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Allowance

When to bring up the topic of sugar?

A sugar relationship could be whatever two people can agree on as long as the sugar brings “value” to both parties. As to when to bring this up, we don’t think there is anything wrong with asking about sugar early in the process by either the SD or SB.

Most of us SB’s agree that parameters and expectations should be discussed and confirmed BEFORE meeting for the first time, by email, texts or phone conversations. You don’t want to have conversations about allowances, and expectations when meeting face to face whilst trying to get to know if you have a genuine connection to want to actually proceed to a relationship.

Unlike normal dating, you shouldn’t leave things open ended and see what happens, otherwise the process could drag on without any tangible results.

If there is no travel involved, maybe you can discuss sugar when you meet in person. But if there is travel involved, then you should have a clear understanding of what each other’s expectations are before making travel arrangements.

We understand some people may misrepresent themselves, so there is an issue of trust and respect as well. Do you think the Pot you’re talking to can be trusted and has respect for you? Does the SB have a genuine interest in her potential SD? That’s a judgment call each person will have to decide for themselves. Allowance Guidelines

SB’s need to be realistic about what is a reasonable allowance to ask a potential SD to consider, that will also take into account her expenses and location.

SD’s need to be able to plan to have an SB in their life, and be fiscally reliable in that relationship too. This is a lifestyle choice and is NOT for everyone.

Different people have different lifestyle needs, especially geographically where the rents/expenses are higher than other towns and cities. SB’s should include travel costs to meet their SD’s when discussing an allowance.

$10K/$20K a month SD’s are rare but they do exist. However they are all about looking to building trust with their SB’s first. As a new SB, don’t think that a millionaire SD will land in your lap!

Allowance concepts and levels range widely, however, if an SD is seeking a great Sugar Baby and wants the best of those ladies who are extremely selective to meeting the right kind of Sugar Daddy they want to engage with because they seek a connection that matters to them. A high-class Sugar baby can offer her partner a genuine connection, be articulate, always well dressed and classy, beautiful and intelligent and most important of all - not desperate to land anyone who can just pay their bills and not care about anything else their SD can offer intellectually and emotionally.

(Please note this is based on general experience of the SB’s polled on our site and on social networking sites and are a guide ONLY)

Minimum Expectation: $1,500 - $2K per meeting = appears to be the minimum amount an SD will be spending on an SB he is serious about establishing the relationship with or for those starting out or dipping into the lifestyle. This amount decided by both parties, say for example $2K is usually paid for a per meet (once or twice a month) basis, for some of the girls here, they said that that would entail between approx. 3-5hrs r espectively in an afternoon or evening with their SD, until the relationship is established due to difficulties in deciding what both parties foresee in the future of the arrangement or until the relationship is settled down to its natural course, as all new relationships eventually do.

What tends to happen in this scenario is that both parties review the situation after a few months or if they are happy with the arrangement, just continue as they are. Some people skip this level of allowance of a per meet basis and go straight into a monthly arrangement. Normally this suits the SD’s that have determined their financial reliability to commit to a monthly arrangement on an ongoing basis.

The following levels are usually set up for most established men who can afford to provide a more serious investment in their sugar Baby on a monthly basis - especially if she is exclusive to him and a monthly commitment (normally paid in advance or half at the beginning of the month and half mid-way or at the end of the month)

$3.5K - $5K = appears to be the average amount spent on an SB in the USA for a more serious relationship and most couples don’t appear to have a specific limit to the number of times they meet. It just tends to be more spontaneous and when it’s mutually convenient. Some new couples use this amount too when they wish to engage in a monthly arrangement and not a per meet arrangement.

$5K - $10K= appears to be the average amount spent on an SB in the major cities and for those SD’s who have seriously decided to get into the lifestyle with one special SB over a longer period. For some of us ladies who are in this realm who have been with one SD for some length of time, explain that it’s a natural progression to discuss an increase in allowance levels when both parties realize they only want to see each other and come out of the “sugar bowl”.

$10K - $20K= Established/older SD’s seem to spend on an SB in the USA for a kept SB or Mistress. This amount would include costs for housing, cars, expenses etc. as well as cash.

$20K plus = Yeah, he can afford it! He is the ultimate SD where money is no object and he wants only the best SB he can find. Usually at this level, the relationship is on an exclusive basis.

These arrangements can be paid monthly or per meet (example: if your SD can only see you twice a year or once a month etc.), depending on what makes you both comfortable. It is very important that the SD stays committed to the agreed amount and is reliable in providing the allowance to the SB on the agreed date and for the agreed amount without being prompted or asked for it by his SB. Methods of how the allowance is given to the SB differs with every relationship and should be discussed so as not to cause any discomfort or embarrassment.

From our own poll on this question, most of us SB’s prefer their allowance in cash inside an envelope or inside a card or thoughtful note and given to them in a discreet manner.

Also an important point; should the SD cancel or change his dates, the allowance should STILL be payable to the SB. She has committed her time to making time to get ready, adjust her schedule for a meeting and is relying on you to provide a regular and ongoing arrangement. SD’s should discuss what happens with the allowance should he cancel a meet or needs to change the parameters.

Also there are SD’s that are allowance daddy’s only or gift daddy’s only or a combination of both. Some established SB’s keep a wish list of items for their friends and SD’s to purchase gifts from when he feels so inclined.

It’s up to the SB to be assertive and ASK for what she wants. You can always negotiate or agree to review every couple of months to see how you both feel about any increases or changes.

Some SD’s bring a small gift on the first date, (hey some of us love flowers too) but most SB’s will not insist that they do. However if an SB has to travel, it is expected that the SD will cover all her costs for the first date.

NOTE to both SD’s and SB’s - once you’ve agreed the arrangement, don’t start changing things half way through the relationship unless it’s mutually agreed. It can destroy the trust and shorten the relationship.Other Expectations

Points to also discuss is expectations of intimacy by BOTH parties. Some SD’s are not seeking this and just wish to have a lovely intelligent companion. Other SD’s expect intimacy at some point and you must both be open and honest about your feelings on thsi subject for it to work. If you are likely to become intimate, be sure to discuss your views about safe sex. A healthy and safe sex life is important.

How often you expect to meet is something to also discuss. Obviously nothing is set is stone, so a general idea to get a feel for what the expectations are in terms of mutual availability.

Neutral location/ his or her place? Discretion is important to most experienced SB’s and to most married SD’s so the Pot/SD should suggest a nice, comfortable and safe location for both parties to enjoy their time together.

Communication between meets is a debateable subject here. Some younger SB’s loathe the idea of being constantly in communication with their SD’s. The older or more experienced SB’s want a genuine ongoing connection and encourage communication between meets with their SD’s.

The key to this lifestyle is to always be open, honest and respectful of the parameters set between both parties at ALL times. Obsessive, jealous behavior or not keeping promises or sticking to the terms of the arrangement is destructive in this lifestyle. Also, leave the drama and baggage at home. This is supposed to be a fun time for both of you and not a nightmare!

Good Luck to all you SB’s in the Sugar Bowl!

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I'm getting offered 2k a month, meeting three or four times and sex is on the table. Does that sound bad?

Hey there, anon :)

To be honest, you have to work out what works for you. Is $2k enough for you? Would you still need another SD to cover everything you need? Would you want more than one SD? Think about it. I personally break it down. $2k 4 times a month is $500 per week. Does $500/week work for your budget? Is he willing to take you shopping? Are there any other incentives? That’s another way to look at it. And if you haven’t already, you should make a list of priorities and needs/wants. Then, based on your list, decide the minimum amount you’ll need. Once you have that worked out, I don’t suggest settling. Negotiate but don’t settle.

For example, I have a $6k uni bill that I want to pay off by March. That gives me three or four months to do it. I’ll need at least $1500 a month to cover that alone, but there are other things I need to take care of and want to get (plus I like to factor in gas/transit money, keeping up appearances, etc), so I would want more than $1500.

We all have different priorities, so calculate what works for you. If $2k is enough then wooo! Congrats on receiving the offer you need (although I would still suggest negotiating to maybe $2500 or $3000 because it never hurts to have extra)! If $2k isn’t enough then wooo! Congrats on receiving an offer! Even though it isn’t what you need, you can still be like “fuck yeah!” Positivity, man. It goes a long way. Thank him and move on, unless you want to negotiate. I’ll link some helpful posts for you. Congrats on getting an offer and good luck! Happy sugaring!

When You’re Not Sure How Much to Ask For:

http://sugardiary2.tumblr.com/post/105205733114/hello-lovely-lady-i-would-be-grateful-if-you

Before Agreeing to An Allowance:

http://thesugaringescort.tumblr.com/post/59079847722/5-questions-to-ask-before-agreeing-to-an-allowance

What to Say to Get the Allowance That You Want:

http://sugar-diploma.tumblr.com/post/63895185794/what-to-say-to-get-the-allowance-you-want

Remind Him:

http://temmysugar.tumblr.com/post/105118418723/witchyvegan-i-dont-sell-my-body-for-money-i

Remind Yourself:

http://sugar-pinkliquorlips.tumblr.com/post/66397567632/a-sugar-baby-mantra

There was a post floating around about calculating your allowance. If I can find it then I’ll update this with a link to it.

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Me to my POTS and sugar daddies

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28 Queens Of Black History Who Deserve Much More Glory

Let’s not forget about these trailblazing women this Black History Month.

Shirley Chisolm (1924–2005)

Chisolm broke major barriers when she became the first black congresswoman in 1968. She continued on her political track when she ran for president four years later, making her the first major-party black candidate to run.

Claudette Colvin (1939-)

Several months before Rosa Parks’ refusal to give up her seat on a bus, Colvin was the FIRST person arrested for resisting bus segregation in Montgomery, Alabama, at the age of 15.

Septima Poinsette Clark (1898–1987) 

Clark was an educator and civil rights activist who established citizenship schools that helped many African Americans register to vote. Regarded as a pioneer in grassroots citizenship education, she was active with the NAACP in getting more black teachers hired in the South.

Mary Church Terrell (1863–1954)

This women’s suffrage activist and journalist was the first president of the National Association of Colored Women and a charter member of the NAACP. She was also one of the first African American women to be awarded a college degree.

Angela Davis (1944-)

Davis is an American revolutionary and educator. The former Black Panther has fought for race, class and gender equality over the years.

Ida B. Wells-Barnett (1862-1931)

Wells helped bring international attention to the horrors of lynching in the South with her investigative journalism. She was also elected as the Secretary of the Colored Press Association in 1889.

Kathleen Cleaver (1945-)

Kathleen Cleaver is one of the central figures in Black Panther history. She was the first communications secretary for the organization and is currently a law professor at Emory University. She also helped found the Human Rights Research Fund.

Dr. Dorothy Height (1912-2010)

Dr. Height was regarded by President Barack Obama as “the godmother of the Civil Rights Movement.” She served as the president of the National Council of Negro Women for over two decades and was instrumental in the integration of all YWCA centers in 1946.

  Phillis Wheatley (1753-1784)

Wheatley was a former slave who was kidnapped from West Africa and brought to America. She was bought by a Boston family and became their personal servant. With the aid of the family, she learned to read and eventually became one of the first women to publish a book of poetry in 1773.

Audre Lorde (1934-1992)

This Caribbean-American writer and activist was a self-described “black, lesbian, mother, warrior and poet.” She empowered her readers with her moving poetry often tackling the injustices of racism, sexism and homophobia. She’s known for her poetry and memoirs such as, From a Land Where Other People Live, The Black Unicorn and A Burst of Light.

Flo Kennedy (1916-2000)

Kennedy was a founding member of the National Organization of Women and one of the first black female lawyers to graduate from Columbia Law School.

Marsha P. Johnson (1945-1992)

Johnson was an outspoken and fearless trans woman who was a vital part in the fight for civil rights for the LGBT community in New York. She was known as the patron at Stonewall Inn who initiated resistance on the night the police raided the bar.

Sojourner Truth (1797-1883)

Born Isabella Baumfree, she escaped slavery with her infant daughter and changed her name to Sojourner Truth. She’s best known for her speech delivered at the Ohio Women’s Rights Convention in 1851 titled “Ain’t I A Woman?”

Fannie Lou Hamer (1917-1977)

Hamer was a civil rights activist and organizer of the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee Fannie Lou Hamer 

Dr. Mary McLeod Bethune (1875-1955)

Dr. Bethune was an educator and civil rights activist who believed education was the key to racial advancement. She served as the president of the National Association of Colored Women and founded the National Council of Negro Women.

Gwendolyn Brooks (1917-2000)

This poet was the first African American to win a Pulitzer Prize for her 1949 book titled Annie Allen.

Bessie Coleman (1892-1926)

Coleman became the first black woman to earn a pilot’s license and the first black woman to stage a public flight in the United States

Lena Horne (1917-2010)

Horne was a popular actress and singer who was most known for her performances in the films “Stormy Weather” and “The Wiz.” She worked closely with civil rights groups and refused to play roles that stereotyped black women.  

Wilma Rudolph (1940-1994)

Nicknamed “the black gazelle,” Rudolph was born premature and was stricken with polio as a child. Though her doctor said she would never be able to walk without her brace, she went on to become a track star. She became the first American woman to win three gold medals at a single Olympics in 1960.

Billie Holiday (1915-1959)

Holiday was an extremely influential jazz vocalist who was known for her “distinctive phrasing and expressive, sometimes melancholy voice.” Two of her most famous songs are “God Bless the Child” and “Strange Fruit,” a heart-wrenching ballad about blacks being lynched in the South.

Diane Nash (1938-)

Nash is a founding member of the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee. She was instrumental in organizing the Freedom Rides, which helped desegregate interstate buses in the South.

Zora Neale Hurston (1891-1960)

Hurston was an anthropologist and author during the Harlem Renaissance. Though she didn’t receive much recognition for her work while she was alive, her works of fiction, especially Their Eyes Were Watching God, became staples in American literature.

Hattie McDaniel (1893-1952)

  As an actress, McDaniel appeared in more than 300 films and was the first African American to win an Oscar in 1940. She was also the star of the CBS Radio program, “The Beulah Show.”

Ruby Bridges (1954-)

Ruby Bridges was six years old when she became the first black child to integrate an all-white school in the South. She was escorted to class by her mother and U.S. marshals due to violent mobs outside of the Mississippi school.

Charlayne Hunter-Gault (1942-)

Hunter-Gault was the first black woman to enroll at the University of Georgia. She became an award-winning journalist after she graduated and worked for outlets such as the New York Times, PBS and NPR.

Daisy Bates (1914-1999)

As a civil rights activist and journalist, Bates documented the fight to end segregation in Arkansas. Along with her husband, she ran a weekly black newspaper and became the president of the Arkansas chapter of the NAACP.

Dr. Mae Jemison (1956-)

  Dr. Jemison is the first black woman to be admitted into the astronaut training program and fly into space in 1987. Jemison also developed and participated in research projects on the Hepatitis B vaccine and rabies.

Ella Baker (1903-1986)

Baker was the national director for the  NAACP. She also worked with the Southern Christian Leadership Conference and the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee. As one of the leading figures in the civil rights movement, Baker is known for her leadership style which helped develop others’ skills to become leaders in the fight for a better future.

Let’s not forget about these trailblazing women this Black History Month.

source Huffington Post

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I saw this video on Facebook and I screamed! She is so positive, so lovely, so beautiful! This is a message you can never hear too often, because we’ve been hearing the opposite our whole lives. 

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I saw this video on Facebook and I screamed! She is so positive, so lovely, so beautiful! This is a message you can never hear too often, because we’ve been hearing the opposite our whole lives. 

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