#while Ghlai isn't

[wayfinder-family-lover]

Honestly, for me the people who think like that either live in the same privileges as Lee and Fah when it comes to their parents (which I am happy for them, because we do deserve more parents like them) or aren't queers themselves.

I think there is also a misconception of Rak's dad reactions in previous episodes. Everyone is saying that he watched bl on his own accord. But it's only half true. Yes, he watch naughty babe, but he didn't know it was a bl until Rak told him.

People say he watched a bl series knowing what it is. It's not the case. He watches a series, likes it, learn it's a bl and decide to continue watch it, because he is entertain. It's absolutely not the same thing! Does make him watch bl help him become an ally? Absolutely! Does him watching bl makes him an ally? Hell no!

Even the puppy scene. By personal experience, I feel it's mostly him accepting because Dom is the one to ask. I has growing up ask things to my friends or cousins parents to do something, because if I am the one asking we were more likely to have a positive respond than if it was them. And this is the feeling I get here. Dom is the one asking and paying for everything. And while, he acknowledge that his children would be happy and are responsable, it's mostly because someone else take care of the financial part and ask he is okay.

Again, doesn't mean he isn't kind or loving or caring. It's just mean he is an asian dad. With his strick rules and conservative mind at time. An exemple of conservative mind, is in episode 6 when Rak asked him to kiss his head, he said that they were people here, isn't he ashamed, pointed to Dom and Fah. Which lol Dom doesn't care and Fah would happily kiss Rak in his place.

But when Babe come for a kiss? He gave it to her, no problem?

It's obvious the difference is because Babe is a girl and Rak a boy. And this doesn't make the scene less cute or fun. Because it's such a cute and fun scene! It doesn't take away the moments where the dad is kind and caring and loving toward his children! It just make him a complex characters. Who feelings change depend on the people and circumtances as human do.

I personnally think Your Sky coming out scene is super important to have. Because it's one we practically never see, while it's probably the most common out there. All queers series I saw has two type of coming out scenes:

The parents are homophobic and put their children in danger but change mind in the last second and suddenly become super supportive.

The parents are always supportive and the children are either never concern about it or their concerns are treat as them being silly or something in the past that they shouldn't care about anymore, that everyone has move forward.

The two others coming out scenes I can think that doesn't exactly fit is Apple My love, where Kris coming out was practically on impulse so very quick and the parents reassure her quickly (which technically fit the second one). And the second is Wedding plan the series, where the homophobic mom is still homophobic, but because she saw her friend's daughter elope for not accepting her, she decides to change and accept her son because she actually loves him and doesn't want to loose him. But we see she is still isn't happy about it, but is trying to change for her son (who technically fit the first one).

Your Sky takes another approach. It choose to show all the reaction.

The good one, with the Phisut family. Who we see make sure their sons know they are ok with whoever they bring in. They aren't scare, because they know for sure they are ok, as they were told as much growing up. And their reactions both validate Fah's approach of being chill about coming out and invalidate Rak's of being scare. Even if, no one ever judge Rak or say he is overthinking or anything. At least, until the preview, who Lee say that. But again, Lee is privilege. Of course for him a family who is loving will accept Rak. They both have loving and caring family so they would react the same!

We have the middle reaction. From what I see in the preview, Rak's mom and grandpa will be shock. But not exactly homophobic. Because they just never consider the possibility of Teerak dating a boy. The heteronormative thinking is so engrained in their brains, that Rak bringing a man as a lover never cross their minds. Seeing Fah will shock them, but from the way the mom tried to calm the dad, she will get into her sense quickly and accept Fah. Just need a bit more time to process, I think it's the same for the grandpa.

And the dad is the bad reaction. Validating Teerak's fears and invalidating Fah's chill approach. From what I heard there is a reason for his reaction in the book, which we will most likely hear in the next episode (as they say episode 12 will be the sweetest and spiciest episode of the series, I think everything will be solve in one hour). I don't know the reason, but his reaction is still one we don't usually see. How to react when your loving dad suddenly turn against you for being queer? How to react to lose the love you always had? How to react to see your love one be disappoint in you for something that you can't control? How to deal with people not accepting you, for loving someone? How to deal with someone who's opinion you value is against you for who you are?

Honestly, I like what Your Sky does with the dad and Rak's family, because for the first time, I have a bad coming out, where I do not fear for the queer character life. I do not fear for Rak's life, I know he wouldn't be disown or expulse from his family. If he does left the home, I think it's will be RAK'S CHOICE not his dad. And this will be important. Because it will be him rebelling and fighting for his love. Trying to find a way to talk to his dad in a place that are more neutral to them and not the home where he is the master and Teerak is emotional because it's where he grow up.

Not only that, but it's more real to what most queers people deal with. Me and my friends aren't afraid to be disown by our parents coming out, but we are afraid to be disappointment and losing a part the love that shape us. We don't fear to be unsafe, but we aren't trusting them either. For the first time, we have both characters having a loving and caring families and strong support systems and still have to deal with bad coming out. It's not something you see a lot. And yet, it's a common thing to happen. And because we already know Fah and Rak have strong supports system, even if the dad is against them, I know they will overcome it thanks to the rest of their families and friends. I am not scare for them in the slightest.

Because for Fah, he will, for the first time, have his privileges check. Because he is an rich, handsome, young man. If he was straight he would be on top of the society. But he is queer. Therefor, he has to face discrimination, and he is dealing with it for the time. And I can't wait to see how they would deal with that. But I know Lee and his parents will be there for here. And so will be Real, Hia, Dom and Babe. And of course, FahRak will have each other. And because it's a feel good series, I know the dad will come around and what a better way to do that, then using bl! Having him be inspired by the dad in Naughty Babe who is one of the best dad! Or even be inspired by Fah's Dad! Tho I prefers bl, because that's also a reality. The more mainstream queers love is, more people are accepting. This is why, today we celebrate Thailand law for same sex marriage. Because BL paved the way, making people more accustom to it and finally accept it. So, the dad accepting Fahrak relationship thanks to bl (at least partially) will be such a good celebration!

Honestly, Your Sky has the most subtle and amazing coming out in all the series I saw. I am so glad they did it that way, bc it's my reality and I am glad to see my reality represent.

i’m so sorry but it’s pmo how many tiktoks i’ve seen of people acting like it wouldn’t make sense for teerak’s dad to not be accepting of his relationship because they showed him watching bl

like unfortunately… that is one of the most realistic things we’ve seen in this show. the idea of someone accepting queerness in fiction, in theory but not in reality when it comes to their own children and/family. that is the sad reality of so many queer people

hell there’s people who call themselves bl fans who have issues with queerness in real life… like what you mean it’s not realistic 😮‍💨