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Thought food.

Maybe white people "appropriate" other cultures because they have none they can or want to be proud of. Maybe instead of villanizing them for it, other cultures should be flattered that an entire race thinks they're just that awesome.

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A letter to a confused friend about Transgenders

Adrianne, I have a transgender friend, a very dear friend. Before the transitioning began, we dated. Hell, he was the reason I moved out to CA. She now, has spent the last few years on hormones and electrolysis, has steadily been going to therapy for gender dysphoria, and plans to fully transition within the next year. Did you know that they are required by psychologists to live as the gender they identify with for at the very least, 2 consecutive years, before they can be considered for the full transition? At least, that's what's required in CA. I understand that it seems just other worldly for people to pick who and what they are. I know the idea of a 3 year old child telling their parents they are what they aren't, seems psychologically impossible. What good parent lets their 3 year old run them? It's just an impossible situation. But, having met with, talked with, shared mine and my daughters life with a transgendered individual, it opened my eyes. I always joked about the fact that my ex was a bit more feminine than I was, had better fashion sense than me, could dye my hair better than me.. Always jumped to maybe he was secretly gay, or at the very least, bi-sexual. Neither of those things were true. I was living with someone who had tried multiple times to let me know there was something else going on. There were cries for help. There were whole weeks I wouldn't hear from him because he was so ashamed of what he knew would destroy me. There were attempts on his life, some I probably don't even know about. But had he succeeded, I wouldn't know this beautiful woman who fills the world with her own blazing light. I wouldn't have my best friend who understands me so much better now. She wouldn't have her amazing wife (who was always a woman, born naturally) who fully supports her doing what she needs to do for herself. There would be so much love lost... A real tragedy for those who love her, no matter what form she may come in.. You're worried about transgenders who haven't fully transitioned coming into a bathroom with you and your children. I understand that fear. I see it and I'm afraid, too. But not quite for the same reasons you are. If a man, dressed as a woman, as poorly put together as most of the mug shots from these depraved individuals are, came in.., I would know he was up to nothing good. A real Trans person, spends more than enough time trying to blend in as the sexual identity they feel is theirs. And sometimes, you can't even tell they're transitioning! They spend a hell of a lot of money on hormones to soften their features and grow breasts. Their bodies change without the help of a knife. Electrolysis isn't cheap.. It's a mainstay for male to female transition. And remember when I said my ex had better fashion sense than me? I wasn't kidding.. They spend just as much money on clothes.. It would be some scruffy tweaked out dude in his grandmas old blue muumuu, who walked into the bathroom and attacked you. Not another woman who just happens to still have a penis.. And the impossibility of a 3-5 year old knowing something is amiss with their bodies, isn't quite so impossible either. I consider myself lucky that I have a little girl, who is just that. A little girl. I couldn't imagine the pain she would be feeling if I grew her hair long and stuck her in frilly pink dresses, had she known she was really meant to be a boy. I couldn't imagine making her participate in female oriented projects or arguing with her about any and all of these things.. Would I jump the gun and have her get surgeries? No. I would wait and see puberty through, so her body would be able to handle the adult hormones required. All while seeing our own psychologist. No decision would be made without extensive conversations and careful planning of the next steps.. But would I force her to live a lie? My own child? No.. I wouldn't. You are most certainly entitled to your opinions. You are more than capable of deciding what goes on in your house. All that I ask, is that you take some time to understand the point of view of these individuals before you make snap judgements on free forums, for the world to see. It's great you don't have a problem with Trans people, except you do.. You think they shouldn't walk into a bathroom if they still have their penis.. I'm sorry but it's discrimination. How would you even know, in some cases, without peeking through the door? What if someone thought you were a Trans person? I've been asked if I was before, having a cleft chin. What if they peeked through your stall and accused you of breaking the law, just by going pee? You'd be outraged! You'd have their head on a platter and there wouldn't be a news outlet in existence not covering your story.. Why should they be extended any less of those rights? Because you don't like it? Tough shit, hunny. They are people. Human beings. They matter just as much as you do. Don't claim to shower the world with unrelenting love, if you can't even simply allow someone to pee without you worrying what their actual motives are.. I understand this is hard, it's hard on both of us. We never had to have these conversations before. We didn't know we'd disagree so profoundly.. And it really sucks. Neither of us will look at the other quite the same.. But this had to be said before I lost my shit and just screamed at you in the middle of a grocery store. I respect you more than that, so I chose to write it down. I hope one day, love will conquer all and peace will reign. I hope that for every person on this planet. Maybe I'm just able to accept it more, maybe there's just no pleasing people.. I won't and can't know. But I do hope that you see a different perspective. I really do.. - M

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Out of it

She tells herself It'll all be alright Just so she can sleep Through the night Nightmares plague Her turbulent mind Omens telling her She's out of time Out of time, out of touch Out of sync with those she loves Out of breath, out of release Out of everything she needs Circling, spinning Twisting turning All the images Crashing and burning Falling, dropping Losing distance Why on earth would anyone Wish this? Out of time, out of touch Out of sync with those she loves Out of breath, out of release Out of everything she needs She tells herself It'll be alright Just so she can sleep Through the night. - M

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One and Two

She met him in the dark with no inhibitions, she was out for the night she was on a mission. He had her number and a nice smile, he said come on over baby we can lay down for a while. He had her around his pinky, but this he hardly knew. He wasn't looking for one, he was down for two. And she was unsuspecting, no reason for this to quit. The darkest parts of passion were finally being lit. Her heart in his teeth, She saw no reason why he would ever hurt her, why he would ever lie. But, the day did come when she could no longer ignore, his growing distance, he was getting bored. She set out to please him anyway that she could. Only one thing would help them, he made it understood. But she couldn't give up what meant so much to her, she couldn't let it happen. Either way it would hurt. He promised that nothing else mattered, he loved only her. All the lies he told her were beginning to blur. She had what she needed to finally walk away, gritted teeth he had her, convinced her to stay. Two has grown weary, one isn't the same. All's fair in love and war, except when it's a game. You pick and choose your battles, or they pick and choose you. But don't let yourself be fooled, be one instead of two. - M

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My cat melted.