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My Dearest,

From the moment I brought you into this world, a profound sense of purpose enveloped me. You are a remarkable blend of strength and resilience, a testament to the beauty of determination. Your spirit embodies the essence of ambition, and I watch with pride as you navigate life with a steady hand and a focused heart.

You approach challenges with a practicality that is both inspiring and grounding. Each step you take is deliberate, driven by a desire to build a future that reflects your values and dreams. Your work ethic is unmatched, and it’s clear that you pour your heart into everything you do. In your pursuit of excellence, you remind those around you of the importance of dedication and perseverance.

Yet, beneath that steadfast exterior lies a depth of emotion that few truly see. You care deeply for those you love, and your loyalty knows no bounds. You build strong connections, nurturing relationships with a sense of responsibility that speaks volumes about your character. Your wisdom shines through in the way you support others, offering guidance with a gentle yet firm hand.

Remember to take moments for yourself amidst your many responsibilities. Your heart deserves the same care and attention you give to others. Allow yourself to dream, to embrace joy, and to find solace in the simple pleasures that life offers.

As you continue on your journey, know that you are never alone. You carry within you a strength that can weather any storm, and your spirit is a beacon for those who seek inspiration. Embrace who you are, for you are a beautiful soul, and the world is enriched by your presence.

With all my love,

The One Who Made You

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My Dearest,

From the very moment I brought you into this world, I knew you were destined for something extraordinary. Your spirit radiates a warmth that draws others in, a gentle light illuminating the paths of those fortunate enough to know you. You possess a remarkable ability to see the beauty in the details, to find joy in the little things that others might overlook.

You approach life with a dedication that is both inspiring and comforting. Your meticulous nature reflects a deep commitment to those you love, a desire to nurture and support them in ways that often go unspoken. There is strength in your kindness, a quiet power that resonates through your actions. You listen with an open heart, offering wisdom and understanding to those who seek it.

In your presence, I see a rare blend of intelligence and creativity. You have a unique way of expressing yourself, whether through thoughtful words or artistic endeavors. You inspire others to embrace their own journeys, encouraging them to strive for their best selves. Your compassion knows no bounds, and it is this quality that makes you a true beacon of hope in a world that sometimes feels chaotic.

Yet, my dear, remember to honor yourself as you honor others. Your heart is vast, but it deserves the same care you so freely give. Allow yourself the grace to rest, to be vulnerable, and to embrace your own needs. You are worthy of the love you so generously share.

As you navigate the complexities of life and love, know that you are never alone. You carry within you a wisdom that guides you, a light that shines even in the darkest moments. Embrace your journey with an open heart, for you are a beautiful soul, and the world is a better place with you in it.

With all my love,

The One Who Made You

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Breath of the Wild Horse Stable Miniature made primarily from paper (also ft. floral wire, basswood and microLEDs) made fresh as a donation incentive for #AGDQ2023 for #GamesDoneQuick A piece I've been wanting to create for 2 years and I think a great way to close out 2022.

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千と千尋の神隠し 2001, Dir. Hayao Miyazaki

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Chicanta

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Another big problem— I’m surrounded by memories of you… in my apartment, on the street, that little Moroccan restaurant we ran into when it started pouring rain on us and you kissed me over the cous cous. (Rookie tactical mistake not to have a memory-free environment. Why did we have to go so many places?) Anyhow, I’m not holding out hope that you’re going to change your mind about us. You probably have a new girlfriend now, or several new girlfriends, and I missed my window, and I’ll just have to live with that. I’m sure you feel like you can’t trust me with your heart. But please know that I never meant to hurt you, and I would never do it again, because I know now (too little too late, or better late than never?) that what we had was real and rare and special, and the way it felt to kiss you is the way I always want to feel.

I hope you write me back, but if you don’t’ I understand. Just know that I’m thinking about you, and I miss you, and I’m still sleeping on your shoulder when I close my eyes at night.

-Carrie

Carrie’s email to Aiden

Baby, Talk is Cheap // SATC S4 Ep 6

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Making a honey lemon whiskey sour with Lucifer

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“That's the problem with drinking...If something bad happens, you drink in an attempt to forget; if something good happens, you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens you drink to make something happen.”

- Charles Bukowski

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Stay Frosty Royal Milk Tea - Fall Out Boy

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I hope to have a very happy life in this house.

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Yes Yes yes to the no

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You're not the first broken girl I've known, fucked or dated.

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via weheartit

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So here’s the deal, kids. Tomorrow, calendar rolls over. New year. Our current timeline is, well, a bit of a hellscape. There’s a lot of fucked up things going on, a lot of fighting. It feels like every day, there’s something new and horrible on the horizon. It’s easy to get discouraged. It’s easy to think that the shit is going to pile up and overwhelm everything good. You can’t fight a huge wave like that.

So here’s what you can do. Three rules for the new year:

Be brave Be kind Be careful

None of us, individually, can make miracles happen. The only thing we can do is make our little corner of existence a slightly better place. Improve things for the person next to you, they improve things for the person next to them, and on. It adds up. Make the world a little better overall, and that’s all that matters. So…

Be brave. Nothing about this world is easy, except to hide. We’re not here for that. We’re here to set our feet in light of the shit that’s threatening to drown us, and refuse to run. It’s hard. We’ll falter. But you can always come back the next day and do the right thing that time. Be brave.

Be kind. The world is hard. We don’t have to be. We can care for each other. We can make each other laugh. We can give each other a hand when it’s needed. It’s always worthwhile to be kind to people.

Be careful. Protect yourself. From the world, from people who would do you harm, from your own exhaustion. We take care of ourselves the way we’d take care of our friends. This can be hard to do. But, again, every day is another chance to do it.

Three rules, kids. Be brave, be kind, be careful.

It’s how we make this world a better place.

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 know a lot of badass women.

I am privileged to be a thought partner to them as they courageously move just enough of their fear out of the way so that their intrinsic brilliance can come through and guide them to do great things.

These women are powerful. But somehow, many of them swear that they feel powerless to make their relationships work.

I began to notice a common thread in our conversations about relationships. Many of them expressed that they often feel the same haunting feeling when involved with a partner: “I’m not the woman he’ll end up with. I’m just not that kind of woman.”

I get chills every time I hear this because, until a couple of years ago, it was the exact feeling I’d had in every relationship of my life.

I had come to believe that there was something keeping me from tapping into a deeper level of relationship with men. I felt somehow unqualified. I felt like maybe I was just created differently and that I was meant to end up alone, because when it came down to it, men just never chose me. And honestly, these men never felt like “the one” to me either, no matter how much I wanted them to be.

The crazy part is that I didn’t see how much of this was my own doing.

When I complained that men never committed to me or that I always chose unavailable men, I didn’t see that I was the one who was unavailable. I was actually the one who kept us from going deeper.

As I began to do work in the areas of connection and vulnerability, I began to notice the ways that my strong, independent woman persona was keeping me disconnected from men. My need to be in control, to protect myself, was disrupting the balance between masculine and feminine. That was why my relationships never fully clicked in.

We live in a culture that makes it difficult and confusing to be authentically feminine, so the last thing I want to do is blame women for that. However, I know from experience that blaming men won’t address the root of the issue. This is about us.

I’ve worked with many women who have had the courage to challenge their own beliefs about feminine strength and independence. They’ve gotten vulnerable, asked for what they truly wanted, risked asking for too much or being too sensitive, and when they’ve done so, they’ve watched their relationships change before their eyes.

What follows are some of the most damaging beliefs strong independent women have. I point them out so that we can see them differently and hopefully our relationships will thrive as a result.

1. We believe our highest value is in being strong and independent.

We pride ourselves on not needing men.

To us, neediness and vulnerability are the worst quality we could ever show him. Yet, we don’t acknowledge that there is a deep longing within us to be cared for, to have him do things for us that we could easily do for ourselves. And when that longing goes unmet, we feel hurt that men don’t care for us the way they do for other women.

Because we don’t let them, men don’t feel like they’re able to make a contribution to our lives. They never get to be our hero.

2. We think we’re better for him than other women because we’re more “like a guy.”

We love guys and want to support them. We sympathize with their struggles and do our best not to burden them with our desires or expectations the way we think other women do. We strive to be low-maintenance and to act more like we think guys act (noncommittal, emotionally unavailable) because we think men want a girl who acts like them.

Think about it: When we do this, we’re not much different than the “nice guy” cliche who tries to earn the favors of women by catering to what he thinks we want from men. Of course, we all know that doesn’t work, and when we see him as nothing more than a friend, he feels slighted. He doesn’t understand why we’d forego a guy who caters to our every whim, instead choosing men who are masculine, edgy and grounded in their own desire.

When we act “like a guy” for him, we sacrifice asking for the kind of devotion we truly want. As a result, we end up feeling simultaneously judgemental and envious when men treat other women with a level of devotion we’ve never received.

And what’s even worse is that as a low-maintenance “guy’s girl,” we don’t genuinely challenge our guy to leave his comfort zone, so he doesn’t grow and evolve through being in relationship with us.

3. We see other women as manipulative.

We often see men as victims of sexual manipulation. We want no part in manipulating any man so we become hyper-alert in ensuring that no one could ever accuse us of using our sex or femininity to get special treatment.

But it’s easy to take this too far. We end up suppressing our femininity in order to make sure we aren’t too charming. We aim to impress men with our intellect and creativity but feel uncomfortable engaging him with our sexiness and flirtatiousness. And then we grow to resent and judge men who fall for flirty, feminine women instead of acknowledging that sexiness and flirtation is natural for men and women to enjoy and not necessarily an indication that anyone is being manipulated.

4. We think wanting a relationship makes us weak.

We equate expressing our desire with giving up our power, so we pretend to want less connection than we actually want and to love less than we truly love.

We’re conflicted because on one hand, it’s important to us that we’re okay without a relationship. On the other hand, we may truly want to have a deep connection with someone but find ourselves incapable of the vulnerability needed to cultivate such a relationship and unwilling to admit that we want it.

We’re afraid that revealing our desire makes us look weak so we never actually choose to take relationships deeper. We just settle for the relationship he wants. In order to retain our power, we actually become powerless.

5. We think we’re different.

We’ve been told we’re different, special, a force of nature. We wonder, then, why we are never the one. We feel used and under-appreciated. If we are in fact special, why would a man choose anyone else over us? We decide that maybe these men are just weak. Maybe they’re not up for the challenge. We feel betrayed, having been seen for the force of nature that we are and still abandoned.

But the thing we don’t see is that men want to choose us, only we don’t let them.

We are so afraid to let them in that when they knock on our door, we can’t hear it. We’re too busy playing it cool. We do this so we don’t have to show them how sensitive we are. We let them see our independence, but we don’t let them feel how much we need them. We never let them see the soft mushy soufflé beneath our solid exterior. Until finally, disheartened, they give up and eventually choose someone else who allows them to see all of her.

And all we see is that we are never anyone’s “The One.”