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By the “not all men” logic, Russian Roulette is a perfectly safe game to play. Sure, one of the chambers has a bullet in it…

but not all chambers

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this is my FAVORITE one so far

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All I have to say is Amen. Women online are shamed for their behavior in the real world every day. Definitely a damned if you do, damned if you don't scenario about sex, but also about even being online. Damned if you do, because harassment, and damned if you don't because online is where we live and work.

Trigger warming: extreme violence against women, discussion of murder, suicide, online bullying

As a sexologist, I’ve been writing and educating about sexual double standards for years; the age-old damned if you do, damned if you don’t predicament women face about their sexuality. If you have...

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Alyssa Funke, a straight-A student at the University of Wisconsin-River Falls, committed suicide last month after being bullied and harassed online over her choice to appear in pornography. Local police have said they don't plan to press charges agai...

Thoughts and prayers out to the family and friends of Alyssa Funke, as well as all those who suffer from brutal online harassment. Online harassment does not just stay online (wherever that is) and it has tangible "real world" consequences. So sorry that Alyssa was not able to cope with the harassment that she, Belle Knox and others face every day, whether it is for their perceived transgressions, or just for existing in a heterosexual, white, upperclass, cismale identified world.

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This same fear impacts our existence online as well. Are there places on the free and open internet where we should not tread, for fear of being called racist or sexist or homophobic names?

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Misogyny and rape culture are real and have deadly consequences.

There was a “shooting rampage that killed 7 near University of California Santa Barbara (UCSB).”

The UCSB shooter made a video, said he was “the true alpha male” — this is toxic hyper-aggressive masculinity taken to its extreme. He talked about women in a sorority house — he called them “animals” and said he would “slaughter them like animals.” Both women and animals are viewed as expendable and disposable in our society. It’s the same mindset of dehumanization and objectification. The murderer felt “alienated” and “rejected” by women, so he felt he had to exert his power and dominance over them.

Misogyny and rape culture are real and have deadly consequences.

(via opinionessoftheworld)

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While some dismiss this growing problem of online harassment as simply harmless male trolls spewing their venom, such abuse is driving women journalists off the web. Why the differential between threats to women and men? The answer lies in persistent...

"Gender discrimination hasn't disappeared -- far from it. In most cases, bias has simply gone underground, where it is more subtle and harder to spot. A major exception is the web, where the most extreme language about women is commonplace, and growing."

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Chronicles of a female gamer.

Really cool blog of a female gamer who posts about the abuse that she gets as a player of Call of Duty.

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Too often, though, we talk about online abuse like we talk about bad weather: We shake our heads, shrug, and assume there’s nothing we can do. The behavior is so prevalent that it’s seen as an inextricable part of online culture. ..... Online harassment isn’t just inconvenient, nor is it something we can walk away from with ease. It’s abhorrent behavior that has real social, professional, and economic costs. And the big social networks where most Americans spend time online—Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, and the rest—aren’t doing nearly enough to address the problem.

"Shouting racial slurs and rape threats at someone in public often has consequences, but on the Internet—at least in communities unable or unwilling to enforce civilized social norms—it almost never does."

This article offers some very tangible suggestions for changing Internet culture to prevent the continued marginalization of minority voices through discriminatory harassment. Small hurdles to abusive behavior, actual consequences that were linked to the abuse and the development of real norms and expectations for online communities, much like we do in our physical world.

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JustMargaret - "It’s supposed to be a compliment."

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sexular

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Excellent way to show all the harassment that can come out of online dating.

television show idea;

men who relentlessly pursue people with inappropriate messages on ok cupid are forced to read everything they’ve said in front of a live studio audience.

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So, let's talk about the fact that someone is flinging sexual harassment (yes, unwanted soliciting of sexual favors counts) at a blog dedicated to ending online harassment. Funny how that works sometimes.

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WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER WHEN YOU ARE IN A BAD MOOD?

Pictures and gifs of adorable animals. My friends and family. The beach. Happy thoughts. The knowledge that I am not alone.

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I am a woman always, in person and online, and I deserve to exist in all spaces free from discrimination and harassment.

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In January 2006, I was a student at NYU School of Law, home for holiday break. I had just gotten my wisdom teeth out. I remember that, because I was on a lot of painkillers, and I kept thinking that maybe my cloudy brain just wasn’t comprehending what I was reading on an anonymous message board created for law students, called AutoAdmit. There were hundreds of threads about me, with comments including: "Official Jill Filipovic RAPE thread" "I want to brutally rape that Jill slut" "I'm 98% sure that she should be raped" “that nose ring is fucking money, rape her immediately” “what a useless guttertrash whore, I hope that someone uses my pink, fleshy-textured cylindrical body to violate her” “she deserves a brutal raping” “Legal liability from posting pic of Jill fucking?” “she’s a normal-sized girl that I’d bang violently, maybe you’d have to kill her afterwards”

Jill Filpovic offers a personal, intimate and scary view into her personal experiences as a victim of online harassment. She manages to demonstrate the ways in which the barrage of negativity from so many can take a toll on an individual's psyche.

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