#tldr its not a moral failure to identify with ur assigned gender and to argue that would be incredibly ridiculous | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

sammygender · 1 month

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the thing thats always missing in conversations about gender in general is the fact that 'cis', as an identity, is not a innate Thing Some People Are, but rather a state of acceptance society grooms us into from birth

#im sorry but no one is inherently 'cis' bc gender is inherently not real (saying this in cool trans way not transphobe way).#being 'cis' just means you live as the gender youve been assigned. being 'genuinely' cis in a way where youre not repressing anything and #you're truly happy to be that way means you're the ideal and desired endgame of the whole gendered culture and have been successfully #groomed into accepting only half of yourself (the half that can exist in the gender role you inhabit)#Like every culture agrees that people have both 'masculine' and 'feminine' within them but on entry to the earth the vast majority of peopl #are placed within a role that rewards either 'masculine' or 'feminine' but not both. and of course everyone continues to be both but #theyve still been placed in one role.#To be honest i think we need to rid ourselves of the idea of gender as something innate even though its nice to teach to well-meaning #liberal cis people. 'born this way' dogma was a useful vehicle to pitch existence in but its unhelpful when queer people actually act like #its the whole truth and nothing but the truth.#dont get me wrong i couldnt be a girl cause i self destructed and died and that was just something within me. totally that is a thing 100%.#hashtag born this way. but just because it doesnt go that far for some people doesnt mean that theyre Innately Cis. it means they accept #their circumstance and r priviledged to be able to do so. thats what cis means #to be clear: i say being cis is the result of grooming. thats not to say that people who reject cisness are smarter or more radical #necessarily or doing the right thing. some people stay cis and push the boundaries of that role wherever possible and thats just as radical #i think in fact its more radical than trans people who ruthlessly uphold gender roles #tldr its not a moral failure to identify with ur assigned gender and to argue that would be incredibly ridiculous #but the only reason u feel identification with it at all is because of the grooming. shrug emoji.#oliver talks #gender #gender abolition #gender assignment is grooming & its violence & its awful #ted talk over #Disclaimer if anyone wants to pick a fight that i do literally identify as trans so take of that what you will

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