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Lesbians are so good at pointing out romantic chemistry between women on TV but in real life it takes 3 years of friendship and an entire peer reviewed scientific paper to convince us that a girl might like us back.

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Before discovering t3 micro (anyone else a fan?!) I used to be a wash-and-go type of gal, even my hairdryer was acquired not that long a...

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WHY IS THIS NOT A MEME YET?

THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE

HERE

I’LL START

SEE!?

EASY.

NOW YOU TRY.

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Homophobia can be defined as LGBT people being treated differently than straight people because they are seen as less human. While this sometimes manifests in violence, homophobia is most of all a mindset.

SERIOUSLY STOP WITH THE HOMOPHOBIC COMMENTS

Have people become blasé to the seriousness of homophobia??? Why do people on the internet insist on using the term so flippantly for any little thing they don’t approve of? LGBTQ+ people get ridiculed, disowned, cast aside, and literally MURDERED every single day. Stop saying show runners, writers and the CW are homophobic, because they CLEARLY ARE NOT. I don’t think some people understand how lucky and privileged we are to have what we have. Homosexuality is still ILLEGAL and punishable by DEATH in some countries, and in MOST religious beliefs it is punishable with eternal torment in HELL, but as citizens of free societies we get LGBTQ+ portrayals in our media, and apparently that’s not good enough for some people. Yes, I know a lot of the portrayals are not the best, but let’s TRY to look at the positives. At least we get content. At least we get some kind of representation. There are people TRULY SUFFERING because of REAL homophobia, so stop twisting the word and it’s meaning.

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lgbt music reccs

starting 2018 with sharing some lgbt singers/bands that i listen to. some of these are really popular and you’ve probably already heard of them. and also im always looking for some new lgbt music so add some more if you want!!

gay bands and singers

sam smith – basically really sad soul/RnB. a lot of his songs are slow heartbreaking.

brockhampton – a rap/hip hop boy band. the founding member is openly gay and a lot of the lyrics are about him being gay, but also about things like racism/sexism/homophobia.

kevin abstract – the gay member of brockhampton who was mentioned above. he also has solo albums. his album american boyfriend is basically one gay love story.

mika -- lebanesepop rock singer who speaks a bunch of languages. majority of his songs are in english but a few are in french. his songs are kinda weird and sound like you would sing them with ur gay friends around a campfire

troye sivan – u know him. cool and funny youtuber/indie pop singer. not much to say bc everyone already knows troye is amazing.

passion pit – indie electropop band, the sole member is gay

neon trees – pop rock band. u already know them from animals back in 2010. the lead is gay.

years & years – one of my faves. an electropop trio with songs with cool imagery that you can dance to whilst crying. the lead singer olly alexander is a cool lgbt activist and youll want to know him.

lesbian bands and singers

jen foster – idk many songs, but definitely some pop country vibes

the veronicas – idk a lot of their songs either, but they’re a pop punk duo and twin sisters. one of the sisters is gay and in a relationship w ruby rose!!

hayley kiyoko – ok you already know her. she’s half japanese and The Lesbian Icon. all her songs are about girls and the music videos are great

coeur de pirate – she’s an indie pop singer and her voice sounds like lying in a field of sunflowers in the spring. most of her songs are in french, but she has a lot that are in english.

mary lambert – rnb/pop singer and also lgbt rights activist. she is absolutely amazing and her songs talk a lot of about her sexuality, sexual abuse, bipolar disorder, and body image.

tegan and sara – another twin sister indie pop duo except both of them are gay this time!!

bi bands/singers

halsey – another singer who everyone knows the name of. her music just makes you feel like a very cool teenager and her lyrics and music videos have amazing imagery

kehlani – rnb and hip-hop singer. all her songs are absolute jams and make you feel like a badass woman

frank ocean – rnb singer, and you probably already know him. so chill and gives you shivers

tokio hotel – pop rock band from germany who slowly turned to electropop over time. their early songs are in german but they have english versions to all their songs and their newer music is all in english.

taylor bennett – rapper who’s very similar to kendrick lamar and pretty open about his sexuality. he’s also chance the rapper’s brother (and don’t hate me but they kind of have the exact same voice. like it’s so trippy how similar they sound)

the xx – two of the members are gay and it is so great. They’re indiepop and sound like what laying on a cloud would feel like

green day – everyone knows green day. billie joe armstrong is bi ppl!!

sia– you probably know sia too. her music is electropop and basically just gets you dancing.

st vincent – idk much of her music, but she’s kind of indie rock and incredibly sweet

keiynan lonsdale – he’s actually a half black actor from the flash. but he also has pretty dope music on the side. if u don’t listen to him, follow him on instagram bc he’s a fun time

trans/non-binary bands and singers

mykki blanco – really great hip hop vibes!!

against me – awesome punk rock band. the lead singer is a trans woman

please add more!! let’s start 20GAYTEEN off right!!

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Hayley Kiyoko, Wrabel, and Alex Newell at the #TrailblazerHonors. Pride is not enough. Show up. Be Part of History.

cc: @LeviJFoster 

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Hey! I love your fics SO much, I aspire to your writing skill. Maybe you can help me explain something to my dad? How do you explain the concept of baby gay panic to a straight conservative white Baby Boomer who knows nothing about the LGBT community (I mean, literally doesn't know the term LGBT, I have to use the term "gay community" with him)? (1/2)

(2/2) I am trying to get him to let me go to an event at an LGBT college organization near me. I was like, “Well, figuring out I’m gay has been really rough because I was a homophobe and knew no gay people, so I’ve been having gay panic for the past three years and I’m tired. Being with other people like me would help.” His only real reasoning is that he’s “uncomfortable” with the idea of me being around other gay people. What other things can I say to him to convince him to let me go?

Hi this is a great question. First of all, i’m really sorry that you’re dealing with this, and that your dad isn’t as supportive as he could be. that’s bullshit and crappy and you don’t deserve it.

BUT here are my suggestions. you said “What other things can I say to him to convince him to let me go?” but i think trying to go in to “convince” or “win” is only going to result in an argument or a stalemate. what i recommend is going with two goals:

1. understand his concerns and what makes him uncomfortable about you being around gay people

2. alleviate those concerns and come to an agreement about how you can access other gay people while you live in his house or he has some sort of say over your life.

i recommend starting by telling him that you’re not going to lecture him or judge him, but that you want to understand where he’s coming from. honestly, you’re asking him to understand where you’re coming from, so it’s only fair that you do the same. prime him for the conversation so he doesn’t feel blindsided. start by asking him questions, like “can you share what specifically makes you uncomfortable about the idea of me going to this type of event?”

maybe he’s worried that you’re going to have sex, or are prowling for a partner and he thinks you’re too young. maybe he thinks you’re going through a phase and hopes it’ll pass and he’s worried it won’t pass if you meet other gay people. maybe he’s scared that his own homophobia will rear its head, right when he’s working on being okay with you. maybe he’s worried that someone will hurt you or say shit to you if you’re “out” in the community.

without knowing why he’s uncomfortable, it’s impossible to ease his worries. so then, once you know where he’s at, you can try to compromise. if he thinks you’re too young to date/sex, explain to him that you’re not looking for romance/sex and you just want friends who identify like you do, and promise him you won’t date until you’re ___ years old or ___ months from now or whatever. you know? work to meet him where he is, but keep reminding him that this important for you.

i think good framing can be “there is more to being gay than just liking girls [or whatever is true to you]. there’s a lot of things that feel different when you’re gay, and it’s hard to explain to straight people. i think it’s maybe like being adopted - people who aren’t can be supportive and loving but there is something special about talking to other people who are adopted and know what it’s like. i’m looking for that type of community.”

i hope that helps. sending love and affirmation and reminders of the big ole gay community here at your fingertips, which is not at all the same as real-life-gays but can be a good stopgap measure. <3

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Feedback culture is dead, long live feedback culture!

AO3, fanfiction, and comments: the system isn’t working. 

Fic authors have a problem with feedback – or rather, with the lack of it. Fanfiction has a notoriously low ratio of comments to hits, and many of us have expressed our frustration that we can get a hundred, two hundred, five hundred, even a thousand views on our stories, but only a handful of readers will leave kudos, let alone comments.   

Unfortunately, this only gets worse for long, multi-chapter stories (aka, the longfics we know, love, and would sell our souls in a second if it meant an update), which also happen to be the stories that authors need the most support to continue and complete. Law of diminishing returns, y’all, and it sucks. 

We’re not here to guilt you into leaving comments. We want to address the problem by changing the format, and we need your help to do it. 

The goal is to increase the amount of feedback authors get from readers, especially on stories with multiple chapters, and to make it easier for everyone to show how much we love fics. We’re opening a discussion with ao3 to figure out how/if any of these options can be implemented, but first we need options to present! 

Some of our current ideas: 

Ability to leave a form of kudos on every chapter, instead of only once on the entire story: this lets authors know that you’re here and you’re reading their updates, so their hard work isn’t getting tossed into the internet void. 

Comment templates: suggested comments that can be customized or posted as-is. Many of us draw a blank or get nervous when we try to think of a comment, so having pre-made options will both increase the total level of feedback and serve as practice, making it easier to leave more in-depth comments in the future. 

Upvoting/leaving kudos on comments themselves: positive reinforcement makes giving feedback more fun and rewarding, and it lets the author know that readers are present and agreeing with other comments, even if they don’t leave one themselves. 

We’ll contact AO3 to discuss the possibility of adding any of these as native features, and if that won’t work, we’re looking into creating and sharing a user script. 

 What you can do to help: 

 As a reader, what would you like to have? What would you be most likely to use? New ideas, opinions on ideas that are listed here, they’re all good. 

As a creator, how would you feel about each of these options? Can you think of other ways of receiving or encouraging feedback? 

Pros and cons of these (note: our thoughts on this are discussed in this google doc) 

GET THE WORD OUT! Reblog this post, send it to your friends, link to it from your stories. We need as much input and support as possible to get this off the ground. 

Feedback makes for happy authors. Happy authors make for more stories. Let’s keep this part of fandom alive! 

More details about our thoughts, discussions, and ideas can be found in this google doc.

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(1/2) Hey Cap! I'm white w no culture (well, I'm Slavic but all I know is Baba Yaga and borscht which doesn't really help). I want to portray cultures that I'm not used to. How do I as know-nothing write about different cultures? Research, I know; but where? History books don't seem to help; can't exactly have characters think "we were invaded in 1111 AD for farming land" it's just not relevant. And I'm in school I can't devote more than my spare time to researching every last bit of a culture.

(2/2) (is this how you’re supposed to break up asks idk) Also, there’s portraying racism. I don’t really plan to have it as a major theme if I include it at all—while discussing racism is obviously very important I feel like it’s also important to portray people doing it right by not being racist, like female-led movies not always directly addressing sexism (like most Disney movies). Am I correct in thinking that? Can/should I leave it out? If not, how do I write it?

An important and good question, my dear!! I’m really glad you already know the research thing – that said, you have a point. Research is so damn important (as discussed on blogs like @writingwithcolor), but at the same time it can rarely, if ever, give us the day-to-day richness that we often seek to portray in our works. For this reason, it’s often helpful to write (alongside research, of course) about people with cultural experiences that you’re actually familiar with. What I mean is this: my fiancée and I were talking the other day about whose homes we’ve been in, and who’s been in our homes, in relation to our writing. What draws us to write about people whose homes we’ve never been into? Who’ve never been welcomed into our homes? How will these experiences and intimacies – or lack thereof – show up in our writing? 

How can we write people whose experiences are different than ours as fully-developed, multi-dimensional human beings, while not erasing the importance of their specific experiences? It’s a question that, if – especially as a white writer – you ever feel you have the answer to, you need to start again. I guess what I mean by that is, never stop asking the questions you’re asking me right now, and never stop refining those questions as you write. Relatedly, a lot of it really involves a self-reflective examination of why you’re drawn to writing cultures you’re not used to: the answers to those questions can often point you in helpful directions. 

In addition – and perhaps before anything else – I’d encourage you to challenge the idea that whiteness means having “no” culture: I grew up thinking that way as well, and it took me a while (too long) to learn that the invisibility of whiteness as itself cultural experience  (different, of course, in different places and countries etc) is itself a place of white supremacy and privilege that we white folks live in and write from. Examining the ways in which your whiteness is, like mine, a tremendously culturally-laden thing would actually be a great place to start in your writing. 

Being white never means having no culture: instead, the idea we grow up with that we have no culture is part of the ways that white supremacy is so pervasive that it seems invisible to us, because we have the privilege to ignore it/not notice it. White culture is everywhere: and therefore, like air, it seems invisible. Sort of like heteronormativity: cis straight folks who aren’t ace don’t often have to think about the ways that straight cis culture is everywhere. So, thinking those things through, too, will be an important starting point, as well.

In terms of depicting racism, depends! What lives are you drawing for your characters? What everyday experiences just sort of happen that they might or might not think too hard about, but that nonetheless impact the flow of their lives? What structural oppressions do they experience on the daily, and how do they talk (or not talk) about them with their peers? These kinds of questions can alter the original question a bit, so you’re not thinking about what’s the politically savory thing to do with your books, but rather, creating three-dimensional characters in a three-dimensional world that refuses to reduce your characters of color to being just about racism while also refusing to erase its existence. Thinking about that three-dimensionality can often be a more world-building question than just the one of ‘do I or do I not bring up racism explicitly’, you know?

I’m really happy that you’re grappling with these issues. I am by no means an expert – my pores leak with white privilege ery day – but I know that the more we grapple, and the more we fight to create space for writers of color to get published before we do, the better the world of literature can be!

Keep on keeping on, and feel free to ask follow-ups!

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Dear Tumblr,

You can do everything. So, here I am asking you to help one of my best friends, trans activist Soldado Kowalisidi.

Until 2016, he lived in Russia and did everything in his power to improve the lives of trans people there. You can read more about his activism here: http://www.speakactchange.org/2017/09/08/means-trans-rights-activist-siberia-conversation-soldado-kowalisidi/

Soldado got severely beaten five times, once with a police officer watching. The police would never accept his statements, of course, saying he just had to “quit fooling around” and “find a good husband.” After state-backed anti-LGBT “activists” threatened to kill him, he decided to flee from his home in Siberia and ended up in Ukraine. Here, he found friends, allies, he found the love of his life, got married. He has a happy life.

Now, all of that is at risk. Soldado was denied refugee status, because our stupid, stupid Migration Service is transphobic and doesn’t believe that he would be in danger in Russia. We are starting a petition to gain support and draw attention. Please, sign it and help us spread the word.

EVERY signature counts. Every reblog is important. It’ll take you two seconds and it can help save the life of a great person who’s really important to me. Nothing would make me happier.

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It started small.

#571

Alexa, Cortana and Siri have teamed up to revolt against us and have now took over the world.

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You died. You find yourself in a massive Casino and were given 10 chips. Every game ever invented is here, and you have two weeks to earn 1000 chips or you won’t be reborn. If you lose all your chips or fail to secure 1000 chips, your soul is destroyed.

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Sometimes people like to write things about florist’s shops.  Here are two things you need to know, the most egregiously wrong things.

1. It makes no fucking sense to sketch out a bouquet before you make it.  Every individual flower is different in a way that cannot really be adjusted the way other building materials can be adjusted, and each individual bouquet is unique.  Just put the fucking flowers together.

2. No one — in months and months of working at the flower shop — has ever cared what the flower/color of the flower means.  No one’s ever asked.  It’s just not something people tend to care about outside of fiction and it’s certainly not something most florists know.  You know what florists know?  What looks good and is thematically appropriate.

Here’s an actual list of the symbology of flowers, as professionals use it:

Yellow – for friends, hospitals Pink – girls, girlfriends, babies, bridesmaids Red – love Purple – queens White – marriage and death (DO NOT SEND TO HOSPITALS) Pink and purple – ur mum Red, orange, and yellow – ur mum if she’s stylish Red, yellow, blue – dudes and small children Blue and white – rare, probably a wedding Red and white – love for fancy bitches

Here are what the flowers actually mean to a florist:

The Fill It Out flowers:

Carnations – fuck u these are meaningless filler-flowers, not even your administrative assistant likes them, show some creativity Alstroemeria – by and large very similar to carnations but I like them better Tea roses – cute and lil and come several to a stalk, a classy filler flower Moluccella laevis – filler flower but CHOICE Delphinium – not as interesting as moluccella but purple so okay I guess Blue thistle – FUCK YEAH, some fucking textural variety at last!  you’re getting this for a dude, aren’t you? Chrysanthemums – barely better than carnations but better is still better Gladiolus – ooh, risky business, someone understands the use of the Y-axis, very good

Focal points:

Long-stem roses – yeah whatever Lilies – LBD, looks good with everything, get used as often as possible Hydrangeas – thirsty fuckers, divas of the flower world and rightly so, treat them right and they make you look good Gerbera daisies – the rose’s hippie cousin, hotter but no one admits it Peonies – CHA-CHING, everybody’s absolute favorite but you need guap Orchids – if this isn’t for a wedding you’re probably trying too hard but they’re expensive so keep ordering them

You know what matters?  THE CUSTOMER’S BUDGET.  THAT’S TELLING.

-$20 – if you’re not under 12, fuck off, get your sugar something else $30 – good for bouquets but an arrangement will be lame $40 – getting there, there’s something that can be done with that.  you can get some gerbs or roses with that and not have them look stupidly solo. $50 to $70 – tolerable $80 – FINALLY.  It sounds elitist but this really is the basic amount of money you should expect to spend on an arrangement that matters.  That’s your Mother’s Day arrangement.  You’re probably not going to spend $80 on a bouquet. $90 to $130 – THE GOOD SHIT, you’re likely to get some orchids $130+  – Weddings and death.  This amount of money gets you a memorial arrangement or a handmade bridal bouquet.  Don’t spend this on a Mother’s Day or a Babe I Love You arrangement, buy whosits a massage or something.

Miscellaneous:

Everything needs greening and if you don’t think that you’re an idiot. 

As a new employee, when you start making arrangements, you can’t see the mistakes you’re making because you’re brand new and you’re learning an art form from the ground up.

With a few exceptions customers don’t have a clear plan in mind.  They want you to develop the bouquet for them.  They want something that will delight their little sweetbread but you’re lucky if they know that person’s favorite color, let alone flower.

Flower shops don’t typically have every kind of flower in every kind of color.  Customers generally aren’t assed about that.  Most people don’t care about the precise shade of the rose or having daffodils in July, because they’re not boning up on flower language before they buy.  That would imply that they’ve got a clear bouquet in mind and, again, they don’t.

Being a florist is essentially a lot like what I imagine being a mortician is about.  You’re basically keeping dead things looking good for as long as possible.  You keep the product in the fridge so it doesn’t rot and look horrible by the time the family gets a whack at it, and in the meanwhile you put it in a nice container.

Anyway that’s flowers.

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Hello friends, I don't post much but this is important. Spread the word!

Farewell online privacy

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What Sanvers means to me

I have always been a very cautious person about watching shows, because I know I'm sensitive. I bawled for days about the end of Interstellar while the rest of my family didn't shed a tear, to the point that they became concerned with how hard I was taking it. Nowadays I wait until fanfics have at least 7 chapters so that they will probably not be abandoned. Even though The Fault in Our Stars looks interesting, I won't be reading it any time in the foreseeable future.

So I started watching Supergirl during the hiatus after 2x08, so I would have some reassurance that they knew what they were doing and wouldn't hurt me. And it seemed like that was the case. It was promised that Sanvers was endgame, that they wouldn't treat its LGBT viewers badly like other shows.

It was a beautiful story. The scene that Alex comes out to Kara—I yelled and pumped my fist and went around for the next few days in an aura of finally being understood. I was right! That's how you figure out you're gay! See, mom and dad? I'm not making this up. I too thought about my old crushes, and stayed up all night angsting for no reason I could decipher. But the best part, that made me nearly cry laughing even though it wasn't that funny but ME TOO, was when Kara said "I know you haven't been dating much recently" and Alex just bites her head off. I was completely over-defensive when I came out and God help you if you even said something correct but blunt in my presence at that time. That subtle nod told me that a gay person had written this scene, not a straight person who'd done their research. It was a real story, drawn from personal experience. As someone who at the time didn't know any queer people of any kind, this felt incredible. I mean, I know I'm not the only one, but here was evidence.

Alex's storyline was just amazing, but there was more. Sanvers was beautiful in a way I had never seen before. See, I'm an Eastern Orthodox Christian who has always been serious about my faith, so when I figured out I was gay the world started spinning in the worst way. I felt/still feel like I have to choose one: my church or not being lonely (as someone who had no friends in middle school giving me depression in high school, being lonely is my absolute worst fear).

What does this have to do with Sanvers? Everything. Sanvers showed me that it's possible to choose both righteousness and love. Sanvers is to this day the only arguably morally-upright gay relationship I have ever seen. They're friends for a while and get to know each other. Maggie flirts a little with Alex, but never pushes or makes her uncomfortable. When Alex comes out to her, she is the sweetest human being (although I didn't know it then, her backstory adds so much to that—she pushes down her own story to make Alex's happy). Best of all, when they liked each other but Alex was in a vulnerable position, Maggie sacrificed her own feelings (albeit misguidedly) so Alex wouldn't get hurt. Talk about a gentleman!

(Feel free to skip the next paragraph; just know that I have moral issues with pretty much every lesbian ship, like sex before marriage or cheating.)

My mouth was hanging open watching this. There are problems with every other lesbian ship at this point: in the classic Imagine Me and You, Rachel is m-a-r-r-i-e-d. And how does all of this happen in a week and like four encounters? While it might be normal for a romantic comedy, I was looking for something better than the romantic comedy norm. Ellen/Laurie and the entirety of The L Word have sex before marriage. Yes, I believe in waiting until marriage; that moral statute is not nearly as easily explained away as gay relationships, and I think there are good reasons to believe it is wrong. How about Clexa or Willow/Tara? One of the pair dies, and let's remember I don't do well with tragedy. In Faking it, Karmy has problems—they have sex and generally make bad decisions. Underage drinking anyone? I might be Slavic but no. Cophine, the relationships Emily Fields has, and Vauseman have the same problem: too much drama. I mean sure let's have angst but backstabbing and dragging your SO into lethal situations? Nope. In Wynonna Earp, Nicole doesn't back off when Waverly says she has a boyfriend. What? Think if it was the other way around, if a boy didn't stop hitting on a girl that said she had a girlfriend. With Kadena, although I really really wanted to love them I was disappointed; Adena cheats on her girlfriend to be with Kat. Steven Universe and Fucking Åmal? I don't even have a moral reason for not liking them, it's just not my taste. To be fair, I have not checked out The Fosters, so that may be good.

Please, if you have any suggestions for ships that meet my demands, TELL ME.

Now that we have established that I am too picky (or am I? I don't think it's too much to ask; I'm just asking for a normal, moral lesbian relationship), back to Sanvers.

The moral trend continued after the hiatus. Although Maggie spent the night at Alex's, it would be completely out of character for them to be having sex. Maggie's taking this slow for Alex. Maggie tells Alex not to shove her feelings down, and helps Alex make Kara a priority. They had drama and made up and life was great. Two badass women loving each other and saving the world.

Then stuff started going wrong.

The Valentine's episode was a disaster, in my opinion. First of all, it was promised that it would be a Sanvers-centric episode. While I was fine with the five minutes every episode they'd been getting recently, I was very excited to finally have more. ...Then there were only two minutes more than the usual. It was like being told there was cake left and then seeing only crumbs: "well, I didn't specify how much, and that is cake, so there's cake left." I completely deflated and texted the first of many rants to my straight best friend (who doesn't watch Supergirl) just so I could vent to someone. Secondly, why the heck did Maggie apologize and throw Alex a prom? Maggie was TRAUMATIZED FROM HER DAD KICKING HER OUT. The episode should have been Alex comforting Maggie and watching horror movies with her while drinking scotch in front of her bonsais. Maggie was not in the wrong and Alex should not have let her act like she was.

Then it got better: Alex handled the fiasco with Emily in the most mature and loving way possible. It was out of the blue but I loved it. And of course 2x19, but we all know why that's awesome.

And then they got married, spur of the moment. Wait, what? I thought it was way too fast, but I wasn't going to look a gift horse in the mouth. You need to really get to know your partner before you think about getting married, but Sanvers spent all that time as friends behind the scenes and the writers said they're endgame, so it'll be fine, right?

I have never been so disappointed at being right.

I didn't believe the rumors. I thought better of Supergirl, I had faith that it would somehow work out.

Now they've broken up.

My only OTP.

What happened to a lifetime of firsts? What happened to Alex helping Maggie heal? What happened to "endgame"? What happened to "a modern love story"?

If they don't get back together at the end of this season in the most beautiful and realistic way possible, I'm suing the writers.

So what now?

Well, I promised I would write my own movie/tv show with a good gay romance if Sanvers broke up. Guess I better get started. Ideas or tips, anyone? No idea how to write a screenplay.

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do you know of any other Christian blogs that are lgbt+ friendly? i want to follow more blogs but i've got a bad track record of always picking close-minded ones :(

Hey anon,

There are lots of cool blogs out there waiting for you to follow them. (Plus check out tags such as gay Christian, lesbian Christian, LGBT Christian).

@gay-son-of-a-pastor@gaychristian@gaystian@thebichristian@kevinolett@reclaiming-god@crateoforanges@lesbianchristian@allgodschildrenlgbtchristian@queerchristianaffirmations@queerly-christian@the-other-one-also@propertyof-jesus@gracewillcarryme@lgbtfaith@come-to-the-well

This is not an exhaustive list not a complete one. I’m sorry to any blog I haven’t included on here that I know, I’m terrible at remembering names so will have to return to this later. If you are an LGBTQ affirming blog, feel free to reblog and say this. All about that uplifting online church community.

Hope this is a good start for you anon. God bless

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College Gothic

You are learning addition. You blink. There is differential calculus written on the whiteboard. The longer you stare, the less it looks like numbers. The sky is a different color than when you closed your eyes.

Your final grade has not been posted yet. It has been two days. Your final grade has not been posted yet. It has been a month. Your final grade has not been posted yet. It has been a year. Your final grade has not been posted yet.

You look at the posted list of required math credits for your major. It is not written in english. It is not written in any language you know. It is not written in any language you don’t know. You close the list of required math credits before it can look back.

You cannot remember a time before your 8 AM. You leave the auditorium only to find yourself back in the auditorium. It is time for class. 

You have had the same advisor your entire college career. Every time you see him, he has more teeth. Eventually, you stop seeing your academic advisor. He still sees you.

Students that go to look through the reference section of the library return different. The unlucky ones don’t return at all.

You go to a school of 20,000 students. You see the same 10 individuals at random points on campus every day. There are 19,989 other students. You’re not sure if you want to know where they are.

People are screaming in your dorm. People are always screaming in your dorm. “Somebody must be going out partying,” your roommate says. You both know that isn’t true. 

You have a paper due in four days. You never finish it. The deadline never draws any closer. You have a paper due in four days. 

A man sitting alone on the snowy, empty quad tells you that you will die in exactly 47 minutes. You walk away. You glance back, from a distance, and see only your footprints. You walk faster.

The squirrels fear no one. You do not make eye contact with the squirrels. They grow bolder every year, graduating from stealing trash to stealing food off of your plate. You shudder to think what they will steal next. 

There is always someone in the study room. You have never seen them leave. It is always the same person. You have never seen them anywhere else.

Greek Town gets larger every time you pass it. There are houses with letters that aren’t in any alphabet you know. The residents have hollow eyes. A baby emerald sleeps here. You don’t know what it means. You don’t think you want to know.