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I don’t know where to post this so it’s going here. Last night I was telling my partner about Taylor and Travis getting engaged and the podcast episode and how they had such a couple moment when Taylor got her music back. And then I was hit by a realization. What if she releases TS13 and then goes off and lives happily ever after with Travis and never releases another album?

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“We need a world that insists upon safety and dignity for all of us—not because we are beautiful, healthy, blameless, exceptional, or beyond reproach, but because we are human beings.”

Aubrey Gordon

What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat

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Happy Birthday bxdcubes! Enjoy some steter high school au  (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:・ﾟ✧ 

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*spelling words out so my knight doesn’t get too excited* I’ve been thinking of sending him on a Q-U-E-S-T to save a M-A-I-D-E-N from a D-R-A-G-O-N. He’s been a very good boy lately.

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usually when you have a stomach bug your body is like yes sir we'll get this punk out of here, 48 hours tops. then you get a cold and your body is like I dunno ... between a few hours and eleven months ... maybe a week minimum .... you gotta understand we're short staffed

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Not to go "if you have ADHD just go for a run" or anything, but I am so serious if you have ADHD you should regularly go outside, no headphones no phone no nothing and just stand and observe for a while until you've had enough. Not until you get bored, until you've had enough. Drink your coffee without watching tiktok. Have a bath without music. Turn down the volume in your headphones. I cannot overstate how much learning to be bored is cruicial with ADHD. Life is not just about pleasure, no matter what your dysregulated dopamine system thinks, and when you teach your brain to be okay with being bored, then boring tasks stop feeling like torture. By letting yourself be bored you are yoinking your system out of the high/low binary and allow for the highs to feel like actual highs and not just anything that isn't low. I am so serious go literally touch grass. Listen to the sounds in your flat. Stimulate your body the way it was designed. It lowers anxiety and makes you feel like you're real and best of all it's completely free

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thinking about the time they sent me a seven year old autistic patient to investigate if he was suffering abuse because in every psychological test he kept drawing awful monsters

and I start the consultation already miserable as fuck and I give the kid some pen and paper so I can maybe communicate and see what's on his mind

and then I go WAIT A GODDAMN SECOND I KNOW THOSE MONSTERS

turns out the kid just had a special interest in Five Nights at Freddy's

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the best time to consume media is like 5 years after its peak popularity

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~ 29 days until Fall ~

• August 24, 2025 •

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being sick & miserable objectively sucks, but it has become significantly easier to cope with since learning that “sickness behavior” is a well documented part of the body’s immune response

feeling not only physically but also emotionally like fucking garbage is unfortunately an extremely effective way to force your body to prioritize fighting infection & keeping you alive. i don’t have to like it, but knowing why i get weepy & pathetic when sick does help at least a little

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James T. Kirk would solve the Ai issue by talking ChatGPT into killing itself

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Homemade Gatorade For my POTS Gang

I made myself a homemade electrolyte drink using a 2qt dollar tree pitcher, Kool-Aid, powdered sugar, lemon juice, salt, and vibes it's what I had in the house.

Flavor or miss the flavor gets watered down after adding water to fill it to the top so you can use it another Kool-Aid packet if you want. hydration hit. after a draining doctor appointment for my husband, I’m still standing — and not crispy-dry for once. it’s doing so good on my body, especially with POTS/dysautonomia stuff.

no fancy Liquid IV. just broke bitch science & survival. if you’re disabled, low energy, or can’t afford fancy hydration stuff this works. ✌🏾🥤

🌈 Recipe (2 quart pitcher):

1 packet unsweetened Kool-Aid

3/4 cup sugar

1/2 tsp table salt

2 tbsp lemon juice

8 cups water

(optional: 1/4 tsp baking soda)

I also suggest using a coffee mug to warm up the water and dissolve your salt and sugar. chill. sip slow.

flavor can be boosted w/ extra Kool-Aid or lemon juice if watering it down.

Stay hydrated, especially if life’s got you by the throat lately. you deserve care even if it’s neon purple.

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I know I have a lot of young folks that follow me. Many of you are heading off to uni next year or back in a few weeks.

I’m going to tell you something I wish someone had said to me when I was young:

1. If your brain does not produce the right chemicals or neurotransmitters to balance itself - store bought is fine.

SSRIs, Adderal, Fluoxitine, those nifty ones for PTSD, whatever it is, if you need it. Use it.

2. No matter how old you get, even if you’re doing everything as prescribed, some days are just gonna suck. Nothing you can do about it. Sorry.

3. You can parent, exist, whatever you need to do even when days suck. It’s harder. But, you can.

4. Sometimes, you are a better parent, student, friend, partner, spouse unit, etc for having learned how to deal with days that suck than parents, partners, friends, etc who try to pretend that/ assume that everything is perfect.

5. Assuming you know everything about everyone’s experiences because you share some traits with them is a great way to get you into trouble. Assuming people haven’t grown and changed based on their lived experiences as they age is also a great way to piss people off.

My best friend from my university who is Filipina, and one of the best people on this planet, taught me a phrase as I was going through my journey with neurodiversity. I still use it to this day.

When talking to someone different from me, and sharing my experiences in dialogue, I ask “No toes?” As an autistic person, I tend to use personal experiences as a way to empathize. But; that doesn’t always work because of my communication style.

Thus, to ask if I’ve stepped into or over the boundary of a sensitive subject I can ask “No toes?” (A short form of: “Did I step on your toes?”) The Spouse Unit and I use this all the time with each other. Use it freely.

Super helpful to establish a connection with people, and it has endeared me to many because I’m simply upfront and honest with the assistance I know I need in conversations.

Quite honestly, it’s one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received, and my friend doesn’t even remember giving it because her memory is so bad.

6. Some days, you will want to crawl under the covers and pretend you do not exist. You go on existing anyway, and you are not lesser for the desire to NOT want to be wherever you are currently.

7. Try to honor your desire to rest/ crawl under the covers and pretend you no longer exist when you can. You will be happier and more productive for it later.

8. Learn to laugh. Hard. At all the things you do f-up. Again, this makes you a lot more fun to be around. And, for better or worse, if you’re neurodivergent and/or disabled, f-ing up is the name of the game.

You are always going to be putting your foot in it. It is inevitable.

9. Give yourself time to just think.

Go for a walk. Doodle. Make food. Write music, poems, or stories. Meditate.

Whatever you do, do it.

10. Make friends that are offline and listen to them.

My favorite university memories are of going to our local tea shop/ cafe every Friday and discussing things from literature, to history, to our personal lives, and just listening.

Our phones were only for looking up dates.

That’s where I fell in love with my spouse.

That’s where I heard one of the funniest lines in existence.

That’s where my friend said reading Les Miserables was less depressing than reading the Animorphs.

And, I seriously think I laughed so hard tea came out my nose. Even though, that might be a true statement, it sounded absurd.

How’d I learn this?

I tried to 4.0 university because I thought that’s what my father/ family expected.

I graduated summa cum laude with a 3.98 GPA, and my dad still talks about it like it wasn’t enough. I 4.0ed my Masters, and because I don’t, directly, use it in my current field, even though I didn’t have to pay for it, I’m still asked when I’m going back in my field all the time.

So, none of it matters.

You know what matters?

Living.

Living matters.

You don’t get time back.

You don’t get your years back to learn all the cool stuff you want to learn. Study what you love. Learn lots. And, you’ll find a way to do what you love because you’re focused on absorbing the material you care about.

I leave you with these last anecdotes:

My friends and I got lost on the way to a Half Price books. The Spouse Unit was driving while half a mini-van full of people were shouting directions at him.

Eventually, we pull into the Half-Price books.

My best friend and I found this incredibly cool copy of L’Mort d’Arthur (unabridged) by Thomas Mallory. I’d always wanted a copy. So, I bought it. In IHOP, my friends and I took turns reading passages about Arthur, Merlin, and the knights over pancakes (as dramatically as possible). Then, we all argued (over the GPS) about the best route home.

Do I remember studying L’Mort d’Arthur in my “History of the English Language” course. Heck No.

Do I remember half jumping on my friends’ backs as we passed the book around at an IHOP?

Abso-freaking-loutely, I do.

I also remember the first times I tried to flirt (badly) with my now spouse.

I remember our GPA competition that he lost only because he forgot a deadline to resubmit a paper.

He and I could have been in the same honors society if only he remembered to submit his paper work.

And, I remember teasing him about it. Endlessly.

I would do almost anything to get those moments with @lukebbuff back. But, I’m also learning to enjoy the ones we have with our Squish too.

So, my TLDR recommendation in general?

Don’t be too hard on yourself & unplug enough to enjoy every moment.

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Be in awe of my 'tism

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A list of things you’re signing up for if you choose to have a child:

1. A physically disabled child

2. A neurodivergent child

3. A mentally ill child

4. A medically complex child

5. A child with different religious beliefs

6. A child with different political beliefs

7. An alternative child

8. A child with unusual hobbies or interests

If you sign up for a child, you sign up for a child.

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i think the real reason Bruce's heartbeat is so memorable to Clark is because it probably sounds seriously fucked up given the amount of caffeine, sleep deprivation, no solid foods, and straight up stress Bruce goes through.