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"Tears, sorrow, and disappointment are bitter, but wisdom is the comforter in all psychic suffering.
Indeed, bitterness and wisdom form a pair of alternatives: where there is bitterness, wisdom is lacking, and where wisdom is there can be no bitterness."
~ Carl Jung, CW 20, Para 330
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Women with absent fathers often become beggars for love, safety, and security.
Itâs heartbreaking how deeply they invest themselves in others, hoping that their love will be returned, hoping to finally feel chosen, protected, and seen.
They carry a silent acheâan invisible wound that whispers....Maybe if I give more, theyâll stay. Maybe if Iâm good enough, theyâll love me.
This voice doesnât come from who they are today, but from the little girl inside them who kept looking out the window, waiting for someone who never came.
Their love becomes a currencyâthey trade affection, loyalty, and even their own boundaries just to feel held.
They over-give, over-function, and over-apologize, hoping that one day, someone will finally choose to stay without conditions.
The absence of a father doesnât just leave a physical voidâit creates emotional gaps that women often try to fill with partners, friends, or even strangers.
But whatâs missing isnât just a personâitâs the early belief that they are inherently worthy of love without having to earn it.
She often becomes hyper-independent, saying she doesnât need anyone.
But behind that strength is exhaustionâfrom carrying her own pain, from pretending sheâs okay, from surviving in a world that never taught her how to receive.
When she finally does meet love, she may not know how to trust it.
Her nervous system doesnât recognize consistency. It feels foreign. Unsafe even. She might push it away before it has a chance to hold her.
This woman is not broken.
She is someone who has been asked to mother herself before she was ever truly mothered. Sheâs someone who has built a heart out of scars and silence.
Healing for her doesnât come from finding the perfect partner. It comes from finding herself. From meeting the little girl within and telling her, âYou donât have to beg anymore. You are already enough.â
When a woman with an absent father begins to reclaim her worth, she stops performing for love and starts attracting it from a place of truth.
Her healing isnât just hersâit becomes a ripple that touches every generation after her.
And maybe for the first time, she finally breathes deeply⌠not because someone stayed, but because she stopped abandoning herself.
If you belong to this story, know that healing is possible. Iâm here to help you on this journeyâjust reach out to me.
- Abhikesh
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âThe other day, someone asked me,
âWhat is love to you?â
And I thought about it for a second, and I said.... Love is choosing someone over and over again, even when you know it canât work.
And I know.
That sounds backwards, right?
It sounds like pain.
Like madness.
They looked at me and asked, âBut if it canât work, how can you keep choosing them?â
And I said, You donât choose them because it works.
You choose them because itâs them.
Thatâs the truth nobody really wants to hear.
Sometimes love doesnât come with a future.
It comes with a person.
Someone who feels like home even when the roof is caving in.
Someone you canât explain, canât forget, and canât stop coming back to, even when the world tells you not to.
Love isnât always easy, or fair, or logical. Sometimes, itâs just the quiet, stubborn act of choosing someone with your whole heart.
Even when every part of you knows how it ends.
And yeah, it hurts.
But that choice?
That willingness to love, knowing it might lead nowhere?
Thatâs what makes it real.
Because maybe love isnât measured by how long it lasts, but by how deeply we feel it, and how bravely we carry it, even when thereâs no reward.
And that...
thatâs the kind of love that stays with you.â
â author and artist unknown
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Names and words are sorry husks, yet
they indicate the quality of what we have experienced. When we call the devil a neurosis, we are signifying that we feel this demonic experience as a sickness which is characteristic of our age.
When we call it repressed sexuality or the will to power, this shows that it seriously disturbs even these fundamental instincts.
When we call it God, we are trying to describe its profound and universal significance, because this is what we have glimpsed in the experience.
Whatever name we may put to the psychic background, the fact remains that our consciousness is influenced by it in the highest degree, and all the more so the less we are conscious of it.
The layman can hardly conceive how much
his inclinations, moods, and decisions are influenced by the dark forces of his psyche, and how dangerous or helpful they may be in shaping his destiny.
Our cerebral consciousness is like an actor who has forgotten that he is playing a role.
But when the play comes to an end, he must remember his own subjective reality, for he can no longer continue to live as Julius Caesar or as Othello, but only as himself, from whom he has become estranged by a momentary sleight of consciousness.
He must know once again that he was merely a figure on the stage who was playing a piece by Shakespeare, and that there was a producer as well as a director in the background who, as always, will have something very important to say about his acting.
- CARL JUNG
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If the enemy keeps us down, we canât help each other.
We all deal with our own storms, but when we start feeling like âwe got thisâ ALONE, thatâs when the enemy can reach out and grab us.
Next thing we know, weâre at the bar, weâre getting high, weâre cheating on our partners, weâre lying to our friends. When E V E R Y O N E does this process the SAME way.. then we âdonât have the energy/ time to deal with otherâs problemsâ.. thatâs so incredibly isolating.
Then, when we donât reach out/ let others reach us, we begin to feel lonely and like no one cares about us and what weâre going through. Which, of course, leads to MORE drinking, drugging, cheating, and lying.
God said, ��it is not good for man to be aloneâ - âa cord of 3 strands is not easily brokenâ - âiron sharpens ironâ. Bad things happen to us broken down people when we are alone.
â ThatAnthaGirl
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Life with a NARCISSIST feels like a PRISON, not a relationshipâźď¸
Youâre not treated like a partner.
Youâre treated like property.
A trophy when itâs time to impress.
A distraction when theyâre bored.
An inconvenience when your own needs show up.
They donât want a teammate.
They want control, someone they can put away and pull out only when it suits them.
Try asking to be respected.
Try holding them to their word.
Try setting even one boundary.
Watch how fast they flip.
Because to them, your purpose is to serve their needs and protect their image.
Ask for anything more...
Youâll suddenly be âthe problem.â
âToo emotional.â
âThe enemy.â
Thatâs not love.
Thatâs control disguised as commitment.
Youâre allowed to walk away.
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8 billion people in the world. Itâs easy to be overlooked.
But it makes one wonder..
Whatâs it like..? To be chosen..?
â ThatAnthaGirl
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Life today is so incredibly terrifying for those of us who take the time to peek behind the curtains..
One thing Iâm really scared of.. AI
Not just because machines are going to replace humans one day.. or the threat of ending up like those blimps from Wall-E..
But because distrust is soooooooo natural for humans. Think about it.
We only believe what we experience ourselves. With our own senses.
But AI is able to replicate us (humans) and itâs getting better by the day.
I donât have a very keen eye for AI, but, because I know it exists, I keep an eye out for âfakeâ (AI) reels.
I love Jordan Peterson. Iâve seen lots of his work and I know the things he talks about. I also know his voice and his speech patterns pretty well. But Iâve seen some reels on facebook recently that look and sound like JP but they arenât him; theyâre AI.
This may seem harmless. Yes, maybe for now.
But the invention of AI means that deceit is now easily accessible.
Art. Humans. Music. Tv. Events. Literally anything.
AI can, or will soon be able to, create literally anything and our senses will deceive us into believing that itâs true.
I know I donât know everything. But I also know that Iâve peeked behind the curtain a few times. I may not have the words to describe exactly just how terrifying it all is.. and you can call it âconspiracyâ or âparanoiaâ.. but Iâm truly afraid of the world today.. and itâs only going to get worse.
âThe road to hell is paved with good intentionsâ .. and perhaps AI started out that way.. but itâs not only good and decent people that have access to it.
â ThatAnthaGirl
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In feudal Japan, a legendary octopus was said to have played a pivotal role in the construction of the Octopus Temple, also known as Tako-dera. According to myth, a devastating tsunami hit the Sendai coast in 1611, after the Keicho Oshu Earthquake. Amidst the wreckage, a Buddhist statue of Yakushi Nyorai, the Goddess of Mercy, was found with an octopus clinging to it.
The octopus was seen as a symbol of good luck and prosperity, reflecting the Japanese cultural values of resilience and adaptability. In Japanese folklore, octopuses are revered for their intelligence, shape-shifting abilities, and association with Ryujin, the Dragon God of the sea.
*Key Aspects of Octopus Symbolism in Japan:*
- *Prosperity and Good Luck*: Octopuses represent abundance and prosperity due to their abundance in Japanese waters and their role as a primary food source.
- *Intelligence and Adaptability*: Octopuses are admired for their ability to change color, shape, and texture, making them a symbol of intelligence and versatility.
- *Association with Ryujin*: Octopuses are linked to Ryujin, the Dragon God, who rules the ocean and protects fishermen from harm.
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âHE WAS MY NIGHTMAREânot in the way monsters hide beneath the bed, but in how he quietly crept into my life and slowly unraveled everything I thought I knew about love. At first, he came wrapped in charm and promises, painting a picture of something safe, warm, and lasting. But that illusion quickly shattered. What followed was a constant storm of emotional manipulation, lies, and silence that hurt more than words ever could. He didnât yell; he didnât need to. His indifference, his coldness, his ability to twist the truth and make me question my own reality was far more terrifying than any raised voice. I lost pieces of myself trying to keep him whole, trying to be enough for someone who never intended to love me fully. I would wake up every day hoping for change and go to sleep each night carrying the weight of disappointment. It was like loving a ghostâsomeone who was physically present but emotionally unreachable. My laughter faded, my spark dimmed, and the person I used to be slipped further away. He made me feel small, confused, unworthyâand thatâs what nightmares are made of. But the worst part? I stayed longer than I should have, believing I could fix him, save us, or at least understand what went wrong. In the end, I realized the only way to escape the nightmare was to wake up and walk away. And thatâs exactly what I did.
Healing hasnât been easy, but every day I reclaim a part of myself I thought he had taken forever.â
â Marilyn Rojas
â artist unknown
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âReactive abuseâ or âshowing their true colorsâ
Everyoneâs a fucking psychologist now - but too many lack the ability to fully comprehend a persons true intentions - do we ever truly know another person well enough to be their psychiatrist? Situationally, maybe, if you can be unbiased or get enough of the context from either side..
But letâs be honest with ourselves - thereâs 3 sides to every story - yours, mine, and the truth. No one speaks the truth, not one, only their perspective of the event.
Knowing that.. what is fact? What is truth? Who are we to speak on another personâs perspective or intentions behind their behaviors?
All we can do is speculate.
Thatâs so minimizing.. isnât it? To know that we, as individuals, hold zero significance over another humans life.. however.. FAR TOO OFTEN - we freely give others the power to determine our steps.
How cowardice. How ignorant. How blind.
â ThatAnthaGirl
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Modern psychotherapy is built up of many layers, corresponding to the diversities of the patients requiring treatment.
The simplest cases are those who just want sound common sense and good advice. With luck they can be disposed of in a single consultation. This is certainly not to say that cases which look simple are always as simple as they look; one is apt to make disagreeable discoveries.
Then there are patients for whom a thorough confession or âabreactionâ is enough. The severer neuroses usually require a reductive analysis of their symptoms and states. And here one should not apply this or that method indiscriminately but, according to the nature of the case, should conduct the analysis more along the lines of Freud or more along those of Adler.
St.Augustine distinguishes two cardinal sins: concupiscence and conceit (superbia). The first corresponds to Freudâs pleasure principle, the second to Adlerâs power-drive, the desire to be on top.
There are in fact two categories of people with different needs. Those whose main characteristic is infantile pleasure-seeking generally have the satisfaction of incompatible desires and instincts more at heart than the social role they could play, hence they are often well-to-do or even successful people who have arrived socially.
But those who want to be âon topâ are mostly people who are either the under-dogs in reality or fancy that they are not playing the role that is properly due to them. Hence they often have difficulty in adapting themselves socially and try to cover up their inferiority with power fictions.
One can of course explain all neuroses in Freudian or Adlerian terms, but in practice it is better to examine the case carefully beforehand.
In the case of educated people the decision is not difficult: I advise them to read a bit of Freud and a bit of Adler. As a rule they soon find out which of the two suits them best.
So long as one is moving in the sphere of genuine neurosis one cannot dispense with the views of either Freud or Adler.
- CARL JUNG
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The opus consists of three parts: insight, endurance, and action. Psychology is needed only in the first part, but in the second and third parts moral strength plays the predominant role.
The one must exist, and so must the other. There can be no resolution, only patient endurance of the opposites which ultimately spring from your own nature.
You yourself are a conflict that rages in itself and against itself, in order to melt its incompatible substances, the male and the female, in the fire of suffering, and thus create that fixed and unalterable form which is the goal of life.
Everyone goes through this mill, consciously or unconsciously, voluntarily or forcibly. We are crucified between the opposites and delivered up to the torture until the â reconciling thirdâ takes shape.
Do not doubt the rightness of the two sides within you, and let whatever may happen, happen.
- CARL JUNG (Jung letters Vol 1 )
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Some men think that in order to gain the love and respect of a woman they need to be accommodating to her every desire...
Doing whatever she wants
Giving her everything she asks for
Being a puppet to her whims
Obeying her orders
Filling an endless hole...
In a bottomless pit
Censoring his truth
Filtering his thoughts
Diluting his instincts
Suppressing his passion
Compromising his direction
Watering down his masculine drive
Making her comfortable...
At the expense of himself
No...
Hell no...
If this is the case
She will never be happy
And neither will he
A woman should be able to make herself happy... Not be dependent on her counterpart to do that job for her
And if a man is asked to change just to please her, instead of being inspired to change to please himself...
He will never be happy
And neither will she
We want a man
Not a puppy
A sovereign man attracts a sovereign woman
A King finds his Queen
And love always aligns with love
Dear men...
You being you
Authentic
Sovereign
Solid
Grounded
Present
Standing strong in your truth
Walking your journey with humility
Living your holy mission with focus
Opening your heart with devotion
Healing your wounds
Expanding your consciousness
Growing your relationship
Honouring your path
Leading your vision
Serving humanity
Respecting your woman
And loving her
Because it makes you happy
To love her...
Is all it takes
To make her happy...
And open her heart
To loving you
~ Gemma Star
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"The loneliest moment in someone's life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly. It's not the shattering itself that breaks youâit's the silence that follows, the quiet space where you realize there's nothing left to salvage. And in that moment, you know that you'll never be the same again. You'll build something new, perhaps, but it will never be what you lost." â F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby
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