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My son saw a bug on the ceiling for the first time

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Yesterday the 12th of May was Fibromyalgia awareness day. I'm a little late uploading it, but spreading awareness is being done nonetheless. Lots of love for my chronic pain people!! <3

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This expresses my feelings precisely.

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teal and orange truly is the greatest color combo in the world. like name one better combo

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(Sweating, panting, covered in blood) I drew a hand

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spotted in a pub in continental Europe

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From 3DBearnadette on tweeter...

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I can’t find the origin of this meme but here’s the drawing, anyway.

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hmmm

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history of rock outfit i rlly dig but on young danny 

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thinking about getting into a throuple ship of 3 middle aged men who probably shouldn't be fucking each other and definitely aren't canon... love händel.

look I know what I've said but maybe the three of them should fuck it out it'd be entertaining and funny. there's the bisexual lead guitarist/vocalist whose religion is the power of rock and roll, a bitchy gay bassist who's secretly very lonely, and an gay ace drummer who just wants to eat trash cake and not wear tight leather pants. CMON!!!!

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Trans guy’s guide to barbershops

Hi, I’m Jacob and I am trans. This month, it will be five years since I started socially transitioning and to celebrate, I thought I would talk about something I wish I’d had help with when I was younger. Haircuts. Specifically, the barbers.

It can be a really intimidating experience the first time you go, so I’m going to cover a few points that I think are useful.

Choosing a barbershop

How to prepare

The haircut

Extra tips

Choosing a barbershop

I don’t know about other places, but in England you can walk down pretty much any high street and find at least two barbershops. Putting my nearest town into google maps gets about twenty results in total, so you might be unsure where to start. This is totally ok! Take some time to think about your options. Maybe consider how close it is to where you live, the cost and whether they have student discounts, and what other people think about it. Most places have reviews online or if you have friends or relatives you can ask, that can help too. For me at least, my first couple of cuts were at a local place and then I changed and started going somewhere in town. Deciding you don’t like the vibes is also fine! The most important thing is that you feel safe and happy. 

How to prepare

Even if you pass super well, going to a barbers can be scary. My mum always drilled into me that a barber will only cut a man’s hair and the first time I went I was terrified that I wouldn’t pass and they wouldn’t serve me. In the end, it was fine. For me, it was worth it when I had a properly masc looking haircut at the end of it. Think about what you want your haircut to look like - finding pictures or asking your mates what they get is a great starting point. (Just avoid the 2000s Bieber cut at all costs, please/hj). Finding a youtube video or article that explains clipper cuts and fades is also a good idea. If you can walk into a barbers and tell them at least vaguely what you want, you’ll feel a lot more confident and the whole process is a lot easier. 

The haircut

I’m going to walk you through what happens at a standard haircut for me. I go to a little place in town, usually during the week. You don’t have to make an appointment, you can just walk in and you might have to wait a few minutes if it’s busy but there is a waiting area with magazines and there’s music playing too so it isn’t boring. When you sit down for the haircut, you’ll be asked what you’d like as they put the cape on. I normally ask for a number three (3) back and sides with a bit off the top. That means most of my hair is about 10mm long so it’s short and spiky like a hedgehog, but I have more hair on the top to style if I want. Then you pretty much just wait. Depending on where you go, the person cutting your hair might want to make conversation with you. It’s not normally that bad, just things like ‘doing anything nice this weekend?’ or ‘any plans for the bank holiday?’ and so on. Then at the end, you have a new haircut. My haircut is £15 and once I’ve paid I can leave. In England it is standard for barbershops to take cash, sometimes cash only, which is super cool for trans people who get deadnamed by their bankcards. 

Extra tips

And I will leave you now with some final tips. If the place you’re going takes cash, work out roughly how much you’ll need to pay (in the UK it’s usually less than £20 for a standard dry cut with discounts for students) and try and have it exactly - especially if you are the first customer of the morning because they might not have change. For my friends out there who bind, I don’t recommend it for your haircut. I know you’re reading this and thinking I’m mad, and I understand your feelings but trust me. The main reason for this is simply trying to get all the tiny bits of hair out afterwards. Unless you remove every single hair by hand, they will stay there and be really uncomfortable. Also, if you’re nervous about people seeing the straps, the barber might move your shirt around to brush the bits of hair off your neck at the end and they will probably see it. I personally haven’t had anyone comment on it but it could happen. You might be better off with a sports bra that has shoulder straps further from your neck. Finally, if you live somewhere cold, bring a hat. You might not need it on the way there but once they’ve cut half your hair off you are going to feel it. 

Most importantly, stay safe. If you want to take a friend/sibling/supportive parent, by all means do it. Having a haircut should be a gender affirming experience and make you feel happy. Experiment and have fun with your expression. You’re going to look so cool and handsome at the end of it.

Peace out,

Jacob

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Not a sports guy but this is wonderful

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You see, Perry the Platypus, when Vanessa was a little girl, she wanted to take estrogen. Of course, I said yes. And since then she’s always been my little girl. Well recently, Vanessa’s school deadnamed her on her reports! Can you believe that!? I mean we live in a fairly progressive area and—hey, isn’t that not allowed in public schools??

Anyway, that’s when I got the idea for THIS! The deadname-eraser-inator! That way, not only will Vanessa no longer be deadnamed, but EVERY OTHER TRANS PERSON IN THE TRI! STATE! AREA!

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♫♪♫ I should've known from how I felt when we were together, - and even more when we were apart... ♫♪♫

I'm taking liberties with Sherm’s dress sense outside of work - but yeah that’s Dan’s t-shirt he’s wearing over his tank. (Also he has tattoos now - sorry guys it’s canon I’ve decided hehe)

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