thatanthagirl

[thatanthagirl]

"Tears, sorrow, and disappointment are bitter, but wisdom is the comforter in all psychic suffering.

Indeed, bitterness and wisdom form a pair of alternatives: where there is bitterness, wisdom is lacking, and where wisdom is there can be no bitterness."

~ Carl Jung, CW 20, Para 330

[thatanthagirl]

Women with absent fathers often become beggars for love, safety, and security.

It’s heartbreaking how deeply they invest themselves in others, hoping that their love will be returned, hoping to finally feel chosen, protected, and seen.

They carry a silent ache—an invisible wound that whispers....Maybe if I give more, they’ll stay. Maybe if I’m good enough, they’ll love me.

This voice doesn’t come from who they are today, but from the little girl inside them who kept looking out the window, waiting for someone who never came.

Their love becomes a currency—they trade affection, loyalty, and even their own boundaries just to feel held.

They over-give, over-function, and over-apologize, hoping that one day, someone will finally choose to stay without conditions.

The absence of a father doesn’t just leave a physical void—it creates emotional gaps that women often try to fill with partners, friends, or even strangers.

But what’s missing isn’t just a person—it’s the early belief that they are inherently worthy of love without having to earn it.

She often becomes hyper-independent, saying she doesn’t need anyone.

But behind that strength is exhaustion—from carrying her own pain, from pretending she’s okay, from surviving in a world that never taught her how to receive.

When she finally does meet love, she may not know how to trust it.

Her nervous system doesn’t recognize consistency. It feels foreign. Unsafe even. She might push it away before it has a chance to hold her.

This woman is not broken.

She is someone who has been asked to mother herself before she was ever truly mothered. She’s someone who has built a heart out of scars and silence.

Healing for her doesn’t come from finding the perfect partner. It comes from finding herself. From meeting the little girl within and telling her, “You don’t have to beg anymore. You are already enough.”

When a woman with an absent father begins to reclaim her worth, she stops performing for love and starts attracting it from a place of truth.

Her healing isn’t just hers—it becomes a ripple that touches every generation after her.

And maybe for the first time, she finally breathes deeply… not because someone stayed, but because she stopped abandoning herself.

If you belong to this story, know that healing is possible. I’m here to help you on this journey—just reach out to me.

- Abhikesh

[thatanthagirl]

“The other day, someone asked me,

“What is love to you?”

And I thought about it for a second, and I said.... Love is choosing someone over and over again, even when you know it can’t work.

And I know.

That sounds backwards, right?

It sounds like pain.

Like madness.

They looked at me and asked, “But if it can’t work, how can you keep choosing them?”

And I said, You don’t choose them because it works.

You choose them because it’s them.

That’s the truth nobody really wants to hear.

Sometimes love doesn’t come with a future.

It comes with a person.

Someone who feels like home even when the roof is caving in.

Someone you can’t explain, can’t forget, and can’t stop coming back to, even when the world tells you not to.

Love isn’t always easy, or fair, or logical. Sometimes, it’s just the quiet, stubborn act of choosing someone with your whole heart.

Even when every part of you knows how it ends.

And yeah, it hurts.

But that choice?

That willingness to love, knowing it might lead nowhere?

That’s what makes it real.

Because maybe love isn’t measured by how long it lasts, but by how deeply we feel it, and how bravely we carry it, even when there’s no reward.

And that...

that’s the kind of love that stays with you.”

— author and artist unknown

[thatanthagirl]

Names and words are sorry husks, yet

they indicate the quality of what we have experienced. When we call the devil a neurosis, we are signifying that we feel this demonic experience as a sickness which is characteristic of our age.

When we call it repressed sexuality or the will to power, this shows that it seriously disturbs even these fundamental instincts.

When we call it God, we are trying to describe its profound and universal significance, because this is what we have glimpsed in the experience.

Whatever name we may put to the psychic background, the fact remains that our consciousness is influenced by it in the highest degree, and all the more so the less we are conscious of it.

The layman can hardly conceive how much

his inclinations, moods, and decisions are influenced by the dark forces of his psyche, and how dangerous or helpful they may be in shaping his destiny.

Our cerebral consciousness is like an actor who has forgotten that he is playing a role.

But when the play comes to an end, he must remember his own subjective reality, for he can no longer continue to live as Julius Caesar or as Othello, but only as himself, from whom he has become estranged by a momentary sleight of consciousness.

He must know once again that he was merely a figure on the stage who was playing a piece by Shakespeare, and that there was a producer as well as a director in the background who, as always, will have something very important to say about his acting.

- CARL JUNG

[thatanthagirl]

If the enemy keeps us down, we can’t help each other.

We all deal with our own storms, but when we start feeling like “we got this” ALONE, that’s when the enemy can reach out and grab us.

Next thing we know, we’re at the bar, we’re getting high, we’re cheating on our partners, we’re lying to our friends. When E V E R Y O N E does this process the SAME way.. then we “don’t have the energy/ time to deal with other’s problems”.. that’s so incredibly isolating.

Then, when we don’t reach out/ let others reach us, we begin to feel lonely and like no one cares about us and what we’re going through. Which, of course, leads to MORE drinking, drugging, cheating, and lying.

God said, “it is not good for man to be alone” - “a cord of 3 strands is not easily broken” - “iron sharpens iron”. Bad things happen to us broken down people when we are alone.

— ThatAnthaGirl

[thatanthagirl]

[thatanthagirl]

Life with a NARCISSIST feels like a PRISON, not a relationship‼️

You’re not treated like a partner.

You’re treated like property.

A trophy when it’s time to impress.

A distraction when they’re bored.

An inconvenience when your own needs show up.

They don’t want a teammate.

They want control, someone they can put away and pull out only when it suits them.

Try asking to be respected.

Try holding them to their word.

Try setting even one boundary.

Watch how fast they flip.

Because to them, your purpose is to serve their needs and protect their image.

Ask for anything more...

You’ll suddenly be “the problem.”

“Too emotional.”

“The enemy.”

That’s not love.

That’s control disguised as commitment.

You’re allowed to walk away.

[thatanthagirl]

8 billion people in the world. It’s easy to be overlooked.

But it makes one wonder..

What’s it like..? To be chosen..?

— ThatAnthaGirl

[thatanthagirl]

Life today is so incredibly terrifying for those of us who take the time to peek behind the curtains..

One thing I’m really scared of.. AI

Not just because machines are going to replace humans one day.. or the threat of ending up like those blimps from Wall-E..

But because distrust is soooooooo natural for humans. Think about it.

We only believe what we experience ourselves. With our own senses.

But AI is able to replicate us (humans) and it’s getting better by the day.

I don’t have a very keen eye for AI, but, because I know it exists, I keep an eye out for “fake” (AI) reels.

I love Jordan Peterson. I’ve seen lots of his work and I know the things he talks about. I also know his voice and his speech patterns pretty well. But I’ve seen some reels on facebook recently that look and sound like JP but they aren’t him; they’re AI.

This may seem harmless. Yes, maybe for now.

But the invention of AI means that deceit is now easily accessible.

Art. Humans. Music. Tv. Events. Literally anything.

AI can, or will soon be able to, create literally anything and our senses will deceive us into believing that it’s true.

I know I don’t know everything. But I also know that I’ve peeked behind the curtain a few times. I may not have the words to describe exactly just how terrifying it all is.. and you can call it “conspiracy” or “paranoia”.. but I’m truly afraid of the world today.. and it’s only going to get worse.

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions” .. and perhaps AI started out that way.. but it’s not only good and decent people that have access to it.

— ThatAnthaGirl

[thatanthagirl]

In feudal Japan, a legendary octopus was said to have played a pivotal role in the construction of the Octopus Temple, also known as Tako-dera. According to myth, a devastating tsunami hit the Sendai coast in 1611, after the Keicho Oshu Earthquake. Amidst the wreckage, a Buddhist statue of Yakushi Nyorai, the Goddess of Mercy, was found with an octopus clinging to it.

The octopus was seen as a symbol of good luck and prosperity, reflecting the Japanese cultural values of resilience and adaptability. In Japanese folklore, octopuses are revered for their intelligence, shape-shifting abilities, and association with Ryujin, the Dragon God of the sea.

*Key Aspects of Octopus Symbolism in Japan:*

- *Prosperity and Good Luck*: Octopuses represent abundance and prosperity due to their abundance in Japanese waters and their role as a primary food source.

- *Intelligence and Adaptability*: Octopuses are admired for their ability to change color, shape, and texture, making them a symbol of intelligence and versatility.

- *Association with Ryujin*: Octopuses are linked to Ryujin, the Dragon God, who rules the ocean and protects fishermen from harm.

[thatanthagirl]

[thatanthagirl]

“HE WAS MY NIGHTMARE—not in the way monsters hide beneath the bed, but in how he quietly crept into my life and slowly unraveled everything I thought I knew about love. At first, he came wrapped in charm and promises, painting a picture of something safe, warm, and lasting. But that illusion quickly shattered. What followed was a constant storm of emotional manipulation, lies, and silence that hurt more than words ever could. He didn’t yell; he didn’t need to. His indifference, his coldness, his ability to twist the truth and make me question my own reality was far more terrifying than any raised voice. I lost pieces of myself trying to keep him whole, trying to be enough for someone who never intended to love me fully. I would wake up every day hoping for change and go to sleep each night carrying the weight of disappointment. It was like loving a ghost—someone who was physically present but emotionally unreachable. My laughter faded, my spark dimmed, and the person I used to be slipped further away. He made me feel small, confused, unworthy—and that’s what nightmares are made of. But the worst part? I stayed longer than I should have, believing I could fix him, save us, or at least understand what went wrong. In the end, I realized the only way to escape the nightmare was to wake up and walk away. And that’s exactly what I did.

Healing hasn’t been easy, but every day I reclaim a part of myself I thought he had taken forever.”

— Marilyn Rojas

— artist unknown

[thatanthagirl]

“Reactive abuse” or “showing their true colors”

Everyone’s a fucking psychologist now - but too many lack the ability to fully comprehend a persons true intentions - do we ever truly know another person well enough to be their psychiatrist? Situationally, maybe, if you can be unbiased or get enough of the context from either side..

But let’s be honest with ourselves - there’s 3 sides to every story - yours, mine, and the truth. No one speaks the truth, not one, only their perspective of the event.

Knowing that.. what is fact? What is truth? Who are we to speak on another person’s perspective or intentions behind their behaviors?

All we can do is speculate.

That’s so minimizing.. isn’t it? To know that we, as individuals, hold zero significance over another humans life.. however.. FAR TOO OFTEN - we freely give others the power to determine our steps.

How cowardice. How ignorant. How blind.

— ThatAnthaGirl

[thatanthagirl]

Modern psychotherapy is built up of many layers, corresponding to the diversities of the patients requiring treatment.

The simplest cases are those who just want sound common sense and good advice. With luck they can be disposed of in a single consultation. This is certainly not to say that cases which look simple are always as simple as they look; one is apt to make disagreeable discoveries.

Then there are patients for whom a thorough confession or “abreaction” is enough. The severer neuroses usually require a reductive analysis of their symptoms and states. And here one should not apply this or that method indiscriminately but, according to the nature of the case, should conduct the analysis more along the lines of Freud or more along those of Adler.

St.Augustine distinguishes two cardinal sins: concupiscence and conceit (superbia). The first corresponds to Freud’s pleasure principle, the second to Adler’s power-drive, the desire to be on top.

There are in fact two categories of people with different needs. Those whose main characteristic is infantile pleasure-seeking generally have the satisfaction of incompatible desires and instincts more at heart than the social role they could play, hence they are often well-to-do or even successful people who have arrived socially.

But those who want to be “on top” are mostly people who are either the under-dogs in reality or fancy that they are not playing the role that is properly due to them. Hence they often have difficulty in adapting themselves socially and try to cover up their inferiority with power fictions.

One can of course explain all neuroses in Freudian or Adlerian terms, but in practice it is better to examine the case carefully beforehand.

In the case of educated people the decision is not difficult: I advise them to read a bit of Freud and a bit of Adler. As a rule they soon find out which of the two suits them best.

So long as one is moving in the sphere of genuine neurosis one cannot dispense with the views of either Freud or Adler.

- CARL JUNG

[thatanthagirl]

The opus consists of three parts: insight, endurance, and action. Psychology is needed only in the first part, but in the second and third parts moral strength plays the predominant role.

The one must exist, and so must the other. There can be no resolution, only patient endurance of the opposites which ultimately spring from your own nature.

You yourself are a conflict that rages in itself and against itself, in order to melt its incompatible substances, the male and the female, in the fire of suffering, and thus create that fixed and unalterable form which is the goal of life.

Everyone goes through this mill, consciously or unconsciously, voluntarily or forcibly. We are crucified between the opposites and delivered up to the torture until the “ reconciling third” takes shape.

Do not doubt the rightness of the two sides within you, and let whatever may happen, happen.

- CARL JUNG (Jung letters Vol 1 )

[thatanthagirl]

Some men think that in order to gain the love and respect of a woman they need to be accommodating to her every desire...

Doing whatever she wants

Giving her everything she asks for

Being a puppet to her whims

Obeying her orders

Filling an endless hole...

In a bottomless pit

Censoring his truth

Filtering his thoughts

Diluting his instincts

Suppressing his passion

Compromising his direction

Watering down his masculine drive

Making her comfortable...

At the expense of himself

No...

Hell no...

If this is the case

She will never be happy

And neither will he

A woman should be able to make herself happy... Not be dependent on her counterpart to do that job for her

And if a man is asked to change just to please her, instead of being inspired to change to please himself...

He will never be happy

And neither will she

We want a man

Not a puppy

A sovereign man attracts a sovereign woman

A King finds his Queen

And love always aligns with love

Dear men...

You being you

Authentic

Sovereign

Solid

Grounded

Present

Standing strong in your truth

Walking your journey with humility

Living your holy mission with focus

Opening your heart with devotion

Healing your wounds

Expanding your consciousness

Growing your relationship

Honouring your path

Leading your vision

Serving humanity

Respecting your woman

And loving her

Because it makes you happy

To love her...

Is all it takes

To make her happy...

And open her heart

To loving you

~ Gemma Star

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[thatanthagirl]

"The loneliest moment in someone's life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly. It's not the shattering itself that breaks you—it's the silence that follows, the quiet space where you realize there's nothing left to salvage. And in that moment, you know that you'll never be the same again. You'll build something new, perhaps, but it will never be what you lost." — F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby