teawithagent67

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I think I am going to have to force a Social Media shut off for a while.

We've been miserable as of late and being online only seems to make it worse.

Can't figure out how to block the news, so I guess we will have to watch ourselves and not swipe left to read the news multiple times a day like we have been.

Gonna have to practice a lot of mindfulness.

- Maxx

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I know that the voting system in this country is messed up, but it’s still important to vote because four more years of Trump will more than likely make america fall into a wave of fascism with irreversible effects. It’s an awful system, everyone knows that, but we still live here. Not voting because you don’t believe in the system won’t help anyone. Trump needs to get out of office so no one else dies from his negligence and not voting because you don’t like it is contributing to the problem.

You act as though demonstrably fewer people will die and/or suffer under Biden. Falling into fascism has already happened for fucking decades, well before the pink hat brigade picked trump as the One Enemy Cause. (And even that requires ignoring this nation's genocidal foundation)

Him being more overt only creates this gaping divide between him and "the rest," for those who believe the optics instead of the substance.

Now GTFO my inbox with the same tired shit that so many people fell for, that got us where we are now.

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Vomitous

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not to flex but i’ve never watched a pewdiepie video

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When I was a kid I had a reputation for faking sick because nothing much seemed to be wrong with me. Years later I found out my symptoms were psychosomatic due to the constant stress of untreated mental health issues. I spent 20 years in chronic pain because the adults around me just saw a child who didn't want to be in class

Listen to your goddamn kids.

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i can’t find the right way to say this but. the degree to which bodies are policed is so massive and overwhelming that it can traumatize you & then people have the nerve to be like “you’re vain” for caring …. like actually i care because i have to bc i’ve been trained to bc if i don’t care, i don’t have the privilege to get away with it. like i’d love if it was as simple as “some people just care more” but it’s more like. society is genuinely cruel to some and the judgement it enacts on certain bodies is incredibly sinister and overwhelming. it’s not just one outfit or one body trait you have to worry about when you go out in public. it’s legitimately all of them. and you worry to avoid judgement and harassment. and that level of constant self-monitoring is extremely exhausting.

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Errors in Thinking that Create Anxiety

1. All-or-nothing thinking: Looking at things in black-or-white categories, with no middle ground (“If I fall short of perfection, I’m a total failure.”)

2. Overgeneralization: Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true forever (“I didn’t get hired for the job. I’ll never get any job.”)

3. The mental filter: Focusing on the negatives while filtering out all the positives. Noticing the one thing that went wrong, rather than all the things that went right.

4. Diminishing the positive: Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count (“I did well on the presentation, but that was just dumb luck.”)

5. Jumping to conclusions: Making negative interpretations without actual evidence. You act like a mind reader (“I can tell she secretly hates me.”) or a fortune teller (“I just know something terrible is going to happen.”)

6. Catastrophizing: Expecting the worst-case scenario to happen (“The pilot said we’re in for some turbulence. The plane’s going to crash!”)

7. Emotional reasoning: Believing that the way you feel reflects reality (“I feel frightened right now. That must mean I’m in real physical danger.”)

8. ‘Shoulds’ and ‘should-nots’: Holding yourself to a strict list of what you should and shouldn’t do and beating yourself up if you break any of the rule

9. Labeling: Labeling yourself based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings (“I’m a failure; an idiot; a loser.”)

10. Personalization: Assuming responsibility for things that are outside your control (“It’s my fault my son got in an accident. I should have warned him to drive carefully in the rain.”)

Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anxiety_self_help.htm

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I love when I’m in the middle of speaking and suddenly I’m like wait I literally don’t agree with what I’m saying

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Incredibles 2 (2018) dir. Brad Bird

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I know everyone wants to clown on a certain rich couple with an absurdly named baby using california’s 26 character law, but that law isn’t good actually… it makes perfectly normal names like José illegal… like you shouldn’t really be upholding that fucking law it’s obvious why they made it….

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Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!

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Sometimes DID is half of your brain yelling “I’m so scared! I’m so scared and so scared and it never gets better!” and the other half saying “I know baby, I know and it’s going to be ok. Let’s remember to breathe, we’re safe now and we’re going to be ok.”