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starts talking about my emotional state with 2 degrees of abstraction instead of 7 and the sniper across the street who i pay to keep me in line fires a warning shot thru my little hoop earring

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Kiki and Bouba Yuri

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This is an incredible read. It's like Ozy took every annoyed rant I and numerous detractors of Conflict is Not Abuse have made while gathered around our kitchen tables with friends and actually formed it into a coherent take-down. I've been waiting for someone to write this for years and I'm so grateful I didn't have to do it, that someone else did it far better.

Ultimately, Conflict Is Not Abuse is the among the purest works of victim mindset I have ever read. It just has different ideas than normal people about what makes you a victim. Someone physically attacking you and breaking your bones, for example, doesn’t make you a victim. Schulman wants to reserve that status for people who have truly suffered, such as: People whose phone calls were not returned. People who got in Twitter discourse, but whose interlocutor didn’t want to meet up in person to talk about it. People who were broken up with even though they didn’t consent to being broken up with. People who have provided an extremely convincing argument about why they deserve to be friends with someone, and yet that person still doesn’t want to be friends with them. People who hit on someone who claims not to be attracted to them, even though they totally were, bro. People who were rejected romantically without even the opportunity to stand outside a window holding a boom box that’s playing In Your Eyes. People who have been cruelly iced out just because they broke someone’s bone which is, clearly, not that bad in the grand scheme of things. Ironically, this entire line of argumentation is a great example of how thinking of yourself as a victim causes you to harm or abuse others. Maybe it’s performance art.

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Austin Underscore Walker headcanons of all time

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what super expensive indulgence would u get for urself if u suddenly came into a bunch of money?? assume all bills/mortgages paid, all friends helped: what treat are u buying just for u?? for me it would be a quilted lambskin chanel bag in iridescent pink

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i thought my laptop was on its last leg because it was running at six billion degrees and using 100% disk space at all times and then i turned off shadows and some other windows effects and it was immediately cured. i just did the same to my roommate's computer and its performance issues were also immediately cured. okay. i guess.

so i guess if you have creaky freezy windows 10/11 try searching "advanced system settings", go to performance settings, and uncheck "show shadows under windows" and anything else you don't want. hope that helps someone else.

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making another post since the previous one got long:

my mother passed away this morning due to an aggressive bowel cancer. we came to another city for treatment and now have to send the body to be buried back in our hometown, which is costing us 8700 reais ($1580 USD).

it's a lot of money, and I don't expect to meet the goal, but if you can help by sharing or donating even $1, I'll be eternally grateful. thank you!

110/1580

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hi happy pride 🌈 🏳️‍⚧️can someone help a Black nb lesbian get some food during this heatwave, been pretty sick c4$h4pp v3nm0 p4yp4l

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i think far too many people have only seen this video as that one sped up gif version of it and that is a crime that needs to be fixed because this video actually changed my life

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reblog this to put a leaf on your mutuals head

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More Lesbianism now

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i love when ppl say “that’s so you” it feels good to know i exist and have a vibe

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ASSORTED THOUGHTS ON THERMODYNAMICS multi-color linocut tetraptych process under the cut

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the pendulum is going to swing back so hard to woke, it will be unbelievable. you're going to be arrested if you go out without pronoun pins

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i actually do think it’s anti-feminist to be fatphobic and yes i do mean that

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Making a kind of chunky crochet thing (trying to make Square to house Shoes so they don't just kick around [lol] on the floor) and I'm both out of practice And holding 2 worsted yarns together with a smallish hook. Girls. My hand hurts