#to teach them how to love and be loved well. selflessly and wholly. without artifice and with understanding

[handweavers]

when someone has it drilled in their head from childhood that they are a black sheep and an island and cannot trust anyone in the family other than their sibling and parents, that no one else will truly be there for them or love them as they deserve to be loved, trying to be the first one in the family to break through that and love them well and be someone they can trust is an uphill and thankless battle but it's worth it because i love them and i know they love me. "please let me lance that wound and clean it or it'll kill you" but they have to give me permission to do it and keep choosing to give me that permission. for both our sakes, because we need each other and cannot afford to not have each other. but these things cannot be forced. you cannot save people you can only love them. and so on and so forth