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We need to talk about the episode of “Grey’s Anatomy” that aired this week.

Over the seasons, we’ve learned about Dr. Jo Wilson’s tumultuous past that involves an emotionally and physically abusive ex-husband. So when he — Paul Stadler, a brilliant, world renowned doctor — showed up at Grey Sloan Memorial Hospital, she was catapulted into the debilitating, crushing fear that she had finally…

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life

Junior year was one of the toughest in my life, largely because for the first time I went through moments of experiencing the crushing hurt of loneliness. I’ve always appreciated having time to myself in the past. I liked being alone because I could just be – without having to engage with another person. What I didn’t realize was that I had never truly been alone before. Growing up in a family of…

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dear 16 year old me...

dear 16 year old me…

dear 16 year old me,

  What I would give to be you right now, carefree and having the time of your life.  There are a few things that you are taking for granted and there are a few things that you will always remember.  I know there is no way that you may actually read this but that’s okay.  Sometimes it’s about helping others than it is about helping yourself.

I know you are facing some things…

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t h a n k • y o u

After being raped the world seemed scary, untrusting, taunting. I never knew who I could trust. I didn’t know when the trauma would replay in my head. I knew I had triggers, but sometimes the panic came unexpectedly and wasn’t controllable.

I covered the pain with poor behaviors that just led to more pain. I knew I had to stop, but at the same time, I didn’t want to. Going to parties and…

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• p r a y e r •

• p r a y e r •

“We are to pray in times of adversity, lest we become faithless and unbelieving. We are to pray in times of prosperity, lest we become boastful and proud. We are to pray in times of danger, lest we become fearful and doubting. We are to pray in times of security, lest we become self-sufficient.”

-Billy Graham

Why do we pray?

I’ve heard people say that they have stopped praying because there is no…

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w o r t h Have you ever thought to yourself, “I’m not worthy” or “I’m not good enough”? How about, not smart enough, strong enough, or just simply “don’t have what it takes”?

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trust I know that its hard to trust God at times. I know that you have your good days and then you have some really rough days where you’re like..

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im busy...

im busy…

“I was busy; but not in a way most people understand.

I was busy taking deeper breaths.

I was busy silencing irrational thoughts.

I was busy calming a racing heart.

I was busy telling myself I am OK.

Sometimes, this is my busy — and I will not apologize for it.”

— b. oakman, “Anxiety Doesn’t Knock First”

So, today I was”busy.” Most every day, I am “busy.” I’m really not sure why this has to…

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Tired

There are days when I feel stretched beyond what I want to be. My struggles have been miles too long, and hard to smile through. I don’t want your sympathy, but maybe just a little bit of understanding. I feel tired of this journey -of being strong, of making sure to not lose it, but maybe that’s just what I need to do -to let it out. A sob has been knocking on my throat. It’s been wanting to…

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small victories: life with depression 

celebrate the fact that i was able to sleep. i am grateful to have rested my mind and my body.

i celebrate the fact that i can get out of bed. i can open my eyes,  sit up and put my feet on the ground. i can will myself to leave the comfort of my covers.

i celebrate ironing. it means that i have energy, that i am taking care of my physical appearance.

i celebrate the moment when i get out of my…

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1-800-799-7233 - grey’s anatomy

1-800-799-7233 – grey’s anatomy

A recent episode of “Grey’s Anatomy,” titled “1-800-799-7233,” focused on the return of Dr. Jo Wilson’s estranged husband. There have been hints and brief discussions in previous episodes that this man was abusive, but never had the show shown the extent of why Jo ran and changed her name to light — never had the show focused on domestic violence with such intensity. As a diehard Grey’s fan,…

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thoughts on rape culture

In recent months, I feel as though I’ve encountered many people who deny the existence of rape culture. Whether it be through a Snapchat from a lifelong friend reading, “Never having to worry about sexual assault when I’m alone on campus at night #perksofbeingugly,” or a rape joke muttered by a 14-year-old boy, individuals don’t seem to understand the severity of their words.

On May 20, 2017, the…

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Relationship Boundaries

There a lot of misconceptions about what boundaries are and do for relationships. We may feel that boundaries are unnecessary because our partner is supposed to already know and act on our needs and wants, or that they ruin the relationship or interfere with the spice. In reality, all healthy relationships have boundaries! A relationship can’t be healthy until both partners communicate their…

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35 to look want in a man

1. He is a Christian

2. He has a good background (friends, family, and education)

3. He is gentle

4. He wants children

5. He knows how to fix things

6. He knows how to cook (more than just Ramen and Mac-n-cheese)

7. He can explain things well

8. He is laid back (doesn’t get extremely excited, unless it’s important)

9. He is supportive

10. He is romantic

11. He is sweet like syrup

12. He is…

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random thoughts

You can only love someone throughout their flaws for so long until their flaws become a problem and you can’t seem to see through them. One day everything will hit you and you will realize all things mus5 come to an end good or bad but that’s the beauty of life. One day there will be a fork in the road where you must choose which path to walk down. Don’t let anyone choose your path. You are the…

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Honesty is the Best Policy

Honesty is the Best Policy

What exactly makes a relationship last? For some it may be physical attraction, mutual affection for one another, acceptance, maybe endless cuddles — it varies from person to person and can involve may components. Although it’s unique to every couple, I think one of the most important “secret” ingredients is honesty. Sounds simple, right? It’s kind of like when you say you’re going to go to the…

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pain

Sep 23, 2016

Pain, pain, go away, don’t come back another day

Have you ever been hit by a bus? No, I’m not being serious, but metaphorically speaking, have you? If so, then you likely know how mentally draining and painful it is to cope with the aftermath of it. So, my next question is, have you ever been physically injured in any way? If you haven’t you’re one of the lucky few. However, if you…