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Imagine your f/o hugging you tightly, rubbing soothing circles along your back or shoulder. Using their voice, embrace, or even just their presence to soothe you, they want nothing more than for you to feel safe, supported, and accepted.

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Hey, long time no see on this blog :)

I know I haven't really posted much for a while, I sort of fell off the habit of updating this quite a bit, so there's been quite a lull in activity. But I still love this blog / the idea of it, and my fos :)

I've actually been doing a lot of therapy work and real tangible healing for myself and my issues, trauma etc. So that's been really good. Maybe in a way that's why I haven't gone back to this blog as much, as I feel like it doesn't serve me as much as it once did. Like I don't need it to support me anymore! Which I think is...really good. That's a good sign anyway.

I have this issue where I just don't really know what to write for posts for this blog. My goal has always been to make posts that don't feel "basic" and stuff everyone has probably already imagined with their f/os before, and I struggle to come up with ideas a lot of the time. The most I would probably do is just...poetry or writing about my relationship with my own f/os, which to be honest I'm not sure how much people would care about. So sorry there's not much to see in way of recent original posts lol

I still do wanna continue to update this blog and will still reblog stuff I find for it, but I guess otherwise I am unsure where to take it! I am also not as active in the selfship community as I once was. I would love to use this blog in some kinda way to bring people more healing or bring people together, though I'm unsure how I would do that. Requires some thought I suppose.

I hope you are all doing well :) I love you and care for you, stay safe and remember that your f/o is there. I hope that you continue to find healing, and I will still be here to hopefully aid in that journey 💙

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Your f/o loves you even if you have Trauma

Your f/o doesn’t love you in spite of it, but understands that it’s just as much a part of you as anything else is

Your f/o understands you, and won’t judge you because you’re traumatized

Your f/o will be there if you’re having flashbacks/panic attacks and won’t judge you for them

Your f/o loves you no matter what

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ptsd kings and queens (gender neutral) this one’s 4 u and also 4 me

If something triggering comes up, like in a meeting or a conversation or a movie or whatever, ur f/o instantly reaches for ur hand and holds it and maybe gives it a reassuring squeeze. Just to let you know they’re there and they’re here for you. And then if you need a hug when you’ve left the situation they’ll hold you for a long as you want and make sure you know you’re safe with them

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Your f/o would help ground you during a panic attack, helping you breathe to the best of their ability. Your f/o would help you calm down and would make sure you were safe with them, too. Your f/o would be worried but caring and would do anything to be there for you.

proship/comship DNI

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You deserve the very best.🩵

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your f/o completely respects your lack of desire to kiss. they understand that there's more to romance and relationships than kissing, and that it wouldn't serve any use to push that boundary and make you uncomfortable for the sake of typical standards of romance. they're fine with whatever you prefer.

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F/O: *talks about all their trauma in canon*

F/O: but isn't that life tho lol

S/I: ...No. That's not normal. What happened is not ok!

F/O: Oh...

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imagine your f/o(s) seeking you in times of need and comfort because you’re their solace.

regardless of whatever it is they may need comfort from [ grief, loneliness, an awful day at work, heartbreak, etc. ] trust that your f/os know they can always seek you for some comfort.

whether it be just sitting in the same room as you as you sing to yourself, or listening to you talk about whatever song may be replaying in your mind at the moment, or hugging you in comfortable silence. maybe they want to talk, or quietly work together on a puzzle.

while it may not instantly cure all their worries, know that they’re soothed whenever they see you. your presence, always a calming warmth in times of chaos. so in love with you, they’re just comforted to know you’re there with them.

if you’re not there, they may or may not have a picture of you. maybe set as their lockscreen, kept in a locket or their wallet, all for the sake of looking at you when they need the extra comfort. serving as a reminder of who they’re doing this for, a reason to keep going. if they have the technology, expect them to browse through tons of videos and pictures of your memories together, or just you.

bonus — if they have some difficulty asking for help [ maybe they’re unused to it, maybe they’re too shy to ask directly or believe they don’t deserve it, etc. ] what are some subtle, or not so subtle, ways they do ask for help? any signs? like random hugs or approaching you just for company?

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Imagine helping your f/o after they self harm. You’re not ashamed or disappointed in them, and you make sure to tell them so. You help them clean up and disinfect their wounds, then ask them if they want to talk about what led them to this. If they want to share, you hang onto their every word. You promise to be their support system and help them any time they feel like doing it again.

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imagine your f/o taking your hand and looking at you all soft n shit. and they say, “you’ve been so strong, love. its okay to let that go. you don’t have to be strong on your own anymore.”

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It's okay to dislike being touched. It does not matter if they're your parents, siblings, friends, caretakers, family members, or anyone else. You are allowed to uphold your boundaries.

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rb to give that one horrifically traumatized f/o some comfort

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recovery doesn't necessarily mean never feeling upset or angry about your trauma again, never having another nightmare or bad day. recovery is learning to live with your trauma, to grow and thrive despite it. that looks and feels different for everyone. you haven't failed because you still feel affected by it.

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Imagine after u open up to ur f/o about something bad in ur past and you’ve talked about it a bit, they gently cup your face in their hands and just look at you for a moment. You place your hand over theirs and ask them what’s wrong. They pause for a moment and then say

‘I just can’t imagine how anyone could ever want to hurt you’

and then they give you a kiss on the forehead and pull you into their arms

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It’s okay to hide away sometimes.💙

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I hope that trauma victims who ship themselves with characters to cope know that I (and their F/O(s)) love and support them and hope that they are healing