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Default Locked

I've had a lot of questions about a previous blog post - Low Key(holding). It seems many couples out there are working to figure out the best, most practical way of working male orgasm control into their relationships.

Most of the questions related to the 'Default Locked' system, where the male is locked unless there is a clear exception in the form of agreed instances where he can be unlocked. As mentioned in that post, this is the easiest, most practical system for the female as there is very limited involvement in the practicalities of the lockup. Her effort is limited towards granting permission (or not) should the male ask to be unlocked for a particular occasion or reason.

As time has gone on, this Default system is the one that my husband and I employ. While I haven't gone so far as to list a set of rules and regulations, this is typically how I go about things:

LOCKING

He is expected to be locked, unless I am explicitly aware of it.

There is no 'time frame' or schedule.

Unlocking does not mean 'orgasm'.

COMMUNICATION

He is not allowed to talk about it, unless I ask him or in case of emergency.

He can message me in advance should he wish to request an unlock.

PERMISSIONS

YES: This is quite fluid, but the main reason why I would grant permission to unlock is if there is a doctor's visit, TSA security at airports or something similar. The expectation is that he will unlock just prior to this, and relock immediately after.

SOMETIMES: Showering and maintenance once every few weeks will permit an unlock as I like him to be completely shaved. If he is unlocking for a shower, I do insist that he wears a tight speedo at all times. This minimizes / prevents erections and touching. Sometimes he requests to unlock for a shower and I will say 'no'. He can use a brush / get creative.

NO: He has in the past asked to be unlocked for exercise, swim training / cycling. initially I used to agree to this, but as the device has become more comfortable and a perfect fit over time, I don't see this as necessary. I love it when he wears running tights or his swim speedo in public - his cage is very discreet, but he gets all shy and bashful which I find adorable.

If I feel like having sex with him, I unlock him. Afterwards, there is an immediate relock.

Once these types of permissions have been established, there is very little work to do. After all, how often does he have a doctor visit, for example ? He knows the answer to most of them, and it's a short message checking in when he wants to request an unlock.

I think long-term that this system works wonders, especially when chastity becomes 'the way things work around here', rather than the fantasy games that many play in short term situations.

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Pt 3

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If only you femdom brats can relate😎

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I tell my wife all the time not to worry what social norms are or what family or friends would think. Reach past that comfort zone and try new things. If you don't like it, don't do it again. If you like it, we have something new and fun to do again. Never let someone else's opinions limit our sexual exploration. Keep things new and exciting. The only people who need to understand and enjoy what we do in our bedroom are her and me. She's getting more comfortable being uncomfortable I think. 🥰

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