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a weird thing is that we got waves of people going "who cares if its cringe or youre annoying! have fun!" but no one really learned how to accept the fact that some people will find you annoying or think your art or your work or posts or anyrhing sucks and thats ok. rather it just became a weird "if people think youre annoying theyre just morally bad. let people enjoy things!". like no i think this yes man only biome sucks and people are allowed to not like artstyles and shows and media and other things

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citation: so said Legolas

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just thought of a funny post then imagined the annoying asks i'd get about it and got mad and closed the new post editor . then imagined getting to call them a dumb cunt and opened it again. then realized that was insane and started typing this. actually since i'm already in here (post editor) might as well make a fakepost of the entire situation so u all can experience it too

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being white AND autistic is like a double nerf when it comes to dancing i really do just freak it nothing style #text

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anonymous asked: not everything is fucking autism i think youre just lame 😭 it's literally not that hard

🌃 aropride answered: autism causes motor difficulties you dumb cunt

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get their ass

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@aropride You are so cool i love you

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tumblr user aropride suffers more than jesus

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god that aropride guy is so fucking cool i wish we were bffs

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hi omg ty :3 do u want to frolic in a field with me

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of COURSE

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obama asked: Do you want one Million dollars and also i will erase student debt forever communism style

🌃 aropride answered: yass omg #ask

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A surprisingly helpful bit of social maneuvering I've figured out from trial and error: Throughout your life, you are going to need things from people. Often, it's going to be on a deadline. And when that deadline passes, you generally want to know what's going on. So, you need to ask them.

There are two kinds of people, broadly, in this situation. The Shameless will tell you what the holdup is, with absolutely no regard for if the reason is "good enough". This is actually very helpful, because you get the real reason immediately, and can start working on a solution.

The Ashamed is trickier. People who are Ashamed are people who were often told they were giving excuses when they were trying to explain, and they'll often avoid you until they solve the problem on their own. This causes them and you a lot of stress, and often takes a lot longer to solve.

Long term, the strategy for dealing with people who are Ashamed is to provide a supportive environment where they're comfortable sharing any problems they're having with getting things done. But, there's a way to at least partially short-circuit that:

Provide an explanation for them.

One example might be "Hey Susan, I noticed that I don't have your report yet. Are you busy with other projects?" The readymade explanation signals that you're willing to accept an explanation, which is the big anxiety point.

Sometimes, you still won't get an honest answer- especially if the honest answer isn't "good enough" by the standards of the person who traumatized them. But, I've found that it often at least gets you a lie that lets you give them some slack or work around the problem.

Let's say that Susan has actually completely forgotten that she needed to do the report. She's horrified at herself, and completely unwilling to admit the real problem. But, she can now safely reply with "Sorry Jennifer, I've been swamped, and it got lost in the mix. I can have it to you in two days. Does that work?"

From there, so long as Susan gave an estimate for when she can actually do it, she and Jennifer can hash out a solution.

It's not a perfect solution, but it works astonishingly well for how small of a change it is.

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it's so funny how graffiti is like a non issue that effortlessly reveals peoples' reactionary tendencies.

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The current state of pop girlies is so funny like

Ariana Grande: getting dragged for homewrecking with the guy who played SpongeBob in the SpongeBob musical

Taylor Swift: dropping her worst album in years about how deeply obsessed she is with Matty Healy

Billie Eilish, for some reason:

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Since my birthday post died down I am posting this again, as these two women still need to get their families out of Gaza:

Rawda and Enas are single mothers with children who are stranded, unable to cross the border, without medical supplies, food, and proper shelter.

These fundraisers are being organized by Maha Saymeh and Dina Zaazaa, Canadian family members of Rawda and Enas, who are currently working to get them out of Gaza. Both were found under the Gaza Evacuation Fund Relief Fund page, which was verified by the Ottawa4Palestine team.

Here is Maha Saymeh's Instragram page.

Dina Zaazaa is an elementary school teacher in Ontario (x).

Both fundraisers have still have a long way to go before they reach their goal, so please reblog if you see this, and d0n@te if you can, even if it's just a dollar or two.

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If you ever tagged me to do one of those tag game thingies and I never did it:

1) Thank you, seriously. Those are fun and being included shows that my followers care enough to want to learn more about me.

2) Very sorry about that, it’s extremely likely that I said to myself “Cool! But I’m busy at the moment, I’ll have to do this later today or tomorrow” before proceeding to just straight-up forget, now it’s too far back in my notifications and/or your blog to find again.

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People tend to throw out the phrase "extremely specific kinks" as though that inherently implies something transgressive, but in my experience, the overwhelming majority of extremely specific kinks are so innocuous that you could see them in public and not even clock them. For every person who can only get off to having their nipples electrocuted, there are a dozen who are volcanically aroused by seeing their partner wearing one specific pair of socks.

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Genuinely fucked that cultural perception of aging is getting warped to the point where people in their twenties are considered old at the same time that all the constructed milestones of independence and self sufficiency that have become expected of adulthood are getting further out of reach for the majority of people. Like, no, you haven't missed out on anything, no one has "wasted" their 20s, or 30s, or any stretch of time, it's just that a lot of things really fucking suck right now. There isn't anything important you can do at, say, age 21 that you can't also do every other age after that.

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biologist here! why are plants green? well they suck up air from the sky (blue) and mix it with the sunlight (yellow) i fucking love science.

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robot cannibal smut when

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found a dude who does VR cruisin and boozin and im IN LOVE