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There is no such thing as "non-binary" transition, because there is no real "non-binary" sex to transition to, and no in-between sex to pause your transition at. There are only two sexes, so there are only male-to-female and female-to-male transition paths. You either change your natal sex along these paths, or you don't. Claiming your transition makes you "non-binary" either discredits the transition of actually transsexual people and insinuates you don't consider them real men and women -- or it perpetuates sexist ideas of what (cisgender) male and female bodies are supposed to look like. What does your idea, that deepening your voice slightly and gaining a little extra body hair makes you non-female, say about your idea of female bodies? Even if you went to the extreme of removing your primary sex characteristics, you'd still have to be on HRT to prevent problems long-term -- it'd still be one or the other. You are always going to be "binary". That's just biology.

"Non-binary" concepts can only be rooted in sexism. Because there is no such thing as a third sex category in human beings, so any notions of "non-binary" gender are going to be rooted in misconceptions about the two existing ones.

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I forgot how annoying this website is.

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people on tumblr are starting to develop a 4chan-esque internet tough guy complex about posting here, which is very funny given that this is the smol bean superwholock feels website

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[Name redacted by me as these were sent off anon and I do not wish for this person to get in trouble]

I’m publishing these messages because I feel like they are a great example for demonstrating what’s wrong with the kind of attitude that seems to become more and more common among fandom spaces on Tumblr, namely that people have to disclose very private information to complete strangers to be allowed to draw/write certain things. To the person who sent these, please think about why you thought this was an appropriate question to ask someone. Not only are you expecting me to reveal personal details like this to a stranger, but a stranger who just called me a “fucker” and a “disgusting asshole”.

I’m going to use this as an opportunity to talk about this in broader terms, since I’ve seen a lot of people get attacked about the same thing.    This whole “you must be this traumatized to ride” mindset is incredibly fucked up, and while I’m glad that more and more people feel comfortable talking about their experiences publicly, it should always remain optional instead of required. There are many reasons why people want to keep such things private, and their choice should be respected. What about all the people who aren��t sure if their experience counts? What about all those raised as women who, while they may have never been sexually assaulted, have been taught to live in fear of it, or had to deal with catcalling and harassment, and seek such content as way to deal with those experiences? The people who haven’t been sexually abused, but were victims of other kinds of abuse? This is an incredibly complex and nuanced topic, and while “ only survivors are allowed to ship/write/draw it” might look reasonable at first, it assumes you have the right to dig through and judge other people’s incredibly private thoughts and experiences. No one has that right.

I mean, where will this end? At which point will people only be allowed to create or consume fanwork that mirrors the exact circumstances of their abuse - which also means they have to disclose the exact details of what they went through to complete strangers? Hell, recently I’ve seen a callout post that, after the artist who was being called out disclosed they were a sexually abused (and got accused of lying by the writer of said post) stated that she’s still problematic because she didn’t state the person she was abused by was a relative, so she’s still problematic for shipping anime characters that are related. How can someone look at real people’s lived experiences and tell them their abuse wasn’t the right kind of abuse, so they aren’t allowed to look or create certain types of fanworks? It’s honestly baffling to me how people can think they should be the ultimate judge on who has or who hasn’t been abused properly enough (and in the right ways) to graciously be granted permission to enjoy noncon fiction. 

There are problems with noncon fanworks, absolutely, but those usually consist of people not acknowledging/realizing that what they are writing is abuse/noncon. I brought 50SoG up a few times before, but it’s a good example because, in my opinion, the problem with it isn’t that it’s depicting an abusive relationship - it’s that the author doesn’t think that it’s abusive. That is the kind of shit that deserves to be called out, and not in a “show your victim card” way, but by explaining how the things being depicted qualify as abusive and non-consensual so that it can be properly tagged and warned for so people who are triggered by it can avoid it.

Tumblr user Stereowire put this into words way more succinctly than I could, so please read this post (it’s specifically about an issue in the MCU fandom, which I have no clue about, but I think it applies to fandoms in general).

Here are some important quotes (bolded by me):

sexual assault isn’t a goddamn credential, it’s not a placement test, it’s not some sort of fucking prerequisite you have to pass to have a kink. put another way: you don’t earn the right or deserve to enjoy a thing only after you’ve been sexually assaulted. like, jesus christ, can you imagine someone with no sexual assault history who likes fictional noncon kink reading those shitty judgmental posts and thinking that if only they’d been raped or abused, it would be okay? this bullshit “it’s gross and you’re gross but i guess it’s okay for survivors AND SURVIVORS ONLY to enjoy this as a somewhat unhealthy coping mechanism” viewpoint actually creates a scenario in which having been raped in real life is the better option because now you have a trump card against some fucking asshole teenagers on the internet harassing you, and this plays right into this whole fucking shit philosophy where the more hardships and oppressions you can claim to have endured, the more morally unassailable your position in any argument. seriously, last time i got into it with an anon about the hydra trash party (months ago now, apparently i’ve scared them off), i had a bunch of people send me messages about how they were sexual assault survivors and enjoyed my work. i don’t want or need to know that. i do not fucking care, in the most benevolent way possible— i am not the gatekeeper; if you are a survivor i am proud of you but you should not feel any need to justify yourself to me, and on the flipside, just because i don’t talk about my own personal history to justify my kinks, you also don’t need to feel like you’re granting me permission to post these things, as if sexual assault survivors get to bring a plus-one on their ticket to the noncon party or something. i fucking hate that there is a culture on tumblr that made a dozen or so people feel like that was something they had to message me about, or someone would tell them to die in a fire. don’t tell me that’s somehow a less toxic influence on ~young impressionable minds~ in fandom spaces than people who are self aware enough to actually use the terms “noncon” and “dubcon” as warning labels so people can avoid it if they don’t want to see it.

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if you click to open this thread you die in real life

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this kid is 14 oh my god is no one teaching children to protect themselves online anymore…

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i get that people are more comfortable with defined rules and structure but i also think queer people lost when they started resorting to dictionary definitions for what labels mean

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I sometimes wonder if we all just went "Okay fine you win, lesbian is now an undefined term for anyone who wants to identify with it. We're making a new word, its femsexual, and this means women who only are attracted to other women. Now we can all just be in peace with each other". Would that actually satisfy anyone? Or would it still persist because the actual issue is with women unequivocally stating they aren't into men?

The other reason it won't solve anything is because, while people insist that defining it is somehow tarnishing the word, they do need it to be correlated with a definition in order for it to still exist. If people legitimately attached no meaning to the word lesbian and it was blatantly said that its just a random adjective it would fall out of usage in seconds because it would be aggressively obvious that its pointless.

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Cannot fucking believe that people are still uncritically reblogging that terrible post about how us gays and pocs are only atheists because of religious trauma while white cishets can only come to atheism through the dreaded evil logic

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stop fucking leaving your partners just because they realize they are asexual and or aromantic in the middle of the relationship you fucking assholes

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Gotta say that while I understand dragging people who are hostile and unhinged to strangers online with things such as, “you can’t even make phone calls”, some posts have looped back around to just, straight up mocking people with social anxiety or traits on the autism spectrum. A post with thousands of notes will be like, “y’all are fucking freaks who can’t look people in the eye because uwu it makes you nervous uwu and you won’t stfu about this cringe TV show instead of being Normal 🙄 and you wonder why you can’t make new friends 🤣 if you want to stop being judged then stop being a weirdo 💅”

Uh. I think y’all just peaked at being 7th grade bullies. Lol

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Anything that proclaims all x group do y action/believe y thing even as joke is still very meh to me.

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every time I see LGBTQ discourse I think about that post that said masc cis lesbians get kicked out of bathrooms as cruelly as trans people do so why the fuck are some lesbians transphobic , and I think about how homophobes won’t check for your sexuality before calling us slurs and I think about how my local dyke March considers anyone who identifies as a dyke a dyke because fuck rainbow capitalism we are here to fight for our lives and I think about how my best friends are bisexual and I think about how lesbians have been loving each other in ways that the gender binary has never been able to understand(and never will) and I think about that post that says the worst thing the right did was convince queer people other queer people were the enemy

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"shipping is fun and can lead to some really creative aus and ideas within fandoms" and "the breakdown of media into who is shippable with who is destroying narrative purpose" are statements that can and should coexist

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Do you think nonbinary is real?

No, I think it's a social trend dominating social media that young people feel pressured into through guilt trips and peer pressure, that has absolutely zero basis in neurobiology and has been incredibly harmful due to its unjustifiable association with transsexualism and sex dysphoria.