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guys i’m sorry i need to publicly crash out about what my ex gf posted on her insta and this is the only place i can do it without her seeing it

imagine thinking the reason you don’t have friends is because you’re “too pretty” and not because your personality is absolutely rancid.

imagine blaming the fucking patriarchy for being friendless and also posting performative socialist and feminist takes (that you only even have the language for because i took the time to educate you) while actively being classist and fatphobic among other horrible traits.

i just cannot stand this girl oh my god.

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what happened to hello. what happened to good morning.

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this just in: i only like *checks notes* FLEETWOOD MAC because Pedro does.

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siken saw his words being twisted and he’s having none of it god bless

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Yeah, someone made a tiktok account for smearing and harassing me. They even thought they doxxed me.

This is a troubled person who needs to read this.

They claim to show evidence that I'm a bully. What am I doing in this evidence, you ask? Answering their anon asks (accusations) on my blog 2 days ago. Their "proof" vid also shows great examples of how rumors are spread.

Edit: This has escalated and gone way too far.

The tiktoker claims that i bullied a popular writer "off the internet" in 2023 for writing a raider AU. I'm not even sure the tiktoker is a fan of the writer, but either way, it's clearly not their main motivation - they admit I pissed them off recently. I think excavating old drama is just this person's latest strategy in trying to turn people against me. I think the tiktoker recognized an opportunity to exploit the former writer's impressionable young fan base into forming a hate mob. Plenty of people will hear a rumor and say "omg i didn't know that!" instead of using critical thinking. And this is what happened *at first.*

The tiktoker started off by hooking the writer's fan base and building suspense with a teaser post about the writer having been bullied off the internet. The tiktoker explained away the suspicious timing of the post with a laughable claim that it was prompted by the writer "finally" getting recognition (she was viral two years ago). In the comments of the teaser post, the creator went on to point the finger at me, then people reacted with shock. "WHAT???" etc.

Then, in a second video, the tiktoker posted their so-called evidence, which included (checks notes) me admitting I did not fic rec the writer. And it showed reasons I didn't: a screenshot example of the writer shading other characterizations to set hers apart and a screenshot of where she put Toxic; Go Fuck Yourself in her playlist (unprovoked), mention of how she kept randomly repeating that her joel "respected women," unprompted. The video also had screenshots showing people missed the writer, and it showed how rumors spread. Notably absent: bullying. This video did not get the same response as the teaser.

When the video wasn't received how the tiktoker wanted, they got really pissed and tried to dox me. They started calling me by a name that's not mine. My genuine reaction? I figured I was behind the times and that this name was some kind of lingo.

I responded to some of the tiktok comments and kind of kept an eye on things because I had learned my lesson about not addressing rumors in the past with the naive belief that the truth works itself out and the knowledge that if your blog has a big ass, even vaguely standing up for yourself can be seen as bullying. Like almost anything can.

A third video ridiculed me and other sane people for revisiting their posts. What can I say? Tengo el morbo.

And then the tiktoker DMed me, and all hell broke loose. They were totally convinced they'd figured out who I was and were threatening to send out emails if I didn't meet their demands.

(The tiktoker updated their profile after this to remove the stranger's personal info). I reported these threats and tiktok denied all the reports. I also showed the tiktoker my dm and search history genuinely not knowing why they were calling me that. There is no confusion about whether I am them.

At some point they took a screenshot of this post (in its original form) and commented it.

⚠️ I highly caution anyone who is tempted to engage with the tiktoker. They have comment filtering on anyway, which you can see in their last video. They declared via the fandom cesspool ("confessions" blog aka anon hate blog) that I'm the stalker, not them , for "spamming" (defending myself on) their hate account that exists to target me. The confessions blog agreed. Regarding the confessions blog, the tiktoker:

1) first claimed to have never heard of it, despite all the evidence that they spend lots of time on my blog,

2) said they went to look at it and didn't support it and reported it for trandphobia, then

3) said in the caption to video 3 that me and this other user constantly post about it,

4) sent a confession identifying themselves as the tiktoker who ""exposed"" me, and finally

5) publicly apologized to the confessions blog on the basis that i got everyone to think it's transphobic when it's not.

I guess all this should delight me as the most attention seeking person on this app, right?

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7/28/25

Sigh. I have not personally accused anyone of "plagiarism." And this is not something I am interested in reliving. I didn't even want it to come up.

I became aware of similarities between the fics and ignored it until a short scene I had *previewed* appeared in her fic nearly verbatim. At that point, I pinned that previewed scene of mine on my blog so that I could still use it without looking like I was copying her since her chapter would have far more exposure than a little preview post of mine. I didn't even include a callout. Pinning my own work is not bullying. (Btw, this scene had nothing to do with animals).

No one spammed her either. As far as I know, she got 3 comments spread out over 2 days, none abusive that I saw. The first one mentioned me by name, and she deleted it within minutes. Another the next day asked if she would give credit, and she ~~pretended she didn't know whose fic the comment was about~~. Ahe said she was only inspired by canon and asked for details so she could fix it and reach out to the writer, which she never did. someone answered her with an example sequence of events, and she deleted that comment but left the one where she asked for more info.

If a writer would rather delete her blog than defend her work or acknowledge someone else's, that's her business. This tiktoker in their comments seems to suggest i should have protected this writer by promoting her fic even though she never shared mine and even shaded other characterizations of this character while privately raving about mine and taking inspiration. I didn't even clap back at the shade, or do a callout post. I also made it clear I didn't want anyone going at her on my behalf. But that's not enough for some people 🤷‍♂️

I have no interest in talking bad about this writer who isn't even here, hence i've been hesitant to dredge up details. I am not going to be dredging back through my work bringing bad vibes to it to throw more receipts at something I didn't even bring up or want to address. People are going to believe whatever they believe.

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If you're new here you might be wondering why some hater would want to turn people against me so bad. Well I notoriously started talking back to the fandom cesspool (confessions blog) recently and they really, really didn't like that. They tried everything on tumblr to smear me and it didn't work out for them so they might have jumped platforms. I don't have the energy to recap all that rn but if you dig around my blog and the tag "incel gymnastics" you'll see some.

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Blurbs Against Censorship!

Conservative groups are using payment processors to target “explicit content” on online platforms to censor any and every topic they don’t like. But we can fight back.

There’s a group out there contacting payment processors like Visa and Mastercard to get them to demand that platforms like Steam and itch.io stop selling “explicit” content, resulting in the delisting and/or removal of games, books, comics, and other media that feature adult or NSFW content and/or LGBTQ+ themes or characters, or furries, among other topics (see more in this post). Because the payment processors get to decide what “explicit content” means (aka, whatever they want it to). See more in the sources under the cut.

They started doing this because of a 1,000-email hate campaign to the payment processors, but we can do better than that, right? And I’m here to bribe you with blurbs. This is inspired by the amazing @toxicanonymity and toxy’s Blorbos for Democracy events! Thanks for the tips and the encouragement, toxy.

What am I asking you to do? Two steps:

Take action: make a call, send an email, post on social media, or submit a form! Use the tips and scripts in this doc. This site also has lots of contact numbers and advice. And this thread, this thread, too. Quoting this post: “focus on discussing concerns around a lack of payment system neutrality, erosion of trust in payment reliability, undue influence of lobbying in personal business and livelihood; proceed to censorship concerns last and only if the person on the other end is not combative.”

Send me an ask telling me what you did (and how it went, if you’d like) and choose one of the options below!

What you get: Blurbs for Actions

Option 1: a 100-200 word drabble about a character of your choice from the list below + a prompt from one of these lists: one, two Character options: Din Djarin, Frankie Morales, Joel Miller, Marcus Pike, Marcus Moreno, Dieter Bravo, Reed Richards

Option 2: choose any of my fics and send a question you have or something you’re wondering about (what happens in the future? how did xyz go? etc.) and I’ll answer via blurb

Option 3: promote/link your own work!

Bonus: sign a petition! Change.org, ACLU, UK Parliament

RULES: Must be 18+. Anons welcome but please give yourself a nickname. Max 2 submissions per person. Also, feel free to join in and post your own challenge, if you’re a writer or an artist or a gif maker or anything else! I don’t own this idea.

Important reminder: if you’re asking yourself “why are we protecting adult content”? Well, first of all, I’m surprised you follow me or read my fic. Second of all, to quote this post: you have to learn the difference between something not being to your particular taste/that grosses you out vs. something that causes harm, because “as long as you can’t navigate the difference, your disgust is a lever that can be used to manipulate you”... into clutching your pearls and starting down the path towards censorship, among other things.

Want to learn more? Resources:

404 media: Credit Card Companies Are Hurting the Future of Video Games

Vice: Group Behind Steam Censorship Policies Have Powerful Allies — And Targeted Popular Games With Outlandish Claims

Wired: Steam and Itch.io Are Pulling ‘Porn’ Games. Critics Say It’s a Slippery Slope to More Censorship | WIRED 

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I think I am officially Fandom Old. I am so worn out from the arguments on who's the top or the bottom (who cares), what is allowed to be written (anything you want, bejeebus), what is Problematic (I know, just tag it), what other people Should Do (they Should live their lives free of judgment). There isn't a Right Way to do things. Tag your stuff appropriately, don't read stuff you don't want to read, and leave other people (me) alone.

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i love

and you can eat my fucking entire ass about it thanks

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Pedro is leaning into being more camp and queer presenting because of fans like you. His PR team have seen the opportunity to cater to fans that want him to be gay so badly, now they have him doing shoots that looks like gay porn. He was never like this before... Hope you are happy. 😒

lmao are the straights okay??

First of all queer fans simply existing and enjoying a fandom are not a threat to you so stop acting like we are. We have no more influence than anyone else on how a celebrity/their team chooses to present. Pedro is a fully grown man who acts how he wants to act and looks how he wants to look, and he is also a man who likes to express himself creatively and have fun with it (both fashion and personality wise!!) oh and btw he has not changed. He hasn’t. I’ve been in this fandom a long time and I promise you he has not changed how he presents.

Secondly I have NEVER stated that I think he is gay or anything else. I'll reiterate that I have no interest in speculating about any celebrities (or anyone else's) sexuality. That's not why I and most normal fans are here. We're here because we enjoy his talent and think he's a wonderful person, and because we want to talk about his characters, and that's that. I write & read queer stories for his FICTIONAL characters because I am a queer person and that is what makes me happy.

Also I don't think you know what gay porn is my dude 💀

Now fuck off. Fuck off queerphobes you are not welcome in this fandom.

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The other night husband and I were watching a documentary about the yeti where they were doing DNA analysis of samples of supposed yeti fur, and every one of them came back as bears.

Anyway, the next night we watched a thing about some pig man who is supposed to live in Vermont. People said it had claws and a pig nose but walked upright like a man. Now, I happen to know that sideshows used to shave bears and present them as pig men. So every piece of evidence they gave of this monster sounds to me like a bear with mange.

So now the running joke in our house is that everything is bears. Aliens? Bears. Loch Ness monster? Bear. Every cryptozoological mystery is just a very crafty bear.

Bears. They’re everywhere. Be wary. Anyone or anything could be a bear.

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after 5 years in a relationship where i was constantly ignored, never prioritized, and always told no, i bailed.

and now in this new relationship, i always have this feeling like im getting away with something.

sitting at his parents house drinking a beer, going to a local mexican restaurant, driving down the road, anywhere and everywhere: it feels like it could end at any second. i’m always waiting for the “just kidding, i don’t care about you like that” and it never comes.

anyways i’m going to new orleans this weekend bc i offhandedly mentioned id never been and really wanted to go and he booked a hotel the next day.

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My life finally calmed down enough to get it together for my sale! As always, please hit me up on discord (@/murder_wife) or in the dms to place your order. I accept venmo, PayPal and CashApp. Prices do not include shipping. Shipping will be calculated by weight and location. I ship via usps with tracking included. Anything you see can be made in a different color, but i won't be making them until I've shipped out these orders!

Thank you so much for your consideration and supporting my small business! Reblogs to spread the word are very much appreciated!

Charger cords, usb-c to usb-c, 6 ft- $20

Earbud holders- $12 or 2 for $20

Keychain wristlet- $12 or 2 for 20

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couldn’t have said it better myself.

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