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“Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.”

— Emery Allen

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“Listen. A healthy relationship isn’t living vicariously through one another. True love isn’t someone being there at your side every moment of every day, but being free, and encouraged, to pursue your own passions, and then sharing in the spoils of your triumphs together.”

— Beau Taplin | @thelovejournals

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I fking love it.

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Oh gosh I love this blog I've been wondering myself that ive been put in both the hufflepuff and gryffindor house and while what are the differences that maybe You could lay out some distinguishable traits for them ;w; Thank you and sorry to bother!!

hufflepuffs tend to be more fair minded, gryffindors will side with someone just because they’re friends whereas a hufflepuff will look for who’s in the right

hufflepuffs are generally hard working whereas gryffindors are much more likely to just wing stuff

hufflepuffs are also generally more patient than gryffindor. a gryffindor might go off on one if you insult them or their friends whereas hufflepuffs will generally take the ‘ignore them and walk away’ stance

gryffindors think the best way to tackle a situation is to get up and do something about it, face your problems head on. a hufflepuff is much more cautious and doesn’t always see glory in battle

hufflepuff values tolerance more highly than gryffindor. yes they both want to help the needy but hufflepuffs are much more open to people who are different e.g. ron and hermione were both kind of shitty to luna when they first met her

if you get upset, gryffindors are the friends to go out and fight whoever dared to hurt you whereas hufflepuffs will be ready with hot chocolate and a movie marathon to cheer you up

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Hogwarts Houses: Hufflepuff

“You might belong in Hufflepuff, Where they are just and loyal, Those patient Hufflepuffs are true, And unafraid of toil.” 

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You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.

Thich Nhat Hanh (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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Poly Myths #1: With the right partner you only need one person.

From a young age, we’re told that we should be in a heterosexual monogamous relationship. Society wants us to think once we find that one special person all our needs will be met and we won’t need anyone else. But is it really fair to expect one person to fulfill all of our emotional and physical needs? That’s a whole lot to ask of one person. In a lot of relationships, it’s this pressure of fulfilling all needs for one partner that can cause the end of a relationship.

Many people find relief in family and friends, but for many they find a better balance in poly relationships.

You can’t be everything for one person, and that’s 100% okay.

So poly people: don’t feel guilty about needing more than one person.

Monogamous people: try not to assume things. Poly people just do things differently, that doesn’t mean their relationships are wrong or invalid.

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Poly Myths #2

Many polyamorous people find themselves continually combating the cultural myth that having sexual and/or romantic feelings for more than one person means you don’t love your partner.

This just isn’t the case, and this assumption has cost a lot of people a lot of happiness.

Certainly you’ve been here before: You’re attracted to someone else, and your partner can see that. They’re hurt by this, thinking that you don’t love them.

But it so often has nothing at all to do with your partner or your feelings for them.

Being in love with someone doesn’t mean you’re unable to love – or at least be attracted to – other people.

Our monogamous culture lives on the assumption that when it comes to romantic love, there is a love scarcity – that there isn’t enough love to go around.

And yet, notice how we don’t apply this to family or friends – because it just isn’t true.

If anything, there is a love abundance, and it can even multiply. Sometimes, the more people around you to love, and who love you, the more love you have for others in your life.

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Poly Myth #3

Myth #3: Polyamory is for people who “just want to sleep around” and avoid attachment and intimacy.

Poly people are greedy and selfish, I’ve heard people say. They want to have endless amounts of sex while avoiding real intimacy.

While this may be true of some people (poly and monogamous), polyamorous people tend to engage in very intimate and attached relationships.

Polyamory requires a lot of trust.

Trust that your partner(s) will communicate and share with you what’s going on with their other relationships. Trust that your partner will be considerate and respectful of your feelings and your needs.

Polyamory also relies on setting up clear boundaries.

Calling your relationship polyamorous doesn’t mean you have to be okay with everything your partner wants to do. You set the boundaries – what you’re okay with, and what you’re not.

Negotiating how you want your relationship to look and what your needs are is an incredibly important part of being poly, and can serve to strengthen your ongoing bond with a partner.

Slut-shaming is an unfortunately unsurprising part of the cultural attitudes against polyamory.

The idea that you should only be (and want to be) sexually active with one person has led to a lot of shame and sadness around our desires.

Being polyamorous often means being sexually active with multiple people, but when it does, it ideally happens in a way that values communication as well as consent around emotional and sexual desires while also respecting limits.

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Poly doesn’t always feel nice. And that’s ok. Sometimes… Poly is watching your partner get their needs that match yours met with someone else. Sometimes poly is having to accept less, instead of all. Sometimes poly is, I hate this, but you don’t need my permission to do it anyway. Sometimes poly is burning. Sitting in your room, your house, alone, burning with all the emotions and there is no one to put you out except yourself. And sometimes, you’re not enough of a firefighter. Sometimes poly is boring. Sometimes poly is Netflix and chilling, by yourself, your own hand down your pajama pants. Sometimes poly is rage. Fierce, hot, molten gold down your gullet, choking you, burning you, cooking you to a not-quick enough death. Sometimes it’s this is not enough, but this is better than nothing. Sometimes it’s pain, bright, white hot, cutting into the very core of you. Splintering you into a thousand, million pieces. Sometimes it’s I don’t know how I survive this. Sometimes poly is… Acceptance of not so great, because there is no other option. Sometimes poly is a snide laugh, a kick in the gut, a slap in the face. Sometimes poly is heartbreak. Sometimes poly is, I will never feel “safe” again. Sometimes it’s just… Overthinking. Overanalyzing. Overdoing. Over scheduling. Overtalking. Over… Everything. Sometimes poly is… Can’t I just go back? But what poly really is? Poly is I can’t. I can’t go back. Because going back would mean so much sacrifice. So much giving up of people that I cannot fathom how much I love them. So much beautiful, wonderful, awful exploration of self that I would never get again. I can’t say, I don’t want my lovers and friends and amazing people who blur ALL of my lines and boundaries with their amazing selves. I can’t say, for the sake of some general level of “comfort” that I know is false, I will give up everyone. Their intimacy, their vulnerability, their nakedness. What they look like laughing, and coming, and crying. Versions of them I don’t get to see within the confines of monogamy as I knew it. I have sacrificed so very much to be here, uncomfortable, today. I can’t. I feel I’m awake now, with all the discomfort that comes with awakening. But I can’t go back to sleep. It’s shitty, sometimes, being awake. The sun is too bright, the sounds too harsh. It’s easy when I’m head down, dreaming. But it’s not real, you know? It’s an illusion, a construct. It works for some, but I’ve taken the red pill. I’ve seen my life for how it is, my thinking for how it is. I can’t unsee it. Maybe one day how I outwardly perform myself will change, but for now, I can’t go back. I am what I am, doing what I’m doing the ways that I do it. Sometimes it hurts. Fuck yeah it hurts. Don’t ever believe anyone who tells you anything remotely differently. And you know what? It’s ok. Through this, we grow. We become something else. We become better, stronger. We know ourselves more. We know more words to use to advocate for ourselves, and that is fucking amazing. Without this pain, without this trial by fire and molten metal, we might not know what we’re capable of. And knowing what we’re capable of is an awesome, incredible thing. That is what makes you, you. That is what inspires you to fucking amazing things. Even if the journey is horrible to get there. ~Jordyn

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I’ve never read truer words! 🙌

(via poly-princess-the-unicorn)

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Today I learned that a group o people in a polyamorous relationship is called a constellation and I think it’s the cutest thing coz it makes me think these people are stars who gravitated towards each other thus forming a beautiful image that is their love.

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Find someone who loves You for You. #OpenMinded #love #perfect #relationship

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YES PLEASE. Comment your type below!! #pokemon #gender #openminded #open #lol #comment #fire #water #grass #fairy #ice #fighting #polyamory

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Love More. #OpenMinded

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#PolyamorousLove #Polyamory #PolyFidelity All is One. We are each other’s very own.

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If only a handful of us were to be heard, I would love and be more than happy to educate people on what it actually is to be poly.

People need to stop sexualizing polyamory. They need to stop calling it kinky and sex and slut shaming polyam people. The sexualization of polyamory is just as heinous as the sexualization of lgbt identities and it does the same things. It endangers polyamorous minors, it alienates polyamorous asexuals, puts polyamorous people at higher risk of sexual harassment, and isolates polyamorous people in a world that believes they are sexual deviants. Polyamory is about love, commitment, and devotion and degrading it by writing it off as a sexual thing is both incorrect and horribly cruel.

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December 19th 2017

Wow everyone it's been a while since i logged on. I forgot about this account. I have so much to tell but I have no idea where to begin. It feels great to be back. 😄