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I realised that I have a lot to say in regards of how people do clothing shopping, so I decided to make this post.

I get really annoyed when people buy unnecessary amounts of clothes from ultra fast fashion brands. I won't take the argument that's all they can afford. I don't have a lot of money. I'm disabled, I can't work, I'm on disability pension. Almost no one in western countries who buys those clothes really needs them. They buy it only because they want them. I'm not saying that in the case when your house burned down or flooded or you had to run away from dangerous situation you shouldn't do it. But also then there are secondhand sites that will be cheaper and if you have the time to check Shein or Temu, you have time to check those sites too. So yeah..

Most people buy way too much clothing. No one needs to buy stuff every 2 weeks of every month. Do you really wear those things more than 5 times? I'm pretty sure not. And I know, because I had big wardrobe full of stuff. I haven't worn 90% of it. I forgot most of what I had. So I gave away almost all of those clothes to local orphanage, some of them still had tags (I know it went straight to kids because my mum in law works with this orphanage. And I've seen girls from there wearing those clothes). Now I have half of this wardrobe and I share it with my husband. And you know what? At least I wear everything. Maybe not the two evening dresses that I have, but I wore them both to all the events for last 3 years. And shocking, people who realised it's the same dress complimented that I wore it again because it suits me so well. And I don't wear my wedding dress, only because I gained weight and it didn't fit me, but I lost most of it and I can wear it, just styling it so it doesn't look the same way as it did on my wedding. It's just a simple white midi dress with short sleeves and some lace that I bought thinking that I should wear it again to not be annoyed at myself.

My mum still buys so much clothing from cheap websites. And she doesn't wear most of it. She doesn't remember what she has too. The amount of times when she bought something 'because she needs it' and then realised that she already has it is shocking. And you know what her favourite clothes are? The ones I gave her as gifts that were more sustainable and better quality. And they weren't even expensive things, because to be honest, as long as you know what to look for you don't have to spend unreasonable amount. It won't be exactly as cheap as those sites because people have to be paid living wage, but it doesn't have to be expensive. And if you divide the amount you paid over the times you wear it, you can realise that better quality clothing is in reality less expensive. There are also secondhand sites where you can buy stuff with tags still on.

Oh and have I told that I gained 20 kilos AFTER I donated most of my clothes and haven't bought almost anything? I just had few t-shirts that were loose before, I sewn myself a skirt, and the things I bought were jeans and a pair of shorts (that to be honest was a mistake, I can't argue with it, because they were the only ones that fit but I didn't like them, so I almost never wore them. But it was one pair in 3 years). I wore all the cardigans from before. Most of clothing now is knit fabric, not woven, so it will mould to you. I survived, haven't looked bad or weird. And no one cared if I wore the same thing over and over again. Most of the arguments I hear about buying from those ultra fast fashion sites that exploit workers, environment (because yes, if the factory is putting dangerous stuff straight into rivers, sooner or later it will be in water everywhere in the world and you can't do anything about it, that's how it works, and don't get me started about air) are that they are for people that can't afford anything different - as we established they mostly don't need those clothes, they just want them and it's typical case of working capitalism. And buying better quality clothing is cheaper in the long run; they're accessible - if you have time to check those websites, you have time to check others too. I'm sorry but that's the truth; size inclusivity - okay, this is the thing I can stand by. But also you can find size inclusive things elsewhere, but you have to look for it. Or learn how to make it and before you eat me alive, I don't have much energy and live with chronic pain. It taught me to appreciate how much work it takes to make garments and that they're not single use because I need a lot of time to make one thing. If you've lost the strength in your hands or your sight is really bad, okay, I get it; but most of things I hear are excuses to me. It's capitalism in it's best form. Showing off that you can have a lot. That you have money to spend. And why bother? Do you think people think 'oh, they have a lot of clothes, I like them more?' and if someone thinks that way, they don't deserve to be your friend.

So okay, end if the tangent. I just think most arguments saying fast fashion is okay are bullshit.

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The moment when you find a doctor that finally listens to you. I had terrible headache for 7 months. She was the first one to be like, okay we are trying what we can and no one would think about it: lidocaine IV, acupuncture, triptans and on last appointment she was like: screw it, you cannot live in pain - topiramat, another triptan and oxycodon. She's the only one who cares, rest was like 'here's a prescription for the thing that you took and didn't work, maybe magically it will work'. It's a blessing to have her ❤️

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Ravenclaw: I have not slept in several days. That being said, I have had six shots of espresso, two cups of coffee, and a Monster Energy drink.

Slytherin: oh my god, no.

Ravenclaw: I can see colors that are not on the color wheel.

Slytherin:

Ravenclaw: I can feel my entire body, and yet,,, it is also numb.

Slytherin: I’m begging you, next time just let me knock you out; I can’t deal with this anymore!

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“I’m not really mentally ill, I’m just faking this.” - A mentally ill proverb

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When Emily Dickinson said “How dreary to be somebody”, and Daffodils said “It’s been raining inside my head again”, and Oscar Wilde said “Behind sorrow there is always sorrow”.

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when my country is literally burning, I want to help by at least educating myself.

we will fight until we can. nothing could stop us. females are stronger than anyone is thinking. we are stronger than even we could think.

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this user wants to lay down in a field of flowers for a bit.

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Hélène Delmaire - D’amour et d’eau fraiche

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Graveyard sculptures. 

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it's soo beautiful

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best concept ever, at least for me :)

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maybe they are not technically 1860s but i would still wear the fuck out of them in everyday life.

Favorite Outfits: Jo March

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I wish I could live there. far far away from anyone and have friends and sometimes make weird parties with 6 people, it would be so cool, and no one would see us. kinda my dream.

Lapland, Finland by jannilaakso

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what a beauties <3

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