goddamn fandom war.

There's been so much drama going on that I don't even know 100% of it, and after talking about it with a lot of people, I doubt anyone else in the fandom does either, even those who are at the center of it all. But this isn't about the content of that drama, or about who's right or wrong. That can wait.

This is about the anonymous hate messages being sent, and even the public, open hate. I don't know who's sending it anonymously, but at this point, I doubt it's people from either immediate side who are invested in the argument, but rather people just trying to stir up some more shit when they see callout posts or retaliation-callout posts. The people sending it publicly are also causing a problem, which also needs to be addressed, because what the fuck guys??

But this "war" of y'all's? It needs to stop. Those of us who are adults should be setting a better example for the younger fans and having civil discourse, being open and having real honest conversations, taking honest looks at ourselves when we're called out and figuring out why, correcting ourselves and doing better in the future, instead of starting wars, deliberately misgendering people we feel wronged by, and getting defensive when we feel attacked because we think we did nothing wrong. That's privilege and false caring masquerading as allyship. If you aren't correcting yourself when you misgender someone, even someone you don't like, that's not being a good ally. That's deliberate transphobic behavior, and you need to be aware of that fact when you make that choice. You can't call yourself an ally and then do something like that against a member of the community you claim to be an ally (or even are a member) of. Be kind to each other. Treat each other how you want to be treated. Follow the Golden Rule of life.

I love y'all, every single one of you, on both sides of this war, and those like me who are caught in between with friends on both sides, but we need to work on self reflection, get rid of this "aggressively violent call-out and equally aggressively violent retaliation" culture, and start being kinder to each other, or our fandom is going to devolve into being just as much of a miserable cesspool as the major fandoms, just full of anger and hate and violent words that destroys us all from within and makes us hate our own fandom, and ultimately the game it began with.

I've heard about people sending anonymous hate messages to Caspin, saying God knows what. I wasn't awake to see what was said to Caspin, and tbh, I don't particularly want to know what was said, because if it drove them to delete their blog, it had to have been fucking bad. I was so furious when I found out Caspin had been essentially run off of their blog by anonymous fuckwads throwing hate at them, and I'm still hurt by that fact.

I've also heard about people sending anonymous hate to a 15 year old fandom member who was involved in the callout situation, calling them a cunt and a r*tard, amongst other things. What the fuck, y'all. They're fucking 15. How fucking dare you.

I don't give a shit if they called your fave blogger out for saying something you don't think they deserved to be called out for. Fuck, I don't care if they're the goddamn personification of the devil himself. Calling a 15 year old a cunt and following it up with calling her a fucking ableist slur? What kind of person do you want to be: a good ally to the disabled community, or someone who uses the word r*tard as an insult against a 15 year old child? You can't do both, y'all. (I'm sorry, as a disabled person, I get fired up about this. It's fucking ridiculous I'm having to explain this to y'all.) Again, I'll repeat myself. Treat others how you'd like to be treated.

Even worse, though, I've heard about people making deliberate threats against the people involved in the callout situation, talking about wanting to harm those people or even kill them, which, in case y'all weren't aware, is a fucking felony, and written or verbal threats, even and especially those posted online, can be pursued in court, especially repetitive ones. A third time: Treat others how you want to be treated.

Grow the fuck up, Arcana fandom. This is basic human decency. Yet again: treat others how you want to be treated. It's getting repetitive, I know, but apparently a lot of people need to hear it.

I've talked with people on both sides of this so-called war, including @lesbianarcana, who has been alleged as the source of much of the drama going on. I've formed my own opinions about this issue on a middle ground using information from both sides, and if you care enough to ask me about my thoughts, I'll happily share them in a DM or in a post addressing that at a later time. But that's not what this post is about, so I'll refrain from going any deeper into it right now.

Please, Arcana fandom. We can be better. We have been better. Can we please just all try to do better? Otherwise, I'm afraid we'll lose hold of the fandom I know we all love dearly, and many of our beloved members will ultimately leave the fandom because of the drama. I don't want that for this fandom. I love it too much to watch it go to hell like this.

[matryoshkalex]

On the YouTube Discourse

Discourse and shit aren’t my favorite things but I want to put my opinion out there on all the YouTube drama centered around Felix at the moment.

Let me start off by saying that I’m not really a huge fan of Felix, but I can’t stand people jumping to such harsh and serious conclusions just because of some ill-advised jokes. He’s already acknowledged that he went too far with the jokes and apologised yet people still seem to think that he’s a Nazi or anti-semi although he very obviously isn’t. Another thing, why the hell do people think that attacking his friends just because they’re defending him as a person—not the jokes he made—why does anyone think that that’s okay? Mark literally made an entire video talking about basic human respect and here people feel the need to turn that right around and say that he was excusing whatever Felix did even when he explicitly said that he didn’t condone the jokes that were made. What kind of bullshit makes people believe that attacking, fighting, and being ridiculously disrespectful to people is going to change anything? Seán did the opppsite of what Mark did, focusing more on the actual drama and pointing out that his friend made a mistake and was paying for it but he still got attacked for that. It’s so fucking stupid. If these people actually listened to a word that any of them said, they would realize that Mark had been pushed to the point where you could see just how angry he was because people have lost the most basic sense of respect and human decency and continue to push that, they would see that Seán wasn’t bashing Felix but he also wasn’t saying that what he did was fine because it wasn’t, and they would see that Felix was very genuinely sorry for what he did and he knows that he fucked up and he’s taking the consequences humbly because he knows that he made a mistake.

But sadly people don’t listen and instead they take second-hand knowledge and heresay to make strongly worded opinions on matters that they don’t even understand.