thewisesphinx

[thewisesphinx]

Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only YOU can be responsible for it. You have to invest in yourself, or no one else will.

Stacey Charter

[thewisesphinx]

entry #1; the compliment factor

i feel like a weird human. i’m not entirely sure i am the only one who does this, but it is pretty rare and i have yet to find anyone else to do this. so, here it is. whenever i have my depressive episodes or just feel like complete shit, instead of just moping or trying to find things to make me feel better (which really never helps cuz you’re just so depressed that nothing really works?), i instead go out and be kind to others. of course with my immense anxiety i cant do this in person, but what i do is i go on social media, find works that other people made (amvs, fanart, fanfiction, etc) and i just type a long ass paragraph on how much i appreciate their works. it makes me feel better about myself because this erases the factor of my feeling of worthlessness –– it makes me feel like i make people happy even with just a few words and it doesn’t take much to make someone appreciate you. of course you have to find the right people to do this with. don’t just find a random account that is inactive or produces weak responses. yes these people deserve compliments too, but it doesn’t really help you much in any way while you’re depressed when they a) dont respond b) dont respond in a positive or lively way that will actually make you feel like you’re worth something. i’ve tried this method just recently and it really does help. it makes you forget that you’re alone and insecure and worthless for a while and you get showers of kind words of appreciation. this really does work, i assure you. currently there’s this trend on instagram that amv editors are using and they’re asking people to pick their favorite edit and comment why it’s good. i’ve done this with every editor i follow and i’ve been receiving responses like:

“shoutout to this person who loves my edits! they’re so amazing and kind!”

“i love you so so so much! thank you!”

“JDASJ TYSM IM SO GLAD YOU LIKE IT”

“TYSM YOU’RE SO SWEET”

“WHAT IM SO FLATTERED AHH TYSM”

(see? it helps both sides––the giver, and the receiver.)

it’s just these little things that make life feel like it’s worth it. it’s amazing how we rely so much on connections with others to make ourselves feel validated. it’s pretty important to establish relationships with others, and this means a lot coming from me because i like to be alone more than anything and i’m afraid to get close to others. i’m learning myself how to trust others again and form close relationships even though it’s pretty difficult, but i know how significant it is.

now, i’m not saying you should totally rely on others for your self-worth. it’s just that sometimes having others to support you during your dark times is the boost you need to get back up on your feet and one of the steps into learning to love yourself. 

i hope you all find positive ways to deal with during your depressive times. 

[thewisesphinx]

Introduction

hello. i am unnamed blogger who created this blog to share my deep(est) thoughts and vent about life in general. from my reoccurring mood swings and non-human tendencies, this may be an interesting place for you to be in. 

–– ❧ im okay with antis and debates. if you disagree with something i say or want to bring it up for discussion, go right ahead. i’m loyal to my ideals but i’m very open minded. 

–– ❧ i’ll have a compilation of personal thoughts, quotes, commenting on popular opinions, etc. 

p.s. ;; the blog name comes from a nickname i was given my senior year of high school in english class, aka the only class in my entire school career that made me feel like i mattered and was special. it holds a deep place in my heart.