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“How do I stop feeling like everyone secretly hates me?”

It’s normal with BPD to feel that way sometimes. The fear of abandonment can twist silence, neutral moods, or even kindness into rejection in your head.

You can’t turn the fear off instantly, but you can notice it and name it. “This is my abandonment alarm, not proof they hate me.”

Then, act opposite to the urge like reach out, check in, or simply stay present instead of withdrawing.

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gee in the tdi artstyle again

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wake the fuck up 0210 timeline

English version

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I really like the theory that this girl in harrow is Kotoko as a child.

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super messy sketch but I wanted to see kotoko with a wolf cut

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I was rejected after five minutes.

job interview.. tomorrow..

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old maskless spy wip I keep forgetting to get back to, but definitely want to finish lol

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BE A SILLY SEAL DRAWINGS!! [ Roblox! ] 🦭

Got a new iPad after my previous one broke! So finally I can post again! With some cute seaaals. I love this game so much ゜･ﾟﾟ .• ・゜゜・．•

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Unrestrained summer fun

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Bullying is crazy... I spent 13 years of my life forced to be at a certain location for 6+ hours almost every day, and at this location multiple of my peers would verbally harass or insult me, physically assault me, sexually harass me, socially ostracize me, every single day, for factors entirely outside of my control. And every adult who was ostensibly supposed to prevent this from happening either willfully ignored it or actively contributed to the bullying. And like, I'm supposed to just brush it off as "just bullying" and something that everyone goes through? Like I was literally in psychological torment camp every day for nearly my entire childhood and now I'm supposed to just function like a human being. Anyways what did you want on your sub. Ham and cheese. No lettuce or mayo..got it okay

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I really like the theory that this girl in harrow is Kotoko as a child.

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i feel like ive missed out on so much in life. i wish i had been born different. there’s so much grief in this feeling

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job interview.. tomorrow..

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grown ass man

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my quirky take on the holy quincet! ^^a small reminder that this is how I PERSONALLY feel COMFORTABLE drawing them, this is a subjective vision, and you don’t have to comment that it “doesn’t look canon”, I'll be like shit fr??? no way

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Any advice for those empty days when it feels like you’ll never be happy again?

When you’re in one of those heavy, empty days, it can feel like happiness is something you once imagined but never really had. That feeling is so real and it’s tied to something called emotional permanence.

Emotional permanence is the ability to hold onto the idea that good feelings and good moments still exist, even when you’re not experiencing them right now. For people who struggle with trauma or BPD, it’s hard to trust that happiness can come back. When you’re sad, it feels like you’ll always be sad. When you’re empty, it feels like that emptiness is forever.

A few things that can help on those days:

•Remind yourself of proof. Write down or collect small reminders of past moments where you felt joy or even just contentment. Pictures, journal entries, texts from someone who made you smile. These become anchors you can hold onto.

•Don’t demand “happy.” Sometimes “not as bad” is enough of a win. Aim for comfort, softness, or distraction rather than forcing joy.

•Lean on borrowed permanence. If you can’t hold onto the memory that happiness returns, let someone else remind you. Ask a friend or loved one to tell you what they’ve seen in you before.

•Use grounding. Tell yourself: “This feeling is real right now, but it won’t always be. Feelings move. This one will too.”

It’s okay if you can’t convince yourself of it in the moment. The work isn’t to force happiness, but to gently remind yourself that emptiness doesn’t last forever.